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| | *HateWomanBeaters's profile:In my short life, I have seen some amazing things and some equally disgusting things.
I am here to turn the disgusting things amazing.
A few examples might be
A. helping a child get out of a household where the step father abuses her and her mother sits by idly, whether out of fear or simple malice is beside the point.
B. Helping a victim of abuse become an independent individual that can accomplish his or her goals that he or she wanted to do for so long. (an example would be a 17 year old that was not allowed to go to school by her pedophile 27 year old bf that is now in premed to become an anesthesiologist)
C. In one case, getting a female police officer to arrest her own abuser.
Together we can do things to make this world a better place.
I intend on doing more than give advice. I will do what it takes to help others.
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Years later and things have changed, I've changed...but she doesn't trust me because of what happened before...
Q. Hi, I have a major issue…… Firstly a little background info. I’m 31 years old and live in Australia. From the ages of 19 to 24 I lived in Europe and other parts of the world. During my two years living in the mediterranean, I was 21 at the time, I ...
A. 16 March 2010: Now this is a story where you were a jackass as a kid and where you CAN change. However, you have to understand her, and not only feel depressed for yourself.
I read hundreds of stories and responded to over 100 on this site. I rarely see some... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the sting from my burn?
Q. i burnt my hand on hot oil about half an hour ago i have been running it under cold water ever since i have now stopped this the swelling has gone down a lot but it is still stinging will it swell up again what can i do to get rid of the sting?...
A. 16 March 2010: put neosporin on it, or the equivalent to that, and put it wrap your hand in a wrap of some kind. Then, you should go to the doctor, you have free healtcare, why not?... (read in full...)
Was my cousin trying to have sex with me?
Q. Was my cousin trying to have sex with me? About 4 months ago me and her and the family went to France and stayed in a hostel one night our parents left and there was a friend sleeping on the sofa and my cousin was taking a shower and came out nake...
A. 9 March 2010: Honestly, while I am not one to have sex with my cousin, I believe in individual autonomy.
If she is 18+ and you are attracted to her and wanted to have sex with her and she wanted to have sex with you? I say got for it.
Just use a co... (read in full...)
Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?
Q. What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...
A. 8 March 2010: He has something
You have no legal or moral obligations, wtf?
You are the victim here. If he did not know he had it, tell him he needs to get tested. He is unclean and gave you a UTI and a yeast infection. That is really bad.
He could... (read in full...)
My adult daughter's boyfriend "gropes" her in front of me... How can I deal with this?
Q. I recently welcomed a young adult daughter back home after she started self harming because her same age boyfriend was disregarding her sexual wishes. He wanted to do some things she did not and forced these things on her. She is still his girlfr...
A. 28 February 2010: I was abused as a child as well.
We can either learn from our past or we can let it affect us AND our kids.
I chose to not let it effect me in a negative way.
You can choose to do the same.
This is a multigenerational example of the... (read in full...)
My adult daughter's boyfriend "gropes" her in front of me... How can I deal with this?
Q. I recently welcomed a young adult daughter back home after she started self harming because her same age boyfriend was disregarding her sexual wishes. He wanted to do some things she did not and forced these things on her. She is still his girlfr...
A. 27 February 2010: "caring guy", the most undeserving name ever and aunty bim bim... I seriously hope you never have a daughter, because if you do and she too gets raped by her boyfriend? You will do the wrong thing when it comes to helping her recover from thi... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out in a way that's romantic, yet not too cheesy if she says no?
Q. Ok, so tomorrow I'm gonna hang out with this girl I like and I want to ask her out. I want to ask her out soon after I see her tomorrow, that way if she says yes we can do what couples do and if she says no we'll still have time to hang out (I'm ...
A. 27 February 2010: update!
What happened?
Does she want to go out with you? ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?
Q. What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...
A. 27 February 2010: No celibacy is not the answer.
Obviously something went wrong with the condom or you are allergic to Latex condoms. If that is the case, they have non-latex condoms that would work.
Calm down. Breath. Get checked out by a doctor.
As fa... (read in full...)
Motivation for weight lost, any advice.
