What's so cool about taking a shower with someone?
Q. I hate to sound crude/blunt, but, well, I dont get it. Showering is for cleaning the gross stuff off your body...Why would someone want to be in there with you? Feel free to explain this to me, haha. Because I'm honestly clueless. ...
A. 17 December 2011: your problem might be your shower is too small. When i renovated my house i put a triple shower in. Perfect for cuddling up. Its just a shame im single. :-)... (read in full...)
Can I ruin his porn videos without visible proof?
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend has recently stopped watching porn out of respect for me. I just recently found his old porn stash of dvds and he doesn't know that I know about them. I know I'm going to get a lot of responses about how I should talk to him ...
A. 17 December 2011: i dont understand why this is such an issue to you. But yes its easy to ruin a disk without visible signs. Leaving it print side down on a hot radiator for several hours should do the trick. Or tell him to give them to a single friend. But honestly ... (read in full...)
What's so cool about taking a shower with someone?
Q. I hate to sound crude/blunt, but, well, I dont get it. Showering is for cleaning the gross stuff off your body...Why would someone want to be in there with you? Feel free to explain this to me, haha. Because I'm honestly clueless. ...
A. 17 December 2011: it can be caring and fun to soap each other up (whirl running your hands over each others bodies) Tease a little and cuddle with the warm water running over you. Its all good clean fun :-)... (read in full...)
Does he know the pain I go through when I know he's looking at porn?
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now and we have always had sex reguarly, its never been the same there was also something to spice it up everytime. But recently within the past few months maybe he would reject hav...
A. 16 December 2011: why are you so threatened by porn? Why does it make you so insecure? Why is it such a big issue if your bf looks at it?
1. Your boyfriend is with YOU he chose to be with YOU.
2. If you love each other and have a good sex life why are you maki... (read in full...)
Guys! What are the motivations, excuses, reasons, justification for men who are cheating?
Q. I'm trying to better understand motivations for men cheating. So all the men out there... IF your woman is very attractive, always sexually available and ready for you, gives you massages, regularly cooks meals, works and pays her own sh...
A. 16 December 2011: i have never and will never cheat on anyone im with. If a met a woman like the one you describe i would show her How much i love her, marry her and be a very happy man.
There is never an excuse (male or female) for cheating. If some wants to be wi... (read in full...)
Just when I realize how great the guy is he says he's getting back with his ex!
Q. Hi, I'm really stupid, I met a perfect man, he is 32, funny, good career, sweet, good looking, from same background. We met 3 months ago in a club, I am 31 female And we got on great. Problem was in always felt a bit awkward in bed! He wa...
A. 16 December 2011: 31 is not old. My last girlfriend was 34. There is still time yet to find "the one" Also you said the "sex part was always not quite right" and that it is a big deal for you. After time that may have started to annoy you which could cause problems... (read in full...)
I'd be a lot happier and less lonely if I had a boyfriend. Why cant I get one? Am I cursed or extremely unlucky or just too picky?
Q. I'm feeling pretty lonely and down lately, even though I have such a loving family and the bestest, funniest friends I could ever ask for. However I do seem to spend a lot of time by myself these days, and I've kinda come to the conclusion that I'd ...
A. 15 December 2011: from reading your message you round like a lovely Sweet lady that just has not found the right man yet. Dont let it get you down. im stuck in the same situation as you, with a simula problem with my ex.
im single and just waiting for the right pers... (read in full...)
Is the honeymoon over?
Q. Hello there. I'm not really sure, but I really think the honeymoon phase in my relationship is gone. We have been together for a year now and the amount of sex we now have compared to before has dropped and it leaves me incredibly frustrated. We u...
A. 12 December 2011: once or twice a day. You lucky in my last relationship it got so bad it was once a month if lucky!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend accuses me of cheating all the time, does this mean that he is likely to be cheating on me?
Q. Hi everyone this is more of a question really, my boyfriend is always accusing me of cheating even though I'm not, I've never cheated on anyone in my life. is it true what people say about the one that accuses you of cheating are usually the ones ...
A. 7 December 2011: my exgirlfriend did that to me. Turned out she was cheating and had been for months. (thus now my ex)... (read in full...)
My partner couldn't be bothered that I miscarried our baby, and he's been busy texting his ex while I'm going through hell!
Q. Hi I've been with my partner for 3 half years. I was due to move on with him next month. In October I found out I was pregnant and was so happy. I'm 41 and my son has left home. My bf wasn't too keen at first but eventually began to get excited....
A. 7 December 2011: Im sorry to hear what has happened to you. You deserve better in your life. Leave him and move on. Find someone who will love and care for you like you deserve.... (read in full...)
She won't tell him why she wants a break!
