A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I realized I am quite a bitch when it comes to relationships and wondered if anyone could help me out. Whenever I start dating someone it's mostly fine. Once we are exclusive, I am a bitch! I avoid the person, don't respond to texts/calls, and eventually break up with them quite early in the relationship. I have been told by girlfriends that I mess with people's heads. I guess I lead men on, only to break up with them.For example, I was dating this one guy for a month, then he asks me out. We are together for a short while and I just couldn't take it anymore and dumped him. A year later, he's with a new girl (I am perfectly fine with this) but find myself wanting him because he is with someone else. But I don't want to be with him, I just want to hook up with him I guess. Why am I so messed up? I also had a very crazy crush on a married man I know. But I have to wonder, if I ever "got" him, would I really want him? Or is it the chase? What is wrong with me? Can anyone help me? Why am I a bitch when it comes to relationships? Why is the thrill of winning, of the chase the only thing I'm interested in?
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 I think you just have to be patient, keep dating and have a good time. Eventually you'll meet a guy who you decide you just can't live without, and who will be able to put up with and love your bitchiness.
Eh, i'll be honest. I've always preferred a woman who's a bitch. It's funny because i guess i've always come across as a super nice guy, and i've been asked more then once why i date the women that i do. Heck, the woman i MARRIED is a stone cold bitch, and it drives my sisters crazy.
But i feel comfortable with her. I know i never have to worry about her because she can take care of herself, ya know?
And she's cognitive of her bitchiness, and on more then one occasion has opened up to me and told me "there is no one else on this earth who i need more in my life then you, Drew."
I'm not just a doormat. I'll stand up to her when need be, and i know when to support her.
She is the best friend that i've ever had, and I know i'm the best friend she has ever had.
You'll find that eventually, too, when you're ready.
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reader, jomissy +, writes (6 June 2011):
The chase is soooo much fun.....it appealed to me forever several reasons.. this is where all the fun is.. no work.. we humans like the fun part that's why it is so easy to have sex with someone that's the fun part.As you move into a more caring relationship things must change if we are exclusive all others must fall to the wayside this in and of itself denys the flesh what it wants because we want it ALL. You my dear are no different than many of us who struggle with a deeper level of intimacy and sex isn't it.One we become bitches so we don't get hurt and because it's all about me i don't care what you think or feel that protects me and many times you may be right there are a lot of bad dudes out there as we get older we get a better view of the issues of the heart may I suggest you don't do exclusive your young it's time to have fun and keep it moving.
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