Q. Basicaly I went on a diet before christmas and I lost 13 pounds in 13 days which was excellent I am obese so it was easy to do just cut out all junk, exercise etc... I quit my diet as my motivation just completly went out the window. Anyon...
A. 27 February 2010: Seriously, the only motivation you need is your own health.
Cut out the bad stuff and replace it with equally tasty good stuff. There is a LOT of great food out there that is beyond healthy.
You shouldn't live for other people or whatever. Li... (read in full...)
He's twice my age, but I love him and my family are all against us...
Q. hello! I am a 17 year old female andI have started dating a 34 year old. Everyone is against us but I love him. My family are making me choose between them and him but they have never been there for me when I needed them and we don't get on at all. ...
A. 27 February 2010: I dont know what the current situation is now. You are as old as me, so you are grown up and not a child anymore.
What has happeneD?
If you are treated with RESPECT, love, and compassion, just like you would treat him, then I would say go f... (read in full...)
Cousin attacked me in a jealous rage and I broke his arm
Q. I was at a BD party just drinking and lounging, my cousin had brought a girl around he left her siting by the pool where i was he went some where. I began talking to this girl she was kool she filled up the beer cooler for me and even helped get ...
A. 27 February 2010: sorry pinktopaz...
a woman is not a man's property, because he happens to like her. She is not a tree that this "dawg" can piss on to make her his property.
If some massive obese woman comes and claims me and tries to fight a girl for it that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slapped me
Q. Ok, so I was walking in the mall with my boyfriend and suddenly a girl (stranger) came to me and whispered in my ears, "Check your pants zip". Obviously, I was so embarrassed and so when my boyfriend asked me what she said, I just lied to him that ...
A. 27 February 2010: NO he is not right in slapping you.
You will be beaten up if you stay, I guarantee it.
I put myself in these situations on purpose.
My nose is in so many places where it "does not belong" and I have seen how a small simple stare can t... (read in full...)
Is my relationship with my fiance on the rocks?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance and I have been engaged for about a year or year 1/2. Lately, I've been concerned: (1) When we're on the phone, he doesn't really talk to me. He says that since we've become engaged, there's really nothing left to talk about; (...
A. 27 February 2010: Again... You need to, at the very least, be assertive in telling him w hat you want. If he does not change, then realize he will not change and IF you stay, you will be miserable. Absolute misery. Or, you can leave him. Its one or ... (read in full...)
Are my rough tendencies in bed the same as abuse?
Q. So, as you all are pretty much aware, I am against hitting women. However, I like to whip and spank women during sex, and I like sex to be as rough as possible. (consensual of course) Anyway, I know who I am and that I don't pose a danger t...
A. 26 February 2010: wow you are the aggressor when you are angry? You should never do BDSM angry dude. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?
Q. What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...
A. 26 February 2010: If it is chlamydia and you do not get it treated what ends up happening is it can stay dormant and your children you might have later can get it.
Congenital Chlamydia (the clap passed on from mother to child) causes lung damage to new borns th... (read in full...)
Is it possible to suffer injuries during sex with a large man?
Q. What kind of internal injuries can be suffered during rough sex that lasts for hours? My new BF has a large penis and after our most recent encounters, I am still sore 2 days later. Internally and it burns when I pee. He used a condom and says he ...
A. 26 February 2010: Dear EyeSpy17m
It is possible, yes.
I am 7.5 inches long, 7 inches around, and can hide a HTP Smartphone behind my fully erect penis width wise. That was to give you an idea of what I have to do to make sure I don't hurt the woman i am with ... (read in full...)
Are my rough tendencies in bed the same as abuse?
Q. So, as you all are pretty much aware, I am against hitting women. However, I like to whip and spank women during sex, and I like sex to be as rough as possible. (consensual of course) Anyway, I know who I am and that I don't pose a danger t...
A. 26 February 2010: Ummm
how is it not consensual when i get text messages every day saying, "I'm wet and i want you inside me again. LAst night was amazing."?... (read in full...)
Are my rough tendencies in bed the same as abuse?
