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In my short life, I have seen some amazing things and some equally disgusting things.

I am here to turn the disgusting things amazing.

A few examples might be

A. helping a child get out of a household where the step father abuses her and her mother sits by idly, whether out of fear or simple malice is beside the point.

B. Helping a victim of abuse become an independent individual that can accomplish his or her goals that he or she wanted to do for so long. (an example would be a 17 year old that was not allowed to go to school by her pedophile 27 year old bf that is now in premed to become an anesthesiologist)

C. In one case, getting a female police officer to arrest her own abuser.

Together we can do things to make this world a better place.

I intend on doing more than give advice. I will do what it takes to help others.

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My Mum is coming between my first love and me!!

Q.   Ok so i'm 15 in yr 10 goin' on to work experience etc and my friends who don't go to my school (they go to a grammar one) have a friend who's in yr 11 (just turned 16) and when i met him he was really nice and fun to talk to. Then one night (l...

A.   25 February 2011: teens rebel for a reason. What you need to do is just go out and be with him, if that is what will make you feel better. If he turns out to be an a-hole, then you found out. If he is a really nice guy and you like him, then continue. You are ... (read in full...)

He cant marry me because of his parents......

Q.   I've been in an on/off relationship with this guy for many years now. We always break up due to one problem, his parents. Our parents come from the same country and religious background, however he strongly believes that his parents will never ...

A.   22 February 2011: I have to agree. If I were supposedly in love with someone, the only thing stopping me from being with them, if they loved me back, would be death. He is a jackass and you are a fool for even worrying about him. However, I should probably say that ... (read in full...)

Porn video sent to me, how will g/f react?

Q.   ive been with my girlfriend for over 1 year and 6 months and she wanted me to give up p*rn after we first had intercourse which i understand but i failed about 4 times breaking her heart which made me relise what a twat ive been about it and for ...

A.   17 February 2011: Look, I have respect for women and all. I try and be the one to mediate and comprimise the most, as I am really laid back, but SHE IS NUTS. She is too immature to realize that masturbation, male and female, is both natural and necessar... (read in full...)

What should I do about my marriage?... I love him but I hate him at the same time.

Q.   I dont know if i should stay with my husband. We have been together for 6 years..married 4. He has been pretty horrible to me through our relationship. Calling me names, telling me i dont do anything, and controlling. Things got really out of ha...

A.   8 February 2011: That kind of shit is completely uncalled for, and he needs to grow up. The only way for him to grow up for him to have his wish granted. You have a seven year old and a three year old as you said. It is bad enough that you are going to be in... (read in full...)

Why is she with me?

Q.   Gonna try keep this short.Im 27, met my current gf whos 25, 4 years ago through her sister,who is also my work colleague,she gave me her phone number so we could chat on an IM chat service.We chatted for a month,i got to know she liked clubbing,took ...

A.   1 January 2011: Ok... I am going to be very honest and frank with you. You need to not worry so damn much. She did what she did and it is in the past. She is not going to get drunk and bang 3 dudes or whatever she did. The important things are as fol... (read in full...)

25 years married, 15 years having an affair, how do I leave my marriage?

Q.   I have been married for twenty five years. I knew when I walked down isle that i shouldn't be. I have been having an affair for the past 15 years. I have not intimate relationship with my husband and haven't since my youngest child was 8 now 17. ...

A.   1 January 2011: First of all... your children are grown up... This is for you. You did your job as a mother and you should not worry about protecting their emotional fragility as it relates to your own personal marriage life. I think you should have gotten... (read in full...)

Was what he did wrong?

Q.   Hey guys. I appreciate you taking the time to read this and if you could give me advice I'd be really grateful. This would be really long if I went into detail so I'll just go over the basics. I used to date this guy and our relationship became ...

A.   20 December 2010: What do you mean by, "our relationship became physical". Your relationship became physical in the sense of being abusive? If so, you are better off homeless for a night than with a guy that will hit you. If not, then you thought he was a... (read in full...)

I wish my boyfriend would treat me with some sort of respect!

Q.   i dont know what to do. my boyfriend treats me like shit. we have a baby and im 8 months pregnant again and he has a job so hes never really home during the day. i get up every morning with the baby and tend to the baby all day then my boyfriend ...

A.   20 December 2010: The reality ultimately is, he is not one of those million guys.... (read in full...)

I wish my boyfriend would treat me with some sort of respect!

Q.   i dont know what to do. my boyfriend treats me like shit. we have a baby and im 8 months pregnant again and he has a job so hes never really home during the day. i get up every morning with the baby and tend to the baby all day then my boyfriend ...

A.   20 December 2010: You can do one of two things. Stay and be miserable. Leave and be happy. He is a drag on you as a person, and you should not deal with this. You are a mother and your kids only need positive influences on their life. They are better o... (read in full...)

