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I feel that in this site some of you may find me crast, old-fashioned and unfeeling, but I do feel for those who really try to help themselves. Some of your writings don't give enough details, so questions have to be asked in order for me to connect with what you are dealing with. I hope you understand.
I think the younger generation doesn't appreciate what the older ones share with them; however, it IS the best advice. I know God is there for me and will be for you IF you ask HIS help.
I'm attached and very happy-the second half of my life will be more meaningful and cautious. After 26 years of marriage/divorced, it's time for me to live and enjoy what is left of my life. ME time!
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My parents are getting divorced and my bf has asked me to move in...I'm not sure what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move into his house with him. This is not the first time in the last few weeks, this time he said that he felt our relationship had got past just being a relationship and he wanted to take it further. We havent always ...
A. 25 March 2008: I still think you need to stay with her until you can get financial secure on your own. start saving your money and work a couple part time jobs to bide the time and save, save, save. Start looking for a flat or one room--maybe with an elderly lady ... (read in full...)
Lack of trust on his part...do I deserve my privacy?
Q. I've been with my fiance now for almost 4 years, but over the past year he has suddenly started to not trust me. He keeps checking my text messages when I'm not around and he finds out passwords to my e-mail accounts and checks those too. He hates ...
A. 25 March 2008: He's heard something from someone regarding your private life, so he's invading and has major insecurities all of a sudden.
Try to discuss this openly without argument. Let him know that you will not tolerate his behavior any longer. You are not ... (read in full...)
My parents are getting divorced and my bf has asked me to move in...I'm not sure what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move into his house with him. This is not the first time in the last few weeks, this time he said that he felt our relationship had got past just being a relationship and he wanted to take it further. We havent always ...
A. 25 March 2008: What a mess...
Both areas need counseling. If you're not mentally stable yourself, you aren't doing either parties any good. You need space, obviously. But, I see where you can't be independant due to financial restraints--at least, for the mome... (read in full...)
He hasn't responded to my petition for divorce...any ideas why?
Q. I am at the moment going through the stage of divorcing my enotionally and sometimes physically abusive ex. The last time I saw him was the beginning of dec when he caused criminal damage to my car. For the first time ever I stood up to him and got ...
A. 25 March 2008: It sounds like he's possessive, to me. He doesn't want to give you up, however, he does want to continue to harrass and abuse you in any way possible. I would NOT under ANY circumstnaces, see him in private--no matter what. He is obviously unstable ... (read in full...)
One moment my BF acts like we are a couple, the next he doesn't want to know, why?
Q. hi people! ok so here's my problem. I'm currently going out with my boyfriend and I love him to bits! He says he loves me the same, more than anything he says. We mess about you know talking about sex and what have you and some days he's like "I l...
A. 20 March 2008: As you stated, "I won't do it anyway," and he's thinking about 'doing it' so plan on having some pressure from him on that subject. He's testing the waters right now and not sure what he wants...most boys ya'lls age look for the girl to make the ... (read in full...)
How can I ejaculate?
Q. i'm a 23 year women and i want to find out how to ejaculate b/c my husband and i would like to try it so if anyone can help please let me know. ...
A. 20 March 2008: By the way, it's called an 'orgasm.' Sorry, I had a brain fart earlier.....teehee! :-)... (read in full...)
I'm eighteen and my breasts are really small! What can I do?
Q. i am an 18 year old female, with small breasts, im still wearing a 32 a. It is really embarasing when i c other women or girls even younger than me with bigger breast than i. I really need help will my breasts ever grow? i am even self consious when ...
A. 20 March 2008: Sweetheart, I had the same issues you are going through now. You will appreicate it when you are my age (48) because they are perky and firm as can be now! from a 32 to a 34B, but most women my age have ones that hang to their belly buttons! So feel ... (read in full...)
How can I ejaculate?
Q. i'm a 23 year women and i want to find out how to ejaculate b/c my husband and i would like to try it so if anyone can help please let me know. ...
