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I feel that in this site some of you may find me crast, old-fashioned and unfeeling, but I do feel for those who really try to help themselves. Some of your writings don't give enough details, so questions have to be asked in order for me to connect with what you are dealing with. I hope you understand.
I think the younger generation doesn't appreciate what the older ones share with them; however, it IS the best advice. I know God is there for me and will be for you IF you ask HIS help.
I'm attached and very happy-the second half of my life will be more meaningful and cautious. After 26 years of marriage/divorced, it's time for me to live and enjoy what is left of my life. ME time!
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Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 3 April 2008: Yuna,
How are things turning out in the mortgage world???
Gena... (read in full...)
He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 31 March 2008: Great hearing the persistancy that pays off in the end. Keep up the good work and keep TALKING!!!! Try to tone down the arguing though and keep a lower tone in your voice. It will bring his tone down if you remember to do so; plus, you don't want to ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 28 March 2008: The two of you could do this together and just have a notary sign it.
Agree to helping him, show that you paid half and signed it and visa versa.
In the event of his death or visa versa, who's getting what.
That type of thing....I am having to do... (read in full...)
After two years of dating will he ever cut all ties with his ex
Q. Am I asking for too much? I have been dating a guy for a little over two years now. When we started dating he was still married but seperated, which I did not find out until I started asking questions about the divorce. By this time, though, I ...
A. 28 March 2008: My bf and me went through divorces and we don't talk to our ex's anymore...unless it involves the kids--they're grown now though...so that is seldom, if at all.
Unless they had kids together, then he's got issues that aren't resolved betwixt ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 28 March 2008: If you are going to commit to this relationship, I suggest legal paperwork to cover your butt, Missy.
My BF wanted me to sign with him on his mtg (he just divorced) and I wouldn't because my name isn't on the deed.
(another long story with a... (read in full...)
I'm dying and having religous/spiritual questions, any insight?
Q. Hello everyone, I am dying. At times I feel have made my peace and am ready to face it whenever it does eventually come, other times I feel sort of scared. You see I was brought up Catholic as a child but as an adult I lived my life being an at...
A. 28 March 2008: Obviously, YOU BELIEVE or you wouldn't have all of these feelings and questions, right?
talk to a catholic priest is your best bet. Personally, I am christian and believe that there is life hereafter, in heaven. God will meet you at the pearly g... (read in full...)
Will my career drive a wedge between us? How can I prevent that?
Q. I'm about to leave college and start a career in journalism and I'm worried about the effect this will have on my relationship with my boyfriend. Due to severe depression in his teens my boyfriend was pulled out of school at 13, so has no ...
A. 28 March 2008: You move on with your career. He has issues you can't change or help him with. He's got to get off the XBOX and want to help himself/love himself FIRST. Not you. This is not your fault. Don't feel guilty for something you had/have no control over.
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I just lost my virginity- it hurt him because I'm really tight- will it get more comfortable?
Q. hey, i lost my virginity two weeks ago. my boyfriend said that i was 'tight' and it hurt him a bit. Anyway, we did it again and although it didnt hurt him this time it still hurt me a bit even though he was gentle and he kept asking me if he wanted ...
A. 28 March 2008: You are tense because you are anticipating pain that probably won't be there anymore once your hymen was broken.
Relax a bit and it'll come more natural..use more lubricant too. That should help. BUT, most of all relax and enjoy the moment. Get rhyt... (read in full...)
Is there a way to make my nipples more perky? Is that wierd to ask?
Q. this is a question about my nipples ..... They aren't very perky..... if you know what I mean.... is that normal ? is there a way to change that? it's a weird question I know but I need help..... so if you know anything please let me know .......
A. 28 March 2008: You're too young and still growing. Give em time--believe me. They'll perk up when they're ready and when you are too.
Gena... (read in full...)
My husband hit me--should we separate?
Q. My husband told me tonight that we should separate. He says if I went away for a year and lost some weight and sorted my pms, out he would reconsider. I am very hurt. Last week he hit me over the head with a glass and caused injury. He says it ...
