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I recently celebrated 5 beautiful years with my boy, and of course nothing is smooth sailing but we have come out on top and are looking sooo forward to waking up for morning cuddles together for the rest of our days.
If anyone wants advice on how we survived 2 years long-distance across 16,000 miles, please message me and I'll give you any advice I can!
"Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what is going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity." |
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How should I get this boy?
Q. I like a boy and i think that he likes me but he wnt go out with me because we live so far away frm each other and i realy want to be with him what shuld i do?...
A. 14 June 2006: Hi there,
This is a tricky one because of the distance issue so the only thing I can suggest is that you start slowly and don't put too much pressure on things to work out. Distance is hard enough with the added pressure of have a long distance... (read in full...)
My friends husband is abusive to her in every way - how do I help her?
Q. I have an age old question for anyone out there that can give good advice. A friend who I have known to be unhappy for a while now finally opened up about her violent and abusive marriage. This man forces her into sex, takes her money, constantly ...
A. 13 June 2006: Hey there,
Firstly, you are a wondeful friend and a beautiful person. If there were more people like you out there, the world would be such a more gorgeous place, because so many people just turn a blind-eye on things like this either not knowing ... (read in full...)
How do I adapt from school to university?
Q. i am doing a uni preparation course before uni in september and it is driving me crazy! Don't get me wrong, I love the work but it is so tiring and i am so bad at getting organised and getting assignments done on time..Basically it is a huge change ...
A. 13 June 2006: Hey there,
It is a HUGE change going from school to uni so it will take a bit of time for you to adapt, but there are many techniques you can use to help with time management and to make the transition easier.
If you are bad at getting organise... (read in full...)
My period is 12 weeks late, I'm not pregnant, so what is wrong with me?
Q. Hi, My period is 12 weeks late and I dont know why. I have done a pregnancy test and it is negative and my periods are usually regular does anyone have any ideas why this could be? Thanks x...
A. 13 June 2006: Hey there,
Have you been ill in the last 3 months? Have you been overly stressed, worrying about something, a major change in lifestyle, job, relationship? Anything like that can alter your menstral cycle, but 12 weeks is a long time not to h... (read in full...)
Am I living in a dream world or will her feelings come flooding back for me?
Q. Me and my long term girlfriend broke up 6 weeks ago, both admitting there was 'something missing' from our relationship...within 3 weeks we'd seen each other a couple of times - and slept with each other both times...talked and admitted we still ...
A. 12 June 2006: Hey there,
You have made the right step by giving her the space she needs - cliche but absence does make the heart grow fonder! So hopefully this will be true in your case.
There is ALWAYS a chance that things will go your way. What kind ... (read in full...)
My wife is so upset about the porn images I've collected. Am I so wrong?
Q. My wife recently discovered an archive of pornographic pictures on my computer - the directory was accidentally opened when I was logged in. Initially she said she was fine and not mad at me at all about it and asked to see the whole directory. ...
A. 12 June 2006: Wow Yos! How interesting! :o) xxx... (read in full...)
I want to amaze my hubby in bed! Ideas?
Q. What are some good sex tricks that will have my husband amazed?...
A. 12 June 2006: Just take control! Straddle him wearing something you know he thinks is the sexiest thing ever and just control him and do what you want to do - it always amazes my man when I take the reins like that!... (read in full...)
How do we re-light the 'honeymoon period' spark?
Q. hi, I was in a relationship for 4 months and recently my g/f broke up with me as she said at first there was spark and now theres no spark.. whats the best way to work it out and relight the spark?...
A. 12 June 2006: Hey there omo...
I'm sorry your relationship ended after such a short time. Sounds to me like your girlfriend expected every single day of your relationship to be just like the first and didn't give it a chance to grow into something more bea... (read in full...)
Is it love if there is no physical attraction?
Q. Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone if you are not physically attracted to them, even after a few months of dating? We have great chemistry and get along quite well, always laughing and having fun, but the spark isn't there. ...
A. 12 June 2006: Hey there,
I think it is definitely possible to fall in love with someone, but not in the physical/sexual way. That is only a small side of love, really, and you say you get on well and have great chemistry, which are very important elements... (read in full...)
GF cheated but I just can't seem to forgive her but I really want to!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for nearly 2 years. She went to uni and we have been trying to keep things together. She cheated on me (just kissing) with someone I considered to be a threat from the day I met him. She says she instantly ...
A. 12 June 2006: Hi there,
I agree with Anon below - sometimes thing like this CAN make the relationship stronger, but an infidelity, no matter how small, can be a real struggle to get past.
I really admire that you have tried over the past 4 months to carry ... (read in full...)
