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What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 18 February 2009: Well i must say that you do give a very full account of what happened every detail i can really get the picture.
I am sure Aiden likes you but he is finding it difficult to get the words out. Sometimes when you are young your friends try to help ... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 11 February 2009: I replied to this yesterday i don't know why it hasn't been updated.
Anyway i think he is a bit mixed up with his signals you really need to make things clearer to him give him some signs that he can't get wrong.
Just have a word with him an... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think young boys and girls sometimes do this they get their friends to ask on their behalf and i think this is what Aiden has asked Tyler to do.
He has probably being getting a few mixed messages recently what with Crystal and yourself and he i... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 30 January 2009: Well lay all your cards on the table tell her you wish to be more than just friends but it has to be when she is completely finished with her boyfriend for good.
She can't have her cake and eat it unless you are prepared to sacrifice a relation... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 30 January 2009: Well i was really convinced that Aidan liked you but judging by his present actions i would keep a wide berth from him at the moment. I just think that he is beginning to play some kind of game he is stringing you girls along.
Just play it cool ... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 30 January 2009: I'm so sorry it is all getting a bit hectic at the moment for you.
I would back off a little bit for the time being, give her a little bit space i think it must all be too much for her right now. She has just broken up with her boyfriend so the l... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 28 January 2009: I think you should get him on his own and have a friendly chat just say you are worried about your friendship because you value him as a friend but he seems a bit distant at the moment so you were wondering if anything was bothering him. That may ... (read in full...)
Am I feeling this way because I still love him or am I just being silly?
Q. I dated this guy on and off for about 3 years and we broke up 2 years ago. The problem is I can't seem to let him go. I ended things and we've remained freinds. I was the first to move on and get someone else but when he recently also moved on I was ...
A. 26 January 2009: Thank you for your comments they mean a lot to me and i'm pleased i could help. Take care x... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 24 January 2009: Well im sure she will come to the right decision in the end her feelings for her boyfriend are cooling and the fact that he is getting on her case about you isn't going to help him. Things are said in the heat of the moment but most are easily ... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi thanks for your reply.
It seems to me that this is what is causing her upset he is more than likely giving her alot of grief about her relationship with you. She still values you as a friend and possibly a potential boyfriend and i think he... (read in full...)
Why would he sleep over if they didn't sleep together?
Q. hi this is based on my mate I'm really worried about her. She's recently been linked back to her old ex the father of her daughter I'll call marc they had been split for 10 months, anyway there not actually going out together but are seeing how they...
A. 23 January 2009: Who knows whether they slept together that is their business but my guess is that they did - time will tell.
It could have just been a one off spontaneous thing that happened when he came over or maybe trying to keep him just because she wants no... (read in full...)
Are these signs that he doesn't want me anymore?
Q. me n ma bf have been getting along fine but this last week he has been himself. I met him on Sundaii he ifngered n i pleasured him but then on Mondaii he promised me to wotch a film with me he dint so he sed tuesdaii he dint he sed thursdaii he dint ...
A. 23 January 2009: I think you should drop this dirty rat he is playing mind games with you!
He knows he has you hooked and is enjoying the game. I know it is a torture for you and you will have to be very strong but i think it is for the best that you give him... (read in full...)
Should I let my sister date my ex or what?
Q. I keep calling my ex just to hear my ex's voice, but everytime i talk to him, my sister finds out and she gets mad. I know that she likes him but i dont think she should do that to me, should i let it go and let them go out or what?...
A. 23 January 2009: Well it seems that it has cooled off with your ex but i think it is very insensitive of your sister to want to persue a relationship with him at this stage.
You are still very upset about the break-up she should be supporting you not trying t... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 23 January 2009: Give it a few days unless she contacts you first this, will give her time to calm down and make sense of the situation. Its funny how the most terrible of arguments even when hurtful things have been said can be forgotten over time. I think s... (read in full...)
What would be an acceptable time frame for responding to friendly emails?
Q. I am seeing this guy who has a busy schedule as a graduate student. We usually communicate by email but recently I begin to feel that his speed of reply does not match my expectation. I would like to know what is the usual acceptable time fo...
A. 23 January 2009: I think if you are having a relationship it should be asap but given that you have said he has a very busy schedule i would expect a reply one way or another within the day even if he has lectures all day he will surely have time at night to reply. ... (read in full...)
He's on my mind every second of the day but we've split up. How can I get over him?
Q. Mine is a long story...... I was with my partner for 5 years and we lived together for 4 of them. Everything was great until we moved into our second house, money was really tight and we had no life together, we were practically living in each o...
