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... Send *ittykhaos a private message | | | *ittykhaos's profile:Hay, I live in the south of England but i have lived all over the country. In my 25 years i have had some pretty strange and wonderful experiences. I have been in a long term relationship, ive been in a violent relationship, ive fallen for my best friend, ive been cheated on and ive been the other woman lol so i have picked up some useful tips on the way but other things still baffle me to this day.I am a musician my life revolves around it and so do my love interests usually lol
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Do I stay with my drinking husband because of our daughter?
Q. I am a 49 year old female with a 14 year old daughter. I have been married 15 years and for the entire time I have known this man he has drank; but it seems every year his drinking is getting worse. Even though I am married, I feel like a single ...
A. 23 August 2009: You should leave, your daughter is now 14 and before she was 9 so now she is old enough to understand whats going on. She probably is aware of her fathers drinking and she is also probably aware of how unhappy you are. You can't force yourself to ... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 23 August 2009: This was an honest relationship my closest friend of 7 years and all though he was not my first i was his. I love him and as far as i was aware he loved me. I was honest and i did wait ( 2 years in fact) but sometimes life throws you something you ... (read in full...)
We're apparently good friends, so is there a reason why we hardly talk to each other?
Q. I'm confused...erm if you read this your a saint! And if u even attempt to try and think about it and reply to me....well your officially the best! You see, I'm very confused about one of my friends...he's male, we went to college together but we ...
A. 22 August 2009: Have you ever thought he may be into you ? I had this with my best friend we had ok communication all though he is quite shy but we were inseparable through college 2 years later out of the blue amidst some weirdness he told me he was in love with ... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 22 August 2009: I agree that life is not about how many people you can kiss/have sex with but sometimes you can't always have what you want. I love a man very much but he ended our relationship and so now I will one day endeavour to find love but that fact that I ... (read in full...)
I'm having some very serious sleep deprivation issues and could use some advice!
Q. i have delayed sleep syndrome it is hereditary in my family and means that my natural bio clock is from 4 am to 12am, even as a kid i couldn't sleep before this time. i've managed with this at uni and things. but i havent been able to properly...
A. 22 August 2009: Omg i have never met another person who has this i have the same thing with the burglary and the scary dreams and the slightest noise wakes me up. I have been this way since i was 10 years old . Thank you for posting this i had no idea it was a real ... (read in full...)
If I'm so "hot", why don't I have many boyfriends, or even offers!!
Q. Hey lads, new question. Iam a bit confused at the mo. I am 17 right. I have only had two boyfriends, they lasted a good while, 7 months and 1 year! I always thought I wasnt really pretty, but recently, talking to my sister, she has said that ...
A. 22 August 2009: your probably very pretty and they shyness makes you seem less approachable.
My best friend is like this he is 6"6 and the most beautiful man on the planet but girls never talk to him because he is shy and they think he is rude. ( good for me lol)... (read in full...)
How much money should I give my friend as a wedding gift?
Q. I was wondering how much money to give to a friend/colleague for her wedding. I have known her for nearly 2 years and have been invited to her wedding for the whole day. She struggles with money and said she prefers cash to vouchers which i...
A. 21 August 2009: This is tough because i can see it must be hard not to be cheep but not to be insulting either. Think about what you may have got her as a wedding gift and maybe give her that amount of money or ask her friends you must no someone else who is going ... (read in full...)
She's having a baby with a man who looks almost identical to her brother - Is this weird?
Q. My boyfriend's sister is pregnant at 17, and it's with one of his friends - drunken one night stand with a consequence. The thing I am finding weird is that the father of the baby is almsot identical to my boyfriend - her brother! Even his family...
A. 20 August 2009: no i find it quite odd. I once went out with a boy whose sister was same height same weight and had the same style of dress as me we liked the same music and had a very similar personality. All thought facially i didn't look like his sister we were ... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex it hurts and I get a brown discharge, what is this?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been together for quite a while now and we have started having sex quite regular but the problem is everytime we have sex i am left in quite abit off pain and a browny discharge happens :S.. the very first time we...
A. 20 August 2009: Your welcome chick just please make sure you get yourself checked out just in case ok? take care x... (read in full...)
My girldfriend wasn't upfront with me about her past. How do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and he felt all over her before we started dating and she told me way after we've been dating for 4 to 5 months? i checked and didnt find the question at all please post thanks....
A. 20 August 2009: I replied to this the first time you posted it.
So what if your g/f has a past most people do and some don't like to talk about it and some don't share that information with there partners because they feel they don't want to know. Does she dese... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex it hurts and I get a brown discharge, what is this?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been together for quite a while now and we have started having sex quite regular but the problem is everytime we have sex i am left in quite abit off pain and a browny discharge happens :S.. the very first time we...
