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writes:I've met this man 18 years my senior right after my divorce. I am 45. It was lust at first sight. He makes me feel loved and wanted and I love being round him. I've been with him a year now and start to feel tired of his life style. When we are together we just go to garden centre or grocery shopping at supermarket or watching telly at home. I love sex and it's my weakness. He does all sorts to satisfy me in bed and I find it hard to leave him. Please advise.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Why don't you two take turns planning the day's events? Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Sunday he decides, then Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday you decide.
It sounds like you've got a great guy here; if you're bored with the daily life but not with the sex, then maybe you need to organize some activities that both of you might enjoy doing.
Wishing you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): You sound like the silent partner, waiting for him to take the lead and make all the decisions. In the beginning of relationships, men enjoy taking the lead and pampering their woman. But as time goes on, men do reckognize that they are a creature of habit, that they have a routine. To us men, we have presented everything we got. If the woman becomes bored with this, then either she needs to leave, or she needs to participate in a 50/50 way and offer to take the lead and give back to the man with things she likes to do. Men like being pampered to, just as men like like to be sexually pleased by there partner: the woman takes the lead. If the woman does not step up and take the lead at some point in the relationship, the man may begin to feel that he has a high maintenance woman and he just can't keep up. This is when you see the man withdrawing: it is a sign there is problems brewing.
So I suggest to you, that you start giving back.
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (28 March 2008):
 I am 48 and found my old high school boyfriend from 30 years ago; we are living together and I love him dearly (we both are recently divorced)and I KNOW he loves me; however, I know what you mean. Sex is a big part of my life too and I LOVE IT and have to have it kinda thing. It's weird, but I guess we're in our midlife crisis.
It seems you are in a rut with this man. Have you ever suggested going on a mystery ride or a movie, visit friends, have a cook out and invite another couple over...intergrate time with each others kids/grand kids??? anything????
It really helps to have outside interests...that's in any relationship. Lemme know........Gena
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