Was what he did wrong?

Q.   Hey guys. I appreciate you taking the time to read this and if you could give me advice I'd be really grateful. This would be really long if I went into detail so I'll just go over the basics. I used to date this guy and our relationship became ...

A.   20 December 2010: Did you actually have sex with him? If not, then you are not pregnant. As far as what he did to you. It was assault. One thing women need to learn is that if you were to say no and he continues, it is sexual assault. IF you are pregn... (read in full...)

Did I deserve getting hurt?

Q.   Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...

A.   19 December 2010: I am sorry anon OP, However, I must insist that it was exactly that. Aggressive is what I do. Aggressive is leaving black and blue marks covering someones butt, making their asshole hurt for a week, making them tear up and have running mas... (read in full...)

A bully is spreading a nasty rumor that I'm sleeping with a 26 year old man!

Q.   I am 14 years old. My brother, Danny, is 22 years old and his friend, Justin, is 26 years old. I have a good relationship with both of them. And by a good relationship, I mean like a brother/sister relationship. Even Justin is like a big brother ...

A.   19 December 2010: I loved it when people in high school would spread rumors about me. I would find out who my friends were and weren't. If someone that I thought was my friend started talking shit, I would thank them for exposing themselves as a non-frie... (read in full...)

Am I addicted to sex or not?

Q.   I wonder if I'm a sex addict because me and my gf have dated for about 10 months and recently have decided on somewhat of an open relationship. She doesn't do Anything but I do, I mostly have sex with friends and co-workers daily and idk y in ...

A.   19 December 2010: You either don't want to be in the relationship deep down, or she does not satisfy your needs physically. Either way, what you need to do is have a talk with her and tell her how you feel. Be open with her and be honest. If you say, "we... (read in full...)

Did I deserve getting hurt?

Q.   Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...

A.   19 December 2010: And anon- Cerberus is not arguing properly. He constructed the argument incorrectly. You are not the willing participant of smoking, going with his analogy. You said, "Ok, I will take a puff". You took a puff and then you were FORCED to smoke... (read in full...)

Did I deserve getting hurt?

Q.   Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...

A.   19 December 2010: Danielepew is wrong... I remember I was have amazing anal sex that was the roughest I have had to this day. I had a safeword set in place, I kept making sure she was okay, and I was over a half an hour into it when she said, "stop". Within ... (read in full...)

Did I deserve getting hurt?

Q.   Before i write this i know some people are probably thinking i deserved what happened but here goes. I was out one night with some friends and a guy i know was there too. Me and him had a casual thing a while ago but that finished. I regr...

A.   19 December 2010: That was sexual assault, and you should tell everyone what happened, because he is a rapist. This is a fact, and I don't think that women should have to be falsely lured by men into getting raped. As I have stated many times before on ... (read in full...)

Who's the total weirdo here?

Q.   I've been dating my new boyfriend for a few months now. Not long after we started seeing each other, he shared that his last long-term girlfriend had died of a sudden illness just a year before. Not long after that, I noticed that he keeps some of ...

A.   7 December 2010: Perhaps you sould suggest an alternative like keeping a top on it. His girlfriend died. Yes, he should get over her, but it is going to take time. Now, as far as we all know, from the information you provided, that is the only sign of him dwel... (read in full...)

He hit me again today but I still love him. Please, someone tell me what to do...

Q.   Hey, i'm 19, I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. About 4 months ago, he started hitting me. Nothing really to start with but it got worse. Today he burst my nose and strangled me, I think that it was probably the most terrifying ...

A.   12 October 2010: What you should do is leave him. He is not someone that loves you. He is the kind of person that acts a certain way to get you to love him, and then he shows his true personality. He is not the loving, great guy that you fell in love with. ... (read in full...)

We need to meet secretly because of my strict family upbringing!

Q.   i am in love with a guy. we both love each other very much. am still a student in my undergrads while he is just fresh out of college into a job. my parents are really of the strictest sort. they consider falling in love sort of somethng really ...

A.   15 September 2010: Get your own place and move in with him, assuming you are not in a low caste. ... (read in full...)

I told myself I would never let a man hit me.

Q.   I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend (also 15 years old) of 8 months hit me Friday for the very first time. He is bipolar and sometimes his mood swings are off the charts and his thought process is irrational at times. I stayed the night with ...

A.   15 September 2010: Don't listen to Odds, he is not speaking on your behalf. You are fifteen and have no reason to stay with someone that hits you. Again, my roommate hit his gf and cried each time he did it. Then, he raped her. You are not responsible for his ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend was beaten and raped 8 months ago. Now can can't bear me to come near her...

Q.   I have been dating my curent girlfriend for just over 2 years. 8 months ago she was beaten and raped. I have stood by her and tried to help any way I could. I love this girl and can honestly see her as the one. But after 8 months she still isn't ...

