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In my short life, I have seen some amazing things and some equally disgusting things.

I am here to turn the disgusting things amazing.

A few examples might be

A. helping a child get out of a household where the step father abuses her and her mother sits by idly, whether out of fear or simple malice is beside the point.

B. Helping a victim of abuse become an independent individual that can accomplish his or her goals that he or she wanted to do for so long. (an example would be a 17 year old that was not allowed to go to school by her pedophile 27 year old bf that is now in premed to become an anesthesiologist)

C. In one case, getting a female police officer to arrest her own abuser.

Together we can do things to make this world a better place.

I intend on doing more than give advice. I will do what it takes to help others.

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Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...

A.   2 August 2010: If you want to be selfish, you can stay and make your child suffer. If you want to do what is best for your child. YOU LEAVE ... (read in full...)

My question is how do I tell my dad that I used to do this without him overreacting?

Q.   How do i tell my dad that i used to cut myself? Ok i know that its bad and that i shouldnt etc, and i havent for about 4months now. Its been extremely hard as it was at the stage where i was pretty much addicted to cutting myself. I still struggle ...

A.   23 June 2010: You need to talk to him about it immediately. Who is the person/people that did the physical and sexual abuse? This issue is much bigger than you cutting yourself. This issue involves, most likely, other victims. You have to tell him an... (read in full...)

My husband has moved in with an ex friend of mine, is it possible that they are really in love??

Q.   I just found out that my husband, who moved out a couple of months ago, has just moved in with a woman who used to be a friend of mine. I ended my friendship with her about a year ago because I felt she was behaving inappropriately ...

A.   22 June 2010: Wait... Is he currently married to you? If so, he is shagging her left right and center and you need to leave. If he is your EX husband, he is shagging her left right and center and you need to get over it. ... (read in full...)

I would like to kiss a boy, but my parents watch me like hawks

Q.   Hey guys! well, im 15 and i have NEVER kissed anyone. i have someone in mind but im too afraid that my parents would find out some how or someone would tell. im not aloud to date yet so that means no dates! what do i do? do the guys tell people or ...

A.   22 June 2010: I honestly am a huge proponent of being able to date. You seem like a smart person. As long as the person you want to kiss is not some stupid fucking criminal or someone over 18. As long as he is a nice person vs a guy who is desirable because ... (read in full...)

I hit him, he hit me -- should we try to work it out?

Q.   My boyfriend and I got into a petty arguement which esceladed and then he ended up tossing me around the house. Although I hit him first I still feel its wrong what he did to me. He was abused as a kid and abandoned by his mother. He cried to me and ...

A.   1 June 2010: To err is human and to forgive is divine. However, they forget to mention the middle step of the to forgive is divine, because in order to become divine you must be a martyr. Now, what are you sacrificing yourself for is the question. Are... (read in full...)

Abuse caused our separation, not interested in a reconcilation, how do I tell him strongly?

Q.   My husband of 2 years and I seperated in September. He is now begging me to reconcile with him, says he's been going to counseling and feels he is a better person. I really feel I have no interest in being with him again. He was very abusive ...

A.   15 May 2010: DO NOT TRY he is an abuser, and acted like her changed. As soon as you presented an undesirable opinion to him, he said, "who the fuck cares?". This means, HE DOES NOT CARE and will abuse you again.... (read in full...)

Advice for my friend: She's being abused!

Q.   *OP's own title* Ok, I've asked for help before for my one friend's situation... but this is 10x more serious! She and I both need your help with some good advice! Y'see my friend is growing up with HORRIBLE parents. Ever seen the movie Matild...

A.   9 May 2010: ummmmmmm you get the child protective services involved, of course. She needs to be protected. As her friend, you need to protect her. Call the CPS... (read in full...)

His ex's texts are making it hard for me to trust him

Q.   Hi, I'm 18 and have been at university since September last year. I started going out with a boy I met here in October, the whole thing has been so intense from the start and now he practically lives with me. I have serious trust issues with him ...

