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... Send *arlos Omnis a private message | | | *arlos Omnis's profile:- I feel that my general mindset on life is what enables me to offer advice, and most importantly want to.
On a side note, I have nearly completed my psychology degree, which I feel has given me an insight into human behaviour.
-United Kingdom is my locale
-I enjoy reading a lot, and am in the process of writing my own novels, of which the first in the set of six is complete. I still have an interest in computer games, but this isn't as strong as it once was. Skateboarding, rollerblading and BMXing are all sports I like to partake in, as a fit body promotes a fit mind.
-My relationship status at present is "in a relationship", my girlfriend is 25 and I am approaching the grand age of 21 (in December) |
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Should I marry my fiance even although I am not in love with him?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my fiance for 1 year and we have just got engaged. He is a very kind, caring and thoughtful guy and would do almost anything for me. I have never been out with anyone who has so wanted to take care of me and thinks of me...
A. 15 August 2007: How would you feel if you were wed to someone who didn't love you or wasn't attracted to you?
I think it would hit you pretty hard, you may think you're doing him a favour, but noone wants to spend their life with someone who doesn't love them... (read in full...)
Do you think that it is possible to have many sexual partners in 1 night stand bases without her looking for sex?
Q. I'm 29, my partner is 21. I had 2 sexual partners 1 through marriage and 1 short term relationships, never 1 night stand. My partner was sexually active since the age of 14, she had 30 sexual partners most of them were 1 night stand. She keeps ...
A. 14 August 2007: Quite simply put no.
If it happened once then yes, but repeated times its a bit hard to comprehend.
However, it bears no relevance, her past is her past so don't let it get in the way.... (read in full...)
Does the 72 hour pill go on my record?
Q. will the 72 hour pill go on my doctors record? really worried, just had sex and was unprotected :S i no it was stupid of me..but i wanna get the 72 hour pill but my mum doesnt know ive lost my virginity? any ideas???? please help x...
A. 14 August 2007: not it doesn't, one good thing about our medical system.
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How do I get him to realise the consequences of his actions??
Q. My girlfriends son is 13yrs old and talks to his mother like she is dirt. He always wants and wants but never shows appreciation for what she provides for him. He throws temper tantrums and slams his door to his bedroom, or pouts and won't talk to ...
A. 14 August 2007: it sounds like the problem here is that he knows he won't be punished for anything that he does, and he knows he can instil fear in you by threatening to go off to his dad's.
First of all, you'll have to talk to his dad about this, try to orga... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex yesterday and lost my virginity...
Q. Had unprotected sex yesterday and lost my virginity... the problem is that I have really irrregular periods, does the 19th day idea still follow with this? I am due on supposedly in a week and a bit. Help please...
A. 14 August 2007: get to your doctor immediately and get the morning after pill, it still works for 72 hours after sex.
I wouldn't just sit around waiting to see if you're caught or not.
And in future always use a condom, if you don't have any on you abstinen... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend made out with some guy and went down on him at that party.
Q. My girlfriend and I had been dating for a few weeks when she cheated on me with another guy. She confessed about it to a friend of hers, and told me about it at a party a week after it happened. She only told me she kissed him though. A couple ...
A. 14 August 2007: I think that this is a sign to leave this where it is.
She's cheated on you, and then as you say immediately went with someone else.
Normally i would say this would have been a rebound thing and that she just required some closeness, but because ... (read in full...)
When he doesn't get to have sex with me he goes to porn websites and pleasures himself, Should I worry about that
Q. My boyfriend of 11 months has a very high sex drive. He likes to just grab and touch me when we are at home, which I don't mind because at least he is attracted to me right? So as you can see he likes to have sex. Well of course there are certain ...
A. 14 August 2007: Some men have very high sex drives, and as a result need a method of "releasing" themselves.
So i would say it was natural.
However, if you have that much of a problem with it, why don't you do other things for him, why don't you perform oral on ... (read in full...)
Is it okay that my 32 year old boyfriend said some thirteen year olds "look good?"
Q. Is it okay that my 32 year old boyfriend said some thirteen year olds "look good?" We were talking about teenagers for some reason and he said that but didn't go into their body parts or saying anything sexual about them. He babysits his 8 year ...
