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Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?

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Question - (25 March 2008) 28 Answers - (Newest, 28 April 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do

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A male reader, Athleticmind United States +, writes (28 April 2010):

As tempting as it may be to savor your man's cock with your mouth, until you know he's clean, STD-wise, you must have him wear a condom, and watch out for any little rips that may develop from your teeth brushing against the condom.

I know this might not be the advice you were looking for but hey, your life is more important that some guy's dick and his desire to cum.

Wait until you're both tested, and then when you just cannot wait any longer, rip those clothes off and have a feast!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010):

This might be a bit esoteric for y'all but given the choice (providing I'm in love with her) I want her to swallow. Why? because I want part of me to become part of her. I really don't see the difference between her swallowing my sperm and me swallowing her lubrication... do you?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

I just gave my boyfriend a blowjob, for the 1st time. We didnt use a condm and he came in my mouth. I swallowed, it tasted GROSS, but it made him happy, so I plan on doing it again. : )

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010):

are you serious. you are over 20 and have never had a cock in your mouth. prude.

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A male reader, Jizzjunkie United States +, writes (5 April 2010):

I have provided oral service for hundreds of other men and boys for many years. My first time was when I was 13 and I loved it. I loved hearing the moaning and groaning followed by the sudden blast into my mouth. Swallowing was and still is an automatic response for me. Besides really enjoying the taste, there is also the feeling of a job well done. It excites and pleases me in knowing that I had just pleased my guy. I'll always swallow as that represents total completion.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010):

I think it depends. If you're an adult, you can do whatever you want to. If you love him, I suggest you swallow. If you're still in high school then unless you've been dating for a while, you spit. Most boys just view it as getting head and nothing else, so in a way by cumming in your mouth they're disrespecting you. But if you've been dating for a while, I promise you it is worthwhile to swallow.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010):

personally I like it when a woman takes my load in her mouth and swallows it and sometimes when she lets it drip out of her mouth. Both are very erotic to me and her.

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A female reader, bigarter United States +, writes (8 July 2009):

bigarter agony auntI swallow regardless. If I take the cum in the front of my mouth, I get to taste it. If I take it in the way back of my throat, it just shoots on down with little taste.

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A male reader, billbraid United States +, writes (24 March 2009):

Swallow. It's a way of showing love and apprecation even if it's not something you particularly enjoy.

A relationship is give-and-take. If you love him, swallow and make him happy. My girlfriend loves to be eaten out so I'll eat her even after she works out, or first thing in the morning before she showers. It might not be as nice and sweet as normal but I love her and want to make her happy.

When I was younger I had some bi-curious experiences and swallowed the guys loads because as a man I know how much of a difference it makes.

Then again, if you're talking about just casual sex with someone you don't love, then it doesn't really matter, do whatever you prefer.

Finally, if you do let a guy cum in your mouth, just swallow it right away, you taste it a lot less and get rid of it faster than spitting it back out.

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A female reader, quirky United Kingdom +, writes (12 October 2008):

For me, I hate the mess that comes with sex. Me and my partner have used a condom once in our whole entire relationship and it was rubbish. There was hardly any lubrication and he came early because he simply wasnt enjoying it, and I wasnt either.

But then not using a condom creates mess, after sex I hate the fact that it just goes all over my nice new clean bed sheets and all down my leg and I feel dirty and I have to have a bath straight after.

When I give my partner a blow job he likes to cum in my mouth and at first I was a bit un sure about it, infact the first time I almost gagged but then I thought no cum goes any where and there is no mess! I have also discovered that if I give my partner a blow job before sex, hes pleased and then he moves on to me and I cum and then its mess free!!

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A female reader, ::it was an honest mistake:: Canada +, writes (25 April 2008):

::it was an honest mistake:: agony auntPersonally, I swallow. And I don't mind doing it at all. He thinks its "hot" and I don't think it really tastes all that bad. If you're unsure with what you want to do start it off with a blowjob and we he tells you he's about to cum then finished it with a handjob.

You either have to clean up the mess, or there is no mess required.

