Is he really into me?
Q. I recently met a guy through okcupid.com. We went out three times so far. The first date was good, we had plenty to talk about. The second time, he came over to my place and we ordered in. We made out, but no sex. The third time we went out for ...
A. 24 August 2014: You're under no commitment whatsoever, so I see no problem dating other people, Cerberus is spot on about this guy but only you can make the final call.
I honestly don't see him NOT dating other women over the month he's away, and it's probably ... (read in full...)
It is possible to be FWB with an ex?
Q. Recently an ex of mine has contacted me and we've started speaking again. It's been a couple years since we broke up, and a year since the last time we spoke. We've both had other relationships since each other, so there was time to get over it. ...
A. 17 August 2014: You know the answer to this!! It's not possible and most likely you will develop feelings for him again as they will be rekindled and regardless what anyone says you will do as your heart desires. Our validation or disapproval won't affect your ... (read in full...)
Why does my LDR girlfriend seem so interested in sex until we are together?
Q. Hi everyone I'll keep it as brief as I can. I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. we can see each other every 6 months or so. When we are apart, she talks about sex often, how much she wants it next time w...
A. 17 August 2014: How do you know that she's a virgin? What, she told you?She wants sex yeah but probably not with you. The fact she puts little to no effort in the relationship says alot about where the relationship is at.
Long distance relationships suck big time... (read in full...)
Just engaged, everything was great..... until the ex contacted me!
Q. I have recently become engaged to my boyfriend of nearly two years, and everyone has wished us luck and congratulated us. We have decided to have a winter wedding as our birthdays are both near Christmas and everything was falling into place. But ...
A. 3 August 2014: I would let it go if I were you but it seems you still have feelings for him. Don't punish your boyfriend by marrying him while still with unresolved feelings for another man.
What if he is genuinely sorry, would you call the wedding off?? Co... (read in full...)
Married man begged to make me stay. What should I do?
Q. Okay, so here goes. I'm 31, been single for a few weeks now, dated a 34-year-old man for about a month, until I then realized he was married. We met in a local bar I drink at often, he was there with some friends, we got talking, it was a fun even...
A. 25 July 2014: This man won't leave the wife. He'd have done it ages ago, I know you know this. Stop seeking validation just make up your mind ... (read in full...)
How do I get my 73 year old husband to wash every day?
Q. How can I get my husband of 73 to wash everyday? He gets upset when I pull away from him as even a kiss makes me feel sick...he never brushes his teeth, I change pillow cases every day as they are smelly and greasy! We have single beds now...I ...
A. 25 July 2014: Cummon just dump the old geezer already!!... (read in full...)
How do I act toward my crush? I'll be visiting his workplace soon!
Q. How do I act around a crush, given that I choose "accidently on purpose" to be where he works and stand the possibilty of being served by him. I don't live in that town, but I used to go there often...I really want to see if he'll chat me up...
A. 6 June 2014: Hey you're a lady it's ok to be afraid and wait for him to take the lead, if you wanna use your friend as a go between, please do and see what happens but it would have been so much better if you said something as you could tell from his response if ... (read in full...)
What do you think of my poem to my ex?
Q. Young lady's I sent a poem to an ex, I wrote, just like to know if you think, she would of like it, an she ever has regretted breaking up with me, its been almost two years no contact, this is the only time I did this, she left me to go back to her ...
A. 1 June 2014: PLEASE DON'T SEND IT!!!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I act toward my crush? I'll be visiting his workplace soon!
Q. How do I act around a crush, given that I choose "accidently on purpose" to be where he works and stand the possibilty of being served by him. I don't live in that town, but I used to go there often...I really want to see if he'll chat me up...
A. 31 May 2014: Just ask him out!! My current girlfriend did and it was similar to your situation as she comes to my work place to do her business. We are very happy and am glad she had the good sense to ask me out because my work schedule is a real hindrance but ... (read in full...)
What might be her intentions?
Q. Hey there, I need to make decision and might need some other pionts of view about it. Long story short. My ex Gf broke up with me, for some reasons, and she behaved pretty mean and hurtful at the end. So I decided for me to go NC and stuc...
A. 7 May 2014: she is pinging to see if you are still interested. she probably broke up as she had someone whom she desired intimacy with (guilt free) and now that it's over she wants to pick up from where she dumped you. id say continue ignoring her and find a ... (read in full...)
Am I only the one who only gets chances with extremely unattractive people or people with strangeness?
Q. Am I only the one who only gets chances with extremely unattractive people or people with strangeness? This has probably been asked before, I don't get it anyone I like doesn't like me back or they've done something unforgivable, yet unattractive...
A. 3 April 2014: You've just gotta try out these frogs, kiss 'em and watch as they turn into your handsom prince ... (read in full...)