A. 23 January 2009: I am in a similar situation with my relationship which has just broken up again recently. I know the feeling of despair you are going through, you are right, it is a 24 hour job constantly turning over thoughts on your relationship and where you ... (read in full...)
Should I leave because of her vagina size or tell her it bothers me?
Q. My girlfriend vagina is much looser than any other women i have been in a serious relationship with, what really bothers me is that i dont have a small penis im actually well over average, so i kno its not me, I really like the person that she is, ...
A. 23 January 2009: Well i think you will have all us women doing our pelvic floor exercises now lol!
I can't imagine how you will broach this delicate subject without offending your girlfriend.
Normally the release of air from the vagina during sex is caused by... (read in full...)
I need some (non-abusive) abortion advice, please.
Q. I guess i am remaining anon because i am ashamed... Im 16 soon 17 in my first year of college studing for my A levels live a life with good people in it such as my friends and a very lovely boyfriend. Ive been with my boyfriend for a few months now...
A. 22 January 2009: I agree with Country Woman that to go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption will be a very heavy burden to bear especially for a girl of your age.
I wish you well and hope that your turmoil is short lived i know it is a tor... (read in full...)
Was I an asshole?
Q. One night came home after work and was horny as hell. I ended making love to my girlfriend. She's extremely self-conscious about her breasts because of a birthmark and won't take off her bra for me no matter how I beg. Anyway I couldn't take it ...
A. 22 January 2009: Do you really need anyone to tell you whether you have been an asshole - i would say so!
My sister has a really big birthmark on her leg and during out schooldays she was often teased about it which would really upset me, i know that this sort of ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if when a boy teases a girl, does it ALWAYS necessarily mean that they like the girl?
Q. Hey, I was wondering if when a boy teases a girl, does it ALWAYS necessarily mean that they like the girl? Or can a boy just be naturally annoying. Because there's a boy in my class who always gets up in my face and just says little things to me ...
A. 22 January 2009: I think your friend is right he probably likes you he is being annoying but not in a bullying sort of way and would he really spend that much time annoying you if he didn't enjoy being around you, he is just your typical immature boy i think goofing ... (read in full...)
To trust... or not to trust?
Q. Well, for the first time here, I have a question non-sexual related... So, I´m dating this guy for almost a year. This is the 3rd serious relationship I´m in, but this one is making me change, I am really crazy about him. Not only because he´s my ...
A. 22 January 2009: Well i think he has planted the seed of doubt in your mind now as he seems to have some track record! He has told you that he has cheated on his past relationship well he has been honest with you but now you have something to stress about.
Are y... (read in full...)
Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?
Q. Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?...
A. 22 January 2009: There is nothing at all dirty with giving blow jobs to someone you care about and are in a loving relationship with. Its all about give and take.
There is certainly nothing submissive and slutty as someone said earlier unless you are picking ... (read in full...)
I need some (non-abusive) abortion advice, please.
Q. I guess i am remaining anon because i am ashamed... Im 16 soon 17 in my first year of college studing for my A levels live a life with good people in it such as my friends and a very lovely boyfriend. Ive been with my boyfriend for a few months now...
A. 22 January 2009: You are very young and i understand everything you have said. This is an unfortunate situation you have found yourself in but life is full of them and we have to learn to deal with them.
I myself had an abortion when i was 18 i knew instantl... (read in full...)
I need some (non-abusive) abortion advice, please.
Q. I guess i am remaining anon because i am ashamed... Im 16 soon 17 in my first year of college studing for my A levels live a life with good people in it such as my friends and a very lovely boyfriend. Ive been with my boyfriend for a few months now...
A. 22 January 2009: You are very young and i understand everything you have said. This is an unfortunate situation you have found yourself in but life is full of them and we have to learn to deal with them.
I myself had an abortion when i was 18 i knew instantl... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to pull away, to stop loving a married man.
Q. I need advice on how to pull away, to stop loving a married man. He told me when we met that she had moved back in due to money issues and he proceeded to be very attentive with emails and texts. Its 1 year later and the texts are few and far in ...
A. 22 January 2009: I too have been in this situation though my partner had just split up with his wife but once i was hooked he started going backwards and forwards eventually he left his wife and moved in with me we had a fantastic time at first but slowly i felt a ... (read in full...)
I'm married, but still feel like I'm not ready to have sex with my husband.
Q. Hi, am 24 years old and I just got married 4 months ago. I married my husband after 3 years of a love story and finally now am with him but am having a problem that is affecting my marriage as I think! I always liked to be a virgin until I...