Q. So, as you all are pretty much aware, I am against hitting women. However, I like to whip and spank women during sex, and I like sex to be as rough as possible. (consensual of course) Anyway, I know who I am and that I don't pose a danger t...
A. 25 February 2010: LOL i kind of exaggerated the smacking thing. I smacked a girl once and it was a smack not a slap. That crossed my boundary of what i would do. My limits are the obvious limits and then no breaking skin and no slapping the face or punching he... (read in full...)
My bf has anger issues, he has cheated and he's hit me 3 times! Stay or go?
Q. hey guys. well i will start with the basics. i'm going out with a boy who is fifteen (the same age as me) and we've been basically going out since year eight (seventh grade) so over the years we have obviously become very close, but we have been ...
A. 25 February 2010: Dear, Kaytie-Babey Definitely leave him. He is not worth your LIFE. When someone convinces you you are worthless, hits you, cheats on you, and makes you depressed they are selfish bastards that take away exactly that, your life. My pa... (read in full...)
I hit my pregnant girlfriend and now she is ignoring me! I feel awful...
Q. I hit my girlfriend and she is 5 months pregnant i feel bad and everthing but she is ignoring me and i dont get. I said sorry she was winding me up and i hit her i really need to see what can i do please help i feel awful. PLZ HELP?! she is alot ...
A. 25 February 2010: [MOD NOTE: Post Edited for content] But hey, call me an oddball, I don't think men (term used quite loosely) should be hitting pregnant GIRLS. As far as helping you? Best advice ever right here- keep your hands to yourself when you fee... (read in full...)
Is my relationship with my fiance on the rocks?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance and I have been engaged for about a year or year 1/2. Lately, I've been concerned: (1) When we're on the phone, he doesn't really talk to me. He says that since we've become engaged, there's really nothing left to talk about; (...
A. 25 February 2010: 1. why are you not living together? 2. No, if you don't want your life to be one big what if, then get rid of him. You know how it is going to be with him, you have been ENGAGED for 1.5 years. ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out in a way that's romantic, yet not too cheesy if she says no?
Q. Ok, so tomorrow I'm gonna hang out with this girl I like and I want to ask her out. I want to ask her out soon after I see her tomorrow, that way if she says yes we can do what couples do and if she says no we'll still have time to hang out (I'm ...
A. 25 February 2010: the first way is good seriously... (read in full...)
Should I go out on a date with my friend in spite of being married?
Q. i am married but i want to be with my friend and he wants to be with me but i don't think it will lead to sex should i go out on a date with him or not? I mean i am not saying I don't want have sex with him I do but we are both a bit more mature ...
A. 25 February 2010: Dear anon, The thing to be focusing on is not whether or not you will have sex, but your marriage and that it is not a marriage. Rather, it is a potentially miserable coexistance between two people that are bound by tradition, rather than love... (read in full...)
Am I doing the wrong thing trying to change sexualities?
Q. I am really confused. I left my husband 3 months ago because he was abusing me...he was hitting me.....anyways right after that i spent a very short time with a loser who only wanted to use me for sex and obviously that didn't work out either.....so ...
A. 25 February 2010: Jane1979, The most mature and realistic answer you can get is this right here. Attraction is not only a physical thing, but also a mental thing. I would say what you are doing is NOT wrong. If you actually want to be with a woman, then do... (read in full...)
He makes me feel like crap..even when I haven't done anything! Advice?
Q. Me and this guy have dated for 3 years off and on. We argue about dumb things that don't matter like I didn't tell him i was at the baseball game with my best friend (which is a girl). He gets very jealous and makes me feel like crap when i haven't ...
A. 23 February 2010: think about it like this
right now i can see how it is hard to break up after 3 years ...
you are 22-25
you have 60 years left in yo ur life...
do you want to look back on your life and see 60 years of that story repeated again and ag... (read in full...)
How do I tell my teacher I love her?
Q. I'm love with my teacher, and I plan on telling her. No one can change my mind on this. It'll be saved until after I graduate, but what's the best way to tell her? In person? A note? An email? Any advice is welcome. Thanks....
