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I recently celebrated 5 beautiful years with my boy, and of course nothing is smooth sailing but we have come out on top and are looking sooo forward to waking up for morning cuddles together for the rest of our days.
If anyone wants advice on how we survived 2 years long-distance across 16,000 miles, please message me and I'll give you any advice I can!
"Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what is going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity." |
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Do guys enjoy giving a girl oral and whats the best way to go, shaved or not?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend tried to give me oral but i just wasnt ready so we didnt go through w/ it. Well actually the thing is we've been together a year and we have an awesome relationship but that is one thing that i've never done so i dont know what to ...
A. 5 October 2006: Hey girl,
Pleased to hear that you have waited until you are completely ready before you went ahead and let your BF do this! Credit to you for that!
Trimmed up real nice is the best way to go, in my opinion. Make sure you have a shower be... (read in full...)
Am I about to make the biggest mistake of my life?
Q. Am I about to make the biggest mistake of my life? My boyf of 6 years broke up with me 6 months ago and I've tried really hard to move on but now I've lost my job and with nowhere to live I'm living back with my parents (I'm 28!). I've just heard ...
A. 4 October 2006: Hey girl,
I am so sorry to hear of your break-up. These things are, in my opinion, the most heart-wrenching things to deal with in life, especially when you talked of a long life together.
It will take time for your heart and mind to heal and... (read in full...)
My whole life revoles around him, and he just keeps dishing the crap at me! What should I do?
Q. I'm extremely frustrated with my husband. Yesterday was his birthday. I had planned to make him breakfast, a cake, then a nice dinner. His 21 year old daughter was going to come over for a while as well. We got up at 2:30am and went shopping for our ...
A. 3 October 2006: Hey there,
This made me so sad reading this, as you sound like a lovely person who has a heart of gold and wants the best for her family. Yet, you get it all chucked back in your face.
Love, your husband doesn't know what he has. He is taki... (read in full...)
The 3 rules for liars... Anyone remember the original post ?
Q. Hi I read on this site a while ago about the '3 rules for liars'. It was something like lying once could be a mistake, lying twice ........, lying 3 times means a problem. I cant remember it and it seemed like a really good maxim to remembe...
A. 21 September 2006: Hey!
I know exactly what you are talking about but I couldn't find the actual post.
Send Malyce_synn an email, coz she is the one that posted it!
I hope this helps! xx... (read in full...)
How can we keep our relationship strong and steady and stop the silly rows ?
Q. Hi people, just a quick question, how can I keep my relationship strong and steady? My partner and I have been through a lot recently. We've got through it now but argue every 5-10 days. We dont ever get nasty or violent but i get mad then stroppy ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hey girl,
We had this problem but I found that the thing that works best is when either of you find yourself getting heated or frustrated, just walk away. Say to your BF "I need a time out, i'll be back in an hour so we can talk about this cal... (read in full...)
Does every guy really watch porn ?
Q. Is it possible to not watch porn as a guy? My bf told me he's not interested at these things. He admitted he was curious about it when he was 16, but he absolutely shows no interest about it now. I love him very much and I'm lucky that I found so...
A. 17 September 2006: Hey girl,
My boyfriend doesn't go near the stuff and has never been into it - so yes to your question, there are guys out there that don't feel the need to look at it but society and various internet chat forums have led us to believe that ALL... (read in full...)
I missed a few pills and now I'm 11 days late!
Q. Hi i am 18 years old and i am 11 days late for my period but i took a pregnancy test after 8 days and it came up negative. I was on the pill last month but i missed a couple days and i didn't take at the same time every day. So i was wondering if i ...
A. 6 September 2006: Hey girl,
It is possible that you took the test too early and the chances of you being pregnant are increased significantly since you missed 'a couple of days'. But stress and worries can disrupt your cycle, so you won't know for sure until yo... (read in full...)
Is a 7-year age gap too much?
Q. Hi all, I was wondering whether you thought a 7 year age gap is a big deal or not? (If both are of legal age). We were born in the same decade, just 7 years apart. Everyone says that the age gap will cause problems, and so far I haven't e...
A. 6 September 2006: Hey girl,
Don't live your life listening to others who know nothing of the future - are the people telling you it won't work clairvoyants? Seven years is nothing in the grand scheme of things! I am 8 years apart from my man, me 23 him 31 and w... (read in full...)
My BF tells all his mates about our sex life!
Q. I just found out my boyfriend is telling all his friends about our sex life. I dont know what to do! Should i end it?...
A. 26 August 2006: I love the way you write Martini *wink wink* :o)... (read in full...)
My BF tells all his mates about our sex life!
Q. I just found out my boyfriend is telling all his friends about our sex life. I dont know what to do! Should i end it?...