A. 20 March 2008: First of all, women don't 'ejaculate,' they cum. You can squirt or spurt a stream of juices, if you may call it that, but ejaculate, not technically.
It is rare that women can do this (statistically, one in ten), but it is possible to build up... (read in full...)
How can I ejaculate?
Q. i'm a 23 year women and i want to find out how to ejaculate b/c my husband and i would like to try it so if anyone can help please let me know. ...
A. 20 March 2008: First of all, women don't 'ejaculate,' they cum. You can squirt or spurt a stream of juices, if you may call it that, but ejaculate, not technically.
It is rare that women can do this (statistically, one in ten), but it is possible to build up... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend wants me to go naked in front of my webcam..I feel awkward and like I'm doing something wrong!
Q. I am from a conservative family. yet i have opened up to my bf and have had sex with him many times. it is a long distance relationship. now i got a webcam and he wants me to go naked in front of it. although i trust him i feel awkward and i told ...
A. 19 March 2008: You will be if you go on webcam; it can be taped and put on porn sites. I wouldn't chance it one iota, Dear. If he loves you, he wouldn't dare ask you to do such a thing. Hey, better yet...ASK HIM to do it first! I'll bet that'll dampen the mood. ... (read in full...)
How can a man be in a relationship with one woman and have another one on the side?
Q. why do men act as if they are god? how can a man be in a relationship with one woman then have a nother on side as cutt buddie explain? ...
A. 19 March 2008: experimenting...and insecurities, mostly. Not ready for commitment with one female for a moral lifetime. Even after one marries a man like that, they 'hound dog' elsewhere and you eventually find it out. Sad, but true.
If there were true interest... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but the only thing we do together is go to the movies with his friends...Any advice?
Q. me and my bf have been dating for 6 months and 8 days. i really do love he says he loves me too but im not sure if he really does because he always says he wants to hang out with me but then he always blows me off to go do something else. then he ...
A. 19 March 2008: Not alot to go on; however, whats the thing about sex??? Any? Maybe he's distracted by someone else? You two either need to talk or move on.
Gena Bullock... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me some idea of what might be going through his head?
Q. I went out with a pal about a year and half ago. We went out for about 4 months. But before we were really close friends. Even now, since the breakup, he tries to avoid me, (example, ill walk into a room and he'll then leave). can anyone give me ...
A. 19 March 2008: Ask him! what have you got to lose? Just corner him and ask what gives? I would! That's childish for him to act that way in the first place. You two were friends before and whatever drove him away could be the problem still in his mind. Ask away!
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Sexuality dilemma...I'm falling for my best friend who denies being gay...
Q. Hey, i have never really used one of these things but it doesn't seem like a bad idea. i am a gay lad and i'm quite open about it but my problem is that i think i'm falling for my best friend, but his sexuality is some what questionable. he denies ...
A. 19 March 2008: First of all, if you're OUT THERE then why are you telling folks you aren't gay??? Be true to yourself and then talk to your friend openly about the situation. Don't just 'wonder' about it anymore. Communicate the issue.
IT's the best way to handl... (read in full...)
I've left 10 texts to my boyfriend with no response, does he still care?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for two months. now, we are on spring break and he hasn't text me back. i have left at least ten plus messages. do you think that hes doesn't care about me anymore or that our relationship is over? ...
A. 19 March 2008: Yes.......it is over.
sorry, puddin'.
Gena... (read in full...)
He is still "in love" with me so why does he have a new girlfriend?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I of almost 2 years had a seemingly great relationship. A few problems that would occur would mainly be because of me. I always pushed him away whenever he got too close. I was at times selfish. He's the most amazing boyfriend ...
A. 19 March 2008: Her feelings are no dumber than yours, honey. think about it...but remember, you are not doing yourself justice by hanging on to someone who says THEY STILL ARE IN LOVE with you when they were sneaking behind your back with another girl. He's not ... (read in full...)
