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In my short life, I have seen some amazing things and some equally disgusting things.

I am here to turn the disgusting things amazing.

A few examples might be

A. helping a child get out of a household where the step father abuses her and her mother sits by idly, whether out of fear or simple malice is beside the point.

B. Helping a victim of abuse become an independent individual that can accomplish his or her goals that he or she wanted to do for so long. (an example would be a 17 year old that was not allowed to go to school by her pedophile 27 year old bf that is now in premed to become an anesthesiologist)

C. In one case, getting a female police officer to arrest her own abuser.

Together we can do things to make this world a better place.

I intend on doing more than give advice. I will do what it takes to help others.

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I'm not sure if my husband still loves me!

Q.   I'm not sure if my husband of 10 years still loves me. He was my first so I'm having all these feelings that I'm not expeienced enough for him and that he thinks I'm boring. I'm not sure if he's getting sex elsewhere or if our relationship is ...

A.   3 May 2010: Ok... You have done what you can. He is not willing to talk to you and be mature. Divorce him. ... (read in full...)

Marriage in trouble. I can't stand my wifes weight or how she dresses

Q.   *OP's own title* I am a male, 44 years old. My wife is 41. We’ve been married for 15 years and have one 10 year-old daughter. For the last several years I’ve been unhappy with my wife’s appearance. In my opinion she needs to lose about 15-20kg o...

A.   1 May 2010: Most of this is good advice. I think it all is. However, instead of saying, lose weight to turn me on or whatever, it is better to come at it from the health angle. Talk about how as you age 20-30 kg become ever so stressful on the heart. ... (read in full...)

Should I walk out of this marriage or do I need to try more?

Q.   *Op's own title* I am a 30yrs old, financially independent woman. I have been married for 3 years. Our marriage has been very tough from the start coz my husband's mother has been a very interfering and obsessive mother. Being the only child, my hubb...

A.   1 May 2010: I think that you should not stay in your marriage. I think that you should get out of your current marriage and then DATE this other guy that you want to see. Date him, and if it works out, then marry him. Jumping from one marriage to ano... (read in full...)

How do I heal from my Mother's horrible abuse? Please help!

Q.   Dear cupid...please help me...I was emotionally and sort of physically abused by my mother when I was a teenager...my mother left my family when I was about 9 years old. I went to live with her again when I was about 14. Before that, except for when ...

A.   29 April 2010: My mother abused me and there is no real point in trying to cope with something through medications etc. I have realized that I am a better person than she is and ever will be, no matter how nice she wants to treat me now. I am out of her li... (read in full...)

This is abuse, right? And I should leave?

Q.   Getting right into it...(sorry, it's a long question) I met this guy four months ago through a mutual friend. At first he came off as a bit cocky, but overall, a nice guy. I started seeing him, and things got comfortable pretty quick, (as in...

A.   29 April 2010: I think that you should leave. honestly that kind of stuff in a relationship is not healthy. He is a very insecure and is becoming increasingly abrasive and dangerous. In my extensive, extensive experience with this, I have never seen a g... (read in full...)

Marriage in trouble. I can't stand my wifes weight or how she dresses

Q.   *OP's own title* I am a male, 44 years old. My wife is 41. We’ve been married for 15 years and have one 10 year-old daughter. For the last several years I’ve been unhappy with my wife’s appearance. In my opinion she needs to lose about 15-20kg o...

A.   29 April 2010: Tell your wife how you feel It is better for you to be honest than to hold things in. You have one life and are bitter about it. Most people are going to say, love transcends the physical. However, the truth is, the physical says a lot.... (read in full...)

I'm not sure if my husband still loves me!

Q.   I'm not sure if my husband of 10 years still loves me. He was my first so I'm having all these feelings that I'm not expeienced enough for him and that he thinks I'm boring. I'm not sure if he's getting sex elsewhere or if our relationship is ...

A.   28 April 2010: Well the important thing, is he cheating on you. If he is not, just spice it up in the bedroom. Honestly, I have gotten women to go from being boring prudes to wanting to do more to becoming complete and total freaks in the bedroom. Al... (read in full...)

Should I tell anyone that I am starting to have feelings for other guys?

Q.   Hey I'm going through puberty and I'm only starting though I'm starting to have feelings for...guys! I am seriously starting to freak out I started having feelings for girls but not anymore I don't feel turned on looking at boobs 0% ! I started to ...

A.   28 April 2010: You should tell... Your sexuality is quite possibly the biggest factor in your life. You are a young person that is not yet DAMAGED by the complete shame that comes with hiding such a big secret. If you are open, your true friends will s... (read in full...)

Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?

Q.   It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...

A.   28 April 2010: one more thing would be the "team of entrepreneurs" is something called Amway Global. The way it works is that they have a bunch of products that they sell at a wholesale discount. It is wholesale warehouse meets online shopping to meet the ... (read in full...)

Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?

Q.   It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...

A.   27 April 2010: no... it was quite constructive... if you decide to not do what I said for the simple fact that I painted a quite frank picture of what is going on, then you are a child as well... What I said is true and the urgency with which I sai... (read in full...)

20 year age gap in a relationship..thoughts?

Q.   I'm 21 and he is 44. We have been dating for 3 years. We went to tell my parents together about a year after we first started dating but I got mixed signals from my parents on the subject so I decided to wait until I was 21 to tell them. We'r...

A.   24 April 2010: If he does not abuse you or do anything that you don't like. Then don't worry about age. End of discussion.... (read in full...)

My ex knows my Facebook password, do you think it's him deleting my male friends???

Q.   Hey cupid my ex had the password of my email when we were together he went into my myspace account when we was broken up and I was very upset we still didn't get back together... I just realized that on my facebook that every time I request a guy ...

A.   23 April 2010: change the password!... (read in full...)

Would you date someone like that?

Q.   my boyfriend has a high school diploma ad he does not know if he wants to go back to school, while i am getting my bachelors. he does not have a bank account, he is not that intelligent meaning he can not really read or spell that great. ...

A.   22 April 2010: NO do not stay with him. ... (read in full...)

I'm about to be a dad for the third time and don't know how to tell my parents!

Q.   When I was 17 I got my then gf who was also 17 pregnant. We were young and didn't use protection. A few weeks after my son Shade turned 1 we broke up and she left Shade with me and moved out of town. My parents were really supportive and helped out ...

A.   22 April 2010: WEAR CONDOMS ... (read in full...)

My friend is putting alot of rules on me making it difficult to see my boyfriend

Q.   Ive posted quite a few questions about this guy...well things flourished between us and we are now a couple. He is about 6 years older than me and has two kids and an ex wife. He also works with me. I never thought we would see each other out side ...

A.   22 April 2010: What is his past? That is very important to answer this... and be honest.... (read in full...)

I'm a day late!! Could I be pregnant?

Q.   I just lost my virginity on sunday, it is now Wednesday of the same week, i am on the pill and have been on it for quite a while(for my skin and cramps) im supposed to get my period today! however i dont have it! we didnt use a condom because i...

A.   22 April 2010: sex can mess with your cycle... the fact that you lost your virginity will change that. I was with one woman who lost her virginity around your age, had a perfect on time cycle each time, then it changed to barely ever. She is 25 and h... (read in full...)

Snooping in fiancee's facebook account made me discover he cheated!

Q.   I recently did a bad thing and snooped in my fiance's facebook account. I read a message in there that said that he had sex with a girl whilst on a boys weekend away. This happened a week after we met (we'd only been on one date) and we weren't ...

A.   19 April 2010: roflcopter This is not cheating... ... (read in full...)

I just can't seem to orgasm...

Q.   Lately, I've been thinking more and more about orgasms. I've had three serious boyfriends, and three sex partners and I've never had an orgasm once, not during sex or any other sexual activity, besides rubbing and I wonder if I'll ever have one. ...

A.   17 April 2010: Well, you should realize that most women cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration... If you cannot orgasm from vaginal, there is always oral. If you ae really interested in getting an orgasm, you should tell your boyfriend to do oral on you.... (read in full...)

How to help my friend???

Q.   my friends bf is a loser. he just got out of jail for turning some poor guy into a vegetable. she is constantly finding him lying about text/calling girls but she never finds out the content of the convos. she confronted one of the girls who to...

A.   16 April 2010: Apparently I had to reword my statement I had tried to post 24 hours ago or so. Sometimes we have to preserve our own sanity at the expense of those who won't let us be. Control of nice people who give a damn about others more than themselv... (read in full...)

Some doubts, his penis has a bend in it, does this have anything to do with his feelings for his aunt?

Q.   i am little shy to ask. but want to confirm. my husband's penis is dark and has a bent. is this normal? his sexual desire is very much, that he used to have sexual relations with his paternal aunt. does his penis particularity got some thing to do ...

A.   16 April 2010: Ummmmm hmmmmm Well let's see, my penis is very thick, bent upwards, and darker than the rest of my skin my a tiny bit. Does this mean I have sexual feelings for my dead aunt that, if there is a God, would be in heaven? I am going to go wi... (read in full...)

We've broken up countless times, but this time I don't want him back. What if I'm making a mistake?

Q.   I don't know what to do. I had been for my boyfriend for little over 3 years and a half. Of course, we believed we were soulmates. He was my first boyfriend, first love, etc., and he had plans to marry me next year. But of course it wasn't as rosey ...

A.   16 April 2010: Sometimes after people are shitty to you for long enough and hurt you long enough, you have to not be the nice person, and leave them to preserve yourself. ... (read in full...)