A. 23 February 2010: First of all, you should tell your teacher in person and probably ask her out instead of say you love her. You would be coming on too strong.
Make sure you are 18 please... (read in full...)
How can I see myself as sexy?
Q. How is it possible to look at myself, knowing I am not a model, knowing it is unrealistic to desire to be super skinny, and still think I am sexy and beautiful? My fiance thinks I am sexy, why can't I? I hide it quite well, as he believes my ...
A. 13 February 2010: You misinterpret what is and what is not something that people want in a woman.
You think that models are hot. Well, yes and no. Which models are you looking at? You are probably thinking about fashion models. They are sickly skinny. If you h... (read in full...)
Typical "I'm in love with my best friend" scenario.
Q. Typical I'm in love with my best friend scenario. She was dating this player type guy until recently. The guy had been in well over 20 "relationships" if you could call them that, and had always broken them off, he had never been broken up with. My ...
A. 13 February 2010: Dear Boggled 20
I am going to assume that this guy looks amazing and is someone no one can physically compete with in looks and what not?
If so, then you have got to use your brain to convince her that you truely have romantic feelings for her... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me so mad that I hit him. I know this is wrong but cant seem to control myself!
Q. I really need some help with me and my BF's relationship. We have been together for 1 year and things have started getting a little violent. When I say that I mean that he will say something to me that will hurt my feelings and make me cry and all I ...
A. 10 February 2010: Umm NO NO NO
He is the one that is calling you names and making you cry.
No its not ok to hit anyone, but when he does that stuff you shoud leave!
You are a good person and prolly are too small to actually hurt him when you hit him. (not s... (read in full...)
My husband treats me like a man, ...I want to be treated like a woman!
Q. Hi, well see my problem is my husband treats me like one of his buddies, like talk to me like one joke with me (depending what mood he is). And will tell me take this or carry this not like a book like heavy stuff chairs from upstairs to down ...
A. 10 February 2010: Dear Anon,
Do yourself a favor and get a divorce.
Trust me. It is a really bad life ahead of you.
Do not be one of the people that live the mediocre life at best.
Be the one, who when you look back on your long life, you can say that... (read in full...)
He never followed up on our date plans the first time. Is he reliable?
Q. I met this guy and we clicked instantly and have TONS of chemistry we chatted for a while and i gave him my number and were suppose to hangout. We talked over the course of about almost a week for hours @ a time . We set up a plan to have our date ...
A. 25 January 2010: even with the most beautiful women, i call and leave a voicemail. I then wait 2 days or so and then I text. If they don't call I don't talk to them ever again. Don't waste your time. You come up with a time to meet(him) or you forget i... (read in full...)
We tried to make a go of it, but he hits me when I want answers about his affair
Q. I need some advice so please take the time and read my post. I have been with my h/b for 29yrs married for 21yrs,two years ago i found out he was having an affair with a 28 year old co worker i belive he was thinking of leaving me to be with her she ...
A. 24 January 2010: Dear Anon, I would like to say that there are men that are not like him. There are men, friends of yours perhaps, that would gladly help you get out of the situation. These are the people you should be with. Find yourself a good guy. You can... (read in full...)
I'm burned out! He hits me, chokes me, and flirts and blames it on his drinking.
Q. I am so sad and confused. I live with Bill and he tells me all the time he loves me but he hits me in the head, chokes me and when we go out he flirts with other females in front of me. One female said he wanted to have sex with her. Bill blames his ...
A. 24 January 2010: Hi. I would like to say that there are men that are not like him. There are men, friends of yours perhaps, that would gladly help you get out of the situation. These are the people you should be with. I'll admit, I got arrested many times.... (read in full...)
Shes back to stripping, she says she will keep her knickers and ring on,all week I saw her for a few hours on wednesday and thats it! am I being unreasonable...?
Q. Hi, I want some other peoples on opinion on this as I don't know whether its me being unreasonable or whether I am justified in being upset. I have been going out with a girl a while and we are engaged and we are very much in love. In the pas...
A. 24 January 2010: I agree with xlaurenx
Also SWITCH SHIFTS. Work around her schedule.
One more thing...