A. 20 August 2009: Actually rhythemandblues 2 she is not underage she is from the uk and sex is legal at 16 so calm down before you bust your head.I agree a doctor is probably the best person to ask but maybe she didn't realise this wasn't a common problem how about ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about lending your partner money? My guy asked for £1,000 and I said no!
Q. My boyfriend of eight months has asked me to lend him £1000. He says he needs it to pay his landlord. He's generally an honest person but this came out of the blue and its a lot of money. I'd be happy to lend smaller amounts, but I'm currently ...
A. 19 August 2009: Don't do it i have a shot credit rating ccj's out my ears and creditors at my door every day because i lent my b/f money. Over the course of our 4 and 1/2 year relationship he bled me dry and now im left with the conciquences while has a clean ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to tell someone you love them through Telepathy?
Q. Can you let someone know you love them by Telepathy?If two people love each other but dont know about each others feelings can you send these feelings through some form of telepathy? I have experienced it with someone and I don't really know how...
A. 19 August 2009: I know what you feel. Me and my best friend have this and even though stuff is really messed up with him and were not really speaking i know there is something wrong. When we were fine he used to message me when i had just messaged him to the point ... (read in full...)
I'm bothered by what she did with another guy before we were together
Q. how can i get over the fact that my girlfriend kissed another guy and let him touch her all over before we started dating ....
A. 19 August 2009: You weren't together so it doesn't matter surly? Ive slept with people so does that mean i can't find love because another man has touched me? Im perplexed as to why this is an issue.... (read in full...)
Why am I so lonely? What's wrong with me?
Q. I've been feeling lonely for a while. I feel like nobody gets me, I don't know if it's a phase that every teenager goes through but why do I feel this way? My life has been on hold, well, the same, forever. It seems everybody is getting on with ...
A. 19 August 2009: I am in a similar situation to you. Im 24 and because of a string of different things i have had to put my life my education and such on hold. The best thing i ever did was move away from my home town and get some perspective on my life. Due to ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a man has had sex already?
Q. how do you know if a man had sex already? would it take time for them to ejaculate? and if they havent had sex in a while would they ejaculate quicker?...
A. 19 August 2009: The last boy i slept with was a virgin and i know this because we have been friends since he was 14 he was amazing in bed the best lover i ever had the fortune of having. He was slightly nervous but other than that he handled the situation with ... (read in full...)
How many women are insecure about their vaginas?
Q. How many women are insecure about their vaginas? AND Is it normal to have large labia? Will men care?...
A. 19 August 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-fix-my-overgrown-labia.html
I spent ages talking to this girl who had the same worries
its PERFECTLY normal and men DON'T CARE!! lol bless ya x
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Are looks really that important?
Q. To sum the whole problem up, everyone thinks and says my boyfriend is ugly. We're in a long distance relationship, therefore most of my friends haven't even seen him closely, but when they see his pics they all start screaming at me about how ugly ...
A. 19 August 2009: If you really care about him it doesn't matter how other people think. People used to tell me that the love of my life wasn't hot enough for me or that he was too trendy (I'm kind of alternative). Or they would make fun because he was quiet or ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about dating the ex of an acquaintance. Am I doing anything wrong??
Q. Hi. I've recently become involved with a guy who has broken up with his gf of 2.5 years, I really like him and he seems really into me but there is a slight problem. His ex-gf is an acquaintance of mine, not a friend but a good friend of a friend o...
A. 19 August 2009: I don't see a problem with this but yet again I dated and slept with my ex's best friend. I think it depends on how and why they broke up. If you had stolen him away (not that you really can) then there may have been something wrong but at the end ... (read in full...)
Debate over if this is a good idea, or if I'm missing out
Q. ok, im totally in love with my boyfriend. the thing is, im torn between wanting to spend the res tof my life with him and thinking im too young to be serious with someone. we got together when i was 16 and hes the only guy ive ever slept with. ...
A. 19 August 2009: Strike a balance as ginsingmeow said. My sister has been with her b/f nearly 7 years he was her first they live together but they lead very separate lives "em" is out going and drinks and likes to socialise but "lee" is quiet and introverted and ... (read in full...)
If he's lying about little things, is he capable of more?
Q. I found out my husband lied to me about a few things. They were things he didn't really need to lie about, like talking to his ex and going on pornsites. If the conversation with her was innocent, I don't see why he should hide it, and it really ...