A.   6 May 2010: When you don't trust someone. end it... (read in full...)

He told me never to call him again and to get tested for HIV! Why would he do this to me?

Q.   ive a psoarisis, till my boyfriend found out when we try to fist made up. he felt sorry for me and yet we still have it in protected way. (COndom) the worst part is, he left me hanging dont know why he ask me not to call him anymore and ask me to ...

A.   6 May 2010: Psoriasis is not a symptom of HIV/AIDS However, if he told you that he might have HIV or to get checked out for a different reason, then you should get checked for HIV.... (read in full...)

How long does it take for a man to decide if he can fall in love with someone he has met recently?

Q.   How long does it take for a man to decide if he can fall in love with someone he has met recently?...

A.   6 May 2010: What are the cirucmstances which you met her under? Did you save her life or she save your life in a multi-day/week struggle for survival? Did you bear your soul and she bear hers to you in some traumatic event? Did something extreme... (read in full...)

How long does it take for a man to decide if he can fall in love with someone he has met recently?

Q.   How long does it take for a man to decide if he can fall in love with someone he has met recently?...

A.   6 May 2010: Men are not capable of falling in love, for real, based off of looks alone. That is a fairy tale and a myth. We are easily infatuated by incredibly beautiful women, yes. Never in love. You cannot be in love with what you do not know. ... (read in full...)

First date--I have the ability to make people feel awkward! HELP!

Q.   Ok, so I asked this girl out to a movie with a group of friends about two weeks ago. I'm not normally so balsy (asking someone out who you don't know at all is pretty weird at my school) but I'm really attracted to this girl so I just went for it. ...

A.   6 May 2010: Also, if you are at the movie, put your arm around her about 20 minutes in or whatever. If she likes you, she will not be weirded out at all, and that will make this a lot less awkward in your mind.... (read in full...)

First date--I have the ability to make people feel awkward! HELP!

Q.   Ok, so I asked this girl out to a movie with a group of friends about two weeks ago. I'm not normally so balsy (asking someone out who you don't know at all is pretty weird at my school) but I'm really attracted to this girl so I just went for it. ...

A.   6 May 2010: One thing people do, myself included, is constantly try and predict things. Relax. End of discussion. ... (read in full...)

Do I tell his fiance what we did?

Q.   A week ago, I went for a walk with an engaged guy, and somehow we ended up kissing and feeling each other up. The day after, we met up and things went further (but we didn't sleep together or anything.) The thing is, I am 15 and have never had much ...

A.   6 May 2010: he is a pedophile and a cheater... you have to tell her... ... (read in full...)

Do I tell his fiance what we did?

Q.   A week ago, I went for a walk with an engaged guy, and somehow we ended up kissing and feeling each other up. The day after, we met up and things went further (but we didn't sleep together or anything.) The thing is, I am 15 and have never had much ...

A.   5 May 2010: If you don't tell her, you would be condemning this lovely woman to a life with a man who cheats on her. You have to let her know.... (read in full...)

Oral sex faux pas, and I'm totally embarrassed. How can I get over it?

Q.   Well one day i was giving my boyfriend head, and when i was doing it he was putting off more body heat then usual. So i started sweating, Alot...:( and Also when he came he stopped for a second i thought he was done and so i put my head up, But he ...

A.   5 May 2010: Wow this sounds like a troll question. However, if it isn't, definitely not a problem. Sex is not some perfect no sweat thing. Sex is physical activity with seminal projectiles flying around at the emotional and physical peaks. If ... (read in full...)

I'm worried that he doesn't want me as much as the porn stars!

Q.   hi there, ok so im 17 and my boyfriends 21, we have been together for about 8 months now and since pretty much day 1 we have sex everytime we see each other. we have a great relationship so dont worry about askin me anythin about that and we are v...