A.   14 September 2010: Do you love her? I imagine you do. If you do, and you think she is worth the wait, then wait and help her. ... (read in full...)

I told myself I would never let a man hit me.

Q.   I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend (also 15 years old) of 8 months hit me Friday for the very first time. He is bipolar and sometimes his mood swings are off the charts and his thought process is irrational at times. I stayed the night with ...

A.   14 September 2010: Dance in the dark is right. I had a college roommate that would cry and apologize for hurting his girlfriend. Then, I started hearing about it, and made sure it didn't happen. I had to kicked through a door to get to him and end it. He never ch... (read in full...)

Husband cheated and staying in the marriage only for the kids

Q.   My husband cheated on me and he is staying in our marriage because of the kids only and he thinks maybe later his feelings for me will come back. He said his affair is over but they still communicate but says they dont cross the line anymore. Weve ...

A.   4 August 2010: You are not in love with him. You are in love with the illusion he made himself to be. And just because he acted like something for so long, it doesn't mean he cares to be that at all. For example. I HATE men who hit women. However, whe... (read in full...)

Husband cheated and staying in the marriage only for the kids

Q.   My husband cheated on me and he is staying in our marriage because of the kids only and he thinks maybe later his feelings for me will come back. He said his affair is over but they still communicate but says they dont cross the line anymore. Weve ...

A.   2 August 2010: Do people simply not obey the rules of logic and reason here? You were given advice that is worth more than 150 dollars an hour. LEAVE. Let me say it again. LEAVE ... (read in full...)

Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...

A.   2 August 2010: If you want to be selfish, you can stay and make your child suffer. If you want to do what is best for your child. YOU LEAVE ... (read in full...)

Husband cheated and staying in the marriage only for the kids

Q.   My husband cheated on me and he is staying in our marriage because of the kids only and he thinks maybe later his feelings for me will come back. He said his affair is over but they still communicate but says they dont cross the line anymore. Weve ...

A.   31 July 2010: Ok... you are staying for the kids? Which is worse. 1. A mother that is too much of an emotional wreck to take care of her kids? 2. A mother and father that divorce and are happy with other people? The core of a child's happiness... (read in full...)

Is it bad to have a fantasy like this?

Q.   So ive had a fantasy of hooking up with a random guy, not for sex, but for oral and stuff, and like, meeting him in a club or somewhere and doing stuff like that somewhere risque. Is it bad to have a fantasy like this? Is it unhealthy or healthy to ...

A.   31 July 2010: Ok gabrielle and model 101 are the only intelligent people. Your fantasy is NOT like molesting a kid. That is STUPID STUPID STUPID. You want to get oral from a guy in a club. BIG DEAL. Be safe, make sure he understands limits. Don't ge... (read in full...)

Anger or abuse?

Q.   hi everybody, i've been with my boyfriend for a couple of years now although i think we just broke up for real. and i think i want to break up but for some reason i cant bear to be without him and i have a panic attack and freak out when we're cl...

A.   22 July 2010:  You need to leave. You should be having panic attack about the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone that is a woman beater or capable of it. ... (read in full...)

He left his wife for me, but now he treats me badly

Q.   Hello, I have been on here several times and I wanted to update my stories. I was seeing a married man for six years. His wife finally left him, and we moved in together. I thought things was really going to be okay, and that I was finally goin...

A.   21 July 2010: honestly, is it really a surprise? [Mod Note cleaned up language]. You moved in with a cheating husband. Of course he is going to cheat on you. Leave the moron and don't ignore the obvious signs ever again.... (read in full...)

How do I deal with this bitterness towards the woman my partner cheated with?

Q.   My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, h...

A.   21 July 2010: I am going o make a comment about your partner to make a comment about you. Actually I am going to make a comment about all three. First off. You are the one that needs to understand she [Mod cleaned up language] a random guy that want... (read in full...)

How do I deal with unintentional biting during orgasm?

Q.   I hope someone would share his experience and give me an advice how to deal with my little problem. My girl is blessed with very strong orgasms, but when it happens, she often unintentionally scratches and bites me. We solved half of this problem....

A.   21 July 2010: she seems like a kinky hell cat in the bedroom, so I don't think she would mind a gag? or maybe you could kiss her while she having her orgasms?... (read in full...)

Husband hooking up on facebook with a woman he once cheated with!

Q.   My husband found a female that he cheated on his ex-wife with on Facebook. They started chating a calling each other and their conversations were of a sexual nature. When I confronted him he called me a unhappy, complaining snoop. He says he loves ...

A.   21 July 2010: Leave him. He is a cheater and he is having sexual conversations with someone he cheated on his ex-wife with. If you see a question and it says, "3 6 9 12 ... what is the next number? 15 or 20?" Going by the pattern, it is 1 in a billion goi... (read in full...)