Q. My best friend's fiancée just told him she wants a break for no reason or she isn't giving one. this is completely killing my friend and I cant console him. they where together for 5 years and now this. does anyone have suggestions how ...
A. 7 December 2011: Im sorry to say i agree with the others. It sounds like she might be wanting to try someone else.
He needs to talk to her and find the reason. Then once he knows he can decide if he wants to wait or let her go.... (read in full...)
My pattern of preferring much older men is starting to bother me. But are men in their 30s discounting me for dating older men?
Q. I'm a 31 year old woman. I live alone and have a career that I love. I'm fairly attractive. I would say I'm an 8 out of 10 on most days. I don't have a desire to get married. I have a healthy fear of getting pregnant or catching a disease. I ...
A. 1 December 2011: there is a difference of 20 years between my parents they love each over very much and i think i turned out ok :-)
age is just a number. Happyness is what matters.... (read in full...)
His ultimatum: Get rid of my online friends and date site profiles,or he is going to leave!
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months has given me an ultimatum. Either I get rid of my on line friends and Date Site profiles,or he is going to leave. I have been on them for 3 years and enjoy it. I feel a bit like he is telling me what to do. Which shall I go ...
A. 14 November 2011: good on him. I Hope if necessary he follows through with it.
You have a boyfriend so get off the dating websites. If you want a site you can get addicted to read the posts on dc and maybe even help a few people out by posting advice.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want my ex on my facebook friends list
Q. I am dating a guy who is very jealous. We have been dating for 2 months and during this time he kept on telling me that I should delete my ex from my facebook. Because, my ex called me many times when I was next to my boyfriend and told me that he ...
A. 14 November 2011: if you feel like that about your ex i feel sorry for your boyfriend. He is obviously second best for you. If you love your boyfriend respect him and get rid of your ex. If you cant get rid of your ex leave your boyfriend. I had a gf simula to you ... (read in full...)
My wife wont have anal sex, should I go to a prostitute or will I regret it?
Q. Hello friends, i know i have been several times here on DCupid issues about that issue, but still i want it to get this help from you! Please! Here it comes: i wish i could get intercourse in the anus in my wife but she doesn't want it anymore, we ...
A. 11 November 2011: if your so hung up about this how about seeing it from your wife's point of view. allow your wife to get a strapon any size she likes and go to town on your ass then see how you feel about it.
If she is not comfortable with anal that is her choi... (read in full...)
I think he's technically be cheating. Should I be concerned? Considering that he is completely satisfying me?
Q. Hey... I am in a relationship that has been going on for 9 months and it has come to my attention that my bf is 'cheating' on me. I know it sounds strange but I am unsure of how I feel about this. Basically the situation is, my bf is lovely, ...
A. 10 November 2011: with my ex when i caught her cheating i thought she would stop she didnt and is now my ex. To love you need to trust. If you are in an exclusive relationship you should just be with each other. If not then your both free to play the field. You could ... (read in full...)
do women tend to get into FWB relationships with someone for whom they have at least some romantic feelings, hoping it will turn into more?
Q. This question is just out of curiosity, and it has nothing to do with my situation (I'm married, faithful, etc.) There seem to be a lot of questions on this board by women who have feelings for their FWB. Typically, the questions are if their FWB...
A. 10 November 2011: personally i think feelings come first. i have had a fwb relationship in the past and it was never a problem. I did have some feelings to the woman but i would not want to sleep with someone i didnt have at least some feelings for. Me and her are ... (read in full...)
Men are selfish!
Q. Ok, the title says it all and I am sick to death, borderline disgusted by the selfish nature of men. Let's not deny it. It is 100% true. I have no problem attracting men. But here's the thing, The second an attractive woman ignores the man who is c...
A. 3 November 2011: Im not. Most men in general are not. I devoted my life/love to my ex who cheated and lied.
You just need to be more careful about the men you get into relationships with.
Personally I put my all into a relationship and normally get bac... (read in full...)
Am I jealous? Or wrong to feel this way? She took me shopping to find a present for her ex!
Q. So, i'm in an AMAZING relationship with my girlfriend. She makes me happier than anything in the world. However, i get so upset about certain things. For example, she speaks about her ex alot. Like, "once we went to this place and it was grea...
A. 27 October 2011: just an update to "pleh" I decided to trust my gf. Was not till she told me the truth that she has been cheating for months i realised my trust was misplaced. Then she moved out of my house to his. Its a red flag. Just keep it in your mind and dont ... (read in full...)
Am I jealous? Or wrong to feel this way? She took me shopping to find a present for her ex!
Q. So, i'm in an AMAZING relationship with my girlfriend. She makes me happier than anything in the world. However, i get so upset about certain things. For example, she speaks about her ex alot. Like, "once we went to this place and it was grea...