Should I have talked to my Ex Husband?
Q. My ex husband and I have been separated for 3 and half years, due to his constant online cheating. After the split, things got ugly and he turned into a very ugly person, calling me names and threats, our kids dont talk to him. I saw him this wee...
A. 16 February 2014: That's a difficult question to answer. You did what you felt you had to do for yourself. I see nothing wrong with that. Take care of yourself and the kids first. His actions have shown what he thinks of you. Don't feel guilty... (read in full...)
Do you have to hear the word love to be loved?
Q. Hi, well I said those magical words lastnite after watching the notebook, we been seeing each other for over eight years, I broke up with her couple of years ago, for a few months, cause she never says it back, but we got back together, she said it ...
A. 16 February 2014: Wow so many great responses from the aunts and uncles here. Bottom line, I think women are complex and amazing beings. You HAVE to be patient and take your time with them, from foreplay, sex, building your relationship and even saying the L word. ... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea for me to get in touch with my ex?
Q. I'm not sure whether to contact my ex or not. We haven't spoken for a year and a half. The last time I spoke to him, he told me that he didn't want us to contact each other again. We used to have a lot of arguments, and now that I am older and a lot ...
A. 15 February 2014: Do you really just want to be friends with your ex??
You sure you don't want him back??
Will he be bothered by you reinitiating contact?? Who knows. Just don't kid yourself about what you really want. I say go for what your heart desires, b... (read in full...)
I thought I was doing the right thing by being honest but he turned it against me
Q. I recently met someone and felt it right to be upfront about the fact I had ( several years ago now) been involved in an abusive relationship. I left that relationship with nothing, emotionally,financially and tbh was completely broken and had to ...
A. 11 February 2014: Honesty my dear. Really helps weed out the wheat from the chaff... (read in full...)
Should I keep flirting or tell him I like him?
Q. I currently got to beauty school for nail tech. There I met a guy from the barber class. We talk on a daily basis, but the last couple of times we seen each other his been extra friendly, like last night he gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. ...
A. 11 February 2014: You seem to like each other but I say keep flirting ??... (read in full...)
How do I end this obsession that's threatening to ruin my life?
Q. Please believe me when I tell you that I have a very loving and beautiful relationship with my boyfriend. We might get married later this year. I had a crush on a colleague and it spiraled out of control and became an obsession. I avoid him like t...
A. 11 February 2014: I wish I could find a way to explain to both you and your boyfriend that feelings can't be turned on and off like a light bulb. Give each other a break and go figure stuff out. If it is nothing more than a crush you will find your way back to each ... (read in full...)
I cant provide money for us since I can't escourt so should I end things?
Q. K this is pretty serious. We've been together almost a year, we are both head over heels in love. I asked him to marry me he said yes. Hes a tattoo artist Im 25 hes 47. We share symptoms, we're twin flames. Recently we have been having some mon...
A. 8 February 2014: Hey I thought that the two of you were supposed to chip in on finances. What does he do on the financial end?? Love and sex are important but money problems can most often be the straw that breaks the camels back... (read in full...)
Should I worry about others hearing my girlfriend's moans during sex?
Q. During intercourse last night in bed my girlfriend started moaning for the very first time since we started having full sex regularly from being virgins a couple of months ago. I was pleased to hear her because I'd been thinking the condom was ...
A. 24 August 2013: The beautiful sound a beautiful woman makes during love
making. Nothing beats that. Who cares who hears a thing?? Make
love to her and stay safe!!... (read in full...)
How can I shut him out my crush on my boss while I'm working so he doesn't distract me?
Q. I just started a new job a week ago, and I've run into a problem. Let me first say my job is very fast paced, and requires a good amount of physical strength. This normally isn't a problem for me at all. I've worked a job like this before, and ...
A. 13 August 2013: What can anyone honestly say to change the way you feel!!??
Attraction isn't a choice... Women tend to feel attraction to more dominant men.
Your husband is nice=boring as you feel no challenge but your boss fascinates you!!
Honey it's time... (read in full...)
I am a very quiet and boring guy, will girls like me?
Q. I am a 23 year old guy and never had a girlfriend before. Its not that I don't like women/girls, its because I don't know how to get one due to the fact that I always keep my mouth shut, but I can't help it because its my personality. It is kind of ...
A. 13 August 2013: Personally, I think it all starts with changing the things you say to yourself IN YOUR HEAD!! Try something different for a change. Personally I tend to be just about as introverted as you. So, to deal with social anxiety, I developed a ha... (read in full...)
I asked out a girl at work and she backed out at the last moment. How do I act around her now?