An intense orgasm makes my foot twich uncontrollably! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi everyone, well my problem is kind of embarrassing I hope you can try to help me figure it out. Everytime I have sex, or masturbate, and have a really good, intense orgasm I notice that my right foot begins to twitch uncontrollably u...
A. 12 June 2006: Hey there,
No way! Suorpio's advice is spot-on! My whole body twitches crazily, but my BF thinks its great and unique! Luckily I never have to 'fake' otherwise i'd have to fake my bodily-convulsions too!
Nothing is wrong with you babe, t... (read in full...)
My wife is so upset about the porn images I've collected. Am I so wrong?
Q. My wife recently discovered an archive of pornographic pictures on my computer - the directory was accidentally opened when I was logged in. Initially she said she was fine and not mad at me at all about it and asked to see the whole directory. ...
A. 11 June 2006: Hey there,
Most woman find porn very very offensive and it leads to this very problem - us thinking we're not good enough for you if you NEED to look at other boobs and beautiful porn-woman legs. I think this is a big problem for a lot of coupl... (read in full...)
Do good manners really exists these days?
Q. If a man really tries to be a gentleman in this stone age like opening car doors for you, let you go first as a lady. Does that mean he is showing good manners or just trying to impress you or hook you?? Do good manners really exists these day...
A. 10 June 2006: They sure do exist! My man is a true gentleman - never walks through a door before me, always opens the door for me, always pulls my chair out for me @ a restaurant...we've been together 5 years so I don't think he's just trying to 'hook' up with ... (read in full...)
Should we do long-distance for 2 years?
Q. My boyfriend is about to start his PhD in the fall. There will be a long distance relationship if we continue dating. At the end of the summer it'll be 7 months of dating after he leaves. What does a long distance relationship do to a couple w...
A. 9 June 2006: Hey!
You have to make a decision as to if you really want to be with this man because long distance can be done - I did it with my man for the FIRST 2 years we were together and it was damn hard but we passed with flying colours and are now comi... (read in full...)
Great relationship, and we live together. Will he ever want to marry me?
Q. I have been with the same person for 2 years and 7 months. When we met, we were both going through divorces. My divorce was 2 years in the making and his only a few months. I had fallen completely in love with him within a couple of month. It ...
A. 8 June 2006: Hey Wendylousky,
I don't think you were wrong in moving in with him! You love him, he loves you, moving in together is the next natural step. You have gotten a 'taste' of what married life would be like together, and so far so good you say? Lif... (read in full...)
Am I going off my girlfriend, or is this just a bad time for us?
Q. I am having a very confusing time of late. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and up until about 4 and a half months, and had been really happy. I still am, but it doesn't feel as much which I'm confused about. In late March, I was feel...
A. 8 June 2006: Hey Muscles...
I'm very sorry you're feeling like this, because I can tell that you really want these feelings to go away so you can just be happy with your GF.
I think the first thing you have to do is identify when you start to feel guilty. ... (read in full...)
We have sex, but he doesn't ejaculate!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't ejeculate during sex. What could be wrong with him??...
A. 8 June 2006: Hi there,
You mean that he NEVER has when he has had sex with you? Have you talked to him about this? Has it happened with his past partners?
If you could give us a bit more information, we will be able to help you out the best we can xxx... (read in full...)
Tried to make myself orgasm & this morning my bed was wet! What did I do wrong?
Q. I haven't had sex in a long time but have met someone over the Internet. We chat and txt and I try and make myself orgasm 4 him. I haven't managed to yet but this morning when I tried, my bed was wet! What did I do wrong and how do I stop it?...
A. 8 June 2006: Hi there,
Sounds like you either had an orgasm or sometimes your vaginal muscles can contract in such a way when you are about to orgasm that you urinate, so maybe this could have happened? Was it definitely not pee? If not then, yup, sounds l... (read in full...)
BF says I only look good wearing make-up & mini-skirts!
Q. I would really like if someone could help me because I'm hurting really bad. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He is 4 years younger than me and when we first started going out he was doing all the running. Lately he is always ...
A. 8 June 2006: Hey there,
You poor thing, this is what I would call a form of abuse - emotional probably, as this is really hurting you and if he is not careful and you do not get yourself away from this boy, then I'm afraid to say you'll probably have low self... (read in full...)
Wait for boyfriend in prison or move onto a younger man...
Q. ok so here goes... I have been with my current boyfriend for 18 months.. he is 20 and i am 17 we live together and get on pretty well most of the time..he has been violent towards me in the past which made me quite insecure. Hes recently been rem...
A. 8 June 2006: You wouldn't be 'throwing your whole life away' you will be moving onto bigger and BETTER things....I know it's scary, but that's just because you are in a routine with him - you won't always feel this bad - remember that! xxx... (read in full...)