A.   5 May 2010: A relationship is based off of trust and communication. If you cannot communicate, then you have nothing as far as a relationship is concerned. Also, you know nothing of how to diet, so if you insist on dieting, how about you talk to a do... (read in full...)

How can I stop losing my temper and beating my girl up?

Q.   hey man i have a girl who love me so much and am also very crazy about her but any b tyme i get mad at her i beat her up but yet still she love me canu tell me how to stop cos i love my baby girl so muchits all about my temper....

A.   4 May 2010: Sorry. There is nothing you can do. You can get help, but you have to break it off with her in the mean time. If you don't I am sure someone who would actually stand up to you wouldn't mind break it off for you.... (read in full...)

Can stress and being physically and emotionally abused affect my pregnancy?

Q.   I just found out that I am pregnant...about 5 weeks. Not in a healthy relationship, please don't lecture about the relationship, I know what I need to do. What I need is advice from people who have been through this before. I was hit in the l...

A.   4 May 2010: Get out NOW If you need to talk to someone, then you can message me and I will be glad to help. I have extensive experience with this kind of stuff.... (read in full...)

He had sex with another girl! will he hurt me again?

Q.   Hi, i was with this boy for around a year and a bit, when i discovered that he had had sex with another girl. I was devastated and he was heartbroken that i had found out and that i was hurting inside. he tried everything he could to make things ...

A.   4 May 2010: When you say he was with another girl, do you mean he dated a girl before you? In that case, I say get over it and if you want to date him then date him. However, if he cheated on you, then do not date him.... (read in full...)

Dating an ex of a friend..is it too weird?

Q.   Ok so basically i have this friend who used to go out with my high school best friend around fours years ago. He has basically kiss the group of female friends and slept with one and for the past year he has been coming over (as friends in the ...

A.   4 May 2010: The answer is obvious Get ready for it... Wait... Wait... DATE HIM! Seriously, come on. If you like someone, date them!... (read in full...)

Men please HELP me!

Q.   So for every woman,the universal face of charming, is george clooney. Men that are "smooth" seem to wisk us away and make us go head over heals. For men, who is that? What is smooth for men? what qualities to men find charming in a woman? What ...

A.   4 May 2010: I think that a real man would want a woman to be herself. If he asks you to be someone aside from who you are, then you should not be in that relationship. Someone confident with themselves, really.... (read in full...)

I'm not sure if my husband still loves me!

Q.   I'm not sure if my husband of 10 years still loves me. He was my first so I'm having all these feelings that I'm not expeienced enough for him and that he thinks I'm boring. I'm not sure if he's getting sex elsewhere or if our relationship is ...

A.   3 May 2010: Ok... You have done what you can. He is not willing to talk to you and be mature. Divorce him. ... (read in full...)

Confused and hurt - why is he so different?

Q.   Hey all. I have his boyfriend with whom I've been dating for 6 weeks, and have been exclusive with for 2. However, ever since we've been exclusive, he's been stressed out with school (it's his Senior year of college, I'm a Freshman), which I ...

A.   3 May 2010: He is happier having No strings attached sex on his terms. You should end it. That is his true personality.... (read in full...)

Do I go over to Thailand to be with her? It sounds horrible!

Q.   My girlfriend is from thailand. because of an exchange students organization she was in belgium for 1 year. there are 2 months left now, we've been a couple for 6 months and i can surely say we have strong love. i talked to her abt it and she said '...

A.   3 May 2010: First of all, who give a shit what people think. If you end up going to Thailand and it sees worth it to you so you marry, so be it. The people that would think of her as a whore, are unimportant. As for your actual problem? It depends... (read in full...)

We fight, I forget about it, but he doesn't!

Q.   i need all the help i can!! my boyfriend and i fight all the time! i mean all the time! but i love him very very very much, and i know he loves me as much as i do, and even more. but we are fighting all the time,and we fight about stupid silly th...

A.   3 May 2010: If all you do is fight, look at the reasons and address them in a calm manner. If you can't have open dialogue, it is not a relationship worth keeping.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to feel this happy?

