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writes:Whats the difference between making love and just having sex? Like what are some things that would take place if you’re making love rather than just having regular sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (12 June 2018):
 In all honesty, it's pretty self-explanatory. Anyone can have sex, but only people in love can make love. There's a deeper connection on a romantic level that goes beyond the shallow romance in some hook-ups.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2018): It depends on the depth of the emotional-connection between two people; and the mood at the time.
You can be very much in-love; but the act of sex could simply be enjoying sex simply for the pleasure of it. Just satisfying an urge. Responding to the magnetism of hormones and pheromones.
At other times, the mind and body makes a special connection with the person you love. It goes beyond seeking pleasure, but you need that full mind & body interaction that blends souls; because the inner-spirit wants to convey to the other person how much you mean to each other. You have more passion, you feel more connected, and the feelings linger long after the sex; because both emotion and all the five senses were involved. Making-love involves a true love-connection.
Having sex with a one-night-stand, a hookup, or getting it on with some guy you just met; is not making-love. That's a gross misuse of the term, and just easier said than using the f-word. It deflects guilt and minimizes regret.
You'll know the difference from the desire you have at the beginning; and by the the way you feel afterwards. It's not always exactly the same for both people. Ideally, that's the goal. Don't be disappointed if it isn't always achieved. Be grateful for having the love to base it upon. Remain optimistic.
Overthinking is the enemy. You don't analyze or dissect another person's emotions; unless you're a qualified-shrink, and being paid to do so. You need their permission to go there.
Now the reality is; sometimes your emotions and desires are in-sync with your partner. Sometimes not. Maybe only partially. You may be making love, and your partner may be having sex. Sometimes you're having sex, but your partner is more emotionally-attuned to the idea he is making-love to you. It's taboo to question your lover about it, because you must rely on instinct.
If my boyfriend asked me if we just made-love, it would piss me off. I will judge it by his responses, his passion, and how much he stirred my heart and soul during the act. The level of the climax, the expression in his moves, and the euphoria that follows will only be amplified by the fact that I love him. Even if we were simply making-out; or passionately kissing, with no sex at all.
When you are truly in-love; consider every act of tenderness and any exchange of affection towards your mate, making-love.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 June 2018):
 Personally I think the difference is having sex with someone for fun it can be intimate and passionate but well there are no feelings involved.
Making love is between two people who are connected and who have deep feelings for each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2018): The difference is not so easy to see at first because love and lust can easily be mixed up. But in general in my experience it is want on both sides to spend time together outside the bedroom. Talk of long term committment is also a sign of love.
In bed it is both people feeling a connection, of wanting to please the other person, cuddling after and my boyfriend has told me he loves me and with others it has been just sex and he wants to have the eye contact with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2018): Hi there.This is a good question. Personally, I find the difference between the two is the emotional connection on a deeper level.Making love is an act of love between two parties. There is a deep connection and both of them are pursuing the intimacy with care for one another. Normally, it is an act between long-term partners, or the blossoming of a relationship to higher levels of connection. Having sex is still emotional, but not on the same level. It can be a simple act between two people (who may not even know each other that well). Everyone can have sex, but not everyone makes love. Hope this helps :)
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reader, holeymoley  +, writes (12 June 2018):
 Personally I think the difference is about connection and thoughtfulness. Not that that does not happen during sex but I think it is something shared on a deeper level and more intimate.
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