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I recently celebrated 5 beautiful years with my boy, and of course nothing is smooth sailing but we have come out on top and are looking sooo forward to waking up for morning cuddles together for the rest of our days.
If anyone wants advice on how we survived 2 years long-distance across 16,000 miles, please message me and I'll give you any advice I can!
"Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what is going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity." |
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I want to make him feel special... What could I buy him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months,i want to make him feel appreciated by buying him something special and meaningful but i don't know what, any ideas?...
A. 2 June 2006: Hi there,
It's a bit hard to give you ideas when I don't personally know your boyfriend and as you said, you want to get him something meaningful and special. It is really sweet of you to be thinking of him in his way and to get him somethin... (read in full...)
I like guys and girls but in different ways. Am I the only one like this?
Q. I'm facing a problem now with regards to being sexually attracted to woman. I get attracted to men far more quicker as opposed to an ordinary girl, when I find myself attracted to a woman there is hardly, basically almost no sexual excitemen...
A. 31 May 2006: Hi there,
I don't mean to scare you or put you down in any way but it sounds to me like you may be gay. That might seem like a very frightening prospect to you right now, but it makes complete sense since you are physically, sexually, emotiona... (read in full...)
Never had intercourse with him, but am I pregnant by being fingered?
Q. Please help me by telling me what you think. I havent had sex yet, but my boyfriend and I do fool around. Fool around meaning he does finger me. I am about 6-7 days late for my period, I got sick recently, and now I am really worried that I am ...
A. 31 May 2006: I would say that since you have been sick recently, and you are stressed and worried, they are all contributing to your period being late. But do yourself a pregnancy test to ease your mind, but i'm sure it's just because you have been 'off ... (read in full...)
My husband has a low sex drive, help!
Q. I am very frustrated. I have been married only 9 months and my husband seems uninterested in sex. I am 26 and he is 28. We have no children yet.Our relationship was long distance for a year before the wedding and we only saw each other once a month. ...
A. 26 May 2006: Hi there,
I was reading back over this and it really pulled at me because I can feel how hard this is for you even though your husband sounds like he treats you wonderfully. Will you please let me know how things go?... (read in full...)
I can't keep from telling lies to, and keeping secrets from, my girlfriend!
Q. Me and my amazing girlfriend are are 19 and 18. We've been together for 2 years 4 months and 7 days now... we are both at uni and I am very very much in love with her. I have basically totally screwed things up. It started with a little lie. I n...
A. 26 May 2006: Hey there,
I can tell in your words that you are very much in love with this girl and you are just very confused as to why you are keeping things from her.
Very bad judgement on your part in visiting one of your exes a few times, have you ... (read in full...)
How can i keep my affair a secret from my sister and my boyfriend?
Q. hi i am 21 and livin with my sister whos married in london.i ve been having a secret sexual realationship with my sisters husband and he tells me that he likes me just for sex and i too like him to have sex with me only.i have a boyfriend also and ...
A. 26 May 2006: I totally agree with Martini here....
absolutely shocking behaviour.... (read in full...)
How much time apart will damage our new relationship?
Q. I have had a thing going with a girl for a while now. Last night she was talking about how she has finally moved on from last bf, and talking about what would happen if we went out. Good news, I think. Now I don't know how/when to ask her out. I'm...
A. 26 May 2006: Hi there,
How exciting for you the prospect of a new relationship! Doesn't it just make the world so much more beautiful?
Sunday night would definitely be a good time to broach the subject since you are already on a date.
Those 14 days y... (read in full...)
Agony Aunts: Are we too soft with our problems?
Q. Have things become too complicated? Do we try too hard to namby-pamby, silk-glove every type of problem instead of just saying "bite the bullet" and getting on with life ? Being honest is such a panacea (sp?) for all ills. I am serious - I worry ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hi there,
I would say definitely you are right to some extent. There are some out there that would just be 'nice' and give not-too-thoughtful advice just to get a good rating.... but I would say that the vast majority of Agony Aunts are here, gi... (read in full...)
Revision is getting in the way of us seeing each other, and I'm tired of coming second!
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I are in a long term relationshp and we've been arguing recently over his refusal to come home (he's too busy with revision etc) - even though it means he won't see me for 6weeks (we've never been apart this long). ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hey!
I agree with light_bearer here, he obviously felt bad about making you sad that he wouldn't see you for 6 weeks, so offering to come all that way back for one day says so much don't you think!?
Try to understand how he is feeling and how ... (read in full...)
He did'nt txt me back, does this mean his gone off me?