Q.   I'm 19 and I just had a general question. I have been good friends with my now current boyfriend for a few years. We have been dating for almost a month. I have never smiled so much in life, I feel like I'm glowing from the inside out and whenever I ...

A.   3 May 2010: You are happy. Be happy and enjoy life. Don't question something that is as good as this It's more than normal. It's perfect. :)... (read in full...)

I blame his alcohol abuse for his actions, should I leave him?

Q.   Hi I met this man around 4 years ago, he told me he had had a drink problem but it was behind him now. any way it turns out not to be true he became ill once well he came to stay with me untilhe got better thats about 3 years ago. All in the gard...

A.   3 May 2010: Alcohol does not make us do things we don't want to do, it makes us do things we always think about doing. Thus, it brings out our true personalities. You are with someone who is exposing his true personality, which is dishonest, uncar... (read in full...)

B/f says that a break will help our relationship

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 months. Our relationship is strong and we never fight. We're definitely in love with each other. But just today, he asked to go on a break. He said he wants time to spend with his friends and not ...

A.   2 May 2010: Tell him. "Look, we never fight and we light eachother. Let's reach a mid ground here. I have never told you you can't see your friends. If you want to hang out with your friends. If I don't stop you from hanging out with your ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be intimate with my partner, constantly thinking about someone else?

Q.   Please help, i met my partner 3 years ago we worked together and after 7 months of seeing each other we had bought a house and moved in together then two months after that I became pregnant. Our little boy is just amazing and the best thing that ...

A.   2 May 2010: You shoudl definitely loeave ythe guy you are with and go with your heart. Your child will be in a more happy place growing up with happy divorced parents than with two married angry parents.... (read in full...)

Do drugs make guys want to play the field?

Q.   A while ago I did cocaine, it made me really horny and the guy I've liked for ages stayed at my flat that night... We had sex. In the morning we decided it was a one night thing :( I was pretty disapointed. Now I'm with another guy and we both do ...

A.   2 May 2010: I think you shoudl be more worried about the fact that you are doing cocaine. As someone who used to sell it, I can tell you that it is not a good thing to do. If I were you, I would be worried about getting rehab. If he does drugs, he ... (read in full...)

They both claim they want to be my best friend but then they tear me apart!

Q.   My 2 besties in the whole world always fight and want me to take sides and when we fight they gang up on me and call me fat and ugly even though im prettier than both of them, they both want to be m BEST friend but i cant choose they rip me apart, ...

A.   2 May 2010: Anyone who makes fun of you and puts you down, especially when it is not true, are not friends. You can do better than them. ... (read in full...)

People say she's into me but I just can't imagine that she is

Q.   I really need advice on this girl. We've became very close friends this past year, and over the last few weeks I've developed stronger feelings for her. She is so cute, but i love everything about her, she's the girl version of me. We have a good ...

A.   2 May 2010: If you ahve countles people tellign you that she is into you and that you admit that you have self esteem issues, then you are not a good source of knowing whether or not she likes you. Your friends are. She does like you, so ask her out. ... (read in full...)

How do I get b/f to stop yelling at me?

Q.   my boyfriend moved away a few months ago and ive seen him a few times and everythings been good but now everysingle time we talk on the phone he gets mad at me or raises his voice and he always just says that i make him feel bad for everything and ...

A.   2 May 2010: No point in having a long distance bf that yells at you. End it. Seriously You are 16-17, so move on and live your life. And no, you don't love him. I promise you you don't.... (read in full...)

Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...

A.   2 May 2010: Your child is regressing and going back to a baby like state on account of the intensity of your arguments. He is threatening you and is *potentially* violent (dont think he isn't for one second). He is the one who needs to be medicated, not y... (read in full...)

Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...

A.   2 May 2010: Get a divorce.... These threats of hitting you are not empty. It is a matter of progressing and pushing it every day until one day he feels comfortable doing it. I have told this to dozens of women that waited to divorce. They ended up ge... (read in full...)

