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| | *irstlovelastlove's profile:I have lived to see and experience a lot in my brief 47 years. Some days I feel 16 and some days I feel 160. Currently, I call Canada home but have lived most my life in the U.S. I am fully committed to my soul mate and moved more than 1,000 miles to be with her. The meaning of life is to love and be loved, unconditionally. Communication and sexual chemistry are the bedrock of a lasting relationship. I am a full time student of the love of my life and being with her gives the hell I've been delivered from meaning. I am not a religious man I'm a musician. But I do know God is God and through her He changed my heart and my mind and life truly is amazing. Early 2010 we both nearly lost our lives in a horrific car accident. To be alive truly is amazing and this is 'one of our songs'.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGCLubIDPfE
Kim Mitchell -- Aint Life Amazing
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Male input please!
Q. Having read so many posts from blokes complaining about their girlfriends, wives etc never initiating sexual acts (be it oral, full intercourse or whatever) I realized I'm one of these women. I read one post that struck a chord - my boyfriend ini...
A. 28 February 2011: "if I love the way him initiating sex makes me feel... then surely me initiating sex would give him a similar feeling." Yes, it sure would.
"I guess I just worry about being to forward." It's not being too forward. "like all things in a rela... (read in full...)
Why would a girl whom I had eye contact and exchanged smiles with rub it in my face that she has a boyfriend?
Q. So there's this girl I met on occasion who exchanged regular eye contact and smiles with me. Obviously, she must have realized that I was into her, lest she would have looked away, as most of the time, girls who aren't into you usually do. So I d...
A. 28 February 2011: I think JDinCali hit the proverbial 'nail on the head' when she said: "Don't change to suit her needs. She won't respect you for it and she'll have way too much power over you and you don't want to be her bell boy."... (read in full...)
He says "I increase the value of his life?" What does that mean?
Q. A man i have been seeing Since Nov told me I was a valued friend and he told me I increase the Value of his life. Does that mean he loves me or likes me as a really good friend? We are not exculsive and I know he sees another girl. He does no...
A. 28 February 2011: "told me I was a valued friend and he told me I increase the Value of his life" Did he actually say these words to you? Who talks this way? Is English not his first language? I have no idea what he means by this so I would ask him directly 'what ... (read in full...)
Agressive partner or scared child??
Q. I've had a relationship with a man for 9 years. Although over 9 years ago we split up for a while, but, then we got back together. He can be aggresive and spiteful, but he never physically hurts me. But it's affecting my 13 year old girl, as they ...
A. 27 February 2011: "He can be aggresive and spiteful, but he never physically hurts me." Why is he doing this? Fear has nothing to do with love, ever, period. He needs to straighten up and be a man or leave. 9 years is more than enough time for him to straighten ... (read in full...)
Male input please!
Q. Having read so many posts from blokes complaining about their girlfriends, wives etc never initiating sexual acts (be it oral, full intercourse or whatever) I realized I'm one of these women. I read one post that struck a chord - my boyfriend ini...
A. 27 February 2011: "my boyfriend initiating sex makes me feel desirable and wanted so why shouldn't that work both ways" Just to be clear -- do you desire and want your boyfriend? "At least for me I can pinpoint two main fears. Being rejected and being seen as mascu... (read in full...)
He doesn't take me seriously that I want to move on!
Q. its been 5years since the day my partner promised me his love and loyaltys, were still together today and we have two beutifull children together but his loyalty to me left our lifes about a year ago when he choose to secretly to seek atention from ...
A. 27 February 2011: I am male. This happened to me after a 4 year relationship. Things got so bad I didn't believe anything she said any more. "what would you do if this was you? " I had to finally move in order to cut off all contact. If I were you I would cut off ... (read in full...)
Husband is a good hard worker, but, he drinks a lot! What can I do?
Q. Hi I need some advice I been married for almost three years, we have 2 kids. My husband is a good hard working dad, but also drinks a lot I try to tell him not to drink so much but he always tells me I exaggerate. He never likes to talk about our ...
A. 27 February 2011: "he drinks a lot" How much does he drink? My cousin is dying from cirrhosis of the liver because he drank too much. He will be leaving behind his wife and 2 children. I am telling you this because there are very real risks to drinking a lot. Here ... (read in full...)
He has a fiance, 4 kids and wants to sleep with me. Is it wrong?