It seems so out of character but my fiance hit me!

Q.   I am new here, but something has happened that I would really like some unbiased opinions about. This may be long... My fiancé and I are both 25 and have been really close friends for almost 10 years. He has always had a "thing" for me, but I wa...

A.   12 July 2010: This is either a joke or jesus christ. He is the best father a child could have? He is the best father a child could have?! PLEASE think about what the hell you are doing. Pulls out a fucking SHOTGUN after he beats you. I'm sorry. ... (read in full...)

My husband hit me--should we separate?

Q.   My husband told me tonight that we should separate. He says if I went away for a year and lost some weight and sorted my pms, out he would reconsider. I am very hurt. Last week he hit me over the head with a glass and caused injury. He says it ...

A.   12 July 2010: You need to separate. I can control myself when I am pissed off as easily as I can control myself when I am in bed with a woman. It is never your fault when you are hit by a man, barring you shooting him or something to that extent. D... (read in full...)

If he loves me, how can he hit me?

Q.   Im in a abusive marriage I love my husband but I can't do it anymore im to the point I hate him I don't want to have sex with him I pray that things will get better but he gets worse what should I do he says he love me but how could hit me...

A.   12 July 2010: Leave and be safe. There is no other alternative. ... (read in full...)

God brought us together and the Devil ripped us apart! Any guidance?

Q.   I was with my wife for the better part of 5 years and we had 2 daughters together but our relationship was always up and down. Typical battles of life and a relationship I suppose and at the time I was having difficulties keeping everything we had ...

A.   10 July 2010: These situations are the worst of all. The WORST. A mother that is silly enough to go and leave her kids and a good guy, or just her freedom in general, to be with a piece of garbage that abuses her. she is not in the right mind frame. ... (read in full...)

He's begging to come back but I just don't have the strength. Any comments?

Q.   I have been married for almost 17 years, but have been separated for the last 12 months. I separated beacuse I just could not take anymore, the lies, the secrets, etc... He just was not a man, I mean in taking care of the house or me. nor was he a...

A.   10 July 2010: Yeah, do not go back to him. I can promise you that you would be making a huge mistake. If someone cannot carry their load, regardless of sex, it is bad. However, he is not a man by your definition, so why bother being with a guy who i... (read in full...)

My husband isn't circumcized and it really turns me off!

Q.   *OP's Original Title* My husband isn't circumcized, and sometimes it turns me off. When I first met him, it wasn't really an issue, because of all the nice things that he used to do for me. But lately we have been trying to get pregnant, and Maki...

A.   25 June 2010: i am going to make sure i make myself clear... I just read the previous answers. No circumizing... MAKE SURE HE WASHES HIS PENIS ... (read in full...)

My husband isn't circumcized and it really turns me off!

Q.   *OP's Original Title* My husband isn't circumcized, and sometimes it turns me off. When I first met him, it wasn't really an issue, because of all the nice things that he used to do for me. But lately we have been trying to get pregnant, and Maki...

A.   24 June 2010: I am not circumsized. I do not have a nasty dick. It is a matter of hygiene. He needs to get in the shower and wash his dick like I did when I was 4. Your husband is a moron if he has a nasty dick on account of not being circumsized... (read in full...)

Will I always push guys away out of fear?

Q.   I've never had a boyfriend and yet I have had sex; I feel horrible about myself. I've had plenty of chances to be in a relationship and I've always wanted to be in one but when it comes down to it, I get scared and I push them away. I become distant ...

A.   24 June 2010: The question is, has your therapist helped at getting to the root cause of your problem and lack of self-esteem? If not, he/she is an idiot, and you need to get a new one. ... (read in full...)

My question is how do I tell my dad that I used to do this without him overreacting?

Q.   How do i tell my dad that i used to cut myself? Ok i know that its bad and that i shouldnt etc, and i havent for about 4months now. Its been extremely hard as it was at the stage where i was pretty much addicted to cutting myself. I still struggle ...

A.   23 June 2010: You need to talk to him about it immediately. Who is the person/people that did the physical and sexual abuse? This issue is much bigger than you cutting yourself. This issue involves, most likely, other victims. You have to tell him an... (read in full...)

Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...

A.   2 May 2010: Your child is regressing and going back to a baby like state on account of the intensity of your arguments. He is threatening you and is *potentially* violent (dont think he isn't for one second). He is the one who needs to be medicated, not y... (read in full...)

Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...

A.   2 May 2010: Get a divorce.... These threats of hitting you are not empty. It is a matter of progressing and pushing it every day until one day he feels comfortable doing it. I have told this to dozens of women that waited to divorce. They ended up ge... (read in full...)

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