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| | *irstlovelastlove's profile:I have lived to see and experience a lot in my brief 47 years. Some days I feel 16 and some days I feel 160. Currently, I call Canada home but have lived most my life in the U.S. I am fully committed to my soul mate and moved more than 1,000 miles to be with her. The meaning of life is to love and be loved, unconditionally. Communication and sexual chemistry are the bedrock of a lasting relationship. I am a full time student of the love of my life and being with her gives the hell I've been delivered from meaning. I am not a religious man I'm a musician. But I do know God is God and through her He changed my heart and my mind and life truly is amazing. Early 2010 we both nearly lost our lives in a horrific car accident. To be alive truly is amazing and this is 'one of our songs'.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGCLubIDPfE
Kim Mitchell -- Aint Life Amazing
I believe in God, pray often and know one day I will be judged by Him and Him alone. If I can help someone I do and if I can't, I know someone else will be put in their path who can. |
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What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 1 March 2011: 'Aint Love Grand!'... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 1 March 2011: He's downplaying it because he doesn't want to put pressure on himself. Like CindyCares says, I really don't think he's given any other woman a drawer.... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 1 March 2011: "he did not leave it with any arrangment, or whatever," He was on vacation and relaxing. It'd been a while since you called back. He was probably just seeing how this conversation went.
"am I expecting to much?" To expect a date from this tele... (read in full...)
Is there a problem here or am I over-reacting in the situation??
Q. I feel confused and very very jealous and the sad part is I never consider me the jealous type. This feeling of insecurity happened a few months ago when a couple of picutres were tagged on my facebook by a friend that they thought were a little ...
A. 23 February 2011: This could be a whole lotta nuthin or a whole lotta sumthin' The bottom line to me is it's one thing to help someone, which is the honorable thing to do. It's another thing to be 'used and abused'. I would tell this woman she needs to find another ... (read in full...)
He cant marry me because of his parents......
Q. I've been in an on/off relationship with this guy for many years now. We always break up due to one problem, his parents. Our parents come from the same country and religious background, however he strongly believes that his parents will never ...
A. 23 February 2011: "What hurts more, is he tells me to move on and marry someone who will look after me and make me happy." This has to hurt. I am sorry you are hurting.
"It's just hard to move on, when the one person becomes a part of your heart and soul." I thin... (read in full...)
Should I be suspicious she suddenly knows different sex positions?
Q. After 4 years of hardly any sex, because my girlfriend wasnt into sex, she suddenly wants more sex and is using positions I never knew she knew. When we had sex before, she would only let me do doggy or missionary. We talked about different ...
A. 23 February 2011: "I am now wondering how all of a sudden she knows these different positions" there's this thing called the Internet.... (read in full...)
Why am I bleeding after sex?
Q. everytime lately when i have sex i bleed what is the problem?...
A. 23 February 2011: Go to a doctor immediately. If money is an issue, go to the emergency room at your county hospital. I would make this priority one in your life.... (read in full...)
How do I get taken seriously in social and professional situations?
Q. How do I get taken seriously in social and professional situations? I am 33 years old, though I look younger than I am. Recently something has been bothering me. I have always been a good listener, and people tend to open up to me. However, th...
A. 23 February 2011: "One male friend in particular will go on for hours and hours, but if I say anything to him will stop immediately and say in a highly condescending way 'Can I just finish...?" I am just one man but I'd say something like "You were finished. An hour ... (read in full...)
My ex accuses me of being slutty but I'm not!
Q. My partner and I were together for six years. We have two kids together. We are splitting up but can't afford to move out right now so we are currently living in the same house. He is the one who broke up with me but whenever I leave the house (I ...
A. 23 February 2011: "he accuses me of 'trawling for (sex)' and then in the same breath says he doesn't care who I date" "why is he accusing me of sleeping around if he doesn't love me anymore and why would he care anyway?" I'm only 1 man but I say he wouldn't do these ... (read in full...)
She was very promiscous in the past but with me she is boring in the bedroom! What is going on here?
Q. An interesting quote I found: "You do not need to know too much about her past. Behind the colorful fabrics, that closet has skeletons" I think i need to get this off my chest, I unfortunately don't really have anyone to discuss this with right ...
