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I love her but she says there is no spark!

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Question - (11 February 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 12 February 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Im in love with this beautiful girl but she doesnt know my full feeling for her, we have kissed before. I have said to her that i want to have sex with her but now shes saying that friends is all she wants because theres no spark. I really love her and want to be with her but i dont know what to do about this.... any help would be great.

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A male reader, tommy2k7 United Kingdom +, writes (12 February 2007):

tommy2k7 agony auntCan she dump her bf and change her mind to go out with me, when we meet?

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A male reader, Dr. Reality Check United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2007):

Dr. Reality Check agony auntI agreed with what Ask Eve wrote before I even read it. A girl telling a boy "I want to have sex with you" would be a one way ticket into her pants. A guy telling a girl "I want to have sex with you" comes across as childish and unromantic. You are young, and can put this down to experience, but I would try to get to know her a little better and be romantic towards her as opposed to saying "I want to have sex with you". That doesnt make you irresistable.

PS - roses, chocolates, long walks, chocolates, opening doors, chocolates and other such things like chocolates usually do the trick.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007):

If she doesn't want a relationship with you (and doesn't want to have sex with you) then you can't force her. It looks as if she has changed her mind about getting romantically involved with you. You can't do anything about it so just stay friends with her whilst finding another girl to have a relationship with.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2007):

AskEve agony auntJeeeeeeeeeeze you need to learn how to talk to a woman. Saying you'd like to have sex with her is NOT the way to win a woman's heart. She might think you only want her for her body. That was really a shallow silly thing to say to her. I know I know... it came out wrong! lol Wrong move buddy! Start again and apologise for you being so up front. What you really meant was you'd like to see her again as friends. That way you can hang out together and get to know each other better. You might not even like once you really get to her her.

Looking at the "outer package" is all fair and well but the real beauty comes from WITHIN. So get to know her better, ask her out for a coffee or a coke or milkshake, hang around together and then see if you both "click".

Good luck!

Eve

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (11 February 2007):

kenny agony auntAs you have said you want to have sex with her she probably thinks that this is all you want. Tell her how you feel, and the extent of the feelings you are carrying for her.

If she still says no, and there is no spark be a man and move on, there are plenty of other girls out there.

Good luck

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