A. 21 January 2009: I know you wanted to be a virgin up until you married and you have achieved that now but this is a new chapter in your life and you will achieve a great deal from this as well you are starting it with your wonderful new husband who loves and cares ... (read in full...)
Am I just reading too much into his actions?
Q. hey guys, im really confused by the mixed signals a very good guy mate "tom" is giving me...and i dont know how to respond. im a very out going and friendly girl who never stops talking, ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and i am very ha...
A. 21 January 2009: No im good on gut instincts and from what you have said i think Tom has the hots for you girl!
I know you said you were in a relationship and Tom is aware of this but i think he obviously likes you and values your friendship to think of you on y... (read in full...)
Why do guys seem to get over a girl so easily?
Q. Why do guys forget or get over a girl they really loved so easily? Is it possible or are they just acting cool to hide feelings because people may call them wimps etc. Is it possible and why do guys do that? Guys answers especially would be good ...
A. 21 January 2009: I believe men are just as sensitive as us women but they do try to hide things moreso putting on a brave front. They have probably been brought up with a father who has always been strong and never shown much emotion.
Im sure that when they are... (read in full...)
I have sexual feelings towards my own mother since childhood, what to do...?
Q. Myself 22 year old, I never asked this to anyone coz it's too weird but I want to ask you. I have sexual feeling for my mother since I was very small I use to smell my moms clothes left in the bathroom like her bra and panty I didn't know about ma...
A. 21 January 2009: Well this puts a whole different slant on the situation unless you are having us on! Are you honestly telling me that you are pursuing a sexual relationship with your mother and she appears to have little objection at this stage - and you at the a... (read in full...)
Difference between gut feeling & being paranoid
Q. Hi, After a partner has cheated how to you differenciate between "am I just been paranoid" or is this "my gut feeling". My b/f cheated last year. We're trying to work things out and it seems to be fine. We live apart which dosent help me at all e...
A. 21 January 2009: When you have been in the position of having a partner cheat on you it is almost guaranteed that you will feel paranoid and insecure.
When he is late, when he hides his phone, endless excuses when you question him that just don't add up!
F... (read in full...)
My cousin...
Q. Hello I have this cousin and I love her and before you say anything don't say anything because we're family ok? Anyways we don't see each other that much but when we do we talk a lot and I want to have my first time with her (and don't say I'm too ...
A. 21 January 2009: It is perfectly legal to have a relationship with a 1st cousin and infact marry. Does your cousin feel the same way that you do about her or have you not made your feelings known to her yet? If you get the vibes that she likes you as well then... (read in full...)
Am I feeling this way because I still love him or am I just being silly?
Q. I dated this guy on and off for about 3 years and we broke up 2 years ago. The problem is I can't seem to let him go. I ended things and we've remained freinds. I was the first to move on and get someone else but when he recently also moved on I was ...
A. 19 January 2009: If he was your first real love then he will always have a place in your heart. You will never forget the good times and the memories you have had with him we always remember the good times.
It was easy for you when you broke up because it was y... (read in full...)
I've had this on-again off-again physical relationship with this guy since I first met him...
Q. I've had this on-again off-again physical relationship with this guy since I first met him at the beginning of the fall semester. It's a friends with benefits sort of situation. He's gotten a steady girlfriend during the time we've been together and ...
A. 19 January 2009: Most times we want what we can't have i think this is the case for you. Is it not the case that when you are looking at a dress then someone picks the last one up you want it more! I know you have had a loose relationship with this guy for a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a commitment phobe...help!
Q. my bf and i have been together for quite awhile now. i am begining to think he is a commitment phobe. he talks about getting my a ring and how he wants to marry me and then never does anything about it what is going on? help please...
A. 19 January 2009: Have you given him a clear sign that you would agree to marriage he could be just probing you to find out how you actually feel and may fear rejection. Next time the subject comes up let him know exactly how you feel about him and see if you can e... (read in full...)
Messy sex!
Q. Hi everyone Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 3-4 months now, and I've just recently started taking the pill. The first time we did it without a condom and he came inside me, I was on top... But I completely didn't realise it would...
A. 19 January 2009: Well you've guessed it 'what goes up must come down' so they say lol. If you are on top yes it will always come out depending on how much sperm was ejaculated at the time. After making love it is nice to lie together and maybe cuddle though... (read in full...)
I think there are a trail of little lies...Is he cheating on me?
Q. So me and my boyfriend J. have been together for almost one year we have a 11 month old boy to gether and we have been friends for a couple of years we where "friends with benefits" for a little over a year and when our son was about 3 months old we ...