A. 14 August 2007: its not really ok if he finds young girls to this extent attractive.
To me this is a red flag for potentially horrendous behaviour later on (i don't need to spell it out)
I think the best bet would be to try and smack it on its head before it gets ... (read in full...)
Engaged but having feeling for my ex bf! Is this because I am feeling unfulfilled with my fiancee?
Q. Okay, I cant turn to anyone, cause my problem is top secret. I am engaged and fairly happy. Wedding is soon, and my family is very very excited. Been with my Fiance for over 4 years now. I recently met up with my ex after not seeing him for n...
A. 14 August 2007: First love's ALWAYS stay with you, whether they ended for bad or for worse.
If there was no real reason for breaking (just because you wanted to see life's sights so to speak) you never really had any closure.
Also what tends to happen is the mind... (read in full...)
I still love my ex and just confirmed he loves me too, what do I do now?
Q. im still very good friends with my ex boyf and was at his house the other day just hanging out. i went on his computer and discovered a love poem hed written about me (yea it was definitely about me there was no mistaking that cuz of certain things ...
A. 14 August 2007: Unless you have the intention of getting back with your ex, then keep these feelings to yourself.
I myself a while back was left for an ex... and it didn't work out between them.
Then after that she obviously regretted it and wanted to return, ... (read in full...)
What does the word 'freak' mean?
Q. what does a FREAK mean? I hear people used this term a lot at school, and saying it to people....
A. 10 August 2007: It can mean abnormal, or it can mean as myp described, sexually uninhibited. It entirely depends on the context on which it was used... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, when we have sex for the first time, will it hurt?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins and we are getting near to the point in our relationship where we both want to have sex! I have heard that it will hurt my gf and I know that those rumours are true but I have also heard that it will hurt me as ...
A. 10 August 2007: It will hurt, the first time don't feel you have to orgasm either. Tell her to be completely honest with you, if she's becoming uncomfortable then you need to stop, and pick up later a different point. Take it nice and slow, and don't be a littl... (read in full...)
I am planning on making a move on a friend of mine who is also a girl. How do I go about this?
Q. I am planning on making a move on a friend of mine who is also a girl. How do I go about this? We have made out before and it only was once. Also if it ends up going past kissing what do I do? How do I do it? I really could use some advice. ...
A. 10 August 2007: It would be better to build the foundations of a relationship before steaming in for the "finish". Stay friends, and see where things naturally go, there's no need to plan anything, when its right it right. However due to your age, i would recommen... (read in full...)
I'm becoming a nympho and when I can't get sex I can't help but pleasure myself! Help!
Q. I recently lost my girlfriend We didn't have sex as often as we liked due to not getting to see eachother that often. Usually, every few weekends. It was rough!! (not the sex, haha) Despite that, now that we have split, I find myself almost addicted ...
A. 10 August 2007: You need to try some replacement therapy. When you feel the urge, you need to occupy yourself with something else. Preferably something physical, such as cycling or running, maybe even a martial arts class. The urge to masturbate normally mani... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I do not fancy him anymore and cannot face having sex with him, he does not turn me on at all, in fact it is more of a chore. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17, I am now 23. At the time I did not think that anyone would like me and was happy that someone did. Recently I have been getting a lot of attention from men and it makes me wonder if I settled down too ...
A. 10 August 2007: I think this is the stage where you need to sit down and talk with him, describing why you feel you can't be with him anymore. If this is how you feel now, just imagine how you'll feel in five years. Your aversion to sex with him will pollute ... (read in full...)
My gf's complaining and crying constantly is wearing me down! What should I do!?
Q. I do love my girlfriend, but she is swallowing up my life. She constantly complains about everything i do, and cries for many hours on end, and expects me to talk with her until she feels happy again: normally many hours into the night. I have 6 ...
A. 10 August 2007: I have to agree with anon, only one chance to get your education right, but there's plenty of opportunities to meet girls. If she's like this now, imagine what she'll be like five years down the line. Can you really see yourself with her? It sounds... (read in full...)
How do I make new friends in the school I am moving to?
Q. this fall i am going to a different school. I don't know anyone there. I find it difficult to make new friends. How do i make good friends that will stick to me for a long time?...
A. 10 August 2007: Keep your head up, and always be cheerful. Take the initiative sometimes, if you see someone on their own, ask them an opener, such as what their interests are, or what class they enjoy the best. Another great way to make friends is to join a clu... (read in full...)
