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How do I 'finger' my gf without hurting her? Any tips?

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Question - (28 January 2007) 8 Answers - (Newest, 14 July 2011)
A male age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hi my I was wodering how is the best way to finger girl freind becuse last time i seemed to hurt her and she started lieing saying it was fine but i no it isnt so Please help me !!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011):

finger is not that satisfying... i recommend to use your tongue instead... thats all =)

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A male reader, pbstar157 United States +, writes (24 December 2008):

i was wondering the same because my gf was putting my hand on her vagina last time we were at her house. And i didnt know what she wanted me to do. Because we were kissing alot. I dont know how to start to finger her, and i just rubbed 'her' through her panties. And i could feel that it was kinda slippery

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008):

when i first fingerd my ex

she was not wet and she claimed it hurt alot

i origanly thought i used to mainy fingers and she was tight

however i found out she wasnt wet remember turn her on and get her wet it's the best way to do it

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thx for the info guys and btw am 16 and my gf 17 and trust me wec did alot of fore play and she was wet i dont think i was rough at all ..... i just dunno but thanks any way guys

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A male reader, Dr. Reality Check United Kingdom +, writes (28 January 2007):

Dr. Reality Check agony auntWell, the first thing is dont just kiss her, then start fingering her. Make sure you do plenty of foreplay so she is wet first. It probably hurt last time as you were a bit too eager and did it while she was still dry down there. Do lots of kissing and touching first, and then do things nice and slow. Pay attention to her reaction to see what turns her on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007):

You should ask her if she knows the best way to do it herself because it is possible she doesn't know herself.

The other thing is - so i hear - some guys can be quite rough in that they just use their finger or fingers and repeatively go in and out - as if simulating sex. You will find if you go nice and slow and seductively, you can use all sorts of the parts of your hand to touch and stimulate your girlfriend around the entire area and if you are intimately connected you will easily see what is turning her on.

Also remember that practice makes perfect. I look at your age and notice you are very young... so young you probably don't know your own bodies that well. Take things slowly and easily.

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A female reader, Nikita United Kingdom +, writes (28 January 2007):

Nikita agony auntOkay, well, I think it probably hurt last time because she wasnt ready and maybe didnt have enough lubrication. Make sure she's relaxed and be gentle, no rough movememnts. You're not poking a piece of clay. Take it slow and ask her if its okay and not hurting. If necessary use some lubrication but above all, show respect and take guidance from her okay. Take care. x

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A male reader, The Fonz United Kingdom +, writes (28 January 2007):

The Fonz agony auntThe key is relaxation. If there is tension and nerves, then it will hurt because she will not be as 'ready'. Make sure your fingers are clean and nails short, because this can cause discomfort. Take things slowly and dont try to rush.

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