Q. I asked a boy out a week ago and we have arranged to go out next week. He is very busy at the moment looking for a new job etc and he told me last week he had an interview this week so i xted him good luck. and he didnt txt back to say thank you.Has ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hi there,
I wouldn't worry too much about this. Sounds to me like he has a lot on at the moment and I'm sure he would have been very grateful to get a 'good luck' text from a perhaps future girlfriend. Don't read anything into him not texting ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he like to talk to me every time I call?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months and he's really sweet, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me when I call, and I know he loves me because he tells me does. It means a lot to me, because i love him more ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hey!
What kind of things does he say/or not say that makes you think he doesn't want to talk to you? Some people just aren't big 'phone' talkers, I know my boyfriend isn't and it always seems that he wants to go when I call! I asked him about th... (read in full...)
Just can't bring myself to go to the next level!
Q. Hello everyone, I'll be quick and tell my "problem"... I have been with my boyfriend for about four months now and everything is good but one thing. I can't bring myself to do anything sexual with him besides making out. I want to soo bad, and I ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hey again,
I completely understand where you are coming from!
My man was 28 when we started hooking up and I was only 20. He wasn't my first, but him being so much older I had this complex that I just wouldn't be good enough and that he woul... (read in full...)
My husband has a low sex drive, help!
Q. I am very frustrated. I have been married only 9 months and my husband seems uninterested in sex. I am 26 and he is 28. We have no children yet.Our relationship was long distance for a year before the wedding and we only saw each other once a month. ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hi there,
My partner is 31 and i'm only 23 and for a while there it was always me initiating sex and he just seemed like he wasn't interested! I started to feel very insecure, with constant argument about it because he just didn't think he was d... (read in full...)
I'm ill and worried he will leave me!
Q. I've been really ill for 5 years. A year and a half ago i met my boyfriend. 4 months ago i became worse and am in and out of hospital every week. This is now a real strain on our relationship as i'm depressed and scared about my heath. I've had ...
A. 25 May 2006: Hi there,
I am sending you as much love as I can muster from New Zealand to help you through your bad times.
The way I see it is if he really loves you and would do anything for you, then he will stick by you no matter what. That is what lov... (read in full...)
Sex was a horrific experience but now he won't try it again!
Q. hi, i hope someone can help i love my boyfriend very much as he does me but we cant have sex when we attempted to have intercourse his foreskin burst in 2places the blod loss was horrific he says it cos he's to big and i'm tight now he wont attempt ...
A. 24 May 2006: Hi there,
Is this the first time ever for him having sex?
The only thing I can suggest is that you buy some KY or similar lubricant and put HEAPS on and take it very, very slowly. It would be such a shame if he didn't want to try it again, bu... (read in full...)
I've been having sex with the band teacher and I'm not excited about it. Should I stop going out with him?
Q. I am 16 right now and I have my own car, OK. Well I have band class and our band teacher asked me if I would come to his house after school for something. Well I trusted him because he is a family friend. Anyways I drove over to his house the othe...
A. 24 May 2006: Okay, this will be a short answer.
Teacher + student = healthy, learning environment.
Teacher + student + sex = ILLEGAL!
End this right now, no good whatsoever can come from this. I think you already know in your heart that this isn't the ... (read in full...)
He wants me on top, but it just doesn't work!
Q. My Boyfriend always likes me to be on top when we have sex, but I honestly can't do it! His penis keeps coming out and I can't keep control and rhythm at all. I've tried it a few times and I just can't do it. I hope this question gets posted o...
A. 24 May 2006: Hi there,
If his penis keeps coming out then maybe you are leaning too far back. Try bending over more i.e. so your face is by his (this way he can kiss your nipples at the same time!!) and instead of trying to 'bop up and down' try and just slo... (read in full...)
Bisexuality: common phase for other teens?
Q. Is it common for a teenager to go through a phase of being bisexual? I don't want to tell my parents I'm bi in case things change, as I don't know any adults who are bi, but I know lots of people my age. Is it just that it's becoming more common i...
A. 23 May 2006: Hey there,
Experimentation is all a part of life, and especially in your teenage years when you are starting to look at the world in a whole new exciting way.
When I was in my early teens, I experimented with my best girlfriend for a number of ... (read in full...)
Should I give my ex another chance and hope we can move on together?
Q. I was very much in love with my bf but he dumped me and lied about his reasons and really hurt me. We're getting on really well at the moment and we may get back together, but I'm still damaged by the pain he caused even though he's apologized and ...
A. 23 May 2006: Hi there,
You poor thing, I hope that you are starting to feel a little better after what he lied to you about. Being lied to is never fun, especially when it is something as hurtful as his reasons for ending the relationship with you.
Is he t... (read in full...)
Is it like Xmas? Better to give than receive?
Q. Is it normal to get more turned on pleasuring your partner than it is for them to pleasure you?...
A. 23 May 2006: Hi there,
Hmmm. I absolutely love pleasuring my partner,but I equally enjoy receiving!