A. 27 October 2011: my advise. Get rid of her. She has feelings for her ex and i bet if she has a chance with him again one day she will take it. Save yourself the heart ache and leave the relationship. Its hard but trust me from personal experience its for the best.... (read in full...)
What is the longest you have gone without sex whilst in a relationship?
Q. What is the longest period that someone has gone without sex, While in a relationship. Without a medical reason ...
A. 26 October 2011: 6 months the lady had a traumatic past and it took us a long time to get to the physical stage of the relationship where she could trust a man to be that close to her.... (read in full...)
I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 24 October 2011: i Hope now you manage to find a man now who will love you and appreciate you for who you are. ... (read in full...)
He cant ejaculate! How common is this and what, if anything, can I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for a few weeks now, everything is good and this isnt really a complaint, but he cant ejaculate through sex, blow jobs, handjobs...you name it, no girl has ever made him ejaculate! He is 29, in good health, doesnt t...
A. 21 October 2011: I totally agree with LustyLisa i had the same problem your bf is having now and it is down to masturbating too hard. (i used to go at it so hard sometimes my skin would split and bleed) (Im more sensible now)
If he stops masturbating for a mont... (read in full...)
Would a guy ever admit to having cheated?
Q. Would a guy ever admit to having cheated to his girlfriend? Hopefully there are some guys out there that can answer this....
A. 19 October 2011: personaly i have never cheated in any relationship and never plan to. I have been cheated on though. Knowing from personal experience how it hurts if it somehow happened i would admit it. ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair, rashes and embarassing moles!
Q. [Mod Note: 3 questions merged into one] Quite a personal question... but here we go, pubic hair is so annoying. I do my bikini line and trim, but it still feels like there is too much. How can you trim "neatly"? Sometimes I feel like being complete...
A. 17 October 2011: 1. Personally i prefer shortly trimmed or smooth. The reason is if i go down on a woman and she has long hair there is nothing worse than getting hair stuck in my teeth or mouth (personally it puts me off putting my mouth down there a little)
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I told him about my past, he went silent and now wont speak to me until he has 'forgiven me'!
Q. I need some help. When I was 12, i was quite badly raped and beaten to within an inch of my life (I was in ICU for the following 2/3 months afterwards.) I did not open up to anyway and I still remain that way (like, i will jump if anyone touches me, ...
A. 17 October 2011: i have been in a reltionship to a woman who had a similar experience to you. I wondered why she would flinch when i tried to cuddle up to her. After dating about 4/5 months she told me what had happened to her which helped me understand. I was happy ... (read in full...)
Do men really want the same things as women?
Q. Do men really want the same as women? Like settling down have a family, kids etc! I just want that but finding it hard to find! Men I meet just seem to use you take advantage tell u that u are the best thing to happen to them, but they dont want the ...
A. 1 October 2011: yes men certainly do (i do) i would love to find someone who shares interests and who would love me (not cheat on me) i was two weeks away from buying a ring :-(
i know its hard to find good people but i know they must be out there somewhere. Pers... (read in full...)
Everybody loves my husband except me!
Q. Hi Cupids. My husband of 16 years is perfect by everybody else's standards. He is well liked by my family and friends, a good husband, a good father and best friend. I know that logically he is a good choice for me. He has stood by me during goo...
A. 28 September 2011: i feel sorry for your husband. Its never nice being second best. you are probably feeling this way as your relationship was so secure (he loves you would do anything for you) that you dont have to worry about making an effort as you know he is there ... (read in full...)
Nearly a year with him and he's never given me oral sex!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend nearly a yr and hes never given me oral sex!! he doesnt even talk bout it!! its the same old thing, nothing spontaneous we just watch tv go to bed, light goes off he gets on me does his business and says i feel better now ...
A. 28 September 2011: for me personally when i was in a relationship i loved nothing more than to see/feel/hear the enjoyment of my partner when i was licking and teasing her. I loved knowing that i was giving her pleasure and was happy i always left her satisfied. I... (read in full...)
How much trouble would we be in if we have sex at a movie theatre and get caught?
Q. I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the ...
A. 27 September 2011: with anything in public there is always a risk of being caught. Though that can be half the fun. If you both prepare properly before hand e.g. Easy access cloths it makes things easier and makes getting caught less likely(its also easier to cover up ... (read in full...)
How can I help my wife to see that her partying with her gay and straight male friends is ruining our marriage?
Q. Hi, i'm 28, my wife 27, been married for 18 months now. Our marriage has been good up until now; she's a lovely wife and a kind, caring person. However, she's been going out partying far too much with her gay friends, and refuses to invite M...