Q. I met a guy online 3 months ago. I found out three weeks after we met, through FaceBook, that he has a "fiance," four kids and she's pregnant again. When I confronted him about it, he didn't deny it, however never speaks on it. And demands I don't ...
A. 27 February 2011: "Would I be wrong if I sent his fiance' a message on Facebook about his acts or is it possible she already knows?" Just leave it alone. Chances are good his fiance already knows. Going forward I wouldn't think about this guy because he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that a mutual friend tried to kiss me?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now and we have a mutual circle of friends. I'm majoring in computer science and most of my friends come from the same major as me, ergo they are almost all exclusively men. I've never had problems ...
A. 26 February 2011: You should tell him because if he finds out from someone else he'll wonder why you didn't tell him. He might wonder what else you don't tell him. I would nip this in the bud. No pun intended.... (read in full...)
She knew I liked him. Why did she, and he, have this joke on me? Or did they really have sex?
Q. I live across the street from this guy and girl. The girl: 'X'and I, are friends, not best friends just friends, me and the guy 'Z' and I have a flirtatious relationship, and I made sure X knew that. One day I came home from school and I saw...
A. 26 February 2011: That was mean. I don't think anyone would think this would be funny. He could be 'testing you' for a reaction and I'd say you sure gave them one. I think he's interested in you but if you become involved with him I would expect more 'games' like ... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend has a very wild sexual past, and she did webcam shows for others. Will a threesome make me feel better about her past?
Q. Ok where to begin?! I was in a relationship of 8 years and that ended 1 year ago. For the past 5 months, I've been dating and living with a woman who 24 years old. She has 2 children and I love her and them! The problem is she did soooo many sex...
A. 26 February 2011: Have you had a 3 some before? If you had not met this woman would you want to have a 3 some now? From what you've written, if you had a 3 some with her now, I don't think you would feel better about her past and you might feel worse. You're not ... (read in full...)
After dating for 3 years, I suspect my boyfriend is cheating! How do I approach him to ask if it's true?
Q. Do I or don’t I break up with my partner? We have been seeing each other for 3 years now and I suspect him of seeing some one else. How shall I approach him to ask him if it’s true? Help please!!!...
A. 26 February 2011: You're thinking about breaking up because you "suspect" him? 3 years is a long time if you ask me. What is it that you have that makes you think he's cheating? Is there any other reason you would want to break up with him besides cheating? Any way ... (read in full...)
He has a fiance, 4 kids and wants to sleep with me. Is it wrong?
Q. I met a guy online 3 months ago. I found out three weeks after we met, through FaceBook, that he has a "fiance," four kids and she's pregnant again. When I confronted him about it, he didn't deny it, however never speaks on it. And demands I don't ...
A. 26 February 2011: "What is it that is stopping him from leaving me alone?" I don't know the answer to this question but I bet you're not the only one he's not "leaving alone". Get a different hobby other than these "conversations" the two of you are having.
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One night stand with married woman has left me fearful--her husband found out!
Q. a month ago i had a one night stand with a woman i met at a bar. we exchanged info and she wrote me about how it was nice to feel good for a night outside of her bad marriage.. i didn't know she was married. i wrote her i couldnt be involved with a ...
A. 26 February 2011: "a one night stand with a woman i met at a bar" I would bet this is not her first "one night stand" with someone she "met in a bar". And I bet her husband knows this too. I hope you used protection. I would just chalk this up to experience and put ... (read in full...)
Why would a girl whom I had eye contact and exchanged smiles with rub it in my face that she has a boyfriend?
Q. So there's this girl I met on occasion who exchanged regular eye contact and smiles with me. Obviously, she must have realized that I was into her, lest she would have looked away, as most of the time, girls who aren't into you usually do. So I d...
A. 26 February 2011: Definitely an attention seeker. She's not much of a 'catch' for her "boyfriend" is she? Ignoring her is a nice thing to do.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has gone off on a vacation with his ex wife and kids, does he love her more?
Q. I don't think that I'm being unreasonable that I'm fairly annoyed that my partner, the guy who says he loves me.. has just gone away for a few days away with his ex wife and kids. Staying in a hotel in a family room! Last year I begged him to go aw...
A. 26 February 2011: "gone away for a few days away with his ex wife and kids. Staying in a hotel in a family room!" Come on. He's being a jack ass. Sometimes when I read what people post here I have a hard time understanding the quality and quantity of their emotions... (read in full...)
