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My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?
Q. *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...
A. 24 January 2014: CindyCares just said very interesting things about your case - for what we can know of it - and if I had to tell further, as she may be right, your husband is MAYBE afraid of his new responsibilities.
As said CindyCares, doesn't he feel he marri... (read in full...)
Should I tell my guy that I slept with a friend while we were broken up?
Q. I'm in a messed up situation that I can't see out without losing my boyfriend who I have been with for three years. Basically, last September I had a miscarriage during my 9th week of pregnancy. We had only known for 2 weeks when I lost our baby...
A. 24 January 2014: I too agree with a lot of people here even if it's a little bit disturbing from your boyfriend's point of view: you were not a couple anymore.
Yet, you are a couple again, and this "accident" is not without consequence as this period can be re-co... (read in full...)
My wife of 31 years is no longer interested in sex!
Q. I really need to know what to do when my wife of 37 yrs. say she is not interested in sex anymore.I am 57 yrs and she is 51yrs....
A. 24 January 2014: It can be a lot of things.
1. Menopause.
2. She is cheating on you.
3. She is dissatisfied of her/your look.
4. She or you (or both) have developed a funny smell (sorry but it's frequent with age).
5. She has too many worries in head, str... (read in full...)
My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?
Q. *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...
A. 24 January 2014: A lot of good opinions have been given to you by two people I praise for their always-good advices they provide here, Chigirl and Tisha-1 (sorry for the rest, who said good things too). But there is a question that have not been dealt with: what... (read in full...)
Penises freak me out!
Q. Ok I'll cut straight to it; penis' freak me out! My boyfriend and I were doing some..."fun stuff" and I went to give him oral and...well once it was in my mouth I completely freaked out to the point where i cried (not while I was still down there, ...
A. 23 January 2014: As already said below, it's the sign you are not (totally) ready for sex. You are not mature enough and be persuaded it's not a bad thing to be young and innocent. One day, be sure you will regret this state, around your 40's, once you will have had ... (read in full...)
How can I get over such a devastatingly intense physical attraction?
Q. First of all, I would like to begin with a disclaimer that I have absolutely zero intentions of attempting to get close to this man. But somehow, I simply cannot get him out of my mind. Here is the back story: I am studying a very specific tr...
A. 11 January 2014: Don't excuse yourself, and don't feel stupid or anything wrong, you have experienced the touch of primal sex power. That's pure instinct and hormonal. But now, you are able to talk about how primal sex drive can be a dictator on some people, who... (read in full...)
Would she be offended if I asked her to wear a wig during sex?
Q. I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years, we're both divorced and not rushing into marriage. she lives with me weekdays being I'm very close to where she works. We have a good relationship and I don't want to rock the boat asking her to wear a wig. ...
A. 8 January 2014: A wig ? Oh no, I would feel I'm having an intercourse with a transvestite (cf: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bc80tFJpTuo ). Joke apart, I think in a couple, one has to be considered oneself made for the other one. There are sure limits to what c... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to send ex a hate letter?
Q. I wrote a 3 page letter telling my ex how much I hate him. He had records of cheating and every time I forgave him and took him back. He's a liar and never changed. I'm so pissed and don't deserve after what I've done for him. So people said don't ...
A. 8 January 2014: Everything has been (well said). Each opinion below are very right and you'd better take these advices as they are good and will help you save the face.
If I had just two things to add, I would say DON'T send your letter as it will maybe be shown... (read in full...)
The wonderful man turned into a beast, how can I move on from this?
Q. I don't really know why I'm writing on here, maybe just to get some advice on how to deal with it. Me and this man were good friends for 5 years. We met through mutual friends and hit it off straight away but were both in relationships an...
A. 6 January 2014: I would say this man suffers from a Bipolar disorder. His behaviour reminds us the one of the dear Phil Spector, sometimes charming, sweet and clever, sometimes furious and threatfull.
If it's over, very well for you because this sort of sickness... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 6 January 2014: In one word like in hundred: STOP ! It's high time to put an end to this crazyness. Save your life with your money. Make the puppet master be the puppet. Burst your own French Revolution, as the day to cut your Queen's head has come.
Under... (read in full...)
Women, what turns you on? Why wasn't I attracted to a really hot guy?
Q. Girls, what do you think of penis'? Are you turned on by them? Do you enjoy giving blow jobs or do you do it mostly b/c you love your man and want to pleasure him? What do you enjoy most about a guy? What turns you on? Just him doing stuff to you or ...
A. 6 January 2014: Well, that's the same in regard of men dealing with superb women. A lot of them find these creatures fantastic and admirable but... but when it comes to attraction, a nice/kind/chearful/smilling girl is far more sexy than a very super-beautiful ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast so we are starting again!
Q. I've been dating this girl off and on for about 4 months now and i've clearly messed up by letting my emotions get in the way by having sex with her a couple of times, the 2nd month we've meet. I am deeply regretting having intercourse with her this ...
