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... Send *arlos Omnis a private message | | | *arlos Omnis's profile:- I feel that my general mindset on life is what enables me to offer advice, and most importantly want to.
On a side note, I have nearly completed my psychology degree, which I feel has given me an insight into human behaviour.
-United Kingdom is my locale
-I enjoy reading a lot, and am in the process of writing my own novels, of which the first in the set of six is complete. I still have an interest in computer games, but this isn't as strong as it once was. Skateboarding, rollerblading and BMXing are all sports I like to partake in, as a fit body promotes a fit mind.
-My relationship status at present is "in a relationship", my girlfriend is 25 and I am approaching the grand age of 21 (in December) |
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Why am I tormented by visions of my ex doing things with other men?
Q. A few months ago, my girlfriend split with me because she was going to university far from me. And now, I keep envisioning her making out and having Sex with other guys. I am the only guy she has ever slept with, as she's never been in a long term ...
A. 29 October 2007: It is a healing process, and as she was your first it will be the hardest, so you can find some consolation in the fact that it will get easier in future. She will always have a place in your heart, unfortunately there's no escaping that. I don'... (read in full...)
Is he kidding or is he serious?
Q. Hi There's this guy at work, (just a friend) who say he would like to ask me out, but that i'm too good looking and would make him work like a mule to keep me. So it wouldn't be worth it, because I would eventually end up with some handsome gu...
A. 29 October 2007: It's his (not-so) subtle way of testing the water. He's gauging your reaction on his "relationship" question. If you want to give him a shot, then try and mimic his humour with a comment of your own, the smallest things can lead to the biggest expe... (read in full...)
My ex wants to come over for Halloween.
Q. I'm in desperate need of advice! My ex, we still talk a little. He's in a class with me, so it's kind of hard to avoid him. While we were dating I told him about how my family likes to do a lot of decorations for Halloween. Well, he wants to come by ...
A. 29 October 2007: If you don't put him in his place (i.e. telling him point blank where he stands) that he'll keep attempting to push the boundaries.... (read in full...)
How to get her a way to wear lingerie
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. I love her to bits but I've always had this fetish for her to wear lingerie like a a nice corset etc. Seems like no matter what approach I take, she just doesn't want to. I have no problems being n...
A. 29 October 2007: The thing is, you've made the suggestion and she's said no. You love her so therefore you should be able to respect her choices, and in this case her choice not to wear lingerie for you. She knows that you desire this, and that's enough for the ... (read in full...)
She doesn't talk much, is she just shy?
Q. So I'm just starting a relationship with this girl. we like each other and like spending time with one another. the thing i like most is that i have this certain feeling of peace around her, so i know there is something there. the thing i worry ...
A. 29 October 2007: It's sometimes argued that if you can be in each others company without saying and be comfortable with it, is when you're at your happiest... (read in full...)
Love, what is it?
Q. What is the difference between saying "I love you" and "I am in love with you"? Is there a difference?...
A. 29 October 2007: Only in the sense that you can love many people, but you can only be "in love" with one person... (read in full...)
I really don't think he'd hurt me, but I'm confused?
Q. i have a bit of an issue. i am completely in love with a man that i have been with for almost a year. we both are very similar, have had very bad mentally and physically abusive relationships in the past. and we are each others support system. he is ...
A. 29 October 2007: Usually you cannot love someone else until you love yourself. Issues this deep it seems you need to tackle yourself. You mention that problems that he himself sometimes mention makes you want to commit suicide, i.e. he's dragging you down further ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay or just open minded?
Q. I was on my boyfriend's computer trying to find a document I downloaded for homework and found gay porn on it. He's said that he had sex with another guy in the past and that he likes having stuff up his butt (ie. toys, etc.). We are crazily...
A. 29 October 2007: I would strongly advise leaving. It seems he has an itch that needs scratching, that unfortunately do for him. If he's already doing what he is, just imagine what he'll be up to in a year or so. Jump ship while you can... (read in full...)
Am I overweight, too skinny or just right?
Q. Look, Im 14 and Im 5ft1/61 inches/155cm and weigh 101 pounds/7 and a half stone. Am I overweight, too skinny, or just right? be honest please....
A. 25 October 2007: Just right i think... (read in full...)
I can get an erection over anything, even just hugging a mate. Advice, please?
Q. well im 17 and i can get an erection over anything and they're really hard, even just hugging a mate, i wear baggy trousers, tight underwear and a long jacket as it is. has anyone get any advise, pls?...
A. 25 October 2007: Masturabte more often.
Its natural at your age to be so volatile sexually... (read in full...)
If she shaves before going out, does that mean anything?