A. 19 January 2009: What a tangled web! I think your boyfriend seems to have a lot going on in his life i don't think he is being completely honest with you he doesn't appear to have settled down at all he seems to be a bit of a player and this is causing you a great ... (read in full...)
Achey breasts
Q. I started feeling aches in my breast last week (Monday) and as days progresses the ache increased, even as at yesterday the ache was so serious that I developed a headache and I was also restless. I thought it was my pms. symptoms but the ache is ...
A. 19 January 2009: I think it is more likely to be pms at this stage it is just before your next period would be due. I sometimes suffer with achey heavy breasts to the point that it becomes uncomfortable to take my bra off on a night and my beasts are quite hot to... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 19 January 2009: Well in my opinion i think Aiden really likes you but maybe because you are a good friend of his he does not know whether to risk your friendship by asking you to be his girlfriend.
Why are you going to Heritage Fair with Brian when you clearly ... (read in full...)
I have thoughts on a regular basis that the two of us should probably go our separate ways.
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for just over 4 years, we met at university and have been together ever since. However I can remember as little as 6 months had passed before I started to have doubts; the doubts were usually pushed aside by long ...
A. 19 January 2009: It seems like your relationship has run its course now and you are being sensible and honest about the situation.
I have been in a similar relationship before where occasionally i felt that things were not as good as they could be, but as you s... (read in full...)
I have sexual feelings towards my own mother since childhood, what to do...?
Q. Myself 22 year old, I never asked this to anyone coz it's too weird but I want to ask you. I have sexual feeling for my mother since I was very small I use to smell my moms clothes left in the bathroom like her bra and panty I didn't know about ma...
A. 18 January 2009: I believe this is a common feeling for young boys growing up though usually it would have been resolved by the age of 5.
Freud explains that the young boy as love for his mother which increases greatly around the ages of 4-5 to a point where he... (read in full...)
Seeing his ex behind my back, can I ever trust him again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We are both 25 years old (The age on my profile doesn't update for some reason). We recently broke up because I found out by going through his computer that he has been seeing his ex behind my back for ...
A. 1 December 2008: Whilst he still has feelings of any kind for his ex i doubt he can devote enough attention to you, his mind will always be elsewhere, that is the experience i have had anyway.
I know he probably believes he is sincere when he says he will cut ties... (read in full...)
Why would she be doing this in front of him?!
Q. About a month ago my girl broke up with me for her ex. We continue to talk and flirt. I'm just having a really hard time understand why we have full on texting conversations when I know she is with her bf? These aren't really rare. We probably ...
A. 1 December 2008: I have had experience of this situation. My ex split up with his ex when we got together. When he was with me he obviously wanted to be with her then when he was with her he wanted to be with me and so it went on. I know he had feelings for us ... (read in full...)
Why did he try so hard to hurt me?
Q. Why did he try so hard to hurt me? I can't figure it out. I am trying to understand this maliciousness when he was so wonderful for 2 years? We broke up mutually and limited contact with each other, and texted about him getting his things (whic...
A. 1 December 2008: I think he seems to enjoy the chase. He was quite happy pursuing you until he got to the point where he wanted to be. What happened is that you caught him out with his cheating and rather than just do the decent thing and apologise he tur... (read in full...)
Do I wait 6 months to get back with ex?
Q. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago, won't go into detail, but it wasn’t because he didn’t love me, but because he thought at the time we wanted different things. He has just contact me and apologised for being stubborn and said he feels really bad ...
A. 1 December 2008: Well it seems to me he wants everything his way! You are not over him and he knows this and is using it to his advantage. Keep in touch with him by all means but don't put your life on hold although i know this is not as easy as is sounds whe... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend today, he has punished me for telling the truth!
Q. Help - I realised that I still love my ex and tried to do the honourable thing by breaking up with my boyfriend today, afterall, it is not fair to carry on stringing him along while I still think about my ex! I only realised I still loved my ex ...
A. 1 December 2008: I think you have done the honourable thing by telling him it as it is. Obviously he is very hurt and upset by the whole situation and he has shown this with anger towards you. The only advice I would give you is that to make sure you really ... (read in full...)
Seeing his ex behind my back, can I ever trust him again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We are both 25 years old (The age on my profile doesn't update for some reason). We recently broke up because I found out by going through his computer that he has been seeing his ex behind my back for ...
A. 30 November 2008: I have been in a very similar situation to you. My partner has been back to his ex several times now each time I have taken him back because he swore to me it was over and convinced me i could trust him. Each time it was wonderful at fir... (read in full...)
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