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writes:Recently an ex of mine has contacted me and we've started speaking again. It's been a couple years since we broke up, and a year since the last time we spoke. We've both had other relationships since each other, so there was time to get over it. He sent me a message on Facebook and since then we've chit chatted and even hung out yesterday. I forgot how fun it could be to be around him and how easy it was to talk. But while we were catching up, I noticed that there's a lot of sexual tension between us. I have no more romantic feelings toward him and have told him this quite bluntly-- sometimes that's the only way to get through to him. He didn't try to make any moves on me, but said a few times that he wouldn't mind hooking up.So, here's the question. Is it possible to be FWB with him, or is that just a recipe for disaster? We're both adults, and this wouldn't be our first experience with sex. I've had a FWB before and it worked out fine, but then again, he wasn't my ex. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 August 2014):
 I did it once with an ex. BUT we just sort of transitioned from dating to FWB....in retrospect it was fine... when it was happening I was lying to myself about it.
I think it can work but remember that when you have sex with someone your body releases hormones to make you feel things you don't want to feel. that's nature.
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reader, AnnaSalenaz +, writes (17 August 2014):
I think that would just be a disaster. I wouldn't try it if it were me.
but you have to/will make your own decisions regardless of what anyone says.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2014): Possible? Yes. Recipe for disaster? Definitely.
My advice: stay on the side of caution and don't bring sex into relationships that you want to keep platonic (and not if you ever want more either, obviously).
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (17 August 2014):
 You know the answer to this!! It's not possible and most likely you will develop feelings for him again as they will be rekindled and regardless what anyone says you will do as your heart desires. Our validation or disapproval won't affect your decision to say the least, but I have given you my thoughts anyway.
Good luck with your choice.
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