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writes:I am a 20 year old girl and me and my boyfriend tried to have sex yesterday for the first time (I was a virgin, he wasn't) and it really hurt and I had to tell him to stop. Now I feel bad that I had to stop him and I'm scared something is wrong with me. Was the pain normal ? Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 babe different people get different amounts of pain, when first having sex.. of course it is normal.. next time you try and have sex, make sure you are quite wet and be relaxed, relaxation is the best way to open up your body.. you will love it, once you have gotten over the pain x x x hope i helped x
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reader, candy00s +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Yes its normal. you were probably tense as well with it being your first time. Take your time slowly and make sure he is gentle with you.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
Oh my, you are normal. And so is the pain. When I first began having sex, it hurt so badly that I also had to ask my boyfriend to stop. In fact, I had to ask him to stop for an entire MONTH before my body relaxed enough for him to get in painlessly. It took time, patience, communication and lubrication.
For some girls, it is much more difficult the first few times than others. I assure you that after the first couple times it will stop hurting so bad. I promise you, the more you guys spend time naked together, exploring each others bodies... the more relaxed your body will get and the easier it will be to have sex.
Foreplay!! Your best friend! And lube... I personally like KY Warming Liquid. It's not sticky, it warms upon contact with your body, it doesn't leave a lot of icky residue...
Anyhow, I know what you're going through. Just take your dear sweet time!!
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): yes, the pain is normal. my first time hurt & for the rest of the day i had to soak in a warm bath to relax & to ease the pain down there. my ex told me that it hurt him as well because his penis was squished. tell him to take it slow & make sure he is gentle with you.
communicate. tell him to slow down if it hurts too much. have him do oral on you before you have sex or try using lots of lubes. it should ease the pain.
be safe & have fun.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (25 May 2007):
Dear First Time Sex:
Most of us, young and old,didn't have a sex manual to go by, when it Came to "How to Love a Man or a Woman". But then how is Mommy or Daddy going to tell us all about sex, when they are about as ignorant as you and me. So get your own "How To Do it" Sex manual.There are lots of great books out there, But be sure to share the book with each other, so you both can grow into an ongoing, wonderful, open,communicative relationship. First-Time togetherness can have some degree of pain for a woman, that is to be expected. There hasn't been any plowing down there in Heavenlyvalley, So things are going to be quite tight for a while. In stopping, You did the right thing,and that's Okay. Might I suggest two things that will be helpful when you share each others bodies. If he is just wanting to get it over, his sexual needs met,you are being used. And the chances are that what is taking place is called dry vaginal intercourse. Like most of us,with not to much between the ears when it comes to SEX, men,think that "Foreplay" is part of a football game. The vagina is the most beautiful flower that God ever made, And just as it opens slowly to the warmth of the sunshine, So does the petal-like lips of a woman's vagina open slowly to the warmth of a man's loving kisses, hugging,tender caresses and touching "NOW THAT'S FOREPLAY IS ALL ABOUT" and if the vagina isn't fully open -up. And he isn't using some sort of Penile- Lubricant on his joytoy,penis. Oh! Yes! It is going to hurt. Us men get into those quickie- hand-jobs, Masturbation.And just stay in the same old rut and we treat a woman's heavenly flower the same way. "It's ready or not, Here I come" Do hope Firsttime that you and your partner find this useful, and really get to know each others genitals. Wow! they both are wonderful in their own way.
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reader, soliderswife06 +, writes (25 May 2007):
yes this pain was normal for most girls if not all girls sex the first time hurts rather badly its just something that we females have to deal with its sucks but after about id say the third or fourth time it wont be as bad just tell him to take it gentle until you feel comfortable.
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