A. 23 February 2011: "We had a drunken chat one night" I would not believe everything I heard especially during a "drunken chat". The thought crosses my mind she was 'testing you'. There's a saying 'don't believe everything you hear and only half of what you see'. ... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 23 February 2011: You sure do think a lot. "Somehow and stupidly, I need to know what;s going on in his life!!" I don't think it's stupid and I don't think you 'need to know' I think you're just curious. How much history do the two of you share? Are there children... (read in full...)
My ex changed his number on me!
Q. Me and my recent ex boyfriend really really love each other and have a very intense attraction and chemistry, but we just can’t seem to get on and he gets aggressive and violent. We have been on and off for over 6 months now since we first split up ...
A. 23 February 2011: "he gets aggressive and violent" He did you a favor by changing his number.
Maybe not tomorrow and maybe not next week, but one day you will meet someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. You will "have a very intense attr... (read in full...)
Can I stay with my bf who, at 45, is terrible at money management and always in a financial crisis?
Q. My bf always seems to have a financial crisis. I met my bf for over a year now. Few months after we were dating exclusive, I noticed that he was always anxious about money. Though, he doesn’t make lots of money but he works full time and make ar...
A. 23 February 2011: Is he a womanizer? Does he have a problem with drugs or alcohol? Is he honest, respectful and compassionate? Does he treat you with dignity and respect? How does he treat your children? I understand your concerns about his financial situation. Do ... (read in full...)
The perils of a blind trust.
Q. When I met my boyfriend online in August 2010, what we found out about each other was that we were both Christians seeking a committed partner and shared a lot in common. Though we had differing views sexwise (i did not believe in pre-marital sex ...
A. 23 February 2011: "My questions are, was I wrong from the beginning to compromise my standards?" I think at the time you thought it was the right thing to do but now you think it was the wrong thing to do. If in the days and weeks ahead you still think it was the ... (read in full...)
In what time frame does a guy know if he wants a relationship or to keep it casual?
Q. Ok. I am wondering about my situation. I have been casually dating this guy for about a two months. We talk on the phone..not everyday, but 3 to 4 times a week. I mentioned about a month ago, my birthday was coming up and on my birthday he called ...
A. 23 February 2011: As far as I know there is no linear measurement that "a guy" goes by to know if he wants a relationship. From my experience it's more about how I felt around a certain someone. If I felt she was open to the possibility then ok. If I felt she ... (read in full...)
We both admitted the spark is gone what do we do now?
Q. Iv been with my boyfriend for a about a year now, but the last few monts have been very tough as weve had a few break ups, then got back together! He has a 3 year old child whom he see twice a week as his ex is a bit of a handful. Just before new ...
A. 23 February 2011: "Iv been with my boyfriend for a about a year now, but the last few monts have been very tough as weve had a few break ups" How many more than 1 break up have you two had? "his ex is a bit of a handful" How big are your hands? Big enough or not that ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating because he doesn't want sex?
Q. Hey, I really want my boyfriend to have relaxed sex but hes always too serious! He goes for about 2 minutes and then says stop being childish, I have to get rest. I'm thinking of breaking up with him because hes been not wanting to have sex, ...
A. 22 February 2011: "Is he cheating because he doesn't want sex?" No. I went through this and was accused of cheating and that just made things worse.
As dirtball said "If you're unhappy, then you need to talk to him about it. How he responds should determine what... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 22 February 2011: "I have 3 a lab, a pit bull and a giant long coated dog" "he cannot be around my dogs" This is really making me smile. Maybe sometime in the future you'd consider kenneling your dogs for a few days. For me what started out as 'wow, this is really ... (read in full...)
Sex has never happened for me and I'm worried I will end up an old maid!
Q. Looking for some advice; I'm a 23 year old female, and I've never had sex. It's not a question or beliefs, or prudishness- it's just not something that ever happened. In highschool and university I hung out mainly with other girls, and I never ...
A. 22 February 2011: "I'm a 23 year old female, and I've never had sex." I would keep this to yourself because there are some cruel people out there who would want to be your first and then disappear.
