Am I wrong to be jealous or does my boyfriend like this girl?
Q. We work together. We've been together for 4 months. The girl has worked there for 3 months... she started a month after he and I began talking and dating... Two days after she started, she had his number. Bc she and I were walking to the hap...
A. 3 August 2011: To start off,work place romances normaly are never wise to get involved in. Yes working so closely,needing to trust and depend upon each other can lead to people falling in love,but non the less they remain tricky
You have been dating around 4... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable for not wanting to move in with him right now?
Q. I would like some perspectives on whether I am being unreasonable in wanting to wait before moving in with my bf and wanting to continue to enjoy things as they are, please. We've been together 10 months, and for the last 3 months, he's men...
A. 1 August 2011: You aren't being unreasonable still wanting that level of space. 10 months is not that much in the grand scheme of things. It's good him seeing a future with you,but why the rush to move in,marriage,kids,the works? Has his biological clock began ... (read in full...)
Should I feel ok about my fiance telling me to put on some weight?
Q. should i feel ok about my fiance telling me to put on some weight and try do something about it or should i let her deal with my nature of being skinny? really like her but being under lot of pressure by her. is it right that skinny and not skinny ...
A. 31 July 2011: No you arent being too naive or emotional about the whole thing,infact you showed a reasonable amount of restraint by not coming back at her about her weight
Getting in shape is an awesome thing,I used to be chubby,generaly carefree and non ambi... (read in full...)
Should I feel ok about my fiance telling me to put on some weight?
Q. should i feel ok about my fiance telling me to put on some weight and try do something about it or should i let her deal with my nature of being skinny? really like her but being under lot of pressure by her. is it right that skinny and not skinny ...
A. 29 July 2011: First of all its not a matter of skinny vs non-skinny,about whether your compatible or not...but more to the end of what turns her on and what she finds attractive in you as her man
So dont adopt the mentality that she doesnt appreciate you or y... (read in full...)
Why did he move on so fast after he said he wanted to be single?
Q. I was dating this guy for a little while not that long then he broke up with me saying i became too clingy and that he doesn't want to be with anyone for a while but it has been two days i called him and he had someone over and he hung up in my ...
A. 29 July 2011: Thats one of the oldest tricks...
HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!
Which in this case is probably a good thing as it increases your chances of finding that guy who will truly rock your world
So depending on where you were at in your relation... (read in full...)
Incredibly attracted to a guy and don't know if I can resist him for much longer
Q. I am 35 and have a warm attractive intelligent man working on my house. He has a good body and is tall and athletic. He used to be a lecturer but was made redundant and now runs his own specialist business. I have a loving relationship with my ...
A. 29 July 2011: Help you how???
I highly doubt you will get the kind of validation you seek here...
You know what you need to do...
If you genuinely love your BF,get rid of this guy n give some other person the responsibility of completing the job
It... (read in full...)
Relationship troubles and thinking of another guy.....what should I do?
Q. Hi i have been with my boyfriend almost 6years now and i am in my early 20s. We argue a lot and he doesnt really treat me well all the time. I recently went on holiday and met a guy out there, nothing happened but we liked each other and since i got ...
A. 27 July 2011: Unless your BF steps up n starts treating you as he should then you are bound to continue experiencing 'the-grass-might-be-greener-on-the-other-side' itis that seems to be buggin you...
So sit him down and explain to him the negative effect t... (read in full...)
Loyalty in relationship constantly being questioned
Q. Hello again! My relationship has been rocky lately, and it's been due to my accepting a part-time job at a bank. He used to work at a credit union last yr but lost the job. He blames me for losing it because he'd start arguments with me and try to ...
A. 26 July 2011: Its unfortunate you have such an immature n selfish man in ur life.
But whats more unfortunate is that you cant snap your fingers n change the way you feel for him
Clearly he isnt a keeper n you are fast approaching cross-roads wher... (read in full...)
How do I moderate my behaviour and be a good girlfriend?