A. 28 March 2008: Counseling or kick him out. Cut and dry situation. He doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve that kind of mental and physical abuse. You didn't say how long you two have been married, if your son is a minor or if you are working..own the house, ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I will lose my boyfriend because of my small breasts-help!
Q. I'm 17 and I have A cup breasts, and I'm worried my boyfriend thinks my body's ugly. He has said that he doesn't need me to have bigger breasts because he enjoys my legs and butt more. I think he's lying just to make me feel better. I'm scared that ...
A. 28 March 2008: Don't fret; I went through that mess in high school too. I hated showering with the other girls because I was the smallest in the class...BUT, good news. there are guys who don't care about the breast issues at all. Hey, think of it this way--HE HAD ... (read in full...)
Is it fair I give up ballroom dancing because my boyfriend doesn't want me dancing with other guys?
Q. My boyfriend has a problem with me dancing with another man. Do you think it's fair? Background info: I used to take ballroom dancing with my gay friend. After I dated my boyfriend, I have stopped. He doesn't like me dancing with another men beca...
A. 28 March 2008: Tell him to join you or good bye. Life's too short to have hang ups like this. Enjoy ballrooming...if he was smart, he'd learn it too.
It's like telling him to stop watching TV; he might SEE a girl on there you don't want him looking at...Jee... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I still visit my friend's grave?
Q. is it normal that I still visit my best friends grave even though hes been gone for 8 years he died of leukemia and my friends say that its not healthy to think about the deacesed, but im happy and talk to him even though he cant hear me I like to ...
A. 28 March 2008: Do what makes you feel good about your friend. YOu obviously don't want closure yet. That's okay. Don't let anyone tell you differently. Visit as often as you like.
One day, your friend will tell you it's okay not to and then you'll move on. And ... (read in full...)
Are there any alternatives to shaving or waxing 'down there'?
Q. Personally, I think that it's more attractive to be totally hairless 'down there,' but I've got incredibly sensitive skin, and whenever I shave it gets red and bumpy, and ingrown hairs all the time, which is even more unattractive! Most unfortuna...
A. 28 March 2008: Most men like it, so....... LET IT GROW, LET IT GROW, LET IT GROW!... (read in full...)
Is he really ready for commitment???
Q. Is he really ready for commitment. We've been engaged since 2005 and are living together, we've got a 9month old girl. He always go out at night every weekend and come back home in the morning. If you talk to him regarding the matter, he will ...
A. 28 March 2008: Ditch him; he's a cheater and has issues. Get child support and move on with your life. You don't deserve that kind of mental abuse, honey. LIfe's too short.
Get responsible, find a job (unless you already are working)and tell him to take a h... (read in full...)
My ring finger is shorter than the rest and has no knuckle... is this normal?
Q. dear cupid I would like to know if this is normal. On my left hand, my ring finger is shorter and has no knuckle, I have not been in any fights or anything not that I can remember of. I would like to know am I the only one with this feature and...
A. 28 March 2008: It could be a birth defect. It hasn't bothered you all this time, I wouldn't worry about it. You could talk to a doctor about it to get medical advice. Otherwise, its like the appendix...you can do without the knuckle. Gena... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants us to stay exactly the way we are... but without the sex!!!
Q. My boyfriend of a year has just broken up with me stating he does not love me. He said he just doesn't feel the same way for me as I do for him. He was having problems sexually and I don't know if this is having a bearing on things. Anyway, he ...
A. 28 March 2008: It sounds like he might be 'gay'....and just figured it out after having been with you for a while. Guys like that love having girls as friends/best friends. He needs to know you'll be there for him. So be a friend and talk, talk, talk. You may find ... (read in full...)
I'm trying soooooooooo hard to give him the space he asked for.
Q. Ok here's the story, my boyfriend and I broke up last weekend but when we talked during the week we realised that there was a few things we hadn't told each other about our relationship. So instead of splitting up totally we decided to go on a ...
A. 28 March 2008: If you agreed to take a break for a few weeks, then do so!
An ocassional phone call or text wouldn't be out of CON-text. But to smother him with daily calls/messages would be. Drop him a line letting him know you ARE thinking about him and miss him.... (read in full...)