There is no 'normal' or 'abnormal' about anything to do with sexual preferences, desires and if you get turned on more pleasuring your partner that you... (read in full...)
Am I ugly or too fat? Is that why my friend isn't interested in me?
Q. I am on my friend's computer, so I have to cut this kind of short... I just turned 15 this year, I am 5' 5" with mid back length curly hair, fairly clear skin... that all sounds good but I am 200lbs. My mom has a condition called PCOS which makes...
A. 23 May 2006: Awwww, no thank you! You have made my day also by taking heed of what I said and believing it! It is hard not to doubt ourselves sometimes, but when you eliminate that doubt, a big, bright, happy world opens up to us and let nothing stand in our ... (read in full...)
she no longer trusts me,what can i do to regain her trust?
Q. Dear Cupid, My girlfriend no longer trusts me because i kept deep personal secrets about my family from her and when i eventually told her she reacted in a way that she was mad, upset and dissappointed all in one. What should i do to get her to ...
A. 23 May 2006: Hey there,
Firstly, how long have you been together? If it's been a few years, then, as a woman, she will feel like you haven't had enough trust and faith in her to tell her your deepest, darkest secrets - that is what we females are like. W... (read in full...)
Just can't bring myself to go to the next level!
Q. Hello everyone, I'll be quick and tell my "problem"... I have been with my boyfriend for about four months now and everything is good but one thing. I can't bring myself to do anything sexual with him besides making out. I want to soo bad, and I ...
A. 23 May 2006: Hi there,
The first time for anything, especially sexual, can be very daunting. So it's completely understandable that you are apprehensive about trying these new things for the first time.
Are you worried that you won't do something right?... (read in full...)
Worried about Sis and her boyfriend... He has a temper!
Q. I'm not sure wht to think of my sister's relationship to her bf. They seem to love each other, yet there are a few flaws I worry about. My sister has been with her bf for 9 months and they are already talking about kids and marriage! She's only 16! ...
A. 23 May 2006: Hey!
She should be so grateful to have a caring sister like you! Just be careful NOT TO get too involved, otherwise you will risk jepodising your relationship with her.
Anger can do awful things to people and those they love if they don't ge... (read in full...)
We're both so stressed we snap at the slightest comment!
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going through a bit of a rough patch. She's really stressed at the moment. She's doing her exams. I'm a bit stressed cause I'm changing jobs, resulting in arguments. I try to be as supportive as I can, cause she needs it...
A. 23 May 2006: Hey!
Stress sucks doesn't it!?
I have a suggestion which I know works on me and when my boyfriend does it for me out of the blue, I feel all the stresses melting away. Next time you are with her, don't say anything, lead her over to the couc... (read in full...)
Am I ugly or too fat? Is that why my friend isn't interested in me?
Q. I am on my friend's computer, so I have to cut this kind of short... I just turned 15 this year, I am 5' 5" with mid back length curly hair, fairly clear skin... that all sounds good but I am 200lbs. My mom has a condition called PCOS which makes...
A. 23 May 2006: Hello there,
I want you to stop right there! You sound absolutely gorgeous! And no, I am not just saying that! I am 23 and have dealt with weight issues my whole life. Up until I was 18 I didn't have a boyfriend and thought it must be because ... (read in full...)
Help! Advise me on how to carry on, now that my relationship is over!
Q. Hello all. You have been a great help to me so far, so I have one final question: After a complete sham of a relationship has come to a very sticky end, how does someone regain self-esteem, confidence pride, dignity and self respect with no friends ...
A. 22 May 2006: Hello there,
You poor soul. I am on the brink of going down the same path you are now embarking on too. I am too petrified of starting again and getting back my independence and self-esteem and all the rest of it, because up until now we both ... (read in full...)
Am i paranoid? or could he be cheating?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and our relaistionship has been great. We really care about eachother and have even talked about marriage. Lately, both of us have been really busy finishing graduate school and we hardly see eachother. ...
A. 18 May 2006: Hey there,
If you have no reason to doubt other than these few text message you found, then I think, after 2 strong years together, you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
You say you have been seeing more of each other now you've finis... (read in full...)
What can I say in a horny text without sounding *stoopid*?
Q. my boyfriend and i are apart alot and he has kinda compained that i dont send him horny texts! i like recieving them from him and would love to be able please him with some but i am worried i wil sound stupid or wont know what to say after the first ...
A. 16 May 2006: Hey there!
This sounds like fun! My boyfriend and I were long-distance for 2 years and flirty and horny emails/texts bring so much fun and love into the relationship! Good on you two for not just letting that side of your relationship slide wh... (read in full...)
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