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writes:hi Aunts ahd Uncles... im the man who orginally posted about my pregnant girlfriend. the title was she posts everything on facebook. you all wanted me to come back and prove you wrong. well guess what? my baby BOY is due in june, i proposed to her on valentines day and she said yes. and she no longer is posting the stuff on facebook. things are going quite well, better than i had ever dreamed. just goes to show you, that most of you dont know what your talking about. happy, happy, happy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 February 2013):
 Dear OP,
Mazel Tov (Yiddish for Congratulations) on your engagement and the upcoming birth of your child. May you and your fiancée live together for 120 years.
I do want you to come back and prove us wrong. I said in ten years…. Not ten weeks or ten months. This wearing away of the sheen of your romance will take longer than the pregnancy and even probably till your baby is walking and talking… as long as you are happy happy happy with your temporary situation I’m pleased for you.
And I do not wish to discourage you from coming back if she eventually tires of lack of funds and other problems….. you will need support later on. Has she felt the impact yet of your bankruptcy? If not, does she know that funds are going to be short? If not, when do you plan to tell her?
Has she agreed to go back to work yet to help you out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): Pregnant young women tend to readily accept marriage proposals out of sheer practicality (or shrewdness) because they need all the financial and domestic help they can get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): A bit premature to be crowing, isn't it, seeing as how your kid isn't even born yet (it takes a few years for new marriages to get strained.)
I mean your previous marriage lasted what, 20 years before it ended with your adultery so you of all people should know that relationships can become very different after a few years. Anyway if you didn't care about what anyone here said then why post again?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 February 2013):
 How exactly the fact that she accepted your marriage proposal would prove us wrong?... She is pregnant ( with your child ) and single mother of another child already,... no job, no income... it would not have made a lot of sense for her to refuse ...
Anyway, as EyesWidesOpen says , day ain't over yet. Time will tell...
In the meantime, and regardless of any other considerations, sincere congratulations and best wishes for a wonderful baby boy .
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): Hi I believe the advise given still stands. Ofcourse she said yes to the marriage proposal. I would too, someone who works and he cooks and spoils me, I can just sit at home and look pretty. And ofcourse she will listen to you and stop posting as she still needs that rock on her finger. I dont think after marriage she will be jumping through hoops.I hope we are wrong, but going by what your fiance has done and remember we are neutrol to the situation, you are in for a long hard drive. I might add next on your list of things to do will be lookig after the child as she cannot do anything for herself. An antinuptual contract should be signed if you dont want to lose your life savings, regardless of how much faith you have in her as there are no guarantees in life. I really hope we are wrong and you find hapiness with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): but none of the aunts/uncles here ever doubted that she would want to marry you right now. Already in your original post you had said you were getting married, that was already a foregone conclusion... so nothing has actually changed.
I also saw that they invited you to come back in a couple of YEARS to prove them wrong, since longevity in a relationship (after the relationship has had the opportunity to encounter real problems) is the test that they were talking about. (not saying I don't wish you well now, but since you're all about "proving" people wrong, well so far you haven't really "proven" anything... just sayin...)
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reader, Ilha  +, writes (22 February 2013):
Dear OP,I am glad that you are very happy with your current situation. Thanks for updating your situation. Hope you and your future wife will work hard to keep the relationship going strong especially since you will be having a child soon. I wish you and your future wife all the happiness. Lastly, OP, just because some agony aunts/uncles have been harsh to you in your previous post, do not mean you should do the same. The best way is always be polite and tell them that you are now happy and thank them for all advice given. Being tactful, polite and courteous to those who have been harsh to you make a more powerful statement than doing a tit for tat. Besides, I believe that you should treat other people the way you want to be treated. May God bless you, your future wife and future child!!! Take care and good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): Had to read your original question first because I wasn't familiar with it...
Of course she accepted. Why would she not? She now has a permanent meal ticket. Even if she opts not to stay married to you in the future, you will now be on the hook for alimony in addition to child support. Best of luck to you both, but please don't think this latest development negates any of the myriad red flags other aunts have mentioned to you. Consider a prenup!!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (22 February 2013):
I went back and read everything from your original question... I don't see a lot of advice there that doesn't seem to be true, so what is it you're bragging about?
You may not like to hear things like what you did was wrong, she's just using you as an ATM, etc, but you've all but said those things yourself.
I don't fault you for trying to find happiness, but you haven't earned the right to rub this in people's face yet... Wait till you've been married a few years. If you're still happy, then rub away.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Ouch (@ fi the tree).... Ouch!! But all true advice. Don't bite the messenger, especially when in time of need, you sought their advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013):
I didn't read your previous post, nor see the replies . However I'm sure they were well balanced and non subjective .. Congrats over the baby and the up coming nuptials . Everyone is very pleased for you... Just taken aback and insulted by your comment.
I have to say this though enjoy the time while your gf is pregnant, air any difficulties you may have the now . Make a plan of how you both will handle any issues after baby comes. Reason I say this is there a four major stresses in life. A death.. Moving house .. A baby .. And getting married . And you two have taken on two all at once.
Baby's are needy little cute bundles of fun delight sleepless night poopoo nappies, endless feedin and burping lol and extremely demanding ..
I feel most uncles and aunts will agree that raisin children in a family unit takes a firm foundation and though things are happy happy at the minute. Please make sure you have both dealt with the problem and not covered over the cracks ...
Take care and big congrats again and keep us posted ( just don't be so snissy with us, we only advise on information you give)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 February 2013):
 If you and she have a "happy ending" to your submittal, and to the goings-on in your lives.... then we (Aunts and Uncles) are happy for you.... THAT's the best ending of all.....
As for your criticising the advice your received herein.... I detect a little "nyah, nyah-nyah, nyah yah" in this current submittal.... and I believe it constitutes a "burned bridge." Is that your intent?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Ahhh well everyone knows a baby makes everything perfect...I wish you luck with a new marriage and a new baby and at least we aunts know you won't be coming here for advice ever again...everyone's a winner!!!!
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Rude much?
I am always grateful for the advice i get on here, even if it's something that i don't want to hear.
Fingers crossed the baby isn't of another ethnicity, otherwise we'll be hearing from you again...
All the best and congratulations on your engagement!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Hmm, well who is the biggest fool, the fool.. or the one who asks the fool for advice?
Just goes to show.. people often need someone to talk to so they can figure out what they should do. The advice given is only one side to it, the greatest benefit comes from opening up and sharing. That way you learn to put words to your thoughts, and form an idea about what you are unhappy about, and what you want/need. Perhaps asking a question on dearcupid is what helped you decide what to do, regardless of what advice you received.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 February 2013):
 Day ain't over yet...
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