If cheated on will the man suddenly find the woman sexually unattractive?
Q. If you made a mistake and was found out for cheating, can it make a man go from finding you very sexually attractive, into not finding you attractive any more? Can men change just like that? How do you pull them back? Any one ever been through this?...
A. 22 February 2012: yes when someone cheats on you the idea of being intimate with them becomes a lot less attractive. ... (read in full...)
Any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both
Q. My current bf and I were each other's first sexual partners. In the four years since then, he's gotten skilled at making me feel amazing. Myself on the other hand, well,any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both. Blowjo...
A. 21 February 2012: for sex try spooning or doggy. Either might prove more pleasurable for you.... (read in full...)
Why are you on DearCupid?
Q. Someone asked me via PM "well you are here to help people" And someone else and I got to talking in message about that and I wonder... WHY do YOU post to DC? Are you here to help yourself? (or did you come to help yourself and stayed to help...
A. 16 February 2012: i came as i was searching for advice on what to do about the lady i was with at that time. When i started i posted my questions anonymously but then started reading other peoples and realized i could give them advice based on what i have been ... (read in full...)
Bf does not pay attention to my breasts...but he does look at those of other women!
Q. I have a wonderful boyfriend (we have been together for almost a year now.) Our sex life is pretty great except for one thing... I get upset because he doesn't take my top off during sex and doesn't pay attention to my boobs. I admit that i am ...
A. 16 February 2012: if you want him to pay more attention to your breasts tell him. Next time your in bed say "Oho i would really love it if you would suck on my nipples" or ask him to rub your breasts. If you are open and tell him what you like you might be able to ... (read in full...)
Does romantic sex appeal to men ?
Q. we women mostly (at least in my case) want slow sensual sex that lasts un hour or more with steady rythm and cuddling ,kissing ,sweet words and mutual participation but my experience showed me that men want the opposite , has i always chosen t...
A. 14 February 2012: i love slow romantic sex as well. So its not just you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to put my life on hold for a while is that right of him to ask?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I got a call from a former navy recruiter, and he told me of a new opportunity that would let me enlist in the military, but it is only valid for the next two months. I was very happy about it since i have been wanting to do ...
A. 14 February 2012: my advice. Leave him. Go and do what you want to do. If he really loves you he will be around wether your in the military or not. Its something you have always wanted to do dont give that up for a relationship that might not last.... (read in full...)
Why does my G/f defend her horrible, abusive ex every time I say something negative about him?
Q. This is my problem. I have been with this woman for over two years now. I love her very much. When we first met everything was going well. Shes been in a abusive relationship for nine years with her ex. She told me how he cheated on her multiple ...
A. 13 February 2012: my ex used to do that and then defend then later she went back to her abusive ex! If she is defending him and talking about him a lot she still has feelings for him. Sorry to say this but you need to be careful.... (read in full...)
I'm 33 and never want to speak to my mother again
Q. I'm having serious issues with my mother. I am 33 yrs old and can honestly say I hate my own mother. It all started when I started college at 20 yrs old. We use to clash a lot and she wld just take things to another level. She wld call me ...
A. 11 February 2012: from what you have said your not wrong. Its sad but you would be better without this woman in your life.... (read in full...)
Sweet 27 and never been kissed. Aunts what hope can you offer me that it will happen? Xxxx
Q. I'm looking for advice aunts. I've never kissed a guy before and I don't think anyone wants to. I'm kind of getting old and looking it and feeling it too. I feel too ugly and fat, and its not so much the fat cos i know i usually lose it quic...
A. 1 February 2012: it sounds to me like you have lost your confidence. I know at times in our lives it feels like we are moving no where but stay strong. When the time is right you will meet someone who will love you for who you are. Your not old yet and im sure your ... (read in full...)
I cant seem to have relationships like other people....what's wrong with me?
Q. Hi, I'm lonely and frustrated. I am a natural redhead, men think this either makes me easy or a bitch. I'm neither, i rebuff their advances, i have a preference for women you see. After qualifying as an optometrist i moved to a new city to work. I'...
A. 31 January 2012: i know im a bloke but i know How you feel. It is hard to meet people and frustrating having to meet your needs by yourself. Im guessing as you must be beautiful woman. Rather than searching frantically for a girlfriend try by just looking to make ... (read in full...)
Are all FWB relationships conducted, in this way?
Q. Hi everyone this question is for people who are in a fwb arrangement. how well do they treat you. I am in one. have been for 11 months now. he never comes round apart from the obvious when he is horny. he is not speaking to me at the moment because ...
