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writes: Am I about to make the biggest mistake of my life? My boyf of 6 years broke up with me 6 months ago and I've tried really hard to move on but now I've lost my job and with nowhere to live I'm living back with my parents (I'm 28!). I've just heard I've got an interview for a job abroad but I wondering if I'm just running away because I'm so unhappy. I miss my boyf tons but most of all I miss our relationship I thought we were going to marry and grow old together. He said he broke up with me because he was unhappy, but now I'm really, really unhappy and I was so very happy and totally in love with him. Am I being a fool running away or would a break be good so I can come home and get on with a new, fresh life?
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 Hey girl,
I am so sorry to hear of your break-up. These things are, in my opinion, the most heart-wrenching things to deal with in life, especially when you talked of a long life together.
It will take time for your heart and mind to heal and you are allowed to cry and breakdown every now and then - you have been through a traumatic experience so don't give yourself too hard of a time.
Take this job opportunity because it seems to me like it is a sign. You will meet so many wonderful people on your journey and I highly think that when you leave you will quickly discover a whole new world out there and a new side to yourself that you never knew existed. Try to be excited for that. I know how hard it is to not think about what you have lost, but try to focus more on what you have ultimately gained - freedom to shape and mould your life as you want it to be, to meet new and exciting people and to take those memories of your past relationship with you and learn from the mistakes and relish in the good times.
You will be okay love - it may seem like after 6 months you are still fighting with this unhappiness you are feeling, but give yourself time and take this wonderful opportunity to start a new life abroad!
Keep us posted on how you are doing! xxx
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reader, stina  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
It doesn't really sound like running away to me, but more like moving on. You can't sit around and wait for something that might never happen, you know? It will only make you feel worse because you'll be dwelling on it. And that can take a toll on you mentally, emotionally, and possibly even physically.
I think it would be great to start over and have a new, fresh life, as you say. It kind of sounds like this is where you're leaning from your post - or else you wouldn't have made it sound so positive...
Well, good luck and congratulations on the job interview!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): 6 year old relationship will take time to get over with for you. Expect and accept that. Topped by losing a job - that actually might be good for you. This may make you move to another place, job etc. Fresh surroundings should help you move on. Don't think you are 28!! I think you are only 28! Good things will happen to you again.
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