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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm worried! My boyfriend says he loves me, he always has and he still does but I was on his myspace and in his trash was mail with his ex girlfriend saying he still liked her and she likes him and they said he might dump me for her but this was a week ago and he's back from vacation so he's not talking to her anymore. Should I still be worried ??
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reader, Midge  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 If he even mentioned it to someone else before he mentioned it to you, kick his arse out your life! The fact that he actually even thought it means that he has considered it and means that perhaps his feelings arent as deep as you may have thought!
He isnt worth it! You can find someone out there that is better than him!
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (17 August 2007):
 dump him before he dumps you and let him know why and walk away before you get hurt worse!!!
plus if he leaves you for her, instead of crawling back to her after you leave him it will be like hes incontroll which he shouuldn't be YOU are so leave and he might be begging you back guys hes age tend to want something they think will be a thrill to get like hes ex gurl that kinda wants him but at the same time has you so if you leave him he'll try to get you back if he can unless he doesnt care and if thats the case your better off with out him
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Let the dumping commence, but you are in control. Too bad, too late, he screeeeewwwwed it up.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Hi
I would get out now, and move on!
C xxxxx
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reader, AndreC.  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 YEA U SHOULD U CANT TRUST HIM!!cause he doesnt love u if he said those things its that simple!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Well, I don't know if you should be worried or not.
But first: what were you doing on HIS myspace? Were you snooping??
If so, you found something you didn't like. Its not a good idea to go poking around in someone else's mail!
Now, as to whether you should confront him or not, there is a risk involved insofar as you would have to admit to reading his email (even if it was in the trash) and he could be annnoyed about that. However, you MIGHT find out whether he does in fact intend to dump you for her.
Are you prepared for his reaction, especially if he says he is going to take up with her and drop you?
If you would find that hard to handle, then don't confront him. Just see how your relationship goes. BUT you will be living with apprehension that at some time he MIGHT end the relationship he has with you. Can you stand to live with that kind of fear and anxiety?
One way out is to dump him yourself. Better that than to have to put up with a lot of worry and aggravation.
But remember that at your age, relationships between boys and girls typically DON'T last very long. That's because you're teens and the teenage years are times to experiment with boy-girl stuff - friendships, that is, NOT sex!
Try to relax and decide how you want to deal with this. What I've said is to point out some options for you.
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