My ex is gone again,she never calls. I don't know what to do
Q. Hi thanks for looking at my page I need advice on this relation ship. Ok to start of I have meet this girl on a on line web site and I really feel in love with her. We have know each other for two yrs now. Every thing was great we hit it of good ...
A. 26 February 2011: From what you wrote I would say your relationship with this woman was based on sex. Go back to school or get your G.E.D. I liked reading your story but there were a few spelling and grammatical errors. Learn to fix these and maybe you'd like to ... (read in full...)
When I tell her I want to help she gets more upset!
Q. my girlfriend is having trouble with her family and is always upset and wants time to herself what should i do i want to help her through but when i tell her i am here to help she gets more upset ...
A. 26 February 2011: I agree with GeeGee255 I think she's embarrassed by her. Let her know you'll always be there for her if and when she feels like talking about things with her family. Sometimes people get to thinkin they're the only ones with an 'embarrassing' ... (read in full...)
Is a threesome a normal fantasy for a married man?
Q. This isn't anything new, but I was wondering if it's "normal" to want to watch your wife have sex with another man? ...
A. 26 February 2011: I'm just one man but I have never had a fantasy about a 3 some. Even the times I was asked it just made me sick.... (read in full...)
Lost the weight and now I'm eating out of control!
Q. Within the past 2 months, I was on a very intense diet and lost 35 pounds. Now that I have lost all of the weight I needed to lose, I am off of my diet and I am eating uncontrollably. I really don't even realize until I'm done eating what I've done. ...
A. 26 February 2011: Ever hear the saying 'it's not what you're eating . . . it's what's eating you'? Maybe you eat because something's bothering/eating away at you. I agree with CaringGuy "talking to a doctor about a safe diet, and safe exercise program"! ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to hook me up with one of his friends?
Q. Why would my ex do this? So my boyfriend and me broke up a month ago and well he had this guy who is a friend of his text me and well then the guy told me that him and my ex were talking about me and that he asked to see what i looked like and my e...
A. 26 February 2011: I agree with CaringGuy. Another possibility is the ex wants to 'keep tabs on you'. Bottom line is what you describe is gross. Keep on movin . . . on. I wish you all the best!... (read in full...)
He flirts but doesn't want a relationship!
Q. Why would a guy flirt heavily with a girl, tell how awesome she is and about how they think it'd be nice to kiss and cuddle but then say that they are not interested in a relationship? And how do I get him to want a relationship w/ me?...
A. 26 February 2011: I agree with CaringGuy. I think he's 'laying the ground work' for a 'booty call'.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always teases me and it hurts!
Q. My boyfriend teases me about everything. No matter what the case may be he's always joking around. He thinks its funny to put me down or embarrasses me in front of other people. He always tell me that I'm either too sensitive or too serious and I ...
A. 26 February 2011: "He thinks its funny to put me down or embarrasses me in front of other people." I agree with CaringGuy "you could have lost your job, he was laughing in your face".
This guy's a punk and you should leave him. Whatever you do, don't stoop to his ... (read in full...)
How can I gain clarity about my situation?
Q. This is my life. I live with my girlfriend. I get up for work at 6am everyday and return around 7pm. My girlfriend does odd jobs and persues her creative work. We have not had a sexual relationship for well over a year. I don't really know how this ...
A. 26 February 2011: I feel bad for you. From the sounds of things your home life with your parents was hard. Now you're with a woman who is using you. It's been my experience when someone doesn't want you to know what they're doing it's for their best interest not ... (read in full...)
He abuses me verbally but he's the love of my life!
Q. Hi everyone. Well I've been in a relationship with this guy for 11 months, so far this is the longest relationship I've ever had. He's 21 and I'm 17. I love him so much, more than I've ever loved anyone else but he's a violent person. In th...
A. 26 February 2011: "I'm 17. I love him so much, more than I've ever loved anyone else but he's a violent person."
I agree with CaringGuy "It is essential - ESSENTIAL that you get away from this man." Leave and stay gone.
He knows your experience with bulimia ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend in jail keeps writing to me saying he's changed.
Q. Hi i have another question after my ex boyfriend doing all that messed up shit to me and now being in jail i havent talked to him or wrote to him but he has been writing me for months already telling me hes sorry and that he changed and he wants me ...