My BF of two years just confided that he's actually married!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years now and we have plans of getting married. One day he told me he has a secret to tell me. He said he is married back home and is planning to divorce. He also said he is crazy ab...
A. 8 June 2006: Hey there,
You need to find out WHY he didn't tell you - you need to get very hard with him and make him tell you EVERYTHING. If he doesn't, then get out of there and fast. I know that you are head over heels in love with him, or with who you ... (read in full...)
How do I ride my boyfriend, without actually having sex?
Q. Hi there, I'm a little unsure of something. Me and my b/f have not have sex but have come very close to it. We have decided to as soon as we get some time alone, but until then I just want to know how to ride/straddle him without inserting his peni...
A. 7 June 2006: Awesome! So glad I could help! Hope everything works out for you! xxx... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to be together any more?
Q. I need more advice. I wrote this question: my fiance and I have been together for two years until last week when he said out of the blue that he doesn't want to be with me, and he loves me but isn't in love with me. He feels he is too young to be in ...
A. 7 June 2006: Hey,
You poor thing, I can tell through your words how confused and unhappy you are. I hate how men can do this to us!
You know the saying - If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if not it was never meant to b... (read in full...)
Can I make him hurry up and decide sooner, or should I just give him time?
Q. I have posted a few times about my boyfriend just going overseas on a working holiday- thanks for the advice. Anyway, as it was something he had planned a long time before he met me to do alone, he thinks that after about a month of experien...
A. 7 June 2006: Hi there,
I understand where both of you are coming from. But in all fairness to you, I don't think it was right of him to make YOU wait, while HE decides if he wants to continue your relationship!
He should have gone on his trip like he had... (read in full...)
He texted another girl and I kissed someone else for revenge...
Q. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together 1 year and 8 months. Everything was great til I found out he had met up with and texted another girl. He lied about it then eventually confessed they were just mates. He was texting her though ...
A. 7 June 2006: Hi there,
I hate to say it, but it seems like both of you are in different places now. He would not have been texting this girl & asking to meet up if he was 100% happy in his relationship with you (I am not at all taking a stab at you as a per... (read in full...)
Wait for boyfriend in prison or move onto a younger man...
Q. ok so here goes... I have been with my current boyfriend for 18 months.. he is 20 and i am 17 we live together and get on pretty well most of the time..he has been violent towards me in the past which made me quite insecure. Hes recently been rem...
A. 7 June 2006: Hi there,
Right away I don't like that in the past he has been violent towards you - is this or a similar reason (anger problem maybe?) why he is in prison? I understand you have been with him for 18 months, but please think really long and hard... (read in full...)
How do I ride my boyfriend, without actually having sex?
Q. Hi there, I'm a little unsure of something. Me and my b/f have not have sex but have come very close to it. We have decided to as soon as we get some time alone, but until then I just want to know how to ride/straddle him without inserting his peni...
A. 6 June 2006: Hey been_there,
I think it's great that you are going to wait until you are both ready & comfortable! I think it's also great that you are looking for alternatives to actually having sex, so you can please each other in lots of different ways. ... (read in full...)
How do I ride my boyfriend, without actually having sex?
Q. Hi there, I'm a little unsure of something. Me and my b/f have not have sex but have come very close to it. We have decided to as soon as we get some time alone, but until then I just want to know how to ride/straddle him without inserting his peni...
A. 6 June 2006: Hey been_there,
I think it's great that you are going to wait until you are both ready & comfortable! I think it's also great that you are looking for alternatives to actually having sex, so you can please each other in lots of different ways. ... (read in full...)
How do I ride my boyfriend, without actually having sex?
Q. Hi there, I'm a little unsure of something. Me and my b/f have not have sex but have come very close to it. We have decided to as soon as we get some time alone, but until then I just want to know how to ride/straddle him without inserting his peni...
A. 6 June 2006: Hey been_there,
I think it's great that you are going to wait until you are both ready & comfortable! I think it's also great that you are looking for alternatives to actually having sex, so you can please each other in lots of different ways. ... (read in full...)
How do I ride my boyfriend, without actually having sex?
Q. Hi there, I'm a little unsure of something. Me and my b/f have not have sex but have come very close to it. We have decided to as soon as we get some time alone, but until then I just want to know how to ride/straddle him without inserting his peni...
A. 6 June 2006: Hey been_there,
I think it's great that you are going to wait until you are both ready & comfortable! I think it's also great that you are looking for alternatives to actually having sex, so you can please each other in lots of different ways. ... (read in full...)
What is a normal sex life?
Q. This may sound stupid...Im just wanting know everybodys opinion on this, how many times or how much sex should a couple have a week, every month in order to be considered a normal, healthy, loving, relationship or sex life? I know that a ...
