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writes:its been a little over a month since my g/f broke up with me. at first i admit that i did the worst thing that many guys do; i continued to call and text her throughout the day to try and get her back. the first week she would always ans. my calls r text, but then she stopped ans. them. she would just ans. every now and then. then one nite she made it clear to me that she does not want to get back with me, she said that it is to late for me to change now bc she does not feel the same way towards me. so i quit contacting her all together. a few days later i called her to ask her a question and we talked for a little while. last nite her neice mentioned my name to her and asked her "wut was up wit that" and she just said "i dont know", so earlier today i texted her to ask her if she mind if i call her like once a day or every other day and she said "i dont mind". So my question is should i take this as a good sign or wut? and should i call her every day or she prolly still does not want that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): i think that by backing off a bit like you have done will make her really think about the relatinship more and see that youu are not as clingy as you made yourself out to be in the begining.lets put it this way. if i needed time away from someone and he called me constantly and i couldnt get away, then yes, that would push me farther and i wouldnt want to be with him. but then he stops... so i start thinking, what is going on here, did he find someone else? is there someone that can make him happier? why does he not want me anymore? why doesnt he call anymore? i thought he wanted me so badly, now he doesnt? this isnt right. i need him back. i want the love that he had for me and not give it to someone else. so yes, i think there is a chance that you have not push her too far. because you have mentioned that now she says its ok for you to call her again. just keep taking it slow and let the love develope again. dont call her every day. let her come to you a bit. and yes. i would take it as a good sign .please let us know what happens as now i am truly concerned with your love life... :)
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reader, jon23 +, writes (20 June 2008):
jon23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have a quest. for sofiamorgan. u said i might push to hard, well the first week r so i know that i did! would u say that it may be to late or now that she sees i quit when she really told me to, theres still a chance that i did not push her to far?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): i dont think you should call her at all. you are pushing too hard and it will only annoy her and push her further away. you should stop contacting her and let her come to you. once she sees that you no longer need her or thinks you dont then if she still wants you and cares about you she will start to worry and start contacting you. then you will know that deep down she still wants you and you can go from there. hope this helps
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (19 June 2008):
 well its hard to say, but to be on the safe side you should call her every other day, or sometimes more often if you have something important or interesting to talk about.
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