It's a fine line between being overly aggressive and proactive. I su... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 22 February 2011: "he cannot be around my dogs" what kind of dogs do you have?
"it was our first full weekend together" Terrific.
"He turned to me and said 'we are both old enough to know what it means that you have a drawer at my place' I don't want to be presumpt... (read in full...)
Is there a problem here or am I over-reacting in the situation??
Q. I feel confused and very very jealous and the sad part is I never consider me the jealous type. This feeling of insecurity happened a few months ago when a couple of picutres were tagged on my facebook by a friend that they thought were a little ...
A. 22 February 2011: "My question is am I letting my mind overeact to this whole situation or do I have valid reasons to feel jealous?" I do not think you are over reacting. You have a valid reason to know the truth.
It's your birthday and your husband doesn't go to b... (read in full...)
He sort of cheats with dirty talk with girls fhrough emails, what should I do??
Q. Hi All, I've been with my boyfriend for about 9months now. In this time i have caught him chatting up girls via email (randoms and old friends). We got through this and all was fine and i thought he had changed but recently he left his email ac...
A. 22 February 2011: "i have caught him chatting up girls via email (randoms and old friends)" "he does talk dirty and sends them dirty pictures to them and says he misses them and wants to meet up." "saying either he isnt getting any sex or its a long story" "he is so ... (read in full...)
How the hell are people able to break up and not get devastated??
Q. OK so it has been a week since this girl I was in a relationship and I stopped speaking. I initiated it because she was lying and hurting me and we talked about it for weeks before and I know it was the best thing. BUT...it is killing me!!! It...
A. 22 February 2011: "How the hell are people able to break up and not get devastated??" This is why I stayed single and sexually abstinent for years. Pain? No thank you.
"My question is then: how do people break up so casually?" I don't know if there is such a thin... (read in full...)
Why did my wife get upset when I saw a topless sunbather on a beach?
Q. This may be a funny question to ask but my wife got so mad on a trip we took to Mexico when we saw a woman laying out topless. Why is that? I am not the guy who makes comments about other women or takes long stares at them; I have always been very ...
A. 22 February 2011: "Why did my wife get upset when I saw a topless sunbather on a beach?" What was her answer when you asked her this? How long ago was this trip? Is she still "so mad"?
"never broke up or never went out on each other and now been married for 21 year... (read in full...)
He cant marry me because of his parents......
Q. I've been in an on/off relationship with this guy for many years now. We always break up due to one problem, his parents. Our parents come from the same country and religious background, however he strongly believes that his parents will never ...
A. 22 February 2011: "I've been in an on/off relationship with this guy for many years now." I'm sure you know each other very well by now. "He said he wants to keep his parents happy" I'm sure you know he is a 'people pleaser' and maybe you should 'Google' this if you ... (read in full...)
Why does she persist with this behaviour when she knows it is a conflict trigger?
Q. What is my wife's game? Hi myself and my wife have been married for 3 turbulent years now. After numerous bust-ups I moved out on new year's eve but am still in daily contact to help out with our 2 children. In the past when we have rowed my wife ...
A. 22 February 2011: "why does she persist with this behaviour when she knows it is a conflict trigger?" "When I ask her to stop she mocks me by saying I am playing the victim,'poor me'etc and excuses her behaviour" "She then threw a tantrum in the driveway - ordering ... (read in full...)
Addicted to running but injured and having to watch my partner train, can we survive this?
Q. Hi. I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist for an addiction to running. Sounds silly I know but it's a huge problem for me. I'm injured at the moment and can't run for about 3 months more, it's been 2 already. Problem is that my partner is a runner too ...
A. 22 February 2011: "can we survive this?" Yes you two can. The love of my life is a long distance runner. Early 2010 we were in a horrific accident. She is in a wheel chair with a spinal cord injury. Right after this happened my sister told me this would bring us ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me 2 days ago, would you agree?
Q. It hurts so much to write this right now. I never imagined being even remotely close to cheated on but from the investigating I've done, the mere thought appears to be the inevitable... I've been with my wife for 9 years. She's 26 and I'm 30. ...