Q. ok following up here with my last question..thanks for the feedback!! I talked to my GF and she still claims nothing happened other than virtual sex and I guess I believe her. I feel a bit of a panzy for not being tougher on this issue but I guess ...
A. 25 October 2007: Some women do genuinely perform to be shaven down as it does make them feel cleaner.
It really isn't grounds to raise suspicion.... (read in full...)
Any suggestions as to how to get pregnant?
Q. My husband and I have been trying to have kids for four years now. I'm looking for a solution. My doc. told me to take birth control every other month. That didn't work. stillwaiting...
A. 25 October 2007: It might be worth trying the turkey baster technique, also its best to make sure that your husband allows chance for his sperm to mature, if you're going at it all the time the sperm won't habe the strength to perform their job.... (read in full...)
I let him touch my boobs but I'm worried he'll want more. What should I do?
Q. I am seeing this guy i really like. There was this story going round that he fingerd my friend before we were seeing each other. Because of the fact I am 13 and he is 15 I am worried that he wants to have sex but I am not ready. He keeps on ...
A. 25 October 2007: Set your boundaries now.
If he respects them you know he's worth your time, if he doesn't then can him now.... (read in full...)
Why is it that only the ugly guys ask me out?
Q. hiya xxxxxx im 14 and have like a ginger brown hair and i was wonderin if it puts guys off????? i've only had 2 proper boyfriends should i be gettin worried and start to change my appearence!!!!!! the trouble is boys who i no say i'm pretty and ever...
A. 25 October 2007: My girlfriend has ginger brown hair, and I see it as a plus that she is not among the common blondes and brunettes.
It's early days for you yet, don't concern yourself.... (read in full...)
Where can I get KY jelly and how should I use it?
Q. wer will i get KY jelly would i get it a local chemist or is there some special store that i wolud have to go to. and wen sholud i use it how many minutes before intersourse ???n wer should i apply it???...
A. 25 October 2007: Any pharmacy based store (Boots for instance) that sells things like deodrants will sell KY.
May be a bit more comfortable applying it to the penis rather than inside yourself, but either way works ok.... (read in full...)
Intercourse without protection a week after my last period? Risk of pregnancy?
Q. can i get pregnant having intercourse without protection a week after my last period?...
A. 25 October 2007: Technically, you're always running the risk.
Just strap up, it's better to be safe than sorry... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to say that to his true lover during oral? Makes me feel uncomfortable.
Q. is it normal that my guy says "f_cker" while we were doing oral sex? i feel very uncomfortable to hear that. its sounds like im a prostitute..so i wonder is it normal to a guy say that to his true lover?? thanks for help!!...
A. 25 October 2007: You should be pleased that you're doing such a grand job that he can't control himself.
Mention it to him and hope that he can apply it when required.
I know I should have more of an accurate answer but I'm lucky if my girlfriend agrees to missiona... (read in full...)
Quick masturbation - increasing the risk of premature ejaculation? Any techniques to prolong climax?
Q. If you masturbate too quickly (i.e. before 10 minutes) does that mean I will experience premature ejaculation more frequently than most guys? If so can anyone give any techniques to prolong climax?...
A. 25 October 2007: Generally the more you masturbate, the more resistant you will become.
You hold yourself a lot tighter than what a vagina can, plus you have complete and utter control over rhythm etc.
I really wouldn't say it would affect you negatively, and if y... (read in full...)
I'm 20 she's 17, will we have enough in common or am I too old for her?
Q. I am 20 and mid way through my junior year of college. I'm trying to decide if I want to start a relationship with a 17 year old high school senior girl that lives back home. I'm worried about a few things, (1) is age a problem, (2) where we are at ...
A. 25 October 2007: Past the age of consent, age really doesn't bear much of a factor.
Sure there will be generational gaps in terms of music tastes for example, but the core attraction can still be there.
And three years really isn't something to fuss about.... (read in full...)
I don't want to waste my time if he still loves another.
Q. Dear Cupid your answers are really helpful. well can u help me wit tis one? in a few weeks time my bf will be going back to his home town and i know if ma bf see his ex gf again they will definatly get back together coz i know he still loves her ...
A. 25 October 2007: I gave you advice on your previous question, and I'll give the advice now.
If you can't get over this, you're going to have to leave him. Fussing about it isn't going to stop anything, and you run the risk of distancing him and driving him to do w... (read in full...)
The sex is great but he's married
Q. I have been seeing this guy that is 26 years older then me, he is married and has 3 kids 17,16,13. He does not like his wife and they dont sleep together or even speak. We have the BEST sex ever. I am so in love with him what should i do?...
A. 25 October 2007: You should get yourself some self respect, end the a relationship with no future and get someone your own age.