A. 26 February 2011: "telling me hes sorry and that he changed and he wants me to give him another chance". I went through similar things with a woman. I learned the hard way to forgive someone does not mean you have to let them back into your life.
"do you think its ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's sister mades moves on me. What do I do?
Q. Help me: my girlfriend's sister is now after me for a date ever since her sister (who is my girlfriend) traveled to London. The first time I noticed it was the day she called me on the phone asking me to come over to the house. I did, and she was ...
A. 25 February 2011: Do exactly what dirtball says. The same thing happened to me. Have you heard the saying 'hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'? Some females can be meaner or nastier than any male I've met. I wish you well.... (read in full...)
How do I make the transition from boyfriend to friend? I don't want to lose her!
Q. Hi everyone, just looking for some advice. Myself and my girlfriend broke up yesterday. We knew that it was on the horizon though, because we are both at university and I am in my final year and will hence be moving away in the summer. She is i...
A. 25 February 2011: "I want to give friendship a try" Ok, great! Ask her to do 'friend' things with you. Keep it light and fun. Maybe have a few things in mind to do so you could do one or two things like meet for coffee and take your coffee on a walk.
"I miss her ... (read in full...)
I'm 34 years old and feel like such a disappointment! Help!
Q. I am so baffled, depressed and confused. My parents have been married for 40 years, my younger brother has been married 15 years. I am 34 and nothing in sight....Am I disappointment? I have a Masters degree, tons of friends, and I flunk in the love ...
A. 25 February 2011: "he cheated on me for 4 months (according to the mistress)" Why would you believe anything "the mistress" says? There's not a lot written here for me to go on but have you discussed at length with your ex "of 5 years" why you broke up with him? I ... (read in full...)
He stopped calling me! Do I wait this out or do I call him?
Q. my boyfriend is not calling me or texting me and i dont know what happend its been a week now ,i am afraid to call him because he might think i can not live without him ,should i call him or i must wait until he calls?please help...
A. 25 February 2011: It's my understanding you're at least 26 years old so I would do whatever it is you want to do and not worry what he or anyone else thinks. He's your boyfriend. It's been a week. So you call to say 'hi, what's up?'. It's no big deal so don't ... (read in full...)
My significant other has crawled into his man cave and wont come out!
Q. My SO he has retreated into what my sis called his "man cave" where he needs to think things through by himself and I should just leave him alone for the time being. He said it's not about us completely but he feels as if his life is about making ...
A. 25 February 2011: "he wants to run away and no one would miss him probably" I'm not a mental health professional but this suggests to me he is depressed and would benefit from talking with a therapist.
"he feels as if his life is about making everyone happy and plea... (read in full...)
I still feel the same way for my ex as I did when we were together! How do I get her out of my head?
Q. hi im in a prety dire situation...as all out there are..i had a good loving relationship going for me before i could even realise that it was over..my supposedly ex-girlfriend brought an abrupt end to our relationship that we were so passionate ...
A. 25 February 2011: "i am not being able to reciprocate to a few propsals that came my way(pretty fortunate enough in this regard)" This is wonderful! Force yourself to accept these 'proposals' and force yourself to make a few 'proposals' of your own.
Force your... (read in full...)
What are the laws regarding underage sex in the USA?
Q. What are the (United States') laws on underage sex? Thanks!...
A. 25 February 2011: I agree with k_c100 "If you are thinking about sex it is a good idea to talk to a trusted adult and your doctor before you go ahead as you can get better advice than from a bunch of strangers on the internet."
You would want to Google the state you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that I kissed a girl?
Q. My friend and I kissed, we're both girls. I'm kind of confused about my sexuality. I mean, I like guys I know that but is it possible I like girls too? And should I tell my parents? The only problem is I dont want to complicate things when I'm so ...
A. 25 February 2011: If you were my daughter I would want to know what is going on in your life so I could know you better. If you tell them they might tell you something you never knew about them and you could become closer. I think if you feel your parents love you, ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my family and friends derogatory remarks regarding my girlfriend's weight...
Q. I've begun seeing a girl I care deeply for. We get along great and are friends as well. The only problem is I can't stand my family and friends dirogitory remarks reguarding her weight. I'll admit in the past I really wouldn't date a bigger g...
A. 25 February 2011: I'm just one man but if it was me, the next time it happened I would just say "hey" with sustain (i.e. "heyyy that's not nice" or "heyyy I don't wanna hear that") in a kind tone but one they will know you are saying what you mean and you mean what ... (read in full...)