What is "constructive critism"? My boyfriend doesn't believe in it...
Q. Is there such a thing as constructive critism. My boyfriend says there isn't and that it a saying made up by business people. He says in reality its an oxymoron. Weve argued about it but he's adamant theres no such thing. Can you help?...
A. 19 March 2008: definition: Constructive criticism is a compassionate attitude towards the person qualified for criticism. Having higher experience, gifts, respect, knowledge in specific field and being able to verbally convince at the same time, this person is ... (read in full...)
Husband is drinking more and ignoring us....what can I do?
Q. I have been married almost 3 years and been with my husband for a total of 7 1/2 years. we have two beautiful little girls and we have had our little fights but nothing major. Here in the past two months he has changed. he has started drinking more ...
A. 19 March 2008: Is he working and supporting you and the girls? It sounds like his father is leading him into temptation and NOT delivering him from evil. Look out for YOU and those sweet lil' girls, honey.
If he doesn't want to change, you can't make him. Let... (read in full...)
Hurt, worried, confused
Q. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together for a month and a half. Every time we try to get together something happens in his family. Like one time we were going to celebrate winning our basketball games by getting shrimp because it's our ...
A. 19 March 2008: It sounds like just episode after episode of 'tests' going on in your lives. Not him testing you, but God testing your patience/both of you.
If he hasn't blown you off, why don't you call and ask to meet again--try once more. Who knows, it could... (read in full...)
Should I get in touch???
Q. Hey all, My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and im still very much in love with him... Im one of these girls that 'love to much' so i find it hard to move on, but im trying very hard. He's moved on and is seeing other people. I work with him an...
A. 19 March 2008: Yes, by all means text only. at least he'll know your concerned about his dad. If he's still interested, more will follow. If not, let it go. I know it hurts, but you will be better off not drawing for straws. More fishes in the big wide sea...and ... (read in full...)
I masturbate and imagine I'm making out with someone, Help!!
Q. Hey I'm around the age of 12-14. I don't have a computer of my own but I have looked at porn on my gma's computer. I am always scared that she will find out and that other people will find out. Also when I am home alone I masturbate and act like ...
A. 19 March 2008: You are as normal as they come, sweetie. I'd be careful about looking at porn on your gma's 'puter though...use your imagination in the privacy of your bedroom/bathroom.
save yourself your gma/parents any embarrassment, okay?
you're fine...:-) ... (read in full...)
The thought of being without her is more than I can handle.
Q. I have been in love with this one girl forever. We are good friends. I have told her how I felt about her when she had a boyfriend. She is now single and we still hang out but I am worried that we may never work out. The thought of this makes me ...
A. 19 March 2008: You NEED to communicate those feelings to her, dearie. Don't ever bottle up things like this inside. If you are as good friends as you say you are and have been, then she's going to understand. Give it a try! It's better than being miserable. I ... (read in full...)
It really turns my boyfriend on to think of me having sex with other men - he even wants me to tape it!!!
Q. Well I really need some advice I've been dating this guy for 2 years. I fell in love with him everything amazing he was my first the sex amazing the bond pretty much everything I ever wanted but all of a sudden we started opening up and it really ...
A. 19 March 2008: Don't you dare do anything so awful! My ex-husband used to want to do that with me too; except him either watching or taping or he involved....2 women or me with another woman.
Its just not appropriate if you have morals.
That's a shame that h... (read in full...)
When I finally miss them, they seem to stop missing me!?
Q. Why is it whenever I go out with a guy in the beguining they act like they can't get enough of me, then that goes away and they seem to be fine to not see me every single day??? Usualy when I first meet a guy they are all over me and I am a bit u...
A. 19 March 2008: Yep, your BF is about 2 years behind the maturity level of you right now. His emotional side hasn't kicked in yet and it may take until he's in his early/mid 20's before he realizes that girls/women have feelings and require MORE than just sex or ... (read in full...)
I am lost, I think I know what I want, but I lie so much I don't know what I even want.