Q. Sorry for any rambling but here is a quick low down of my situation. Basically,I have a boyfriend who is kind, sweet, ect. ect. I am not in love with him and doubt I ever will be but we are really close and I genuinely like him a lot and he knows...
A. 26 July 2011: YOU DONT LOVE HIM,AND YOU SAY YOU DOUBT YOU EVER WILL!!
What are you doing in this 'relationship?' Passing time till mr right happens along?
Do the both of you a favour n let him go...Give him a chance to find one who genuinely cares for him
... (read in full...)
How do I find a counselor in the UK?
Q. hey, how would you get referred to a pychologist or a counsellor in the UK, preferably without going to the doctors? Im 21 yrs old and have been depressed since i was about 12 years old and at times has been pretty bad. It went away but has come...
A. 26 July 2011: Hi,sorry about what your going through,im living with someone recently treated for the condition and i know it can get pretty bad,esp. at the chronic severe level where in the case ive mentioned councelling wasnt enough alone but had to include use ... (read in full...)
I really love my GF and don't want to lose her but how do I deal with all the insecurities?
Q. hi i am in a relationship with my gf more than three years.we both love each other a lot.But recently we hav started fighting a lot.these may be the reasons first of all she is not that expressive she only says i luv u when i say no initiati...
A. 25 July 2011: You know,just like abella said,LDRs are very challenging as they are EXTREMELY CHALLENGING and innately unsatisfying
Coupled with the fact that you are constantly bombarded with many alternatives closer to home(by way of the opposite sex)
... (read in full...)
I really love my GF and don't want to lose her but how do I deal with all the insecurities?
Q. hi i am in a relationship with my gf more than three years.we both love each other a lot.But recently we hav started fighting a lot.these may be the reasons first of all she is not that expressive she only says i luv u when i say no initiati...
A. 23 July 2011: Women crave excitement and challenge from the men in their lives
Just relax! Whenever you are together or communicating long distance focus on keeping the interaction light and fun,be playful with her!
The fighting all seems to emanate from you... (read in full...)
Is there anymore I can be doing to help my boyfriend out of the rut he is stuck in?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. We rarely get into arguments and when we do, it's either about something incredibly dumb or his lack of self-confidence. He is a bigger guy who grew up in an environment where his mom was ...
A. 22 July 2011: Sounds like you have a good thing going on for you...just dont get complacent as relationships take alot of work and require constant attention,everything else will just fall into place and sort themselves out
All the best...... (read in full...)
When she comes to see me, should I tell her my feelings right away or just be friends first?
Q. Well for the first time, i don't have a girlfriend or any lover, but am trying to have, but it seems like a war between me and the girls i am meeting. This is where the story starts,there was a university in my country, i opened internet cafe there. ...
A. 22 July 2011: Hey ive gone through the exact same situation as you..even went as far as deleting her number(a couple of days ago) Id suggest you dont share your feelings this early as it may scare her off. Just take it easy and focus on having fun together n ... (read in full...)
I was sexting another man behind my husband's back and now he has found out....how do I make this right?
Q. I am a happily married woman with two beautiful children. I became overweight after having my kids and have always had selfesteem issues. Although people constantly tell me I have such a pretty face I struggle with body image. Recently a man at work ...
A. 22 July 2011: A happily married woman...with kids!!..sexting another man.
Something isnt adding up...
It maybe a good thing your husband caught it early enough to nip it
I think you were lacking attention from your man and what you got from this other ... (read in full...)
Should I end it and find a relationship that best suits me?
Q. Help. I have been ambivalent in whether or not I should stay with my bf. I need a definite answer asap. We have been together for 2 years. We had some really good times, we have a great connection, and we do love and care for each other. ...
A. 22 July 2011: Tell your guy EVERYTHING that you have said here! If he keeps doing the stuff you dont like or not doing the stuff you like,only then will you have good reason to consider breaking up with him(and remember that the grass is not necessarily always ... (read in full...)
Would you remain friends with an ex who was unfaithful and disrespectful towards you?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about 3 months ago because I felt she was not loyal to me. She wanted to spend a lot of time with her three times ex boyfriend whom she claimed they are just friends. She was also spending a lot of time with another ...