Our daughter went missing whilst oversea's 4 years ago. How do I let go?

Q.   Everything I'm about to tell you is true. Four years ago, we had a horrific tragedy occur in the family. We lost our 19 year old daughter to human trafficking. She was a very bright girl; got A's in all her classes and even graduated third ...

A.   1 May 2010: Ok... a few questions #1- I would imagine that she would have gotten a picture from the guy that she was talking to for 1.5 years. Do you have access to her email account and password? #2- Did she instant message the guy? If so, there are... (read in full...)

Accused of cheating but we aren't having sex!

Q.   Why does he accuse me of wanting to cheat and tell me he doesn't think I want to be with him and and that he thinks I am not turned on by him anymore. Is this a projection and this is how he talks all diverse areas of our relationship, his ideas are ...

A.   1 May 2010: End it. He is jealous and angry all the time. He need to calm down and become an adult. Don't put up with it. Move on.... (read in full...)

Why does this guy always contact me just when I'm getting over him?

Q.   Ok so back in November, I met a guy online. We talked for a while and really hit it off. We decided to meet up, and we ended up fooling around, no sex or anything though. But we ended up having sex the second time we met up. We continued to see each ...

A.   1 May 2010: He is using you. Don't play his games. End it. Move on. If you show you are available and willing to take his crap, you are going to never get over him. ... (read in full...)

His actions don't match his words of love

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for almost eight years, married the last three. My husband had a couple of bad relationships and has difficulty trusting anyone. One relationship resulted in a child he paid support for and never saw pa...

A.   1 May 2010: The first thing... Did you ever find out why, from his ex, he cannot see the kid? The child protective services DO NOT arbitrarily take kids away without justification. He did something bad to get the kids taken away. Anyway, onto y... (read in full...)

Marriage in trouble. I can't stand my wifes weight or how she dresses

Q.   *OP's own title* I am a male, 44 years old. My wife is 41. We’ve been married for 15 years and have one 10 year-old daughter. For the last several years I’ve been unhappy with my wife’s appearance. In my opinion she needs to lose about 15-20kg o...

A.   1 May 2010: Most of this is good advice. I think it all is. However, instead of saying, lose weight to turn me on or whatever, it is better to come at it from the health angle. Talk about how as you age 20-30 kg become ever so stressful on the heart. ... (read in full...)

Should I walk out of this marriage or do I need to try more?

Q.   *Op's own title* I am a 30yrs old, financially independent woman. I have been married for 3 years. Our marriage has been very tough from the start coz my husband's mother has been a very interfering and obsessive mother. Being the only child, my hubb...

A.   1 May 2010: I think that you should not stay in your marriage. I think that you should get out of your current marriage and then DATE this other guy that you want to see. Date him, and if it works out, then marry him. Jumping from one marriage to ano... (read in full...)

Marriage in trouble. I can't stand my wifes weight or how she dresses

Q.   *OP's own title* I am a male, 44 years old. My wife is 41. We’ve been married for 15 years and have one 10 year-old daughter. For the last several years I’ve been unhappy with my wife’s appearance. In my opinion she needs to lose about 15-20kg o...

A.   29 April 2010: Tell your wife how you feel It is better for you to be honest than to hold things in. You have one life and are bitter about it. Most people are going to say, love transcends the physical. However, the truth is, the physical says a lot.... (read in full...)

I'm not sure if my husband still loves me!

Q.   I'm not sure if my husband of 10 years still loves me. He was my first so I'm having all these feelings that I'm not expeienced enough for him and that he thinks I'm boring. I'm not sure if he's getting sex elsewhere or if our relationship is ...

A.   28 April 2010: Well the important thing, is he cheating on you. If he is not, just spice it up in the bedroom. Honestly, I have gotten women to go from being boring prudes to wanting to do more to becoming complete and total freaks in the bedroom. Al... (read in full...)

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