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Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 8 February 2009: I know it is not always easy to move on you need time to heal and whatever it takes to get you through this bad time you must do.
I would definately pack all his things up and if you know when he is coming over you can leave his stuff outside ... (read in full...)
Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 4 February 2009: Yes thank you for your kind message flowerlady i appreciate your thanks.
I think that the feelings you are having are only natural and they will pass with time though part of your feelings will no doubt be loneliness which can be filled with the... (read in full...)
Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 2 February 2009: Well he sounds unbelievable a total coward. You are far better off without him you have already done five months so i think things can only get better now and at least the not knowing is over because that is the worst!
You will need to be stron... (read in full...)
Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 31 January 2009: Yes i think he will definately be in touch again just be patient. I take it he did he not leave a contact number when he called if not you could get a message to his family asking them to tell him you are willing to talk whenever he is.
Good ... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 30 January 2009: Well lay all your cards on the table tell her you wish to be more than just friends but it has to be when she is completely finished with her boyfriend for good.
She can't have her cake and eat it unless you are prepared to sacrifice a relation... (read in full...)
Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 30 January 2009: Yes you are going to have to meet up with him to get to the bottom of this but it may be bad news.
Whatever happens be strong knowing is much better than what you have just been through and then you are in a much better place to be able to move ... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 30 January 2009: I'm so sorry it is all getting a bit hectic at the moment for you.
I would back off a little bit for the time being, give her a little bit space i think it must all be too much for her right now. She has just broken up with her boyfriend so the l... (read in full...)
How can I be more fun in school?
Q. In school, I'm focused, so i feel like guys always see me as a stickler. how can i be more fun in school? even when i'm in a class without friends?...
A. 26 January 2009: Well you are what you are and you should be happy for that if you put on a front and try to be something you are not it will be difficult to keep this up.
I am sure you have plenty school friends and i am sure they value your friendship so pleas... (read in full...)
Any woman in there 30's have trouble orgasm after DIVORCE from a long term relationship?
Q. Any woman in there 30's have trouble orgasm after DIVORCE from a long term relationship??? I always did with my ex but with new partner i have to use vibrators,he is much younger than me, by 10 yrs. any advice or help???? thanx ladies, plz share ur ...
A. 26 January 2009: Guilt can be a factor which can stop you reaching an orgasm during a new relationship.
I don't know what the reason for your divorce is but if you have had an affair you may be experiencing some guilt it can eventually be worked through but it w... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel like I'm dying with this married life!
Q. Dear…friends I am ARI, Male 25, working for a telecom company. And I apply for Australia, hope so soon I will migrate there. I have a kid of 1year. My wife……. When I 1st offered love that time I didn’t see her cause I meet her online then tal...
A. 26 January 2009: Well you do seem to be in a bit of a mess!
You have got yourself involved in a relationship purely because you were too cowardly to stand up to your family and you now have a wife you don't love and a young child if only you had been stronger... (read in full...)
So difficult just to forget about him...
Q. I asked a question a while ago asking what to do about a boy and I got a good response. I have taken the advice about just to forget him but how can I when I see him every day at my bus stop and he always stares at me on the bus. My friends always ...
A. 26 January 2009: College is a big place with many people, he will be a grain of rice among them all and will more than likely be on a different course to you.
You will have the opportunity to meet new people friends and potential boyfriends so don't dwell on... (read in full...)
Am I feeling this way because I still love him or am I just being silly?
Q. I dated this guy on and off for about 3 years and we broke up 2 years ago. The problem is I can't seem to let him go. I ended things and we've remained freinds. I was the first to move on and get someone else but when he recently also moved on I was ...
A. 26 January 2009: Thank you for your comments they mean a lot to me and i'm pleased i could help. Take care x... (read in full...)
Proper closure with my first love
Q. Hi there guys! I just want to share my thoughts as I can't share this to any of my close friends, specially my boyfriend. Sharing this means I would remain just an anonymous poster. I just want to know what you guys think about this. I don't k...
A. 26 January 2009: One question - can you remember the reason why you told him you didn't want to continue with the relationship? I think you have forgotten this over the years you actually ended the relationship so it was not as perfect as you are remembering now, ... (read in full...)
Is it harder to move on in a situation like this ?
Q. If two people are very much in love, they were together for 6 - 7 years. He had to end the relationship because of some unresolved circumstances which involve family backgroud, etc. Even after the breakup and n/c, still have very strong feeling ...
A. 26 January 2009: If you would prefer to send me a private message that would be alright. Whatever you decide x... (read in full...)
Is it harder to move on in a situation like this ?
Q. If two people are very much in love, they were together for 6 - 7 years. He had to end the relationship because of some unresolved circumstances which involve family backgroud, etc. Even after the breakup and n/c, still have very strong feeling ...
A. 26 January 2009: Your question is a puzzle to me i can't imagine how a loving relationship of 6-7 years can be ended due to family background can you please elaborate a little everything is very confidential though i know you will worry someone may see your posting ... (read in full...)
Will I ever win him back?
Q. My boyfriend finished with me and my nieces and my sister saw him walking up the road with his new girlfriend. She was arm in arm and when he saw them he quickly chucked her off and looked shady and just put his hand up but put his head down !!! ...