He squints his eyes at me and not at others, what does his weird body language mean?
Q. i am a female and whenever i am talking to this (married) man i know, he is looking at me like sun is shining in his eyes. and if he should respond to what i am saying, he looks downwards and nodding. sometimes, he just says 'right, right, right" or ...
A. 25 February 2011: I am just one man but I think this "(married) man" is sexually attracted to you and is socially awkward. I think while being polite to him you make it clear you know he is married and you respect his wife whether you know her or not. I wish you ... (read in full...)
She hasn't talked to me in 2 days, was I out of line?
Q. So I have been dating this for a bit over 2 months now and everything has been great. We see each other usually each weekend and whenever possible a time or 2 during the week. The other day we had a bit of a spat, it really wasn't huge, just about ...
A. 25 February 2011: "If we can't talk about something as petty as this, then how are we going to talk about something more serious?" Exactly.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall in love 2 months into the relationship?
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone after only 2 months? I realize everything is all good in the beginning. I broke up with my long time boyfriend of 9 years to pursue a relationship with the new person. I've convinced myself that I'm in ...
A. 25 February 2011: "Is it possible to fall in love with someone after only 2 months?" Sure, I think it's possible if you've been dating for 2 months but have known each other longer. To first meet someone and then 2 months later be in love with them would depend on ... (read in full...)
Is this love or FWBs?
Q. Is this love or am I a friend with benefit? My friend told me that all he could be to me was a friend. He told me that he had feelings for me, but that he could not tell me what I wanted to hear. Yet, I never have pressured him to tell me that he ...
A. 25 February 2011: Quite frankly, I think the term 'friends with benefits' is a cop out, a bunch of crap.
"yet I have no right to say anything." Your feelings give you every "right to say" something if not everything you are feeling and thinking. You're a person. You ... (read in full...)
Should I go to my friend's birthday party even if my ex is invited?
Q. so one of my friends Birthday is today and his girlfriend and I planed out a surprise Birthday party at a restaurant, the problem is that he made friends with my ex and she invited him. Honestly I cant stand my ex because he talked a lot of ugly ...
A. 25 February 2011: I am just one man but my experience tells me you should absolutely go. Hold your head up high and please don't 'stoop to his level' if anything untrue or distasteful is said. 'Take the high road', 'be the better person', 'rise above' . . . I think ... (read in full...)
We are both unfaithful and he asked me to marry him what should I do?
Q. I am a gorgeous girl who never lacks male attention, however, one year ago I met a man who I started dating long distance. We are in love, or so we say. He has children, I also have 1 child. We both have been dating other people since about the 2nd ...
A. 25 February 2011: A little more information. Or, some things to ask yourself. "all I had were men who cheated on me, and I have done the same to end those relationships, not to start them like I did with this one." Does this mean "all" your past relationships ... (read in full...)
She hasn't talked to me in 2 days, was I out of line?
Q. So I have been dating this for a bit over 2 months now and everything has been great. We see each other usually each weekend and whenever possible a time or 2 during the week. The other day we had a bit of a spat, it really wasn't huge, just about ...
A. 25 February 2011: I agree with TEM. She's doing this pretty early on in the relationship. I agree with some of the other people said 'more information please'. I wish you all the best!... (read in full...)
I love my friends, but all they talk about is sex! How do I tell them I think they are being crude? Or should I say nothing?
Q. I have a great group of friends ranging in age from 13 to 17. I'm almost 15, so I'm in the middle, age-wise. Well what's upsetting me is that my friends are funny and great, and I love them, but every other topic is sex! Like threesom...
A. 25 February 2011: Get new friends. Or if you don't want to get new friends the next time they talk about sex say something like 'yeah, like you'd know' roll your eyes and walk away. It's been my experience the more people talk about sex the less they are having or ... (read in full...)
How do I make the transition from boyfriend to friend? I don't want to lose her!
Q. Hi everyone, just looking for some advice. Myself and my girlfriend broke up yesterday. We knew that it was on the horizon though, because we are both at university and I am in my final year and will hence be moving away in the summer. She is i...
A. 24 February 2011: "How do I make the transition from boyfriend to friend?" It has been my experience that you don't. This is entirely up to the woman to do. I wouldn't initiate any texts, emails, phone calls etc. but I would always let her know you are very happy to ... (read in full...)
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