A. 22 September 2011: are you sure nothing has ever happened with her and any of these guys? Do you really trust her? When my exsex drive dropped it was because she was getting it else where ... (read in full...)
Do you think having sex too much, can make him lose interest in a relationship with me? Help!!
Q. So me and this guy have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now, like we are basically together but just without the official title. Like we act like we are together, just basically how everything between us is how it would be if we were ...
A. 21 September 2011: if your both happy and having fun then keep going. You can never have too much sex :-)... (read in full...)
Torn between old and new love
Q. My husband wants me back but I have a new boyfriend, my husband was perfect, wirlwind romance, great career, funny, never argued, handsome, took my daughter on like his own then one day I discovered he has been on internet dating sites my world ...
A. 13 September 2011: i feel sorry for your boyfriend. i know there is nothing worse than being second best in a relationship. Especially when the woman your with is contemplating being with a man that cheated and hurt her before. Do yourself a favour and leave them both ... (read in full...)
She can't decide whether she wants to be with her abusive ex or me
Q. so i have been seeing this girl for almost 2 years, 1 year into it she wanted to take a break,this only lasted two weeks , moving foward a couple of weeks ago she tells me she has had thoughts that it would be better for son to try and work things ...
A. 6 September 2011: i have had a simula experience. If the person wont commit after all this time they never will. Move on or you will end up being hurt.... (read in full...)
Why does my BF have my name listed as "Christopher" on his phone? Could he be cheating on me?
Q. I just discovered that my boyfriend has me listed in his phone by a male name - Christopher, when clearly that is not my name. My name doesn't even start with the letter C. This is sooooooo very strange, and I was not happy about this. I asked ...
A. 6 September 2011: i noticed my ex had done this a while before i found out she was cheating. Dont trust anyone who does this.... (read in full...)
Sick of being second best......
Q. How do I deal with being second best? I'm second best when it comes to everything. My partner has a better ex. She was prettier and cooler and they only broke up because she cheated. He would never have left her had she not. I'm also second best...
A. 5 September 2011: you sound like a lovely sensitive woman. Dont let anyone make you feel like second best. If your partner does that leave him and find someone who treats you like number 1. Being second best is a painful experience i know. Have confidence in ... (read in full...)
I love her, she went back to her ex, now she wants to try again. What do I do?
Q. So I'll try and make this as short as possible. After a 19 year relationship, my wife and I split up last year. I was't looking for anyone after this happened. A friend oif mine wanted me to meet this girl. I was hesitant at first and finally ...
A. 25 August 2011: be careful. If you let her come back. My ex was simular and it turned out although she had "come back to me" she had told her ex she was staying with a friend for a while "keeping her options open" after a few more months she then left again. If you ... (read in full...)
Is it too late? I went back to my ex but I cant get the other man out of my head....
Q. I am a mid 20 year old woman and have been a relationship with a man for 12 years. The last eyar was rough as far as he was being verbally abusive, fighting all the time and never around, there was a man who wanted me a mid 30 year old and I fell ...
A. 22 August 2011: Im a man in the same situation as the guy that you had been with for 5 months my gf had a physically abusive partner i was with her 7 months then she went back to her ex. Like you have done. Then he beat her again she came back moved back in i ... (read in full...)
Will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex?
Q. Well I was reading someone's question on here about Teen Sex, my question is, will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex? I mean, I would love to find a guy that likes me for me and fall in love, but I don't want him to leave me ...
A. 22 August 2011: if a guy really likes you he wont mind if your not ready to have sex. One girlfriend i had we did not have sex at all in the first eight months of the relationship i didnt mind that as she was loving and affectionate. When your ready you will know! ... (read in full...)
If suspicion does come from guilt....does that mean shes up to something behind my back?
Q. My girlfriend of 10 months is quite a strange character, in a good way mainly as I like individuality, but some things do bother me... She won't meet me near her work in case a colleague sees us as she says she doesn't want everyone knowing...
A. 18 August 2011: from previous experience i also had the "i dont want to be close to you near work" treatment from my ex. she was seeing her ex there behind my back. If she is with you she should be happy to be close to you any where. If she is hiding you from a ... (read in full...)
Is it an insult to be called "posh"?
Q. Would you consider it an insult to be called " posh " ?. I am well mannered, intelligent, kind and caring, and i usually dress smartly. So, i think that's why this person called me " posh " once. I also don't usually swear , unless i'm really angry, ...
A. 18 August 2011: as a man who also gets called posh. If i was you i would take it as a positive comment. ... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 17 August 2011: as a man i have never cheated. I have also never entered into a relationship with someone who is in a relationship. I am 100% loyal to any partner i am with. As any person in a relationship should be. If your even thinking of looking else where you ... (read in full...)
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