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writes:So I started dating this girl in December and over the course of a couple months I have led her to believe that I spent some time after high school travelling because I was extremely insecure about entering University as late as i did...I was 30..Now the relationship is getting stronger and I feel bad about it...what should i do???
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Hi, If you were not basically an honest person, the things that you told her, which were untrue, would not bother you. Liars don't usually have guilty feelings about things, it's what they do. So, I would say, you should go out to a neutral place for coffee, or tea or something, and begin to lay out for her, how you felt about entering school at a late age. Although now a days, people enter school later than you did. Let her know why you felt you had to promote yourself as something you were not, this world traveler. If there is nothing else that you have been untruthful about, the relationship should be fine. She will probably look at you strangely for a moment, and then hopefully the two of you will laugh about it. Do apologize for the fib, and go on with your lives. It is not a big deal, in comparision to a lot of other things. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Tell her the truth, from this day on. Not only is this the right thing to do: as good ol' Mark Twain said, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything". You might have some trouble, but it would be way worse if you let this fester. Speak now.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (18 June 2008):
 if you feel bad about it and you want this relationship to work then you need to tell her, because if you dont and one day she finds out you lied and never told her then she will never be able to fully trust you. all secrets come out in the end so its best to unbury them yourself.
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