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A female reader, pixeydust United States +, writes (24 April 2008):

pixeydust agony auntI love to swallow. I love watching his reaction. He is always making the remark that he loves to cum down my throat, and I don't mind it. I love going down on him until he can't hold back any longer and I swallow. He doesn't taste bad...in my opinion anyway. You can always try it, if it tastes bad, you know not to do it that way again, a bit of advice though it really is easier to swallow that to spit. The first few times that you swallow you might gag, but when you spit the taste buds in the front of your mouth are stronger than the ones in the back, if you spit, then you'll taste it more. If he comes in your mouth you have to make a decision either way.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008):

I am bi-sexual, and I love to swallow and it makes the guys feel good

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008):

There seems to be a lot here about the taste of it, and how you might not like it. Only way is to try it ...

Personally I've always found it delicious : )

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

I'm 40 yo married woman and very oral. I've always have had to be in a good relationship before I would swallow just so I would have a better idea of who I'm with. But after that I always swallow. It's very erotic for me. I love having him in my mouth and feeling him explode. I think the taste is very sensual and organic.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008):

you can do what ever you like, you can have a wash towel or tissue/napkin present and be ready, but if it goes in your mouth there are some STDs that can be obtained. if you know he has no SDTs, you can spit or swallow, most girls think it is gross to swallow (but if the head of his penis is already in the back of you mouth, and you spit, you will taste all the cum, (more so then if you swallow, cause it wont have to pass the tongue so much )) its realy what you want but be safe, some people even use condoms for this

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008):

If you don't like the taste there is no difference in spit or swallow. Either way its in your mouth and you can taste it. If your going to let him cum into your mouth you might as well swallow because its less messy. If you can't stand the taste have him let you know when he's really close and then switch to a handjob. Then you just use a towel or napkin to clean him up and add a few kisses around the area and his stomach. If you decide to try swallowing remember it may take SEVERAL times for you to become used to the taste. If I'm really turned on I like to swallow. If I'm doing it more for him like during my time of the month, I finish with a hj because it doesn't taste as well. It doesn't have to be only one way or the other. But, DO NOT DO ANYTHING,YOU DISLIKE! The main thing is for BOTH of you to be having fun!!!!

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A male reader, wildman United States +, writes (25 March 2008):

wildman agony auntSwallow is best for the guy I feel but I can certainly understand not doing that. My wife back when she was doing that kind of thing would take the full load then spit it out on a towel or something else.

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A female reader, BigSis United Kingdom +, writes (25 March 2008):

BigSis agony auntThe choice is yours, it's not such a bad taste.

A man’s ejaculate is actually only 1% sperm. The rest is composed of various proteins, vitamins, sugars, salts, cholesterol, and water.

All the extras are what protect, feed and fuel the sperm in it's journey.

It’s fairly obvious that what you eat will make it taste better or worse!

So if you love the taste of curry feed him plenty of Madras, if you love Chinese - sweet and sour chicken will do the trick.

I've also heard it's wonderful for the complexion too. People have often told me I look 20 years younger than I actually am!! Now I know why....

...so my advice is; Swallow - because you're worth it. : )

Eat, drink and enjoy!

BigSis xXx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

As others have said, the first and most important thing is to make sure of his sexual history and that he is safe. My wife and another girlfriend whom I dated many years ago always swallowed. The taste is something that you will probably have to get used to. How salty it is will depend on the guys diet, as will the taste. I eat low salt foods, so my wife says that it isn't salty. She can always tell if we have gone to a Chinese buffet and does it the day after, as I am much saltier. I can also vouch that it doesn't taste very good, as I have given her oral after sex many times. It's not that bad, however.

I was the first guy that she ever did it with and she has told me about the first time with me. She had to remind herself to swallow after, like gulp. She then looked up at me and smiled. She actually liked it, as it was very erotic for her and has liked it ever since.