A. 19 August 2009: It depends on the "little things" my sisters b/f lies about the amount stuff costs (he's into computers and tech) he will tell her something cost £100 but it actually cost £150 but mostly because he doesn't want her to worry about money. That is a ... (read in full...)
Did you ever tell your bestfriend you were in love with him/her, and what reaction did you get?
Q. hi this is a question going out to the guys out there (and girls) Was just wondering what sort of reaction you got after you told your g/f or freind that u were "in love" with them, (not just love them) im in love with this girl that i have ...
A. 18 August 2009: Oh please read my questions lol... (read in full...)
What is it about commitment that scares me, and how can I get past it?
Q. Right then, I have a major problem (well, it's major in my eyes...) Anyway, I'm seventeen and I have MAJOR commitment problems! A load of people find this surprising since I'm a girl, but I just hate being tied down! I've had four boyfriends since...
A. 17 August 2009: Aww babe your 17! When you find the right guy you will want to stay with them and its not about being tied down you can be with someone you love and still have freedom. Its all about striking a balance. But PLEASE don't worry about it you are so ... (read in full...)
Deep French kissing and dry humping: did he get satisfied?
Q. Dear Aunts What do you think the norm is to this question? I belive I have the answer but would like you input. 24 year old guy deep french kissing and dry humping (with clothes on) for a couple hours. do you think he got satisfied? thank...
A. 17 August 2009: No lol poor boy probably went home and satisfied himself lol (sorry if that sounds harsh) but you probably got him all worked up.... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 16 August 2009: to Emilysanswers i think you need to calm down
if you had read my response i said all though it is common in porn it is not something i would be comfortable with. It is an over reaction because it is a small miss understanding if no one tells you ... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 16 August 2009: Its a pretty common thing to do and if your b/f is into porn he has probably seen 100's of people do this. I personally would find it a bit uncomfortable maybe but i would make that clear. But i think your over reacting, tell your partner you found ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to be next in my life
Q. Here's the deal, several years ago I was heartbroken by an ex that tore out my heart and threw it in the trash:(, so sad I know, but moving on I've moved on since then, I mean my God that was high school lol. But I think about her here and there ...
A. 16 August 2009: People grow up and maybe if she was your first love and you think about her and she thinks about you theres something there. Take her our for a few drinks maybe some food and see if she has grown up and if there is any attachment there. Your not ... (read in full...)
Found out boyfriend was cheating and now all I want to do is drink
Q. I hate my life. I have never felt so low, I found out my bf of 3 years has been cheating on me for a year and I feel so foolish! It was also with a girl i knew they are not together now but I feel so lonely. I find it hard to trust men after my dad. ...
A. 15 August 2009: Aww babe you really need to try and spend time with your mum i think it would be good for you. You need to go and see a doctor get signed of work for a few weeks. You shouldn't be on your own if you feel this way otherwise it will become a cycle . ... (read in full...)
Please help walk me through my next steps!
Q. Hi, ive just turned 18 and im in abit of a difficult situation. Im not the most confident guy in the world, i suppose when it comes to my friends though im pretty confident and just generally friendly. Thing theres 4 of us who are the best of ...
A. 14 August 2009: Aww love i feel your pain. Just ask her if she would like to be with you be as relaxed as you can about it. If she says no don't push the issue any further.. I am in love with my best friend and i feared telling him would ruin our friendship only to ... (read in full...)
Why would she want to have sex with me with a penis that size?
Q. Ok. I'm really embarrassed. Have been all my life. It's just i have a really small penis. Its 10cm erect, and I HATE myself because of it. I recently got my first girlfriend, and i have done 'stuff' for her, but she hasn't for me, because i keep ...
A. 14 August 2009: its not always about size. If your under confident try and talk to her about it and maybe if she finds you "inadequate" (for the record i don't think she will) then maybe learn to use other parts of your body. For me its not about size but the ... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to do, fight or walk?
Q. me and my best friend haven't spoken in months(please read my other questions) I emailed him and his entire family ( over a month ago) and asked them not to contact me again then a week ago out of the blue he emails me and says: How do you expe...
A. 14 August 2009: You guys obviously didn't read the back ground into this his family have been my family too we have been best friends for 7 years. I am closer to his mum than my own and his brother was my other best friend. We entered into a sexual relationship ... (read in full...)
How can I fix my overgrown labia??
Q. i think my labia sticks out too much. is it possible for it to stick out? is there something wrong with it? if there is, can i fix it somehow?...
A. 13 August 2009: I can really relate to this i HATE yes HATE my labia BUT it has never caused me any problems and non of my sexual partners have ever commented. Some women have large labia and some have hardly any protrusion at all but don't feel that you are in ... (read in full...)