A. 30 January 2012: no FWB relationships are not normally like this. In the past when i had a fwb we were always nice to each other wether we were having sex or not and we always took each others feelings into account.
This guy does not even see you as a friend. From... (read in full...)
I'm worried about gettin waxed down there
Q. I'd like to get my hair " down there " waxed lol, but i'm too embarassed about a stranger seeing my private parts, and how much hair there is there lol. I'm also worried about it hurting. How can i feel more comfortable about having it done ?. Also, ...
A. 27 January 2012: as a man i probably should not admit this but i waxed myself once with my exes veat Strips. It did not hurt too much. So you could always do it yourself? ... (read in full...)
He said if things ever go wrong between him and his girlfriend I'd be first on his list. I don't like second-best but I like him so much. Help!
Q. For the first time in my life i beleive i have finally meet someone that i acutally fancy which is really rare for me. Ive been talking to him now for about a month and hes great, hes got a great personality hes a dab hand at ...
A. 26 January 2012: never settle for second best. You can not be happy that way.... (read in full...)
Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?
Q. Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and...
A. 26 January 2012: you might have allergies to certain ingredients in what your drinking. E.g. If your allergic to gluten it will make you sick/stomach cramps within an hour or so of consuming anything Thats high in gluten e.g. Beer, lager some wines etc.
Your doct... (read in full...)
I am tempted to have sex with my ex. He is flirting with me and I really would like to respond! Please advice?
Q. Hey guys, I'm getting tempted by my ex and don't want to cheat on my bf, what should I do? My ex sends me racy FB and text messages, and has asked for/sent me pictures of himself in various stages of undress, telling me what he would do to me if we ...
A. 25 January 2012: dont you feel bad that your allowing this to go on? He is married. Cut him off and tell him to sort himself out and to "love and honor" his wife like he promised to when he married her. How would you feel if you were his wife and this was going on... (read in full...)
Sometimes cooking meals is just too much work! Is anyone else like this?
Q. Hi over the past year I have had days where I haven't eaten purely because I can't be bothered. I'm not anorexic or anything like that, I'm extremely happy with my body, but sometimes just the thought of cooking food just makes me feel like its the ...
A. 25 January 2012: i have had a very similar problem. When my ex cheated then left, i found i could not be bothered to do a lot of everyday things. I stopped cooking for myself as i did not see the point of cooking only for me (i used to take great care in the meals i ... (read in full...)
I want more commitment and want to live with my B/f but he has no interest in it
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. we love each other alot. I would really like to settle down soon and maybe think of having children. But I dont feel like we want the same things. I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to move i...
A. 25 January 2012: 4 years is long enough to expect a certain level of commitment in a relationship. Is he still is not ready after this amount of time he might never be!
You need to have a conversation with him and find out what you both want from your lives and from... (read in full...)
Regaining partners trust after lying
Q. How do I regain my partners trust after lying to him for so long? I didn't cheat on him, but I did lie about what I was doing prior to moving in with him...
A. 25 January 2012: there is a problem. Once trust is lost its very difficult to re-gain. You have lied to him. (How serious this is i dont know) from you comment of "i did not cheat" Im guessing you was either seeing someone or talking/flirting with someone behind ... (read in full...)
What should I do after she has cheated, now wants me to wait for her??
Q. Hi im new here..and i got nowhere to go except to come here to look for answer..i am a singaporean and my ex was indonesian chinese. we have a long dist. relationship which i will frequently travel to indon for every 2 to 3 months. i and my ex gf...
A. 23 January 2012: i know exactly How you feel and i know its hard. To be honest i know its hard to hear but you are better off moving on. Dont waist your life waiting for her. Ok she might be attractive my ex was too. But she is not loyal and no matter How much she ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: no most guys dont do this. Most people have enough respect for the woman to wear protection if asked. Dump him and Hope he has not got you pregnant.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want/need affection or sex. Is she just with me for security?
Q. I've been seeing my gf for 9 months and I'm starting to suspect her reasons for being with me are practical rather than romantic. Ever since we started dating sex and intimacy has been a bit of an issue. Basically most times thAt I attempt to get ...
A. 13 January 2012: if your not happy with your sex life now. Bear in mind it will get worse. Once a week will probably become once a month if your lucky. There should be a lot of romance and sex especially at the beginning of a relationship. If not you need to find ... (read in full...)
Can abusive men ever change?
Q. Can men who have been abusive with there partners ever be rehabilited and change their behaviour, or is it something deeper within them and there is little that will change them. I have been with a abusive man for 8 yrs and although it is not daily ...