A. 22 February 2011: "I'm realy worried that she might do something that she doesn't need to do." Have one of her girlfriends check on her as soon as possible.
As Battista said "I know that I hate sleeping in a single bed and always book a double even if I'm on my ow... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 22 February 2011: "I'm actually starting to feel.... different, peaceful" Grab hold of this "peace" with both hands and don't let go. I'm happy for you!... (read in full...)
Did he go to the pub for a pint or was he "helping" another woman in need?
Q. I am employed part time. I am also self employed in two other jobs. I don't have any qualifications or experience in a particular industry so I don't get paid a huge amount. My partner works full time. He has fifteen years experience in his line of ...
A. 22 February 2011: From what I've read I don't understand why you, or any woman for that matter, would want to be with this guy. Unless I'm missing something he is sneaky and selfish.
"Did he go to the pub for a pint - or was he "helping" another woman in need?" My v... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me 2 days ago, would you agree?
Q. It hurts so much to write this right now. I never imagined being even remotely close to cheated on but from the investigating I've done, the mere thought appears to be the inevitable... I've been with my wife for 9 years. She's 26 and I'm 30. ...
A. 21 February 2011: "His military career is at stake" Hell ya, it is. "I'm currently planning the assault on him." Not so fast. You can tell a lot about the honor of a man by the way he "ends things". "I love her more than any person on the planet. I would take a bul... (read in full...)
My wife won't let me move on!
Q. My wife and I separated 3 years ago when our son was 2. She was caught cheating and I left our home. Almost a year ago I met a woman who took my breath away. She was in the process of divorce and we became best friends. 4 months later our ...
A. 21 February 2011: "we became best friends." Congratulations! Nothin like being in love with your best friend is there?
"she is waiting on me to make a decision" don't make your best friend wait any longer. Go to a divorce lawyer. If money's an issue contact "leg... (read in full...)
We have been through so much recently. Is this just our relationship being tested?
Q. My BF and I broke up about a month ago over several issues that have existed in our relationship for quite some time. During our relationship, we broke up a couple of times, but have managed to work through them, talk it out and re-build our ...
A. 21 February 2011: "It has been a build up of stuff that life has thrown our way. Sure we had our issues as a couple but have managed to be strong enough to work through and get help when we needed it." I think problems come from both within the relationship and ... (read in full...)
What defines a soul mate and how can you tell who is likely to be a soul mate?
Q. I always believed there was a person out there for everyone but after my gf of 2 years who was the love of my life and I broke up I have sort of lost faith in relationships and am quite weary to get into another one in the near future. What do you ...
A. 21 February 2011: Until I was 45 years old I had always thought the idea of a man to have a soul mate was weak and dumb. I no longer think or feel this way. I met my soul mate when I was 15 but I didn't know it at the time. At 45 we met again and it was simply the ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my 9-year-old daughter that my wife and I are separating?
Q. My wife and I are going through a separation after 26 years together. We have a 9-years-old daughter. Should we tell her the truth now? I have been transferred to another town for work for more than a year and during this time I went home to see my ...
A. 21 February 2011: "Apart from kicking me in front of my family and calling me "Useless Piece of Sh*t" in front of our friends" It has been my experience that if a man or a woman verbally abuses someone, then physically abuses someone, they will do it to anyone. It is ... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 21 February 2011: "what's 'tag your it' by the way?" Wow, ok, there's this child's game called "tag". I thought it was a universal game but apparently I'm wrong. Here's how it goes: A little boy goes up to another little boy and touches him on the arm or back, ... (read in full...)
Has too much damage been done in our relationship for this to work out?
Q. Hi there. Here is what is going on with me, I'll try to keep it as brief as possible so may omit some details. I have recently had a mental breakdown which started, it seems, with me getting extremely drunk and punching my boyfriend in the face and ...
A. 21 February 2011: Wow, I think you've come a long way and are doing really well. Way to go! "I guess I am asking for advice as to what to do next re my bf? I am wondering if I should let him go totally because it might be that too much damage has been done." ... (read in full...)