I can guarantee all he sees in you is sex, and there's no need to line yourself up for a fall.
Get out now while its easier.... (read in full...)
I'm confused with what he's doing.
Q. there's this guy in my class. we've been ok friends. all of a sudden he starts ignoring me. then i asked him what went wrong. he said that this other guy i'm talking to is his enemy and we looked like good friends, so he didn't want to come between ...
A. 25 October 2007: He has a very peculiar way of showing he likes you.. perhaps he's hoping you'll give him the advice not to waste his time with those other girls and suggest asking you out.
Try it, you have nothing to lose.... (read in full...)
The number of guys she had been with bothers be.
Q. I am 24 years old married with a one year old son. My wife is 22 and she is the love of my life. I knew before we were married that she had 15 sexual partners before me. I was a virgin when I met her. Ever since she told me that number has ...
A. 25 October 2007: First of all, the past is the past, and that's where it stays.
Just think how irrational your train of thought. Should every woman not have sex ever just in case you'll meet them? Its a very immature way of thinking, you chose to lose your virg... (read in full...)
Is he just showing he cares?
Q. Im friends with this guy, weve know each other a while now, only he keeps putting his arms around my stomache n stuff like that and he keeps constantly hugging me. I dont mind him doing it but does he want to go further than friends or is he just ...
A. 24 October 2007: One action is not basis to judge whether he has extended in you or not.
You need to assess his other behaviours to have more of an accurate basis to judge on, as you quite rightly say it may just be him showing he cares.... (read in full...)
Why are most of the guys I meet pervy?
Q. ok well heres the deal why are most of the guys i meet incredibaly pervy. Im 16 and most of the time i cant meet deccent guys. like one time i was walking thru my local uni campus and i got beeped at and then some guy came up to me and asked me ...
A. 24 October 2007: Generally men around your age will be only interested in one thing, generally.
And if a girl flirts with them one thought passes; "I am in there"
It doesn't mean that all are, you clearly recognise the symptoms of one who is shopping for a quick th... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if I have unprotected sex during menstruation?
Q. can i get pregnant if i have unprotected sex during my menstruation....
A. 24 October 2007: Men don't menstruate or get pregnant...
Females however can, although it's the time that it's the least unlikley.
Always better to strap up than not to.
Think of the potential diseases you'll skip the risk of catching as a bonus... (read in full...)
I think she's falling for me. How do I let her down gently?
Q. Okay well im 16 atm, and theres this girl 14. I have known her since the day she was born, and we have always been soo close. See tells me everything, and can even help me out when im down. but recently she has broken up with her bf, and im worried ...
A. 24 October 2007: Don't jump to conclusions for a start, some girls and women are just very affectionate people, without actually having loving feelings.
Do not confuse love for a caring attitude.
however, you can make it quite clear that you are not interest... (read in full...)
Is there an ointment or gel that I can use to make intercourse less painful?
Q. i have been in a relationship since 3 years im a virgin me n my partner really want to have sex we have tried it a couple of times but couldnt't really do it cause everytime he tried 2 insert his penis it caused me pain ,could u suggest somethig ...
A. 24 October 2007: KY jelly is perfect, but it may also be worth masturbating, either via an implement or just with your fingers.
It will climatise your body to it and make it a bit easier going.... (read in full...)
I want to end it but I can't. What should I do?
Q. hi, heres my problem. im with this guy who is also with someone else and i thought i would be ok with it but now his other girlfriend has announced she is pregnant.the bad thing is that i want to end it with him but ive fallen in love with him and ...
A. 24 October 2007: Putting it bluntly there is no future here.
He is having a child with someone else, and therefore that side is going to take priority.
You really should count your blessings that it isn't you who's been caught, and can take this opportun... (read in full...)
I feel she is inconsiderate to me as concerns her relation with her ex, and others have noticed too she's putting me in an incomfortable position. Am I being unreasonable/jealous?
Q. I met a great girl 8 months ago. We get on fantastic. But a little problem is starting to put tension and barriers between us. we have run into her ex b/f on a number of occasions. On the first occasion at her local pub she chatted with him...
A. 24 October 2007: I too have an almost identical situation with my girlfriend, which is weird to see it mirrored so well here. But on the plus side it gives me the scope to give you some good advice (I hope).
To be blunt, he will always be in the picture, end of. ... (read in full...)
Is having a realtionship with your second cousin wrong and is it incest?
Q. Is having a realtionship with your second cousin wrong and is it incest? ...
A. 24 October 2007: As uncle phil quite rightly said, birth defects are far more prominent when you're dipping in the same gene pool as yourself, and that's something you have to bear in mind even if you are careful.
