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*otsoluckyinluv
writes:Hi, I met my boyfriend of almost 2 years online. The first 3 months amazing. I found out i was pregnant shortly after and was so excited. 7 months into my pregnacy i found out he was still online soliciting other women, sending naked pics of himself and inviting them to baseball games. Since then i have caught him in several lies about meeting up with other women, have found more naked pics of him to other women, and i would have never found out unless i dug deep. He does not seem to sorry for his actions, but he does not want to lose me. Ive tried to leave him, but since we live together, he wont leave. He says he was just going through a rough period. But as recently as 1 month ago, I discovered he went to an event with another girl, he claims to have for only a couple of years also, and that they are only friends. I don't know how long I should deal with his lies. Is there any hope for a future with Him? Im thinking no, but for our daughter's sake Im hanging on. What do i do? Sincerely, notsoluckyinluv
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reader, notsoluckyinluv +, writes (3 June 2011):
notsoluckyinluv is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, no doubt i made serious mistakes. Out of it, I have a beautiful daughter. I will cherish her and have no regrets of becoming pregnant with her. I will never make the same mistakes of going online to date or having sexual relations so quickly before not knowing someone. I'm a fool and was desperate for love and attention. My husband divorced me 3 years prior and I thought it was my time. The home is in my name and yes i will kick him out. thank you both for responding. Your answers were very helpful and enlightning.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 I have to agree with OhGetReal.
I guess my question for you is: why can't you (or he?) leave?
Is your home under both of your names? Only 1?
If it is under your name: Kick him out. If it is under his name: leave.
If both, then you'd better go talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are.
This is not a healthy relationship you are in.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (2 June 2011):
 You met a guy on line that you knew Nothing about and you got sexually involved very soon after meeting him, less than three months in. Employers put new employees that look good on paper and in person on a three mo t probation because they have the experience and foresight to know that every person is on their best behavior for at the very least three months, and in a romantic situation, double or triple that time frame. Ask yourself why you are excited about being pregnant with a man who is not your husband after only three months ... In other words you made some serious mistakes and poor choices so take your own inventory and take responsibility for rectifying your behavior in the future.Your boyfriend is a sexual predator. He's manipulative, conning, a liar. Of course there is no future here. He's built a house of cards and you have a fantasy relationship, not a real one. You now have a daughter to think of. He has nothing to offer her, he's a misogynistic predator of women.Leave.
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