A. 22 July 2011: Actions speak louder than words! Her actions clearly showed that she didnt respect you and that she wasn't that into you Instead of seeking ways to make the relationship work,to make it better,she opted to fulfill those needs outside of t... (read in full...)
Should I Dump her or is it just another ego boost for me?
Q. I wanna dump my girlfriend. We are together for 18 months. She is nice , beautiful and there’s hardly anything I can find wrong in her but wanna dump her to make it 1-1. My first girlfriend had dumped 6 months before she came into my life . S...
A. 20 July 2011: Dude what the hell@?&$§%*
You sound like a 13 yr old keeping score of who dumped who
You know its people like you who make nice girls go bad,and i mean BAD!!
Hurting her in this way wont make you any more of a man than you already are..in... (read in full...)
I cheated but feel no guilt...should I stay or should I go?
Q. My girlfriend and I are having intimacy problems. We've been together for 5 years. It seems to me like things fizzled very early in our relationship. She is perfect in so many ways, but this is killing me. She's 28 and I'm 30. which means its almost ...
A. 20 July 2011: Why are you having doubts? Do you feel you need to play the field some more? Perhaps you are still young and the grass is greener on the other side and its too early for you to settle Dude an intimate relationship is all about COMMUNICATION an... (read in full...)
Will I stay with my guy or go with the guy I can't stop thinking about?
Q. So, I have a boyfriend. We have been together for five years now, and I love him. In the mean time, there is this other amazing guy that I can't stop thinking about. I kissed the other guy once a couple of years ago, and ever since we met, I have ...
A. 20 July 2011: It seems to me like you want to have your cake and eat it too! You say you love your BF,but you dont seem to feel like your 'in love' with him... perhaps after being together for that amount of time the initial spark and excitement is gone... ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, then broke up with me and started a new relationship....but now she wants to come back! What should I do?
Q. My galfrend confessed that she slept with another man. I forgave her. But she insisted to break up... Two weeks later i discovered she is having another relationship. Now she is calling,she want 2 come back. I dont trust her any more. What do you ...
A. 5 July 2011: You ask what we think you should do...what does your gut tell you?
You dont trust her anymore,and how long she has been two timing is any ones guess
She probably fessed up just to ease her guilty conscience. Maybe she had been two timing for a... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out, knowing that he has had 12 partners before me!
Q. ok heres my story... im a 22 year old female and my boyfriend is 24 years old. he is my first EVERYTHING (i lost my virginity to him at 22 by the way). and i recently found out by him that he has been with 12 other girls before me. i already knew he ...
A. 5 July 2011: You say u dont feel special to him coz ur notch no.13...and thats where all your issues are coming from
So what if he has had 12 before you? Do you know why they didnt work out,were they just flings or actual relationships? Were they all not comp... (read in full...)
If you are not beautiful? Beauty is so useless. Why do people give such a damn about it?
Q. I hate my body and can't accept it! let's just say that my body looks nothing like the 36-24-36 ideal of the media. And sure people say that it's the inside that matters but people are so hypocritical! Especially men! Because they say they want a ...
A. 4 July 2011: Ok so you hate your body...what exactly do you hate about it? AND more importantly what have you really done about it?
Its true that what matters is whats on the inside BUT that comes from feeling good about whats on the outside
Get yourself ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I don't work on my problem that I will be alone for a very long time
Q. i usually come to this site asking for help with my girl problems...but just the other day i got so fed up with being let down by girls so much these past few months that im just going to stop trying and focus on myself for once. But ive been so ...
A. 2 July 2011: Picking up chicks n getting them to feel attraction for you is the easy part... Challenges arise when you actualy try to keep these girls n keep them happy for the long haul Keep on working on self improvement ie intellectualy,physicaly by wo... (read in full...)
Why does my ex have hobbies with his new g/f that he wouldn't try with me?