A. 6 January 2014: OK, here is my opinion, which is only AN opinion. I would say that story is quite funny as you had sex before being sure of your mutual feelings. That's very a 21rst century (twisted) love story, like that movies where the cop or the "good guy" kill ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts too much! Is it possible to just be sexually incompatible with someone?
Q. So I have what feels to me like a pretty awkward question. I've tried researching online but can't find anything useful. I've been with my boyfriend on and off for two years now. He took my virginity and we've always been great together. Apart ...
A. 5 January 2014: OP: Is there such a thing as just being sexually incompatible with someone?
Answer: yes. Anyway, if your genitals work fine with other guys but not with him, it tells enough there is a (big) problem between you both. Why insisting ?... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex said he will always love me but doesn't want me back?
Q. My ex and I started contact few days ago because I found out he has a new girlfriend after we broke up. I told him I was sad and never wanted to know who the girl is and anything about them. He came back to me 3 months after dumping me, but I didn't ...
A. 5 January 2014: You answered your own question (as it is often the case): he's just saying what you want to hear.
What for ? Who knows, maybe in order to get you at hand, when needed ? Anyway, your "love" story is dead, wanting to re-animate that link has the ... (read in full...)
How do I get her back without pushing?
Q. My ex left me a year ago, because I broke her trust. I didn't cheat on her or anything like that. I went through her phone because I thought she might have been cheating. I told her what I did because I felt guilty for what I did, and she said that ...
A. 3 January 2014: My opinion is the same than CaringGuy. Your (ex)girlfriend reacted like she was barely grilled, and left on the false pretext of your jealousy. At least, that's what we can tell considering what you've explained us. If it is like that, your sixth ... (read in full...)
Why do men think that lasting forever is better?
Q. This is a question mainly for the men out there. Why do you think that lasting hours while having sex is what women want? I've noticed this with all 5 men I've been with - they seem to think that lasting for ages makes them some sort of love God or ...
A. 2 January 2014:
Almost everything has been said, a real list of good and bad of men & women sex disturbances.
I just wanted to add a thing then: women have to consider that their body is made for pleasure, as it is covered and stuffed with erogenous z... (read in full...)
I met a guy online and he kept on postponing because of back problems. Should I wait it out?
Q. Hi guys, I have come looking for advice, just slightly confused about a sitaution .So a while ago I decided to give online dating a go. I met this guy online. We hit it from the start.Its been five months and we speak everyday, skype text etc.....
A. 29 December 2013: I do vote for the deadline recommended by Daisy_Daisy. Maybe this guy deserves to get his chance at least one time in his life but it has not to be at your health/future expense.... (read in full...)
Likes me but ignores me?
Q. This girl i've been dating told me last week she really liked me, but promised herself she didn't want to get attached to anyone this year because she's been hurt. She said however she still wanted to hangout but just be friends for now and see ...
A. 29 December 2013: OK. To be clear and short: this girl THOUGHT she liked you but soon discovered you was not what she expected you to be. Turn the page, and start looking for somebody else, life is too short to accept to be bothered by people who don't know what they ... (read in full...)
Is this a double standard? She did not like me using harsh words. So why is it OK for her to do the same?
Q. A few weeks ago me and my girlfriend were leaving a pub, and we were joking around, and then as we were talking I saw my coach there, and I accidentally let a word along the lines of go away but more harsh. It was a slip. She got really mad at m...
A. 29 December 2013: The experience is not so bad, from now you'll understand well how some people feel when others use bad words in front of them. It's alright, you're both maturing.... (read in full...)
What's the best advice on how to read men? I want to understand this man's intentions better
Q. Hello, I went out last night and bumped into a guy i dated for about a month 2 years ago. Just wondering if you could help me understand 2 little things. 1. Him, his friends and I were talking, I cant remember the conversation topic, but he sa...
A. 29 December 2013: This guy doesn't take you seriously, that's all we can tell from what you've told us. Don' lose your time with this joker.... (read in full...)
My husband never seems to notice hot women.....EVER!
Q. Hello, I am in my 20s and my husband is great, perfect even. He takes me out, listens to be me, we have a great sex life, we hardly fight. It's wonderful. However.... I recently began to notice that he never seems to notice young attractive...
A. 29 December 2013: Honeypie said it all. For my part, I don't understand men who open their mouth and need to show their high interest for nice girls like the Tex Avery's wolf. That's ridiculous and childish. As for being gay, if your sweet love was it, he couldn't ... (read in full...)
He keeps throwing my past relationships in my face!
Q. Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I love my boyfriend but lately things have been going downhill. He can't let go of my past. I don't know how he found out I hooked up with a guy before him and he keeps th...
A. 29 December 2013: I don't know the real motivations that lead your boyfriend to act like that, and the exact circonstancies he throw your regretted past to your face. Hypothesis 1: he is an hypocrite and a manipulator who founds his power on your "guiltiness". In... (read in full...)
After 30 years of marriage, she has decided fellatio is revolting! Advice?