How to help my friend???

Q.   my friends bf is a loser. he just got out of jail for turning some poor guy into a vegetable. she is constantly finding him lying about text/calling girls but she never finds out the content of the convos. she confronted one of the girls who to...

A.   15 April 2010: well #1 Why did he turn the guy into a vegetable? #2 He seems like a douchebag and probably is violent for no reason, which is why he turned the guy into a vegetable. I say that she should leave him. Tell her that if there is doub... (read in full...)

My brother's jealousy ruined my relationship

Q.   *OP's own title* When I was 20 my older brother liked the same girl that I did. She didn't want him she wanted me. We started going together and I fell really hard for her. We had a good relationship for a almost two years but things didn't work...

A.   15 April 2010: People that love you as family or partners will never do anything to harm you. If they do, they don't love you and should be considered neither family nor partner. They are simply, not meant to be in your life. All you can do is accept tha... (read in full...)

I confronted him about another girl and he spat on me and shoved me down the stairs. How do I move on from this?

Q.   I am not sure how to get over this so im asking for everyones opinion. I just recently broke up with my ex saturday because I confronted him about texting this girl and deleting messages from her. he got all pissed off kicked me out of his house ...

A.   15 April 2010: Well, lets see. He is a cheater, a man who spits on his girlfriend, and a man that assaults his girlfriend. Changes in life are never easy, but we have to have the courage to move from bad situations so we can have the chance to be in good on... (read in full...)

Sometimes I wish I could just dissapear!

Q.   Hi, I am a mother of 5, my oldest daughter is graduating this year...Then I have a 16 year old daughter and a 14 year old son, a 11 and 10 year old daughters. Well, when I was 20 I was ran over by a drunk driver, I had a spinal cord injury, I never ...

A.   15 April 2010: The most important thing is not you, but your daughters and sons. You are leaving them with an abusive man. The fact of the matter is their happiness is the key to your happiness. The key to their happiness is divorcing your husband. Yo... (read in full...)

What is your take on this love letter?

Q.   XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...

A.   15 April 2010: be nice to her All I respond to is trash and people that are dealing with trash. Good luck sir, You are good guy. keep it up.... (read in full...)

I am going through a divorce but I still love her!

Q.   I have a problem and I need advice. I am going through a divorce and I have custody of my very young children. My wife is severly mentally ill and her mental condition has really collasped over this past year severly bad. She abused the kids so I ...

A.   14 April 2010: if she abuses the kids then you are an idiot to want her. It makes me question your ability to be a parent. Do you want to be a man, a father, and a parent? Or do you want to be an evil woman's bitch? Choose, but don't make you chi... (read in full...)

I can't take the abuse from my alcoholic girlfriend any more!

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months. She is an alcoholic . She is going to AA and had been dry for a month. After a period of 3 months where she was out of control. I am at my wits end because I have listened to the promises. Been c...

A.   14 April 2010: yeah... leave her and tell her ass to get AA and then when she gets better then mayyyyyyyyybe and the only reason why i say you can give it another shot, is because if you were really in danger, you could kill her easily, unless she is... (read in full...)

My Dad treats me like a child

Q.   my dad is too controlling. i'm 19 years old and i'm at uni and i've moved 30 miles away from home. i live in a flat with 4 other girls and i look after myself and take responsibility for all that i do. my problem is that whenever i ...

A.   14 April 2010: oh so he feels more love for his morals than you? thats lovely. abandon your daughter because she wants to move in with the guy she loves? Thats nice. If he is serious? He's not worth giving the time of day.... (read in full...)

My Dad treats me like a child

Q.   my dad is too controlling. i'm 19 years old and i'm at uni and i've moved 30 miles away from home. i live in a flat with 4 other girls and i look after myself and take responsibility for all that i do. my problem is that whenever i ...

A.   14 April 2010: don't listen to him then... do what you want and tell him you want to live yor life... (read in full...)

He's changed so much

Q.   Why is my boyfriend doing this? my bf was really sweet.it took him 2months to kiss me. i asked he said hes got respect and didn't want to scare me off. whenever we made Iove it was beautiful, passionate and really tender. he was everything i could ...

A.   14 April 2010: People pretend to be someone else so that their victims can fall in love with an illusion. Once he realizes he has you in his grip, he is going to drop the act and be who he really is. This is the guy he is. Leave him. He is not worth ... (read in full...)

What if I'm not pregnant?

Q.   Hi I missed my period for two weeks so i went and brought 2 pregnancy tests, i took one when i got home, it came up postive really quickly, then i tested the other one the next morning (my first morning urine) and that also came up postive quickly....

A.   13 April 2010: HA no no. Two false positives are very rare. Mainly it is two negatives that you will get. If you aren't pregnant, then I like woman beaters. aka Its not going to be a real negative.... (read in full...)