I love sex with him but I'm tired of his lifestyle!
Q. I've met this man 18 years my senior right after my divorce. I am 45. It was lust at first sight. He makes me feel loved and wanted and I love being round him. I've been with him a year now and start to feel tired of his life style. When we are ...
A. 28 March 2008: I am 48 and found my old high school boyfriend from 30 years ago; we are living together and I love him dearly (we both are recently divorced)and I KNOW he loves me; however, I know what you mean. Sex is a big part of my life too and I LOVE IT and ... (read in full...)
My first boyfriend ever and I love him so much. He's going away with the army for six months, how will I cope?
Q. Hi There I have asked questions here before which has been a lot of help to me. Now im about to face the biggest challange of my life and need as much help as possible to do it Im 24 And i am in a reletionship This is my first relationship. I ...
A. 27 March 2008: WRITE WRITE WRITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
stay busy with family, friends, church, work.......plan for you two when you can meet again.....gives you much to look forward to and the days drop off the calendar like flies.
Good luck and hang in there.
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His comments about other women make me feel insecure, and I want to be more confident!
Q. Am a 48 year old, attractive, intelligent woman. I have been seeing this wonderful man for 4 months. Just back from holiday with him. On occasions when we are out, he'll say things like "that barmaid was gorgeous, wish I could take her home" or ...
A. 27 March 2008: Boy, are you with my ex or what???????? I was in the same boat and married, so I can only imagine just dating and feeling that way. NOTTA!
Tell him how you feel without arguing OR, better yet, do him the same way and flirt in front of him. You... (read in full...)
Why does my new boyfriend ignore me at recess?
Q. Well I'm 13 years old(girl) and I need some advice. This boy in my class(13) likes me and he asked me out. I said yes because he is so sweet. I like him too because he is really nice. So we started going out. But whenever I go out at recess, he ...
A. 27 March 2008: Honey, this is soooooooo cute...you say, "He asked me out so I said yes and we go out at recess." I remember those days....
Communication is the key. Talk away......nothing more.... (read in full...)
Should I go on the pill behind my mums back?
Q. Okay, I'm 15 and me and my boyfriend have been having sex for over 6 months. Before I had sex my periods were slightly out of time but I still had one every month, but since I started having sex, my periods have become worse and sometimes I ...
A. 27 March 2008: Lordy, girl...your mum trusts you and now you've messed up.
When she finds out you've betrayed her trust, she's going to be heartbroken. Well, don't have sex anymore until you get your ducks in a row. I mean, I made the mistake of not going on the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend created a "secret profile" on myspace! Can I trust her?
Q. hi everybody, i have a long distance relationship since 2 years. i discover recently that my girlfriend (23 years old) have created secretly a profile in my space, where she claims to be single. i asked her if she was hidding something from m...
A. 27 March 2008: Well, some folks have a 'dark side' that you may never know about. Now's the time for you to crack the whip and let the cat outta the bag.
Better find out what its all about NOW than later after you marry her or get her pregnant. Some folks li... (read in full...)
How do you know if your first love was meant to be? - please enlighten me!
Q. this is gonna be quite long so here goes..(sorry!) id just like to know do you ever forget your first love?like,is it real? im 17 but ive been on and off with my first love since i was 11...it only really kinda ended there last week..well so i...
A. 27 March 2008: Your first love will be the one who never argues, never lies, never cheats, always confides in you, and does everything he can to make you happy--just because he cares that much. That's more like a soul mate kinda love, but that's real stuff.
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He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 27 March 2008: I wouldn't 'say no' if he 'wants' to have you. I would play hard to get a bit though...sometimes teasing can bring on more lust in the love light than a total 'turn off'. Reconsider your moves before you make the wrong one.
At least he's paying a... (read in full...)
Two questions, is he looking at me or through me AND can Christians date others not of their faith?
Q. Ok two questions here, saves me posting twice. 1) How can you tell if someone is looking at you or looking through you, whether its from a distance or close up because with this lad I like I really can't seem to tell. I've tired taking pictures...