Q. My wife and I have been happily married for more than 30 years. During that time, we've enjoyed a pretty active sex life. Oral sex, particularly mutual oral sex, had always been a part of that. I've only ejaculated in her mouth once, many years ago. ...
A. 28 December 2013: This story is a classic. The nice bride becomes a cold wife. First: women are designed to trap their male for reproduction and getting "the one who is able to bring them material security" (and more if possible). As long as there is a "price" to ... (read in full...)
Single and sexually frustrated. How can I overcome this?
Q. I am one sexually frustrated woman and don't know what to do! I would only want to sleep with someone if I really care for them or love them. I am not up for casual sex at all as I don't get anything from it. How do girls overcome this? I'm 22 an...
A. 28 December 2013: Well, I'm sorry to tell you that you are kind of hysteric. Litteraly. If someone can't bear not having sex for just some days, it's a sign that something's wrong... or why not, a signe that something goes too well ? Maybe your body's asking for a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 28 December 2013: Maybe that's her way to tell you she doesn't want you to be her guy. Sorry. If she makes fool of you, you can do something to get some revenge: find somebody capable of imitating this super-expensive ring and give it to her in front of a very larg... (read in full...)
I'd like our relationship to be more focussed on respect
Q. Hey I'm in need of some advice. I'm in a relationship with someone of 22 and I'm 17, the age gap isn't the issue. I feel like a sexual object sometimes and its really concerning me. We haven't been officially together for much over a month and are ...
A. 28 December 2013: The truth - and maybe you was not aware of that, like 90% women - is that you got/trapped this idiot with your vagina. That's the deal you're in, and in the meanwhile, he's maturing and one "morning" he will soon announce you he is engaged with a ... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking because of guilt or did he really care?
Q. I had been dating my ex-bf for 8 months before he dumped me saying "we are comfortable but it doesnt mean it's going anywhere.". when I asked him if he figured he wanna break up with me two weeks before (which is when I felt like he started becoming ...
A. 28 December 2013: Forget about that guy, and give another one his chance. If you don't want to, well, face the consequences of your bad choices and be sad for the rest of your life. It's not a curse, it's just a pronostic as it is what happens in 99% of that sort of ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, once. Yet I can't picture my life without him. What do I do about my guilt?
Q. I'm about to get married to my bf of 5 years I do love him very much and I am very happy that we are going to get married, but I am having second doubts about getting married, because I am guilty of cheating on him once in the past, while we were ...
A. 28 December 2013: Just forget about it (and cut any relationship with this loser). He just want to use You to empty his testes, can't you understand it ? Or maybe it is what you want to be, a scum vacuum for the rest of your life... because after the first time - oh, ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, once. Yet I can't picture my life without him. What do I do about my guilt?
Q. I'm about to get married to my bf of 5 years I do love him very much and I am very happy that we are going to get married, but I am having second doubts about getting married, because I am guilty of cheating on him once in the past, while we were ...
A. 28 December 2013:
"Don't get me wrong I love him with all my heart and I would be so hurt if I lost him."
Well, you know what ? I didn't get you wrong, YOU get yourself wrong. When one really loves someone deeply and sincerely, he or her has that thought in m... (read in full...)
After 30 years of marriage, she has decided fellatio is revolting! Advice?
Q. My wife and I have been happily married for more than 30 years. During that time, we've enjoyed a pretty active sex life. Oral sex, particularly mutual oral sex, had always been a part of that. I've only ejaculated in her mouth once, many years ago. ...
A. 28 December 2013: This story is a classic. The nice bride becomes a cold wife. First: women are designed to trap their male for reproduction and getting "the one who is able to bring them material security" (and more if possible). As long as there is a "price" to win ... (read in full...)
Single and sexually frustrated. How can I overcome this?
Q. I am one sexually frustrated woman and don't know what to do! I would only want to sleep with someone if I really care for them or love them. I am not up for casual sex at all as I don't get anything from it. How do girls overcome this? I'm 22 an...
A. 28 December 2013: Well, I'm sorry to tell you that you are kind of hysteric. Litteraly. If someone can't bear not having sex for just some days, it's a sign that something's wrong... or why not, a signe that something goes too well ? Maybe your body's asking for a ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my wife's sordid sexual past
Q. I am dealing with some issues with my wife's sexual past, I dont know how many she was with but I know it was between 15 and 25. She lied about being with my friend when I asked her about a month after we started dating. She later told me they were ...
A. 28 December 2013: May I tell some people here who claim this story deals with RJ, that it's not true. It's not about beeing unlogically jalous of a past boyfriend, it's about the real and deep nature of a person one wants to live with. I beg you pardon, but if I... (read in full...)
My married man loves me but can't be with me
Q. Please bear with this long story. I am unmarried and in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I recently moved to a different country and there I met a guy friend. We both are aware of our situation from the very beginning when we first ...
A. 27 December 2013: Funny. That's always the same old same old story about "love stronger than everything". But if one take the time to remove every romantic sentences, every decorative words in this sort of lyric speeches, we face once again just a SEX PARTY.
I'm n... (read in full...)
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