Q. I'm really struggling to come to terms with things that I have found about my ex boyfriend since we split up. We were together for 2 1/2 years. I was very much in love with him, but when I started to have problems at work and became ill a few...
A. 2 July 2011: Personaly i didnt do a number of things with my ex and well...it pissed her off!
I didnt do them coz well...i just didnt want or saw need to!
Any way with this new chick im wooing i find myself doing thoz very things i before never thot i wou... (read in full...)
Not knowing if she likes me or not is breaking me up!
Q. About 3-4 months ago my college started to employ these teaching assistants who were to help with our studies and coursework that students were finding difficult and I was allocated to one myself about 2 months ago. When I first saw her I didnt pa...
A. 2 July 2011: Im currently in sort of a similar situation.
By you telling her that you had something important to tell her basically got her defenses up n maybe freaked her out a bit,
and also insisting that you wanted to call her instead of email was being ... (read in full...)
Why does g/f lie to me for no apparent reason?
Q. Okay so recently me and this girl started dating. we hit it off straight away and its been like 4 or 5 months now. Lately however Ive started to notice a couple of things i dont know what to do about. she'll go out and then purposely send me texts ...
A. 2 July 2011: sorry for all that,just relax and take it easy i can only think of two reasons off the top of my head as to why she is acting as so 1:-shes testing you to get a reaction out of you and get some form of validation in the process 2:-... (read in full...)
How can I stop cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. a few months ago i broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he wasnt giving me enough attention or spending any time with me and he also hadnt called in two weeks.even though i was hurt,during the time we werent together i met other guys and ...
A. 1 July 2011: Though they may not knw it,you are already hurting both of them
You say u broke up with your BF for the reasons you stated above,
but it sounds to me like you broke up with him for other reasons altogthr,and your reasns are just an excuse t... (read in full...)
Does the guy I have feelings for really like me, or should I just go date the other guy who I like less but for sure likes me??
Q. Hi, please can you give me your opinions on this situation. I met a guy in March this year. We started seeing each other or so I thought. I asked him after 8 weeks how he felt about me. He said it was just sex so I broke contact with him and told ...
A. 30 June 2011: First of all,you shouldnt focus alot of your energy on whether a guy likes you or not,coz the bottom line is...you cant control how someone thinks or feels!! However you CAN control yourself,your thoughts and your feelings.Once you shift your t... (read in full...)
BF turning out to be a real abusive jerk. Is this worth saving?
Q. I'm in a relationship that is currently going on 7 months. My boyfriend and I met in college, and we are both 19 years old. It didn't take long, perhaps one month, before we slept together. I had been in a very serious relationship previously in ...
A. 27 June 2011: Ive seen about a dozen red flags here,and while i might understand your need to care for,nurture and take in wild and stray animals but surely this has gone overboard I understand the fact that you feel love for him,but at this rate it may only... (read in full...)
BF unexpectedly dumped me. I need some support
Q. Hey, I'm really devastated right now and really hurt. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. When it happened i felt as if i couldn't breathe. I mean, he just broke up with me out the blue. The day before the break up we were all fine. He sai...
A. 27 June 2011: Sorry for what you are going through right now,i know the feeling must be awful
It will probably not be a simple task figuring out why he broke up with you the way he did and when he did.
One thing am certain of is that non of it is your fault... (read in full...)
My lover is married, how do I get people to stop judging me?
Q. I'm so fed up of people judging me for being with a married man. Once again my best friend has broadcasted on facebook that I am a homewrecker and my boyfriend will only cheat on me blah blah blah I started seeing this man a year ago but never as...
A. 26 June 2011: How can anyone not judge you given the societal norms of our time... what of his wife? what of her feelings? what about their kids? What if you do end up with this man and later on down the road when he is bored with you,he decides to cheat... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should side with faith or reason. What is everyone's opinion?
Q. I met this woman when we were both in high school, somewhere around 15 years ago. She had the biggest crush on me. Throughout the years we've dated off and on, but never anything official or remotely serious. She was always madly in love with me, ...