The way she treated me while working out her issues has really taken a toll on the relationship
Q. Alright, so yeah I'm 15, if you're not going to take this seriously because of my age I'd suggest you just flat out don't read this. So I've been dating my girlfriend for coming up on 15 months now, awesome, but not really. I met the girl and we ...
A. 21 February 2011: On the one hand you have taken on a lot. On the other hand I think you can handle a lot because your post is articulate and shows you truly care. Rest assured, age has nothing to do with this. "Despite everything she put me through". How about lo... (read in full...)
Should I tell my 9-year-old daughter that my wife and I are separating?
Q. My wife and I are going through a separation after 26 years together. We have a 9-years-old daughter. Should we tell her the truth now? I have been transferred to another town for work for more than a year and during this time I went home to see my ...
A. 21 February 2011: The child is only nine years old. I think her having to move from her home and from her school is enough change for a good long while. Let her enjoy her childhood longer. If it was me I wouldn't tell the child anything about the status of the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't let me break up with him!!
Q. I tried to break up with my boyfriend yesterday, but he wouldn't let me, no matter what I said. We've been dating for almost a year, and I do love him, but I just can't handle this anymore. I'm sick of him getting upset and angry over stupid things, ...
A. 21 February 2011: "My boyfriend won't let me break up with him!!" "I'm sick of him getting upset and angry over stupid things, telling me what to do all the time, and making fun of most of the things I like. I can't be myself around him a lot of the time." "I'm sca... (read in full...)
My insecruities and imagination are ruining not only our marriage but me.
Q. MY husband and I have been together since we were both seniors in high school. We got married after graduation. We both have jobs, great friends, 3 wonderful children (5 years, 3 years and 3 months). Our relationship has always been great. BUT now ...
A. 21 February 2011: Go with him when he goes out with his new friend(s) so your imagination will stop running away with you.
Bottom line is "He has never cheated on me in the past and was honest with me about people I asked about even giving me his passwords to faceb... (read in full...)
What's he doing on the weekends? Am I paranoid or what?
Q. I met a man a month ago. We get along great. He is currently on disability because of an injury to his leg so except for doctor's appointments he is available to get together any time of the day. We live a few hours apart and make frequent drives to ...
A. 21 February 2011: You're welcome. I also told her to text/call anytime because I wanted her to know there was absolutely no monkey business going on with me while we were so far apart. I'm thinking this is why he told you the same thing. He wants you to rest easy ... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 21 February 2011: What does this mean? "Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit emotional" I've lived all my adult life in the U.S. To me "mad" means angry. If I called someone and didn't speak to them it's "tag, you're it". Then if I got an email from ... (read in full...)
Help! Arranged marriage...
Q. Hi Friends. This is hard to explain. My Boyfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago and we are both broken hearted and in pieces because of this. It is not a usual break up where the relationship is bad or things get tough it came out of the ...
A. 21 February 2011: You live in America. You are free. I lived there almost 30 years. Get jobs, elope, and live happily ever after. 2 can live almost as cheaply as 1.... (read in full...)
What's he doing on the weekends? Am I paranoid or what?
Q. I met a man a month ago. We get along great. He is currently on disability because of an injury to his leg so except for doctor's appointments he is available to get together any time of the day. We live a few hours apart and make frequent drives to ...
A. 20 February 2011: Modern technology? Ahhh! I would just pick up the phone and call. I used to live in "rural America" and had a lot of problems with Internet connections and cell phone service. The only cell provider was Verizon. I hate Verizon. Did you ever see ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I won't be around to grow old with him?
Q. I don't really know how to phrase this but I've come here for advice before and I'm really hoping someone can help me. I'm dying and have no idea how to tell my boyfriend. We're 18 and have been together for two years. I have been diagnosed with ...
A. 20 February 2011: If he were you, what would you want him to do?
Just so you know my mother was diagnosed with "terminal cancer" and far out lived the time she was given. Someone once told me a joke: How do you make God laugh? Tell him what's going to happen tomo... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 20 February 2011: Take a deep breath and call him. I can't speak for your ex but I think most men would agree the fewer words the better. Maybe say something like "It has been crazy busy for me. When can we sit down and talk?" And just wait for his answer. I wish ... (read in full...)
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