Depressed because people laugh at me! Any advice?
Q. I don't know the reason for this, but whenever i go out people i don't know just look at me and laugh at me. I don't know what is so funny? i don't dress funny, i dress like any other ordinary people that you see on the streets. i am not taking ...
A. 10 August 2007: I think you may be being a little paranoid, it could be that these people are laughing in their group, rather than directly at you. Sometimes it can feel a bit coincedental sometimes, like you walk in a room and everyone falls silent and you have... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been contacting his ex!
Q. My current boyfriend has been talking to his ex much more often as of late, and I've seen some of the messages they've sent to each other over MySpace, and it seems like they both still have feelings for eachother. I want to confront him, but I'm ...
A. 10 August 2007: I agree a little with anonymous on some levels, but not others. Just because he is in contact with her on Myspace (which i'd like to point out now, anyone can look at so it's not like he's trying to hide it from you) doesn't mean any red flags sh... (read in full...)
I do stuff to my friend but it makes me feel weird
Q. ok, i m a virgin, but i don't have a boyfriend yet. but i have a really good friend that lets me do stuff 2 him, he has done stuff 2 me also, but everytime we do something, i fell really weird?? why is this happening?...
A. 10 August 2007: Its probably because you are feeling a bit self-conscious with him, after all, the sharing of naked bodies is a very intimate thing. I need to ask something though, are you "doing stuff" to your friend in order to be well practiced? If you are the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and I kept him. How do I trust him again?
Q. while i was in florida, my boyfriend of 2 an 1/2 years cheated on me...i found out 3 months later, and ever since then have not been the same. I have chosen to stay with him. I know he loves me and feels awful and he just wants it to go away, but i ...
A. 10 August 2007: With such a major betrayal of your faith, its impossible to tell how long a wound will take to heal. it may never heal, once you've lost your trust in somebody its damn near impossible to get it back. Heard the phrase "once a cheater, always a... (read in full...)
Life with my bf is going downhill, but he is all I have..should I stay or go?
Q. I've been seeing my bf for over a year and a half, we almost live together, or was. We used to be really close, however things went downhill when i said i loved him... and he never said it back. We talk about it often, i cant help but be upset, i ...
A. 10 August 2007: The thing is, he probably knows you feel this way. The trouble with most guys is that once they've realised they don't have to put any effort in they won't. So, it seems like he's taking advantage of you. It could be recommended to feign a break ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant if you are moving against his penis but it's not inside you?
Q. Can you still get pregnant if its not in you but your movin against it? Is there any possible way? Write back soon please. Wondering...
A. 10 August 2007: Yes, there doesn't have to be any penetration to become preganant, or to transmit std's. Also even if the male does not climax, he can still "dribble" (which is to aid lubrication when actually having sex) which can also impregnate you.... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't care for her bf anymore and I like him! Should I flirt with him?
Q. Ok well. I have a friend (male) who I have known for quite a while and hes lovley, really sweet and stuff. Anyway he has been saying to my friends that he likes me. I have seen the ovious signs too- sending hearts on msn, holding my hand, putting...
A. 10 August 2007: The trouble is here, I can tell your friend would make a big deal out of it if you asked this guy out, even though she's omitted that she has no feelings for him. You have to judge whether seeing this guy, who could just be a flash in the pan is w... (read in full...)
We broke up and he had no problem moving on..so why can't I?
Q. Ok where do I start. My ex (which has been my friend for the past 10 years)and I will be broken up for almost 2 years. We were together for 5. Now, he calls me about once a week. He's moved on, living with her and her daughter. Me on the other ...
A. 10 August 2007: First things first, you have to WANT to stop thinking of him, that passage struck me that in a weird way you like to be reminiscing about him. Second you can't stop thinking, so you need to find something to occupy your thoughts, get a hobby wi... (read in full...)
My friend gave me oral sex and I returned the favour; does this make me a lesbian?
Q. i'm not too sure whether i'm a lesbian or not because i slept around my friends house the other night. we had to sleep in the same bed as there wasn't anywhere else to sleep and we both slept naked. about an hour after we'd gone to bed, i got woken...
A. 8 August 2007: It doesn't mean you are a lesbian, you may have just been curious as to what you could do with the same sex.
It's also not unusual to wish to do things like that with close friends, although admittedly it happens opposite genders more often.
Ask y... (read in full...)
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