Most women involved in that line of work, of which MANY i know (i do security for dancers), have been abused in the past as children and/or adults. ... (read in full...)
Shes back to stripping, she says she will keep her knickers and ring on,all week I saw her for a few hours on wednesday and thats it! am I being unreasonable...?
Q. Hi, I want some other peoples on opinion on this as I don't know whether its me being unreasonable or whether I am justified in being upset. I have been going out with a girl a while and we are engaged and we are very much in love. In the pas...
A. 24 January 2010: i think she is being unreasonable kinda, but i think that you should support her, because she does want to go to school etc. Isn't there some laws in switzerland where the boss HAS to pay the workers? A relationship is not about the qu... (read in full...)
Why do I have these random feelings about him?
Q. I've known this guy for about 6 years already and we're very good friends though I don't tell him everything. We're very open and our friends jokes about us being an item all the time. We fight and argue a lot nevertheless. At the same time, we're ...
A. 23 January 2010: the thing is, he is a match for your personality.
You feel awkward, because you are worried what other people might think, instead of yourself.
Forget your impression of what other people think.
You exhibit all the signs of liking someone.... (read in full...)
Help! I have a very high sex drive and my fiance doesn't - yet he's watching porn?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven years. We're young- no older than 22 and We've lived together for three of the seven. A few months back i woke up randomly from having gone to sleep early and noticed pink light on the walls from t...
A. 23 January 2010: 99 bananas No you do not love him. You love the illusion he presented to you as if that was the real guy. The real guy is the child with a PS3 that has porn on it. Give me a break. I thought that was childish when i was 10. (althoug... (read in full...)
He's my best friend, but I don't feel any love for him anymore. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm with my fiance for the last 3 yrs and everything was going okay...but never great. We never argue, we like the same things and i know he loves me very much. But i dont know if i love him as much as he does. I love him, but I'm not IN love ...
A. 22 January 2010: If you don't love him, end it.
You are 22-25 years old. You are not 50.
You are not even in your prime of attractivness yet.
You can attract any man and quite possibly keep him.
I say end it now, unless the only thing is your sex life ... (read in full...)
Help! I have a very high sex drive and my fiance doesn't - yet he's watching porn?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven years. We're young- no older than 22 and We've lived together for three of the seven. A few months back i woke up randomly from having gone to sleep early and noticed pink light on the walls from t...
A. 22 January 2010: oh excuse me- he doesnt want to have sex
Well if he is not on drugs or failing at keeping a job and you are the same as you were before, tell him you are going to leave.
It is ridiculous to bitch about having sex too much when he's watching po... (read in full...)
I'm used to my girlfriend forgiving me after I abuse her, but this time she's fed up. What do I do?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been with this girl for 3 years now. We have a child together. I love her dearly and want to marry her. She does everything for me. She let's me want for nothing. We have the same religious background which is wonderful (first girl ...
A. 22 January 2010: YYYYYEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
YOU LOST HER!
i hope to god you do not act like this anymore.
Maybe one dayi will meet this kim kardashian look alike and show her what a real man is.
I can only pray.
Until then.
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He never followed up on our date plans the first time. Is he reliable?
Q. I met this guy and we clicked instantly and have TONS of chemistry we chatted for a while and i gave him my number and were suppose to hangout. We talked over the course of about almost a week for hours @ a time . We set up a plan to have our date ...
A. 22 January 2010: Ummmmmmm
This sounds eerily like something that happened with me.
I met this girl that I really liked that was 18-21.
We went on 3 dates in one week, and she was the only girl i have actually liked.
I didn't follow up on the 4th date... (read in full...)
Help! I have a very high sex drive and my fiance doesn't - yet he's watching porn?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven years. We're young- no older than 22 and We've lived together for three of the seven. A few months back i woke up randomly from having gone to sleep early and noticed pink light on the walls from t...
A. 22 January 2010: He didn't one day just STOP having sex.
It must have been something.
1. He doesn't have a job anymore, and failed out of some career he was in.
2. He does drugs.
3. I don't want to sound rude but this is quite plausible, you have gai... (read in full...)
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