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*onystarkben
writes:I have known a girl for about 2 years, we went on a date ages ago and then she got a boyfriend. I really liked her as she was not only pretty but nice and came from a nice family.We went out last week after not seeing her for over a year and ended up kissing. She invited me and my friend to her birthday party in a bar on Friday night and we went. She was dressed up as minnie mouse and it was a good time. About 3am she asked me to walk her back to her hotel ( i didn't drink so was driving home) and when we got back to her hotel i sat on the end of the bed as my feet hurt. I called a taxi to take me back to the bar and she got on top of me and told me to cancel the taxi.We ended up sleeping together and it was amazing , like a film, as i had fancied her for so long. i stayed for a while and her best friend came back and we all went to sleep and i drove home at 7am.We have spoken and she sent me a message saying she was thinking about stuff and i asked her if she regretted what happened. She said no but that's not who she is or what she does and she really likes me. She said after her ex bf used her she should have been smarter in that situation and the drink meant she didn't have her thinking head on.I don't really know what to think of this. Did i take advantage and is she having second thoughts?thanks
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (5 August 2013):
 Dude learn to live in the moment, dont't worry too much about what she's thinking or feeling, focus instead on having fun and enjoying being with each other NOW!! Let tomorrow take care of itself.
You didn't take advantage of this girl!! She wanted you and wanted to fuck you. Period..
Take heart n take things as they come. Have fun, stay safe
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 August 2013):
 You didn't take advantage. It was consensual. I believe her when she implied she is not a slut. She only regretted it that you might think of her that way. Still it wasn't tactful for her to mention her ex boyfriend. She probably thought she turned you off and that you would write her off as potential girlfriend because she slept with you so easily. If you are really interested in her ask her out again but do not stay over the next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2013): Ehh, complicated issue. "She said after her ex bf used her she should have been smarter in that situation and the drink meant she didn't have her thinking head on."If you knew she had been drinking, you should have rejected her coming onto you. I'm not calling you a rapist, but it wasn't the most considerate thing to do. The situation could be a lot worse and I think you have feelings for her twisted your judgment. I do think you took advantage of the situation, knowingly or not. There's no way to know how incoherent she was that she could not make proper judgment and decisions. So..I would just leave her alone until she sorts out her own thoughts and feelings. Don't press her about dating you, cause she might agree to date you in order to align her act of sleeping with you as having feelings of love for you.If she ends up severing ties with you or staying as friends, leave it at that. ALSO, IF A GIRL IS DRUNK OR SEEMS DRUNK, DO NOT SLEEP WITH HER EVEN IF SHE IS COMING ONTO YOU.
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