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Am I justified in feeling insulted by his behavior towards me over his 'present?' to me?

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Question - (22 December 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 30 December 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, *ondrin writes:

My boyfriend and I (relationship of 6yrs) dont do presents however today he bought a present for his son's Gf (live-in rent-free gf) a ok Body shop set n some loose items.

In jest I asked if he had anything for me and he took one of the items .wrapped it and gave it to me!!

Am I right to be insulted or am I just being OTT? I should have thrown it at him but instead I gave it to a lady on the bus!!

I think I may have to end this relationship because I take that as a REAL cheap insult!! Thanks PS The bus lady was delighted!

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A female reader, Wondrin United Kingdom +, writes (30 December 2011):

Wondrin is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanz to you all!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2011):

I think if you have a 'no gift' agreement then it's odd to begin with.

Do neither of you buy gifts for anyone, friends,family etc?

If he is the only one who said he didn't do gifts, and hasn't bought any for the entire relationship, then him buying for somebody else now would annoy you.

I think this is just scratching the surface of other problems you have,he's not showing much respect or maybe he just has a warped sense of humour

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011):

I don't think you have a right necessarily to be insulted if you don't do gifts. But obviously it is insulting to do that. It seems like you were annoyed that he gave his son's gf a gift but he didn't have anything for you which is understandable. I wonder why you said no gifts? It doesn't seem to really be want you want- maybe it's time to change that policy? Not accepting gifts from your so is not normal imo. It seems like you have a problem giving/receiving maybe?

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A female reader, PerhapsNot United States +, writes (22 December 2011):

PerhapsNot agony auntI would be insulted if I was in your situation. Then again, I don't understand why you have a no-gift policy. What's up with that? Is it just for Christmas, or in general? And whose idea was this?

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A male reader, eek United Kingdom +, writes (22 December 2011):

eek agony auntif i was you i would have felt a bit annoyed as well.

Your asking if you should end the relationship so im guessing your having more issues than the fact he cant be bothered to get you a gift. You might want to post more on the problems you have as it may help us all to offer a better reply.

Its lovely though that you still have some Christmas spirit in you (present to bus lady) i Hope things work out, that your happy and have a lovely new year.

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