A. 6 June 2006: Hi there,
Just looked online and a website I found said that the average, American married couple has sex once a week, or 58 times a year. To me, that seemed very low, but hey, as you said, everyone's different and that figure is obviousl... (read in full...)
Been together over 5 years..sex is down to 1-2 times per week. What's going on?
Q. my girlfiend and i have been in a steady relationship for 5 years. Over the past year and half, she wants sex less and less. On average when we first got together, we had sex 1-2 times aday. now, we are lucky to have sex 1-2 times a week. I suspect ...
A. 6 June 2006: Hi there,
I soooo wouldn't worry about this. I was in the EXACT same situation (been together 5 years) EXCEPT I, the girl, wasn't 'getting enough' from my man! I couldn't understand why he only wanted it about once/twice a week and I unfortun... (read in full...)
I've been bleeding after my boyfriend fingers me...
Q. I have bled 3 times now after being fingered. Why is it happening, and is it harming me? (I've never had sex)....
A. 3 June 2006: Hi there,
I agree with anon's answer below. Maybe he is being too rough? And ask him to use KY Jelly when he fingers you, that way there will be minimised risk of doing any damage.
xxx... (read in full...)
Emotional Cheating but it is just as tough to deal with
Q. Hi, my bf and i have been dating about 2 and a half years, i am 20 and his 25 years old. the problem is about 7 months ago i found out he was emotional cheating with another female, he says they were just friends but there was an obvous attraction, ...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi there,
Personally, I think 'the best of the rest's' advice about if you have feelings he's cheating, he probably is' is absolute crap.
Sounds to me like he knows he made a mistake, and has told you he won't do it again, so why not give the... (read in full...)
I have no control when it comes to men
Q. Hi there, I'm 23, and have been dating my boyfriend for over four years. I love him so much. He's great and he treats me awesome. I can really see us together once I've saved enough to buy house and a car in a few years. The only problem is,...
A. 3 June 2006: Hey there Wandering Eye...
I think that you need to have a serious talk to yourself. Put this scenerio in your head: you act on one of your 'instincts' and cheat on your boyfriend again, only this time when you fess up, he doesn't forgive ... (read in full...)
How can I show my feelings to her?
Q. i am in love with this girl but do not know how i can show her my feelings. help?...
A. 3 June 2006: Hi Boywonder...
Are you two friends? Is there already a level of trust there? If there is, then invite her out to dinner or a nice walk down the beach/river and just tell her how you feel. You could start off by telling her you think she's th... (read in full...)
How do we get over our communication problems?
Q. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. I get very angry with him because I feel that he doesn't listen to me or my needs so often and tends to not communicate very well, leaving us with issues I thought we'd solved and then find he's back at ...
A. 2 June 2006: Hi there Girasole,
I know exactly how you feel! It sucks when you just can't communicate properly with the one you love, and they can't communicate with you either! You are in a pattern right now that isn't good. The way you deal with conflict... (read in full...)
I'm very jealous of what other women look like! I need help!!!
Q. hello... i have a jealousy problem that is pushing my boyfriend away... i am very jealous of what other girls look like and i don't have what they have... they're so gorgeous... so when a seductive naked girl comes on tv i kind of get upset... i ...
A. 2 June 2006: Hey - I had a few people message me in regards to this, so I thought I'd put this reply on here, so others can read it, and it hopefully helps.
Okay, how long did it take me. I'm not going to tell you it's easy and that I got over it as soon as ... (read in full...)
my brother's 19yr old friend wants sex and I am only 13, what do I do?
Q. hi i am 13 and i am confused my 19 year old step brothers friend keeps on nagging me and asking me if want to do things with him. he has kissed me plenty of times which i dont mind we hug every time we see each other and we have snogged but that ...
A. 2 June 2006: Hey there,
You should get yourself out of this situation right away. Tell him to leave you alone! You obviously don't really want to have sex with him, otherwise you would have done it by now and not have posted this question.
You are only ... (read in full...)
I'm very jealous of what other women look like! I need help!!!
Q. hello... i have a jealousy problem that is pushing my boyfriend away... i am very jealous of what other girls look like and i don't have what they have... they're so gorgeous... so when a seductive naked girl comes on tv i kind of get upset... i ...
A. 2 June 2006: Hi there,
I used to be exactly the same. I started changing the channel on the TV when a beautiful woman came on so my boyfriend couldn't see her, I worried constantly when we were out together that he was checking out other woman (even tho he h... (read in full...)
I want to make him feel special... What could I buy him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months,i want to make him feel appreciated by buying him something special and meaningful but i don't know what, any ideas?...
A. 2 June 2006: Hi there,
It's a bit hard to give you ideas when I don't personally know your boyfriend and as you said, you want to get him something meaningful and special. It is really sweet of you to be thinking of him in his way and to get him somethin... (read in full...)
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