What is your take on this love letter?

Q.   XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...

A.   13 April 2010: haha just messin... congratulations, first guy who deserves a second chance! go get her... make her happy... so you can be happy! ... (read in full...)

Girlfriends sexual abuse, I need closure but I don't know how

Q.   Hey guys, my problem is i cant get over my girlfriend being sexually abused up until she was 14 by her sick f_ck uncle. i got her to seek therapy and i have been the main person in her healing and recently she has told me that i have taken away ...

A.   11 April 2010: what if what if what if what if he gets 5 ears in prison and is a registeed sex offender for the rest of his life and everyone will know about. they can do something about it. they are just lazy fucks like the US police. You have to push a... (read in full...)

He's too possessive, jealous and controlling! He even tries to tell me what to wear! Help!

Q.   hey, me and my bf have been goin out 7months, he is very controlling, he doesnt like me tlkin to other people and wants my attention 24/7, he hates me going out with my mates and hes scared all the other guys always stare at me. he also doesnt like ...

A.   11 April 2010: leave him. it's not worth it.. trust me... (read in full...)

I want to end my marriage without trying as I don't love my husband

Q.   I am 28 yrs married for 1 1/2 yr to a man I knew 2 yrs younger to me.We met 5 times and agreed on marriage.After marriage it took us 1 yr to ve a physical relationship as he was not trying enough, as my work hrs were long, as he never tried to relax ...

A.   9 April 2010: @ OP NO. Happiness with your partner is what matters. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. If you want to leave your husband, then leave. You have a right to be happy. You have a right to explore your wants and your needs, and not satisfy a man's ... (read in full...)

I want to end my marriage without trying as I don't love my husband

Q.   I am 28 yrs married for 1 1/2 yr to a man I knew 2 yrs younger to me.We met 5 times and agreed on marriage.After marriage it took us 1 yr to ve a physical relationship as he was not trying enough, as my work hrs were long, as he never tried to relax ...

A.   7 April 2010: @boredatwork... you must be bored at work... No rational, logical human being would say that someone should stay in a relationship like this. 1 "There was no compatability social, physical, emotional" 2 "Over the next 6 months we got c... (read in full...)

I want to end my marriage without trying as I don't love my husband

Q.   I am 28 yrs married for 1 1/2 yr to a man I knew 2 yrs younger to me.We met 5 times and agreed on marriage.After marriage it took us 1 yr to ve a physical relationship as he was not trying enough, as my work hrs were long, as he never tried to relax ...

A.   7 April 2010: NEVER marry someone that you don't know, even if family is threatening you with disowning you. If hey disown you, they don't love you. With that said, I would leave. Do whatever it takes, but leave. Arranged marriages are ridicu... (read in full...)

Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?

Q.   It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...

A.   7 April 2010: @ OP You HAVE to knock some sense in that stupid girl you call your sister. She is your sister. Keep on reminding her of her options once a week until she breaks. It sounds like it won't work, but it does. ... (read in full...)

Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?

Q.   It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...

A.   2 April 2010: If you read this and you are in the same situation. PEOPLE SHOULD NOT STAY WITH SOMEONE, "FOR THE KIDS". That is the stupidest, most idiotic thing you can do. The more you are sad, the more the kid is sad. The more you are depressed, t... (read in full...)

I feel my fiance should pull his weight financially

Q.   My finance has been living with me and my 2 children for about a year and a half. We make the same amount of money but he only pays for food. He says he won't help with the house payment and utilities because I would be paying for them if he wasn't ...

A.   2 April 2010: Uhhhhhhhh WHAT THE .....? That is a stupid ass argument conidering HE LIVES THERE. If he didn't live there, is just like saying, "Well if I were jesus, you would be paying for my glorious company..." Well hey, hes not Jesus and he CERTAINLY ... (read in full...)

I'm worried by his behaviour, am I just over-reacting?

Q.   my ex and i have been talking for a few months...he needs time to get his head together before getting back into things with me. Noone did anything bad, I think he just needs time...not ready to be in a relationship again. The times we talk it seems ...

A.   31 March 2010: I verbally batter men that do what you are doing. You are no different. You are the one that needs to get help, not him. You act like that out of the relationship that you ended? Now you want back in and are being jealous of him? Ple... (read in full...)

What is your take on this love letter?

Q.   XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...

A.   31 March 2010: dude! go get her! i have never said on this site. go get her and find out what is wrong with your dick! seriously! I am the first one to say, BREAK UP. or He is a fucking asshole. He is a punk etc. I have nothing negative to... (read in full...)

What is your take on this love letter?

Q.   XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...

A.   30 March 2010: I say as long as you were not physically or emotionally abusive towards her, why not? I say that, because you were married, and you had all that time to fix yourself. Coming back with something like, not being able to give affection as nee... (read in full...)

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