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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok well. My boyfriend and I have been Dating for almost half a year.The way we met should be explained. (it'll proly help with providing answers to the question.)To start we met when i was a freshman and he was a junior. I hated him from the moment i saw him. He was a straight up player. I saw him date almost my entire class before the end of the semester. The feeling was mutual, he hated my guts too. He was so mean to me! He always called me names, Tripped me, and everytime i was "Talking" to someone, he would hook them up with someone else. I tried to stop talking to him, but he wouldnt leave me alone.Finaly, something happened and he began flirting with me. I pushed him away. I wanted nothing to do with him. But he won me over. And, he cheated on me. (he took his ex to prom and they had sex while we were still dating.)So. He called me months after and broke down over the phone telling me he still had feelings for me.I hung up on him. I know thats harsh, but i was hurt! As it went though, i took him back. and now Everyone i know comes up to me and asks me what i did to him. (in a good way) They say they have never seen him like this while he's with a girl. Christmas day he took me to meet his family. And even though he has dated a million people, he has never even brought a girl home. Im the first one.So, here's my question: I always get panick attacks because i have the constant fear that he will leave me. I wont talk to him about it. I refuse to. I dont want to bring it up because im scared he'll leave me. But i think its all in the fact that: He never apologized. So is it just closure i need or am i simply a lost cause?
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 well of course your afraid, the man has already cheated on you. the only reason your still in this relationship is because you want to believe he has changed. so if your not willing to talk to him about it then you have two options, either you decide that you can never fully trust him and you break it off, or you decide that he really has changed and you let yourself belive in him and the relationship. if you can trust him then your panic will go away, but if not then its him who needs to go away.
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