A. 22 June 2011: Man i totaly feel every word you have written,i had/have the exact same situation + feelings though stopped at the point of cheating on a partner as that goes against my core principles.
What ive learnt was that there are women of differen... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's nail polish turns me on, is it normal thing?
Q. I have this beautiful girlfriend for the last four years and everything seems to be going perfect for us. But I have a this strange behavior that whenever she puts on sort of a dark-red color nail polish , it turns me on big time and I feel lik...
A. 22 June 2011: You have a fetish,and thats it...is it normal? Probably as much as can be.
If it turns you on and makes you want to have sex,well...HAVE SEX...personaly my fetish as ive come to realize is womens feet.
If they arent a certain shape,size or ty... (read in full...)
I missed meeting this guy but didn't give my number. Should I pass it along through my friend?
Q. I need help! I am interested in this guy who I have met a couple of times. I rarely see him and do not have much opportuntity to bump into him. The last time I saw him he stopped by my place of employment to see me and we chatted for 30 m...
A. 21 June 2011: Just ask for his number call and reschedule a get together or yeah,you can forward your number to him through your friend,he will still get the message,best of luck... (read in full...)
Embarrassed to tell girl I am a virgin - Should I be?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23 year old virgin and couple of weeks ago I meet this chick and for whatever reason she thinks I'm awesome :) anyway we've started to hop into bed and fool around but haven’t gone all the way yet. The thing is she doesn’t know I'm a ...
A. 21 June 2011: You obviously seem insecure about the fact you are a virgin,and so if you do decide to tell her im pretty sure she will pick up on your insecurity and lack of confidence concerning the matter,which is not always a good thing.
So stop making a... (read in full...)
The fiance and pornographic material
Q. I have a question and maybe someone could answer for me. I am engaged to a wonderful man. It took us awile to get where we're at right now. I moved in with my fiance back in January. He gave me his email password to show me that I could trust ...
A. 21 June 2011: So what,he gave you his password,he felt he could be open with you about such matters,he felt that whatever content he has there is no big deal to it,but clearly he was wrong as you are now making a mole out of a mountain hill or whatever it ... (read in full...)
Will he still talke to me after I scared him? Did I lose a good friend?
Q. Ok well I have a friend and I just became friends with him since last week and so I told him something I should of not told him. I texted him just to talk since i'm bored. It first started when I told him I went to my first counseling appointment ...
A. 16 June 2011: If he cant handle you or being with you after you got vulnerable and revealed personal details about yourself,youre better off crossing such people off the checklist of friends in your life and instead keep open to those who can support you,build ... (read in full...)
He said he would leave his wife for me......almost 3 years ago! What should I do now?
Q. I dont even know whether to call him husband or not,well i met this married guy 2yrs back.his wife cannot conceive and they have tried medical help in vain.At first i was reluctant giving into him for the obvious reason he is married.He managed to ...
A. 15 June 2011: Sorry about the situation you find yourself in,the first red flag at the beginning of the relationshp is that he is a married man,no matter what spark of attraction you felt for him at the start you should have walked away. He is carrying on behi... (read in full...)
How can I rebuild my trust with her after I know she's cheated on me?
Q. Ok so I confronted my girlfriend about everything she's been doing and all her lies. She told me everything. She spilled her guts and now I know everything. I have a new issue that I would like help with..How can I rebuild my trust with her after I ...
A. 14 June 2011: There really is no quick fix or permanent way to change how you feel for her as regards trust,you just have to suck it up and let those toxic feelings go,try to change the things you say to yourself in your head...the things you think about,and this ... (read in full...)
I've been without my ex for almost as long as I was with her. Why do I still think about her?
Q. I went through a break up just under four months ago with a girl at university. I was in my final year, she in her first. As much as we were in love and our relationship was intense, it only lasted four months. Our break up was circumstantial in ...
A. 14 June 2011: Maybe you should occupy the space she had in your life by keeping busy with stuff like personal improvement activities ie going to the gym,take a cooking or dancing class,do volunteer work,go out n talk to other chicks-and this is a big one..not ... (read in full...)
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