A. 25 August 2006: Hey there,
Not cool, not cool at all. I guess some women wouldn't mind her boyfriend telling his mates about their amazing sex life, but I for sure ain't one of them! I don't even talk to MY friends about our sex life because it is private!... (read in full...)
Love hurts
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years. After talking to a few friends, I am convinced that I did what was best for myself. However, I still love him and I am fighting urges to call him and tell him it was all a mistake. This is the first ...
A. 23 August 2006: oh shite! Thanks BonyM! I haven't had my morning coffee yet...excuses...
Ummm....okay my bad. But that really doesn't change anything I said - it still applies now I know you're a male! Just change the 'hey girl' to 'hey boy' and the 'girly n... (read in full...)
Love hurts
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years. After talking to a few friends, I am convinced that I did what was best for myself. However, I still love him and I am fighting urges to call him and tell him it was all a mistake. This is the first ...
A. 23 August 2006: Hey girl,
I am trying to put myself in your shoes because I have been with my man for just over 5 years and he is my first love and 'serious' relationship. I can't imagine being without him and I am finding myself getting very 'worked up' just... (read in full...)
I'm in Amsterdam and having trouble sticking to my no sex before marriage belief!
Q. Hi I am in my late 20s and am still a virgin. I have been able to control myself till now as i neither had any girlfriend nor any great desire to lose virginity before marriage..It is getting difficult day by day and staying in Amsterdam (Sex c...
A. 23 August 2006: Hey there,
Think of it this way. You have held out for almost 30 years of your life for the right woman. You have sustained your obviously important belief this long, so to 'throw it away' on someone meaningless in Amsterdam would see like suc... (read in full...)
Pregnancy test said negative but is it accurate?
Q. Ok i havent had my period for 3 weeks now and i took a pregnancy test but it said I'm not pregnant. But i feel like i am. Do the tests mess up sometimes or is it accurate?...
A. 23 August 2006: Hey girl,
I was in the same boat last month, except I was 5 weeks late! So I know how freaky this situation can be, along with many many other women out there.
My test came back negative but I was convinced that it was wrong because I just f... (read in full...)
We have a perfect relationship except I get nasty when I drink and he can't take much more of it!
Q. Hi I am 19 and my boyfriend is 25. I love him with all my heart and I know he feels the same. We have a perfect relationship except for one thing. Everytime I get drunk I change. I turn into a nasty spiteful person. I shout and say nasty hurtful ...
A. 22 August 2006: Hey Helen,
There is only one thing to do. Drink in moderation or don't drink at all. Quite simple really. If you love this guy as much as you say you do, then why would you want to hurt him by still drinking? It should be the easiest and simp... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 22 August 2006: Just be confident and relaxed and let your natural self shine through.
I can't wait to hear how things go! xxx... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't believe that I love him!
Q. Hey I got a boyfriend, I'm 16 and he's my first love. I love him soo much. The problem is he doesn't believe me. I tell him i do, i try to explain how i feel and what I'm feeling, but he just gets moody. Its starting to be all the time. He tells me ...
A. 22 August 2006: Hey there,
You do not need to PROVE anything to him! He love you, so why isn't your word good enough?
Sounds to me like this boy is a little to immature to give and receive this kind of love. If someone love you, like he says he does you... (read in full...)
My unfounded paranoia is tearing our relationship apart...
Q. Me and my boyfriends relationship used to be bliss. but now i have become really paranoid. In my heart i know i trust him but my paranoia is tearing us apart and he's my first love, he's my everything. Please help...
A. 22 August 2006: Hey Sara,
First of all, congratulations that you have recognised this paranoia in yourself and you want to do something about it. It takes quite a wise and strong person to be able to firstly recognise something like that, but then to ask for ... (read in full...)
I need lubricants and know how to apply
Q. where can u get lubricants? and how do you apply?...
A. 22 August 2006: To give you the Wikipedia answer to your "what is a lubricant' question...
A lubricant (colloquially, lube, although this may also refer to personal lubricants) is a substance (usually a liquid) introduced between two moving surfaces to reduce t... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 21 August 2006: Go for it girl!
I was in EXACTLY the same situation. I was 18, he was 25, been friends/work mates for 5 years but man, did I have a crush on him! I just knew he was the one for me and as our friendship developed and we started hanging out more... (read in full...)
I no longer like kissing my girlfriend!
Q. Why do i find kissing really tedious? I find kissing once or twice and pecking etc is fine, but i have started too dislike long snogging!! I'm really confused. Too begin with it was really great! But now after 9 months I only like kissing ...
A. 21 August 2006: Hey there,
I agree with BonyM here. You really do need to talk to her as there will come a day when she will be kissing you and you will lose it and say something you will regret. This is obviously really bothering you so you need to approach... (read in full...)
Husband admitted having feelings for someone else!