A. 13 January 2012: my ex had an abusive partner he beet her so badly she ended up in hospital but would not press charges. She was with me for two years till i noticed one night she was covered in bruises. She then left me because she "loved him" and he said if she ... (read in full...)
My ex wanted to reconcile, now she's conflicted between me and another guy. What should I do?
Q. Don't know how many people here have read my older questions but to start things off me and my ex broke up last summer after a 5 year relationship and things ended in quite an ugly fashion. Last November she contacted me via email stating that she's ...
A. 10 January 2012: she is trying to have you as a safety net whirl seeing How it goes with the other guy. If you want to avoid the pain leave her and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Is there really someone out there for everyone?
Q. Do people actually always find someone.....? I'm 28 and am wondering if there really is someone out there for everyone. I have friends and am comfortable enough in a crowd but I just can't seem to meet anyone. Everyone keeps saying to be pat...
A. 9 January 2012: i feel exactly the same as you. I Hope there is someone out there for everyone as i want someone in my life too.... (read in full...)
Should I continue this relationship? he's very aggressive, easily angered!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 weeks and we've been through so much trouble already! A few days after we got together he was going on at me because I had cheated in my last relationship, well, it was a drunken snog that I s...
A. 9 January 2012: leave him and end this relationship. You have had all these problems after only 3 weeks! If he is like this it will only get worse.
Also your right to trust your instinct. When my ex started accusing me it was her that was cheating.
Get out... (read in full...)
What are guys thoughts of shy girls?
Q. hey here is my question: what do guys feel of shy girls? cause i am really shy and i dont know how to act around guys :/ i could really use you help and advise...
A. 6 January 2012: i love shy ladies.
Shy people tend to be honest, thoughtful and loving (in my experience) the sort of person i would love to find.... (read in full...)
Why is my supervisor behaving the way he is?
Q. So I've been working for this retail store and within the "structure" I, naturally, have a supervisor who's pretty helpful and friendly with everyone who works there. Nothing out of the norm. It isn't until last month when I started to REALL...
A. 6 January 2012: i have dated a manager before you can do it. Just dont let your colleagues know.... (read in full...)
Why is my supervisor behaving the way he is?
Q. So I've been working for this retail store and within the "structure" I, naturally, have a supervisor who's pretty helpful and friendly with everyone who works there. Nothing out of the norm. It isn't until last month when I started to REALL...
A. 5 January 2012: if your both single. And if you like him. Stop sending mixed signals and messing him around! ! ... (read in full...)
To men dating? What puts you off pursuing a women who has children from her past relationship/s? How many pre-existing children represent "too many" for you to consider pursuing her?
Q. This is aimed at all the men. When you reach your mid 30's and you are looking for a long term partner, we know most women will have at least one child. Do men have a maximum number of step children they will take on board? What number of children ...
A. 4 January 2012: personally for me. (i have tried dating a woman with a child) the deal breaker was she did not want any more children and i would love to have a family and a child of my own (not just raise someone elses) ... (read in full...)
Do all women taste the same?
Q. Hey everyone :) Im abit confused...me and my boyfriend got on the subject last night about givin each other oral. He said that a i tasted amazing :) which is good for both of us because we do enjoy it alot. But my question is... Do all woman tast...
A. 30 December 2011: every lady tastes different i think its mainly down to health and diet. Some taste Sweet others can have a strong or sharp laste. One lady i was with once one lick you never want to put your tongue near there again... (read in full...)
Why do I feel guilty - my boyfriend cheated on me
Q. I was with my boyfriend for three years. I didn't think we had any problems,only trying life circumstances, but since he ended the relationship by cheating on me, I've found out he was unhappy. The thing that shocks me about the break up is that...
A. 26 December 2011: first of all you should not feel guilty. He is the one that cheated you have nothing te be guilty for. If he was unhappy he should have communicated with you and told you so that you could have both tried to work on the relationship. please dont ... (read in full...)
Can an online relationship with a pen-pal guy in prison and me a virgin in UK work?
Q. I have a prison pen pal, and have been writing for a few months. There is definite connection but last night he asked if we can be in a relationship. I'm in the UK and he is in the US. I am kind of a 'loser' out here in real life. I am 34, still a ...
A. 25 December 2011: wow you have got yourself in a pickle. Your not a loser you was just looking for someone to take an interest in your life and this guy somehow filled the gap. You know its not going to work though and you need to get out in the big wide world and ... (read in full...)
10 year relationship being ruined by my inability to feel anything during sex
Q. Hi, Please help me - I'm a 30 year old healthy woman in a 10 year relationship that is being ruined by my inability to feel anything during intercourse. I can orgasm fine by clitoral stimulation and I have no issues with sex such as lack of experien...