Q. I am a 22 year old, in the Marines; I have been on a deployment to Iraq and preparing for another one. I was young when I first had my long relationship in high school and continued into the Marines. She broke up with me and it hurt me. I then ...
A. 18 March 2008: thanks for the comments, i still dont know what i should do. should i try to see her before i leave for almost a year, or should i not see her and give her time? i want to give her time and i also need time to fix myself.
NO MATTER what you dec... (read in full...)
He accused me for having had sex with somebody else previously that night, how do I prove him wrong??
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex the other night and everything was great until we stopped to change positions. At that point, he touched his penis and felt something he described as "white and sticky". I saw what he was talking about and didn't ...
A. 18 March 2008: Yes, the exact same thing happened to me a long time ago; my bo thought I'd been with my ex and it ended up that I had a yeast infection coming on.
I explained it to him the next time we met and that was that. However, men don't know the woman's ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband and now he realises what he has done for me and the little I contributed! What to do??
Q. Hi i hope you can help me, i've done a stupid thing. I've been married to my husband 3 years, he's gradually lost touch with most of his friends, whilst i still meet up with mine. Anyway i met up with this guy and one thing led to another and we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Counseling, if you two can't communicate.Good luck.... (read in full...)
I have never had an orgasm, what is wrong with me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I feel ridculous. I want to start by saying I've never done anything like this before but I'm very concerned, ashamed, sad, and desperate. I have never had an orgasm. What is worng with me and how do I fix it? Thanks...
A. 18 March 2008: You can't fix an orgasm or lack of having one, dearie.
You are tensed up from your first time and expecting too much right away.
Relax and let nature take its course; practice, practice, practice...SAFELY, that is. Some women never have an orga... (read in full...)
Can you get a STD from the liquids that are secreted from the vagina?
Q. Can you get a STD from the liquids that are secreted from the vagina? Ever since I had sex with my girlfriend one year ago my anus area has itched and burned - I used a condom and we did it cowgirl position - she does have herpes I'm to...
A. 18 March 2008: To heck with the shyness; get a test! YES, you CAN get herpes from the secretions...!!!!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really pissing me off right now!
Q. It was my birthday yesterday. My boyfriend did not get me anything but on Saturday his Nan gave him £30 to go to town and get me something. He said he wanted to go to Margate so I was like oh fair enough. About 3 hours later he had returned...
A. 18 March 2008: Miracles,
You need to get another boyfriend. Besides, he is TOO YOUNG to be drinking in the first place. Sorry about your Birthday. You cannot make someone do what you want or make them change unless THEY want to. Try talking when he's sober an... (read in full...)
How to tackle my husband?
Q. My husband is nice but he gave all his property and money to his parents and sisters without knowing me. Now he says I will save again for you. Usually we have fights almost every day because of his stupidity. I know everyone likes their parents but ...
A. 18 March 2008: I agree with one of the other aunts, you need to clarify some of your statements in order for us to be able to better help you.
Like, how long have you two been married? When did he give his parents/sisters the money? Do you have children from ano... (read in full...)
How to attract males when overweight and unattractive?
Q. I am a 21 year old female who is very overweight and unattractive. I am attempting to tackle my weight issue, but it is going slowly. No men ever show any interest in me, while my other friends are constantly getting male attention or are in...
A. 18 March 2008: Join a dieting group and exercise class; get involved with folks in your same predicament. Support groups are great and you can meet new people and work together at accomplishing the same goals. It IS a slow process, but the results are amazing. ... (read in full...)
When I finally miss them, they seem to stop missing me!?
Q. Why is it whenever I go out with a guy in the beguining they act like they can't get enough of me, then that goes away and they seem to be fine to not see me every single day??? Usualy when I first meet a guy they are all over me and I am a bit u...
A. 18 March 2008: I didn't see any age group for you, so it can be that you're a teenager and the boys are just getting what they want and not thinking about the emotional side of how you feel. It could happen in your 20's too, I suppose.