Q. my husband of 10 years has just told me he has feelings for another woman who he works with but there is nothing in it and just feels comfortable being with her. It has left me devastated and hurt. Please someone give me some advice...
A. 21 August 2006: True true Malyce - I see what you're saying now. But we don't really know the full deal here. We have no idea if this attraction occured while they just worked together during normal office hours, or if there were late nights spent alone doing ... (read in full...)
Husband admitted having feelings for someone else!
Q. my husband of 10 years has just told me he has feelings for another woman who he works with but there is nothing in it and just feels comfortable being with her. It has left me devastated and hurt. Please someone give me some advice...
A. 21 August 2006: I totally disagree with Malyce as he works with this woman, so of course he didn't 'seek it out' as she is saying. Are you saying Malyce that no man on this earth should work with women? This is absurd and totally skirting around the actual issue. ... (read in full...)
We've agreed to wait six more years until we date. Can our love last that long?
Q. I'm 12 years old and in love with an 17 year old. We love each other very much and we are very open with each other. We both have said that we will not go out with each other until I am 18, which is in a very long time! Can we still love each oth...
A. 21 August 2006: Hey there,
Okay, so as you probably know, six years is a hell of a long time to wait for someone and expect them to wait for you. A lot can change, especially in your teenage years, so to have this 'promise' to one another that you will wait unt... (read in full...)
How do I let a girl know about my feelings for her?
Q. I fancy a girl in my form. I'm 13 but I just don't know how to let her know that I love her....
A. 21 August 2006: Hey there,
Okay, you fancy a girl in your form, don't mix that with love since you obviously don't know her very well! So what i'm saying is, don't go blurt out to her that you love her coz you'll freak her out. Be casual and friendly - ask her ... (read in full...)
Do other people interlock fingers during sex?
Q. I recently slept with a male friend of mine (we aren't going to be dating, just messing around) but I've never had sex before this and was wondering if it's normal for a guy to hold your hands during sex. He was on top, and kept interlocking his ...
A. 21 August 2006: Yea...it's kind of "I want to be connected to you in a different way" type-thing.
To me, it says that they want to experience everything about you in that moment, from what it feels like inside you, to doing something so simple like holding ... (read in full...)
Advice on making our long-distance relationship work...
Q. I am just about to start a new college abroad and my boyfriend is staying here but we're definitely going to stay together. I was just wondering whether anybody had any useful tips on long distance relationships - and how to make it work? ...
A. 20 August 2006: Hey there Signe,
Congratulations on giving the long-distance thing a try! It really can work and is very easy if the love between the two of you is worth it.
I had known my man for many years before we got together, then I went over to New... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get so wet?!
Q. hello...i was just woundering if there is somthing wrong with me! I seem to get very wet down there! I find it really embarrsing when my BF fingers me or goes down on me...is this something to be concerned about or not...plz help me x ...
A. 20 August 2006: Yes yes yes yes!
It just means you are incredibly turned on! When I first got with my BF and we hadn't had sex yet, it was the biggest compliment (still is!) that I was so wet from him touching me!
Enjoy it and if you BF questions it, ju... (read in full...)
Caught him with his pants down, was it more to it?
Q. hi, my bf and i have been together 3 years, about 10months ago i saw my bf doing something which i have always qestioned in my mind. im 20 his 25. one day i was coming home afer school early , i opened our front door and walked in and saw my bf st...
A. 18 August 2006: Hey girl,
Your response sent alarm bells ringing in me. I know how hard it can be to walk away from your first love and how much you just want to believe everything he says, but seriously girl, you have to open your eyes. He flirts with your fri... (read in full...)
My BF wasn't answering his phone - was he with someone else?
Q. I probably sound paranoid but just need reassurance of that. A few days ago it was my b-day and my b/f calls me at a time when he knows i will be getting out of the train. He never calls me at that time. His cell isnt in perfect condition but he...
A. 17 August 2006: Irish! Excellent answer, you really are an amazing woman!
To the question asker - heed Irish's advice as what she is saying about these insecurities is exactly true. I used to be the same - obsessing over missed calls, him being late home etc... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive if my fiancee comments on the girls around us?
Q. Trying to figure out if I am too sensitive... My fiance (seems like) on a regular basis makes comments such as "she has nice breasts" or "she is really hot" in front of me. I told him that his comments are hurtful, but he continues to do ...
A. 14 August 2006: Hey there,
I don't think you're being too sensitive at all. The fact that you have talked to him about how it makes you feel and that it is hurtful towards you shows that he isn't willing to alter his behaviour based on the love of his lifes fe... (read in full...)
You gotta fight, for your right, to wrest that man out of his relationship
Q. Can a woman "fight for(not physically)" a man if she truly believes in the integrity of their relationship and the genuine feelings they have, regardless of his situation? Men always "fight for" the women they want, so what if the situation is ...
