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writes:I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17, I am now 23. At the time I did not think that anyone would like me and was happy that someone did. Recently I have been getting a lot of attention from men and it makes me wonder if I settled down too quick. I often wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. I love my boyfriend but I do not fancy him anymore and cannot face having sex with him, he does not turn me on at all, in fact it is more of a chore. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): I think that you are too young to have setle down. If you dont feel any more attraction to him it is not a good sign. Maybe you turned out to be now friends more than a couple. Maybe taking distance could help you out and re think your relationship with him.
Good luck!!
Maria
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (10 August 2007):
 I think this is the stage where you need to sit down and talk with him, describing why you feel you can't be with him anymore.If this is how you feel now, just imagine how you'll feel in five years. Your aversion to sex with him will pollute your mind and make you come to unjust conclusions about him.Also its not fair on him, he'll be able to tell you're not enjoying it, and sexual relations is a staple of any relationship, it offers a bond which only the two of you share.If that staple is missing its not long before everything around you crumbles.This is your body's way of telling you what your heart doesn't wish to accept.Think on the good side, if you end it now you can retain his friendship.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Its a classic case of meeting someone at a young age and have outgrown them. I don't think its a good idea carrying on in a relationship if you find sex with your partner repulses you, you are depriving him of sharing something that is a beautiful way of expressing how they feel and love their partner. Do the decent thing and finish with him,so he can find someone who is willing to share intimate moments with him. Otherwise its cruel to string someone along, who you are not simply attracted to.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 I think women should never marry or expect to stay with the same person they were attracted to at 16, 17, etc. As you grow up your taste changes. You begin to figure out who you are and what you want and usually you end up outgrowing the person you were madly in love with at 17. I went through the exact same thing when I got married at 19. By the time I was 22, I was bored with my husband and just like you, I had started turning heads and I liked the attention. In truth, I probably should've waited until I was around 25 to get married and then I probably would've found someone more suitable for the "adult" me. Get out now, be kind about it but you both need to move on.
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reader, penta  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Your significant other deserves to have someone who wants him sexually. If you really find sex with him a chore, he would be better off without you. Leave him and check out those greener pastures.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Hi
Sounds like you have become bored & are wondering if the grass is greener elsewhere.
As you are young, and was young when you met him, i would say i think you need to get out there & live a bit now by the sounds of it.
Only you will know that for sure though.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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