I think it's just part of ... (read in full...)
I feel more intensely by oral or fingering, than actual sex! Normal?
Q. I have a few things i've been wondering for a while and that... When me and my Boyfriend have sex, i don't really feel a lot, and we've tried other ways but i still don't feel that much, i always thought it would be this great feeling, but i f...
A. 18 March 2008: The whole thing is a learning process; some things just have to come natural, that's all. You're young and experimenting is part of the excitement of it all. Don't stress over it, although for you it seems aggravating.
If he's not too upset ab... (read in full...)
My periods are delayed again and it's confusing. How could it affect conceiving?
Q. I would like to get pregnant and have been trying for a nearly a year this May.I already have a daughter of 6 years. This is the second time my periods have been 4 days late and on the 4th day they start and are very painfull. My preiods were always ...
A. 18 March 2008: I'm not sure if you are under any kind of stress that is causing these problems; however, maybe a visit or phone call to your gyno would be well advised. It never hurts to get the right answers from a professional.
Have you taken a pregnanc... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex. How do I stop this?
Q. hi my name is michele and i am 15 years old. well i have been with my boyfrined for 7 months and he is rushing me into things that i dont want to do. how can i stop this from happening. thanks michele P.s please help...
A. 18 March 2008: Michele:
Don't do anything you aren't ready for, honey. His level of maturity is far behind yours as that is typical of most males/females your age group.
If he can't wait until you are ready and respect your feelings, then he needs to have a ... (read in full...)
I am lost, I think I know what I want, but I lie so much I don't know what I even want.
Q. I am a 22 year old, in the Marines; I have been on a deployment to Iraq and preparing for another one. I was young when I first had my long relationship in high school and continued into the Marines. She broke up with me and it hurt me. I then ...
A. 17 March 2008: You are young and have a lot of growing up to do, sjg916. I have a daughter, 21, who has a husband in the Army...he was deployed once for a year in Iraq, came home (i.e. base) with her and had been drinking and smoking cigs. He didn't get counseling ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel and risk our friendship or just leave it as it is?
Q. Ok this is like really long. Sorry So theres this girl. Annie, And we've been friends for about 8 months I met her threw my ex boyfriends friend. we both go to the same school. and im really starting to like her we have made out about 10 time...
A. 17 March 2008: Obviously, she's not interested in having a 'tight' relationship with you, so keep it on a friendly level and leave it at that. Things could change as you grow older and more mature--the both of you, that is. Best wishes, Gena... (read in full...)
Is my sister jealous of me?
Q. I am getting married in October and my sister is my maid of honor. She was trying on dresses and said she wanted to find a dress with a loose belly area so it can stretch if she "gets pregnant from now to October". I know it's horrible to feel this ...
A. 17 March 2008: Have you two had thunder theft in the past? Maybe having her as your maid of honor wasn't thought out to well. If this is a sign of past behavior you have time to change your mind regarding her status in the wedding, you know. If this means that ... (read in full...)
Deep secret from my past!! Will it effect my future
Q. I believe i was abused when i was very young by my father. I am still a virgin because I choose to be but I wonder why I am not really interested in having sex. I am scared that what happened when I was little(eventhough I cannot remember it because ...
A. 17 March 2008: Have you tried to talk to your mother about this? Do you recall anything in the episode(s) that triggers this type of behavior OR is there something that he's doing now that triggers it?
I would seek counseling to get this out in the open and ease... (read in full...)
Painfull sex, sugestions please!!!
Q. I've slept with my bf of 6 months now for the 1st time about 4 months ago now, but every attempt at sex since and including then has either been painful for him or I'm just not getting anything out of it. We've tried so many different position some ...
A. 17 March 2008: Your BF needs to get a physical. He is too young to be having such 'pains' so there may be something physcial going on that needs tending to. Go with him for support.
Good luck. There's nothing more frustrating and if you care, you'll help him see ... (read in full...)
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