A. 14 August 2006: Hey there,
I fought long and hard for 2 years for my man, but you have to have an air of subtelty about how you go about it otherwise you will scare/drive him away.
If the man in question is already in a relationship, then the only way 'in... (read in full...)
Oh how I need to be double jointed
Q. It seems my boyfriend and I can't do anything other than missionary position... we have tried me on top but it just didn't work and he kept slipping out or couldn't get in at all. I feel I want to spice it up with different styles, but I'm not sure ...
A. 14 August 2006: Hey there!
Sexybum's advice is great, but if you are still on the missionary, chances are you two aren't that experienced in trying much else, so don't move too quickly into experimenting until you feel completely comfortable with each other.
... (read in full...)
Sex, sex and oh...more sex
Q. i cant get enough sex im with my partner over 2 years and the longer we are together the higher my sex drive has become before we met it was nill now i want it every time i see him its driving him crazy and i think that its not normal help!...
A. 14 August 2006: Hey there,
It is a very good sign that your sex drive is increasing as your relationship goes on, not the other way around, so be thankful for that!
As for it driving him crazy, tread very carefully here as you don't want to pressure him int... (read in full...)
I havent got the courage to perform fellatio on my man, any ideas ?
Q. Ive had sex with my boyfriend but im to scared to perform fellatio on him( or give head). Im afraid i wont be able to please him and its just such unfamiliar territory for me im afraid ill get all scared and totally ruin everything. i want to so ...
A. 11 August 2006: Hey there,
I felt exactly the same when it was working up towards my first time of giving head too! We had had sex heaps before, and I think it was about a year before I worked up the courage to do it (crazy I know,a whole year!).
I just ... (read in full...)
Can long-distance work? Even long-distance like another country?
Q. My Sister who introduced me to her friends by giving me thier phone numbers. Her friend live abroad and I contacted them and arranged to go and see them. It went really well. I did a bit of sightseeing while getting to know them. I really like on...
A. 9 August 2006: Hey there,
It most certainly CAN work! I am living proof!
I had known my man for many years before we got together, then I went over to New York (he stayed in New Zealand) for 2 years and we are still going strong 3 years after I have bee... (read in full...)
Is This Love That I'm Feeling?
Q. Just to verify, can anyone tell me if this is love that im feeling. I am feeling like this:- 1. whenever im around her, i feel happier than i ever have before 2. She makes me feel good about myself 3. I've felt more emotions since i've met ...
A. 4 August 2006: Hey there my looovvveeee
Sure sounds to me like you are experiencing your first love mate! If you are feeling all of those things your described then without a doubt you are in love, or falling in love. She makes you feel good about yourself... (read in full...)
What's a romantic way to ask my girlfriend to marry me?
Q. Hi, can anyone tell me a nice romantic way to ask someone to marry you? I love my girlfriend and want to ask her to marry me. I can't take her away becasue of the kids, and I don't have the most money in the world, but would like to really romance ...
A. 3 August 2006: Hey there Mr Romance!
Do you have a nice place around where you live that you two like to go? Say a lookout over the city/sea? Down by the beach? Money does not have to be spent to romance the woman you love, but how about a place like i sugges... (read in full...)
He no longer finds me sexually attractive so he wants my permission to find a f*ckbuddy
Q. I have been married to my husband for 12 years, and we have been faithfully together for 16 years, Renently I was diagnoised with cancer, we made it through the post op and everything fine, unfortunatly I put on about 170 lbs and he dosn't find me ...
A. 3 August 2006: I completely agree with Snowbird here (she gives fantastic advice all round by the way). No one, it doesn't matter if you have been with him for 16 years, should make you feel this way about yourself.
I can see from his side too though, ... (read in full...)
Too young to be in a committed relationship - I want to play the field
Q. I have been in a steady relationship for almost a year now, although I think I am too young! I am only seventeen and want to go out with my friends an have a good time. I really like another person and I know he likes me and I don't know what to do ...
A. 1 August 2006: Hey there,
If you're having doubts about your relationship then get out of it and enjoy your youth before you get too attached to this person and it will be harder to leave.
But remember - you can do both! Be in a relationship AND go out with ... (read in full...)
My BF promised he would cease all contact with his ex, now he's meeting her for a coffee! Am I overreacting?
Q. OK, this is definitely the last time that I am going to post a question about this, but it's driven me to distraction for the last time... My boyfriend and me have been together for over a year now. During the course of this time, there has ...
A. 26 July 2006: Hey there babe,
A promise is a promise and he has broken that. He is abusing your trust. He knows how you feel about this and he is still contacting her! Why does he need to see her behind your back and now for a coffee if nothing has happened... (read in full...)
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