A. 26 March 2008: The bible says that if the man is wicked and the woman is of the faith--she is to stay with the man. She can help him change his ways. Visa versa. So, I would say Opposites attract and that can be a good thing.
Gena... (read in full...)
I'm ready to have sex but he wants to wait until he's older! What should I do?
Q. Hey, me and my BF have nown each other for about 1 year and 1 month we have been going out for about 6 months and we love each other sooo much... now just to get to the ponit i've felt ready with him for about 2 months and he's only just f...
A. 26 March 2008: WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GEna... (read in full...)
Why wont she believe me when I tell her she is beautiful?
Q. Hi ive recently met this girl and shes amazing, and the only thing wrong with her is her acceptance, she wont accept shes beautiful no matter how many times i tell her, how can i prove to her shes beautiful, bear in mind that ive only said she is o...
A. 25 March 2008: You have goo-goo eyes for someone you haven't seen yet?
Cute.
A passing fancy; however, you take this seriously. I understand. It could be the beauty she exudes from her writing and not a picture? YOu are so young and sweet.
Try writing poetr... (read in full...)
Have I just "spotted" something odd about my penis?
Q. Hey just a quick question really i have two or three really tiny little red dots on the head of my penis, im still a virgin and havent done any oral lately, dont think its much but just thought id check :)...
A. 25 March 2008: Tiny blood vessels is all....they come and go with hormonal changes in your body. Growth spurts, erections...its okay. Don't worry.....no sex, no worries!
Gena... (read in full...)
My ex told he he hated me and that his new partner is miles better. Why does he behave so and how should I react?
Q. Hey everyone i just would like your opinions on a situation. I'll give a bit of background info.. Me and my ex split up in june last year it was a real bad break up and i thought it was all my fault as id slept with someone whist we had split up...
A. 25 March 2008: Boy, he is so immature it stinks.......
Don't fall into his games; he's just trying to pluck your nerves. Let it go and go on with your life. He's using his GF (who, by the way...where was she that night???) to abuse the situation, that's all. My e... (read in full...)
I feel like I give him sex to swap help from him... please advise.
Q. I've just divorced my husband of 20 years and met this Englishman 18 years my senior and Im not from England. Im 45. He is trying to help to get my life on track. He has sex with me whenever he sees me. I never say no because I would be totally ...
A. 25 March 2008: I agree with all of you except the anonymous book writer...that prostitute stuff is a lame excuse for giving your body up for cash....to save a house. There are other options and MY BODY ain't one of them. Have some self respect and tell him to move ... (read in full...)
Could my future career affect my dating life?
Q. I am a 14 year old male and my cousins and friends keep trying to get me a girlfriend but the fact I want to join the military in the future as a medical technician. I dont think girls will want to date me if I wont be around in the future. Sombody ...
A. 25 March 2008: There's somebody out there for everyone. Don't let your friends push you into a relationship. YOu may find someone overseas to fit the bill. Do this at your own pace...no connections now make room for your career and a better, more stable future for ... (read in full...)
He told me I had bad breath and I am sooo embarassed!
Q. I got told the other night when I kissed someone that I had bad breath but then he was fine after, he was just like joking about and making it funny, but it so wasnt! I want to speak to him again but am so imbarressed as it was the 1st time we had ...
A. 25 March 2008: Live and learn...we all go through these things. Embarrassing, YES. And if he tells folks, then he's immature and foolish. I like the idea of a boy giving me a mint or something like that if that happened. ITs mature and if you're smart, you'll take ... (read in full...)
My husband lied about contacting his ex, he's posted near her now...I am going totally crazy!
Q. My husband is in the army and is posted to the North of England while I still live in Scotland. He comes home at weekends. We have been married for nearly 12 years and have one child, a daughter aged 9. His ex girlfirend lives near to the area...
A. 25 March 2008: Honey, don't let him take advantage of you in this way. He started this mess and how would you know if he has stopped at this point?
Ask him to be transferred and check with his superiors regarding this mess. I would put him in a precario... (read in full...)