Plus ask yourself do you really see a rela... (read in full...)
I want a baby but my mum would kill me!
Q. I want a baby but im only 15. I'm not sure if my bf wants one but i think he does but i no if i get pergent my mum would kill me so what should i do???...
A. 24 October 2007: You do not want a baby. That may seem patronizing to tell you what you want, but you're thinking irrationaly.
You'll have no spare time ever again, you'll never be able to support the child financially, therefore affecting your mood, therefore affe... (read in full...)
What is appropiate after a week dating?
Q. What do you think is 'appropiate' to happen between a bf and gf when the have been in a relationship for a week only. Do you think the guy puting his hands up the girl's top is inappropiate? Or ok if she wants him to? If a guy does this after a week ...
A. 24 October 2007: How you behave in the beginning sets the precedent for the rest of the relationship.
Or guarantees that there won't be a future. If he's already making advances on you in this manner I would suggest he's only after one thing, and once he's achi... (read in full...)
My right breast is two sizes smaller than the left.
Q. Hey im 19 an my right brest is like two sizes smaller than my left... will they stay this way?? or is there anything i can do to help me with my comfit??? i just started seeing a guy it been 5 months an am shame to be naked infront of him... ...
A. 24 October 2007: My girlfriend's boobs also differ in size, and I've never even given it a second thought.
It's a very common thing so you really shouldn't concern yourself over it.... (read in full...)
My brother would do stuff to me while I would sleep.
Q. So I'm 16 and a few years ago my brother would do....stuff to me at night when he thought I was sleep, and it kept going on because I didn't know what to do. He would make me give him handjobs and blowjobs and he would finger me and stuff. during ...
A. 24 October 2007: I have a few concerns over this.
Your behaviour during the day basically told him it was ok to behave in the manner that he was.
If you really wanted him to stop, all it would take is a swift bite and it would be over completely.
Also, you... (read in full...)
Break up or go on with this doubt.
Q. Dear Cupid my bf broke up with his gf before he met me. at least thats what he said. they broke up because the girl dont trust him as he is coming to the university which we both are studying in right now. the x gf is back at his home town. he...
A. 24 October 2007: The only issue is, if you decide to break up with him because of the "possibility" (that's all it is) that he may still love her (I really doubt that he does, because of the manner of which you have described this) then you'll be wondering what ... (read in full...)
I read her secret diary
Q. In my wife dairy, she has a crush for a marry man at her work. In the dairy she stated that how much she love his smell, touch, and hug. She also mention that she have problem concentrating at work when he is around and dream about making love to ...
A. 24 October 2007: No, she is merely fascinated by temptation at this time. Under no circumstances are you to bring this up as a topic, you've violated her trust in an inexcusable way; in my opinion journals and mobile phones should not be touched by anyone other ... (read in full...)
Is his porn use turning him into a pervert?
Q. i have noticed my husband of 14 years is watching porn and it`s making me feel inadaquate and that he`s not satified with me he is 50 and i`m 48. is he turning into a pervert i`m worried...
A. 14 October 2007: I feel I have to contradict Irish's comments, and I have to make the suggestion that they may be blood on both hands.
I myself use porn, after never having the desire for it prior to the relationship I'm in at the moment; my girlfriend doesn't like... (read in full...)
The pleasure is in the giving - right?
Q. My wife and I are going on three years of marriage. We have a healthy sex life, and are happily married. I really want her to give me a blowjob more often, but I don't know how to bring it up to her. I enjoy going down on her and do it fairly ...
A. 13 October 2007: "how I can get her to give me more head without making her feel like I am forcing her?"
Just thought I'd draw you to that quote; read it and assess how that makes you sound.
And you using the fact that you give her oral as an argument as to why s... (read in full...)
I know what the dictionary says, but I don't know what he meens.
Q. My current bf told me that no matter what I said or did sexually I would never appear slutty because I'm so sweet. My last boyfriend said approximately the same thing and this is a word that has been used often by men to describe me. I know the ...
A. 13 October 2007: There's only one reason why they are saying this exact phrase to you, and that's to guarantee you're a "slut" in the bedroom with them.
The way you present the phrase being directed at you it seems unprovoked, so it begs the the question, why is t... (read in full...)
Should I marry my fiance even although I am not in love with him?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my fiance for 1 year and we have just got engaged. He is a very kind, caring and thoughtful guy and would do almost anything for me. I have never been out with anyone who has so wanted to take care of me and thinks of me...
A. 15 August 2007: How would you feel if you were wed to someone who didn't love you or wasn't attracted to you?
I think it would hit you pretty hard, you may think you're doing him a favour, but noone wants to spend their life with someone who doesn't love them... (read in full...)
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