A. 23 December 2011: maybe get your partner to use a vibrating cock ring. Will stimulate your clit during sex. :-)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me after I miscarried our baby and now I am furious
Q. Hi. I posted on here a few weeks ago re my situation but things have changed. Me and my bf have always had a tricky relationship but our love seems to hold us together. I have had some mental health issues that go back a long way, back to my ...
A. 22 December 2011: first of all im so sorry to hear what you have been through. Im glad to hear your starting to get your life back on track.
From what you have said he has been very uncaring and unsupportive its a difficult thing to go through and with your pro... (read in full...)
I was sneaky about meeting up with an ex, but it was only as friends and now I don't know what my boyfriend suspects!
Q. Is hanging out with an ex a terrible deed? this is an ex of mine from 4.5 years ago, the one prior to my current boyfriend of 4 years. It wasn't even really a relatonship, it was more fwb. but it ended because i found myself developing feelings ...
A. 22 December 2011: sorry to lecture but honesty is always the best policy. You should have told him you was going to see a friend rather than snooping around.
As a man who has been cheated on im now very weary of suspicious behaviour if he has had problems in the ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in feeling insulted by his behavior towards me over his 'present?' to me?
Q. My boyfriend and I (relationship of 6yrs) dont do presents however today he bought a present for his son's Gf (live-in rent-free gf) a ok Body shop set n some loose items. In jest I asked if he had anything for me and he took one of the items .wra...
A. 22 December 2011: if i was you i would have felt a bit annoyed as well.
Your asking if you should end the relationship so im guessing your having more issues than the fact he cant be bothered to get you a gift. You might want to post more on the problems you have... (read in full...)
I'm so scared I'm going to be left on the shelf!
Q. Hi, I am now the single one out of all my friends and I don't know what to do. I'm 31 attractive and have a good Job in recruitment. I'm living with friends in London and always had a good social life. However that's recently changed. Al...
A. 22 December 2011: I would stop worrying if I was you. I have the same problem and I know exactly how you feel, all my friends are either with a partner, married or engaged.
Like you I would love nothing more than to find someone who I can love and who will lov... (read in full...)
What's so cool about taking a shower with someone?
Q. I hate to sound crude/blunt, but, well, I dont get it. Showering is for cleaning the gross stuff off your body...Why would someone want to be in there with you? Feel free to explain this to me, haha. Because I'm honestly clueless. ...
A. 17 December 2011: your problem might be your shower is too small. When i renovated my house i put a triple shower in. Perfect for cuddling up. Its just a shame im single. :-)... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do you react when your man is attending a bachelor's party which you know its going to be wild?
Q. Three of my boyfriend's close friends are getting married, two of which he is the best man. His boys have been raving about this bachelors eve parties for the past couple of months. I don't know how to behave or act. SHould I act cool about it or sa...
A. 17 December 2011: i think your worrying too much. Its just a party with a funky name. A time to just have some fun and unwind. Dont let it stress you out. Wish him a good time and let him go with his friends.... (read in full...)
He cheated, I forgave him, but I don't think he'll do the same!
Q. i can't live with myself right now. im not suicidal or anything like that, i have a lot to live for. i did something HORRIBLE and i thought i could deal with keeping it as a secret but its eating at me more and more each day. Well, my boyfriend and ...
A. 17 December 2011: if you and him were "broken up" at the time you dont have to feel guilty or tell him anything.
In the Grand scheme of things he cheated you forgave him. You had sex when you were outside a relationship. (not cheating) if he loves you he should acce... (read in full...)
Can I ruin his porn videos without visible proof?
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend has recently stopped watching porn out of respect for me. I just recently found his old porn stash of dvds and he doesn't know that I know about them. I know I'm going to get a lot of responses about how I should talk to him ...
A. 17 December 2011: i dont understand why this is such an issue to you. But yes its easy to ruin a disk without visible signs. Leaving it print side down on a hot radiator for several hours should do the trick. Or tell him to give them to a single friend. But honestly ... (read in full...)
What's so cool about taking a shower with someone?
Q. I hate to sound crude/blunt, but, well, I dont get it. Showering is for cleaning the gross stuff off your body...Why would someone want to be in there with you? Feel free to explain this to me, haha. Because I'm honestly clueless. ...
A. 17 December 2011: it can be caring and fun to soap each other up (whirl running your hands over each others bodies) Tease a little and cuddle with the warm water running over you. Its all good clean fun :-)... (read in full...)
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