Q. Hi all, mine is a simple question but really boggling for me. A girl at work has been real flirty with me for a while now, over two or three months. Finally i asked her out but at the last minute she flaked despite me earlier telling her that...
A. 11 August 2013: Thanks alot for the hard hitting truths!! I've learnt alot and will continue working on improving myself. I was rather arrogant coz i knew she was into me. Serves me right, but i've deffinately learnt something. Thanks for all the advice. God bless... (read in full...)
Did I take advantage of her? Is she having second thoughts?
Q. I have known a girl for about 2 years, we went on a date ages ago and then she got a boyfriend. I really liked her as she was not only pretty but nice and came from a nice family. We went out last week after not seeing her for over a year and ...
A. 5 August 2013: Dude learn to live in the moment, dont't worry too much about what she's thinking or feeling, focus instead on having fun and enjoying being with each other NOW!! Let tomorrow take care of itself.
You didn't take advantage of this girl!! She want... (read in full...)
Do I booty call my baby mama? Or stay away because we don't have an emotional relationship? Its just sex!
Q. alright. so in a nutshell i have a baby momma. when we initially got together in our earlier twenties she was this good girl routine play. you know wanted a family and relationship and all this stuff. so sure enough i was down for this girl then i ...
A. 5 August 2013: If you wanna fuck, then you wanna fuck. PERIOD!! Ain't nobody gonna tell you what to do coz you want her, n she wants you. That's pure, raw, animal attraction and fighting that is hard. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you'll know when... (read in full...)
We have a baby but I've found out she kissed another boy when we had been together for a month!
Q. Im 22 and she's 19 we have a baby now and were doing just fine being together,we've also been together for more than a year.i loved her without a doubt before she kissed a guy when we were about a month together she said that it was a dare they were ...
A. 3 August 2013: Hey man, you're both young and at an age where this kind of stuff happens.
Just observe her actions towards you and the family. You say she is committed. Judge her based on her actions n not her or any one else's words.
And stop bringing up... (read in full...)
I have amazing chemistry with this girl but she won't break up with her new boyfriend. Is she just leading me on?
Q. I met a girl on odd string of events. I went out on the porch of my friends house that i now have taken up residence to chill with him while he smoked. Well i looked across the street to the house directly across and saw this cute girl i had noticed ...
A. 1 August 2013: Dude she just wants some guilt free sex and excitement at this point in her life. That's why she let you know about him. She isn't breaking up with him any time soon.
So make a decision. Do you want sex with no strings attached (which she does), o... (read in full...)
After she moved away, we barely talk anymore because she's always too tired or too busy or talking to this guy! Do I break up with her?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this girl now. Last year, she moved to another city with her family. She used to call and message me all the time. After 3months,she joined a college for her further studies. She became friends with a guy ...
A. 25 July 2013: Dude, what do you mean asking if you should break up with her?? Brother, she has moved on long ago and is just stringing you along for validation purposes.
Stop communicating with her and further degrading yourself. You're a man of value for heav... (read in full...)
MY girlfriend lied to me, we broke up and now everything is a mess
Q. Hi in need of help I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years. 10 days ago I had found out she had been lying to me. She had been going out with another guy and hiding it from me. It started out one day when I logged into Fac...
A. 25 July 2013: unless you want to keep her for sex purposes, i'd suggest you let her go do and be with whomever she wants. There are too many amazing women out there waiting to get to know you. NO SERIOUSLY!!... (read in full...)
Will my married lover leave his wife? Or just keep me holding on to hopelessness?
Q. I have fallen in love with a married man. He has not divorced her. Our relationship has been 3 yrs. I want to end the relationship but things keep getting better between us. She was in an accident last year and still in recovery. I am unsure i...
A. 3 March 2013: You sound happy that she was in an accident... I don't see him leaving her for you!! It hardly ever happens. You're just a source of excitement as his relationship seems to currently be in a rut.
But honestly, can you really trust someone who is u... (read in full...)
I Proposed to My Pregnant Girlfriend, She Accepted!
Q. hi Aunts ahd Uncles... im the man who orginally posted about my pregnant girlfriend. the title was she posts everything on facebook. you all wanted me to come back and prove you wrong. well guess what? my baby BOY is due in june, i proposed to her ...
A. 21 February 2013: Ouch (@ fi the tree).... Ouch!! But all true advice. Don't bite the messenger, especially when in time of need, you sought their advice.... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend Wants to Sleep With a Guy at Work, What to Do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend got together young - she was 17 at the time and we have been together 9 years and I'm more in love with her now than i have ever been. A few months ago i started to get the feeling that she was thinking about being wit...
A. 21 February 2013: Dude, I'd let this bird go if I were you (and I have!!). She is no longer attracted to you no matter what you think, or what she tells you. She should have had the courtesy to let you go your seperate ways instead of stringing you along and keepin... (read in full...)