He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 25 March 2008: Are you talking about me???? Lordy, Girlfriend. I was 27 when I had my first and only child and my ex (husband at that time) did me exactly the same way...and, unfortunately, it never changed. He lOVED blow jobs more than anything else. Of course, ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's gross to like me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl, well I'm almost 14. Recently since I've been on msn, someone added me on their list. I accepted them because I might know the person. I asked them who they were. He said his name and that he was 26. I told him I was 13. Don't ...
A. 25 March 2008: Sweety, STAY AWAY FROM MSN. You have no business being on it in the first place. Besides, he may talk you into meeting him or asking questions about where you go to school, live, play, etc...DON'T ANSWER. In fact, DON'T EVER REPLY AGAIN.
HE IS... (read in full...)
Is seeing someone else while split up cheating?
Q. Do you think he seeing someone else while we were split up is 'cheating' on me?...
A. 25 March 2008: Unless you are married........and don't have a signed settlement agreement, NO. Otherwise, the both of you are free to see who you want when you want after you've parted ways.
One may feel remorse (maybe you?) and want to consider getting ... (read in full...)
I keep testing, hoping to be 'prego', what should be my next step?
Q. OK well ! I still have no period or signs of a period. And I'm due on 3/28/2008, I had a blood preg. test on 3/23/2008 which may have been too soon but I thought I'd test anyways. I did a urine test on 3/24/2008. Both were neg. Does anyone have any ...
A. 25 March 2008: Have sex with your partner and then you have him help you stand upside down on your head in one corner of the room for 20 minutes.........................JUST KIDDING......
Be patient, please.........let nature take its course. Sometimes stressin... (read in full...)
His arguing and rudeness since our wedding is causing my love for him to disappear...I have no idea what to do.
Q. My husband of one year (although we have known each other for nearly three years) is becoming more and more insulting towards me. Prior to our marriage he was fantastic for 18 months, full of fun, loving caring and gentle. The day we got married he ...
A. 25 March 2008: Another mess in the middle ages......you'd think we'd learn.
Look, either suggest marriage counseling or tell Mr. Wrong to take a hike. He has NO RIGHTS to your house at all--Canada or USA. Call him on it the next time divorce is mentione... (read in full...)
Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?
Q. when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do...
A. 25 March 2008: You're of age.......you practice both ways. You'll know what to do after that. It cums (er,comes) natural to you after a while.
G... (read in full...)
How do you deal with the pain from having an abortion?
Q. Hey,i had an abortion 2 weeks ago and feel like i am falling apart. My family have been surportive but they dont understand. i cant talk to my friends either they are trying to help but theres nothing they can do. I just need to know that i will be ...
A. 25 March 2008: I was in your shoes about 30 years ago...emotions don't change and you never forget about it. But, time does heal and asking God for forgiveness helps too. Just don't beat yourself up about it and try to move on with your life. Do things that you ... (read in full...)
I never hear back from the boys I kiss! What am I doing wrong?
Q. I really want a boyfriend, its been so long and Im startin to feel lonely. I seem to gt boys attention but all we do is kiss at a party or when I go out but then thats it, and I never really hear back from them. And if we do talk after I always make ...
A. 25 March 2008: You are too young to be 'kissing' in the first place. I know you don't want to hear that, but most boys your age aren't ready for that overbearing behavior. Let 'them' make the move as far as an innocent kiss. Anything more than that isn't ... (read in full...)
My parents are getting divorced and my bf has asked me to move in...I'm not sure what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move into his house with him. This is not the first time in the last few weeks, this time he said that he felt our relationship had got past just being a relationship and he wanted to take it further. We havent always ...
A. 25 March 2008: I still think you need to stay with her until you can get financial secure on your own. start saving your money and work a couple part time jobs to bide the time and save, save, save. Start looking for a flat or one room--maybe with an elderly lady ... (read in full...)
My parents are getting divorced and my bf has asked me to move in...I'm not sure what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move into his house with him. This is not the first time in the last few weeks, this time he said that he felt our relationship had got past just being a relationship and he wanted to take it further. We havent always ...
A. 25 March 2008: What a mess...
Both areas need counseling. If you're not mentally stable yourself, you aren't doing either parties any good. You need space, obviously. But, I see where you can't be independant due to financial restraints--at least, for the mome... (read in full...)
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