Why do some guys like to stay 'friends' with a former 'friend with benefits'?
Q. Why do some guys like to stay 'friends' with a former 'friend with benefits'??? I know some of you will say this is for 'back up' but not in all cases. There's this guy who i was friends with and slept with ONCE. He wants to be friends on the ...
A. 13 August 2009: I have a very good male friend we slept together once but there was nothing in it. I had just come out of a horrid 5 year relationship and he had just been dumped by the love of his life. We had sex we had fun but we never "got together" as neither ... (read in full...)
Whats going on with my best friend?
Q. *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...
A. 12 July 2009: I walked away, I emailed them all and told them I couldn't hang on to the hope that I could go back to being part of there family if no one would speak to me and tell me what was wrong. None of them got back to me at all and I still never found out ... (read in full...)
Whats going on with my best friend?
Q. *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...
A. 11 July 2009: so i did it, i emailed them all and said i wanted no part in there life, Im gutted more than gutted. They never replied so i guess this was the right thing to do thanks for your help x ... (read in full...)
My friends make fun of me and call me fat...but I'M NOT FAT!
Q. ok so. Pretty much all of my friends are non stop making fun of me for being fat. BUT IM NOT FAT! When im not there they talk about how fat i am and draw pictures of how fat i am. dont say theyre jealous cus theyre all skinnier than me. but im still ...
A. 9 July 2009: Your friends are jealous of you, its there problem and not yours. Find yourself a better group of friends because these guys obviously don't really care about you. Given you admission of an old eating disorder they should be more careful with how ... (read in full...)
Am I actually in love with my best friend, or have I led him on?
Q. Alrighty, I'm in just a tiny bit of a situation. I've been in love with my best friend for about three years now, and now that's he's acting like he feels the same way about me, it kind of freaks me out. And I feel horrible because maybe I've led ...
A. 8 July 2009: ok make sure your really careful what you do here please read my question just to see what kind of state this situation can end up in. if you dont know if you love him then don't start a relationship if you value your friendship losing your best ... (read in full...)
During sex all I do is think about the size
Q. Hi! k i'll try keep this short. I was with my ex for six years and we split b34 xmas. I dated and slept with two of the guys, its was nice but they didn't last long! Anyway, i've met a guy recently, and he's different to anyone i've been out with, ...
A. 2 July 2009: I had a problem kind of like this my long term x was 11" and he was a good lover experimental and such but the first maybe 100 times we had sex it hurt. I also had another b/f who was very wide and when we first started having sex the only way was ... (read in full...)
Someone please help! I don't know what to do about my ex-boyfriend!
Q. Hi I broke up with my boyfriend that I have been seeing on and off for the past 4 years he treated me terrible not just terrible but how noone should ever be treated! he sprayed me in the face with pepper spray, he slit all my tires, he called me ...
A. 2 July 2009: He has manipulated you into thinking you need him your ex is obviously a horrid man who you need to steer well clear of. Anyone who has done those things could be capable of worse what if the next thing he slashes is you instead of your tires?? look ... (read in full...)
Is severing myself from his family the only way I can get over this?
Q. So a while ago i posted a question about my best friend (of 7 years) *parker* (it has all the back ground info so maybe it would help to read it) basically its been over 2 months since parker and i last spoke and its really eating away at me. The ...
A. 2 July 2009: When i say sever i mean completely no contact. No phone numbers no facebooks no email addresses no home addresses nothing. I have stayed away from his family except random facebook comments and talking to his brother via msn The thing is if parker ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my boyfriend will object to the dress I've bought.
Q. We are invited to a 4th of July party, and I bought a rather modest (in length) strapless summer frock, which shouldn't be a problem except my bf is very particular about what I wear, and I am afraid he will somehow object to this dress!! He also ...
A. 1 July 2009: is this a relationship or a dictatorship? Please PLEASE wear the dress its YOUR dress and its the 4th of July and my american history is not amazing but im pretty sure thats INDEPENDENCE DAY!! INdependence lol I would never ever go out with someone ... (read in full...)
Whats going on with my best friend?
Q. *Parker* and i have known each other for 7 years. We met at college. At first there was nothing besides friends (i was 17 n he was 14). We formed a close friendship I was the only person he ever confided in (this never really changed). About 6 ...
A. 29 May 2009: Thank you for replying i know that was ALOT to take in lol I have tried to talk to him i called him and said call me when he's free but he hasn't.im waiting for his mum to call me because in her email she said she would probably be best calling ... (read in full...)
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