My college girlfriend just asked me if her friend could sleep in bed with her because all the beds were taken! I would never ask her such a thing!
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now and things are going really really well. I didn't have any trust issues with her. But, I have been out of the state for a week and will be for a whole week more. She just asked me if ...
A. 3 February 2013: Wow, that's one ballsy girl, but you know what? She's gonna have this friend over at night whether or not you approve.
She just happens to be letting you know to alleviate any guilty feelings that may crop up, and also as a pre-emptive measure ... (read in full...)
Why did my B/f have three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone?
Q. I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he ...
A. 29 January 2013: Oh come on!! What do you think? The man's up to mischief.... (read in full...)
Advice needed regarding catching my girlfriend sexting
Q. I am a 36 year old guy who has been in a relationship with a lady whom I met online 6 months ago. We have become very close but last weekend I found text messages on her phone to at least 3 other men that were explicit in nature ( in both words and ...
A. 29 January 2013: Let her go and keep moving on. She will be fine. You deserve better, and deserve a woman who is wholly into YOU alone!!
Unless you just want a casual sex relationship. Have rules for the women you choose to date and they will respect you more. Ru... (read in full...)
Does barely legal porn set a trigger for middle-aged men when young teenage girls come into their visual range
Q. My boyfriend of 51 years of age likes Barely Legal Porn. That is the only type of porn he likes. He buys the cd's and also the Barely Legal Magazines. He tags the magazine pages with sticky notes of the young girls that he likes. What I have no...
A. 29 January 2013: What surely can anyone do if they happen to be dating a full grown pervert (no offense, but he is!!)?
Your man is supposed to be a role model, providing guidance and leadership in various spheres of life, and to various individuals, instead ... (read in full...)
How do I let a friend know I don't want to date him without disclosing my relationship status which is changing soon?
Q. I have been with my lovely boyfriend for a year and a half. We have had a great relationship but recently have seen him more like a best friend than boyfriend... I just don't fancy him any more, much as I care about him, and it's getting really ...
A. 29 January 2013: You seem to take alot of care as to what this new guy thinks of you, especially for someone who 'wants to find herself'.
How about just being direct and telling the guy you are about to break up with your current guy, you feel you might want to ... (read in full...)
Could my marriage be ending before it even started?!
Q. Hello people! My marriage is currently in a critical state. I separated/strategically ran away from my husband after 5months of our marriage. That short duration was clouded with misunderstandings, i saw his mean, self centred, unempathitic, ...
A. 11 August 2012: Hi, I remember commenting on your situation a while back and I still believe that you made the right decision as far as your physical and emotional safety is concerned.
From your post you seem to feel strongly for him, but as I have advised ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him over his friend. Was it the wrong thing to do?
Q. Hi - I need some advice as I don't know if its me that insecure So my bf and I have been together 8 months, and everything is good, only recently, he got in touch with a girl on FB. We share a FB page, so I saw the messages too, and they seemed ...
A. 10 August 2012: What's right, wrong, selfish, etc in your case is not something that can be defined in black and white terms, what really matters is what you feel for him and what your gut is telling you.
If you feel your emotions have cooled down a bit and you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is mas at me because my ex wants to live with me?
Q. Hello everyone. I really did it!!! I pissed off my boyfriend and now he isn't talking to me. Well, I have been staying with friends since separating from my husband. I am ready to go out on my own but I don't make much money with my minimum ...
A. 10 August 2012: Just to add my two pence, I believe your BF was mad, because from the way you brought up the issue with him, he may have perceived that you were actually considering the offer and wanted a reaction, or even validation from him... which just doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting? Or getting too fresh? Or something else? Is this flirting?
Q. Hello I am asking for advice on flirting. I usually can tell when a man is flirting with me and I am like 80% sure this is going on in a harmless way Of course. I'm just confused of this is flirting or friendly chat etc. at first it was just tryi...
A. 10 August 2012: You seem to like this guy from the way you frame your question. I'd say just go with the flow, have fun, with average expectations and see where things lead. I'v learnt long ago that when you try to over think/analyze things, it has a way of kinda ... (read in full...)
Can this rebound relationship last? What are the signs it's a rebound relationship?
Q. ModNote: two questions about the same issues combined. How can you tell if your being used as rebound? What are the signs and things to look out for ? (for guys) Women advice please, or guys if you have experienced being used as rebound befo...
A. 1 June 2012: Rebound relationships often times aren't too hard to spot. Most often you only need to rely on your gut! From what you write, she probably still has some emotional baggage and feels the right thing to do is to try and move on... But it's a fallacy. ... (read in full...)
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