If you just cannot swallow, you can still make it very erotic for the guy. Just look at him and allow it to run slowly out of your mouth. That is maybe a bigger turn-on than swallowing.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (25 March 2008):

DoubleM agony auntPretty much as the others have said below, as long as you are certain your boyfriend is healthy and disease free, it's all up to you. For your first time, you could just give a hand job, and you might consider taking a lick after he cums for a flavor test. If really yucky, you'll know that taking his full load in your mouth will be no picnic. It would be time to discretely spit. I guess.

I've been told by women that some men's sperm tastes very different than others - some is apparently really bad, yet some rather pleasant - although most is always quite salty to some degree. It is said that a man may sweeten the flavor somewhat by consuming a good deal of fruit and drinking fruit drinks for 24 hours or more before oral sex is likely, which I do and have received no complaints. Pineapple and cherries are my choice. It is also thought that heavy coffee drinking, eating beef or liver, too much alcohol, and consumption of certain vegetables like asparagus and broccoli lend an unpleasant taste. Some medications and even vitamins may transmit an unpleasant flavor, but I think multivitamins are good for both partners.

Ultimately, the decision remains your own and you should not be coerced. In my opinion, a gentleman who enjoys releasing for his woman this way will never be pushy about it, or perhaps even ask. My preference is simply to allow her attention and enjoy it, and when about time, to simply ask her if she wants me to let go. Thank goodness most say yes . . .

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A female reader, Gena Bullock United States +, writes (25 March 2008):

Gena Bullock agony auntYou're of age.......you practice both ways. You'll know what to do after that. It cums (er,comes) natural to you after a while.

G

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

GET IT SWALLOWED LOVEY !!!!!=]

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (25 March 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntSpit, swallow or, if you are japanese, tricks.

Remember that semen is a prime carrier of STD's so unless you are sure the guy is clean the real question should be "how do I deal with the taste of rubber".

As said, some women can't stand the taste, others love it and yet others are alergic to it (yes really).

Just take it slowly, no need to be an expert on the first try. Set your limits of what you are comfortable doing.

If he tries to get you to swallow with some bullshit story, just demand he takes the first sip.

But really, USE A CONDOM.

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A female reader, lilemostar United Kingdom +, writes (25 March 2008):

lilemostar agony auntHand job you dont really erm need to worry about spitting or swallowing. Just wash it off anyway.

Blow Job. I advise using a condom. You might not know the guy's sexual history and if you swallow then you may find yourself with an STI. Use a condom if you are unsure of his sexual history. You can get flavoured ones to use if you dont like the taste of them normal.

However if you do know his sexual history or he's a virgin then I suggest doing whatever your comfortable with. Spitting might be a nicer thing for you because cum doesnt taste all that nice. However a guy might appreciate it more if you swallow. Do what your comfortable with though and not what a guy has forced you into.

One last point. If you get cold sores then use a condom because if you have oral sex with cold sores + no protection then he can develop herpes from this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

Keep a towl near you. If you don't tolerate the liquid very well you can spit, than use the towel to wipe him delicately (just a few moves) then kiss him all over the place to show how much you enjoyed doing it and to show the pleasure of feeling him there, that has nothing to do with swallowing. It can be wonderful... but irrespective of hygiene, it can happen that you're not accustomed with the taste so it takes practice(or not.) Just kissing him there and feeling him with your tongue can be heaven, there is no need to do more if you are not accustomed... Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

Uhh personally i spit it out, if possible I don't even want it in my mouth at all. Cum tastes nasty... it's not exactly candy you know or else I wouldn't mind so much. My boyfriend laughs at me every time because the look I have on my face could curdle butter.

But yeah... to each his own. I know boys love it, it gives them an ego trip, like "I'm the man, whoo ha". But my bf and I are close enough that I don't have to make myself uncomfortable just to make him feel like the man that I love.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

You do whatever you're comfortable with honey. A lot of girls refuse to swallow, and as long as you explain to your guy when you're not choosing to swallow, then he should be fine with it. But if you want, swallow away!

Some women find it tastes awful, some love the taste. But if you want to swallow without actually having to really taste it much, get him to give you a signal when he's about to cum and then you can put his penis right to the back of your mouth, and it just goes straight down your throat :]

But remember, it's not poison! It's him showing you how much he loves what you're doing :]

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