A. 26 January 2009: He obviously has some respect for your relationship still as he showed he felt uneasy being seen with his new girlfrield.
Was your relationship finished before he took up with his new girlfriend of was this the cause of the break-up you haven't ... (read in full...)
Two weeks, no contact, he says he likes me, should I be patient?
Q. Ok this is a kinda long story so ima try to make it short.. Ok so I met this guy last year(he is now 22 and I am 18) and he asked for my number and he would call me almost everyday, but we lost touch until his cousin contacted my friend and they ...
A. 26 January 2009: Have you been going out regularly during the past two months that you have been talking to him?
Maybe he has cooled off a little but i think it would have been manners for him to at least let you know how he was feeling.
I think if he has ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a complete miser for not spending on me?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for approximately 3 months now. We have a fantastic relationship, we never argue, spent plenty of time together and have an incredibly loving bond. I can without doubt say that she fulfills my every need both ...
A. 26 January 2009: I was going to say i don't think you are overacting on first reading your letter but on reflection i have just noticed that your relationship is in the early stages and your birthday was only one month into your relationship at this stage you are ... (read in full...)
How should I approach my ex?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago. At the time I really thought there wasn't much of a long term thing going on. But, I am really having second thoughts. Now, I get so jealous at the thought of her moving on and dating. We haven't ...
A. 26 January 2009: Do you still have her number i would think you do so why not just send her a friendly text i am sure it will make her day!
Two months is nothing when trying to get over a broken relationship so i doubt that she has moved on. Send her a message ... (read in full...)
We're friends, but I had silent, stronger feelings, she now has a boyfriend, what do I do?
Q. I have this friend, we know each other for a year, and let's just say that our relationship has been very good. We're friends, sometimes the weird flirting thing would happen, even though we've never tried going out before, and well... I thought I ...
A. 26 January 2009: I think you need to speak to her before she takes up with this other guy.
She obviously likes you as well but maybe because you never progressed things any further she has kept her feelings for you under control.
Arrange to meet her and tel... (read in full...)
Does she like me or just want an ego boost from knowing that I like her?
Q. I met a girl a few months back and we really got on well and it seemed we were about to get together properly until she went back to her cheating ex. Anyway to cut a very long story short, she now happens to work with a female friend of ...
A. 26 January 2009: Of course it matters if you're a nicer person and i'm sure you are.
I am sure she does like you she wouldn't care what you thought of her picture if she didn't want to impress you and she's still thinking of you even on a night out.
If she ... (read in full...)
My parents will not let me have a social life!
Q. i need some advice.. my parents are ruinning my life!!! they wont let me have a social life..and since were from another country, it makes it even harder!!! they are soo old fashioned, they always think of the negative like ooh..you're gonna get ...
A. 26 January 2009: Oh sorry so you are just a young boy then. Well everything i said is relevant really only i thought you were about 18 but now you tell me you are actually 14 and i can understand why your family are concerned for your safety more than anything.
... (read in full...)
Is it right to believe that he still has feelings for his ex?
Q. A little over a year ago, I started a relationship with this guy who seemed too perfect for words. His last relationship before me ended about 4 months before we had started ours due to the fact that she had kissed another guy. At first, our ...
A. 26 January 2009: I do believe he still has feelings for his ex and i think it is more than just on a friendship level. If he is receiving nude photos of her it is beyond friendship.
I think you were right to finish things with him, it doesn't necessarily mean tha... (read in full...)
My younger sister makes me horny, please help.
Q. hi. I am 15 and i get really horny when i am around my younger sister who is 13. I really want to see her naked but never have. What should i do?...
A. 25 January 2009: I am sure you are just having normal adolescent feelings you are very inquisitive at that age and even a ride on a bumpy bus can cause an erection!
Your hormones will be all over the place and i know that girls of 13 are very grown up these da... (read in full...)
We're definite opposites--can this work?
Q. Hi I'm desperate for some advice! Today my best friend told me he loved me. Of course I was clueless before but I'm single and I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! I think I like him, I really do, but after all we are best friends and I don't want to end up ...
A. 25 January 2009: Just go with the flow you are just young and chances are that your relationship will be short lived anyway but if he is a really good friend now you may risk that by having a relationship with him if things don't work out between you.
They ... (read in full...)
Does winter really affect mood?
Q. hey, My boyfriend and I are together for almost 2 years and we are about to move in together, that freaked me out at first but now I'm fine with it... I am in this confused period where I don't know what I want from life... they always come around ...
A. 25 January 2009: Yes i can certainly confirm that i had always feet a bit low during the dark winter days i never feet like getting out of bed it is was a real struggle but low and behold when the sun is shining and the weather a bit warmer i could get up no ... (read in full...)
My parents will not let me have a social life!
Q. i need some advice.. my parents are ruinning my life!!! they wont let me have a social life..and since were from another country, it makes it even harder!!! they are soo old fashioned, they always think of the negative like ooh..you're gonna get ...
A. 25 January 2009: So actually how old are you? I'm sorry i'm am not familiar with the grades in your country. I answered your question assuming you were about 18 since you put between the ages of 18-21.... (read in full...)
Experienced people wanted to give tips on dating
Q. hi everyone,before i ask my question note that this question can only be answered by those in long term relationships,those engaged and those married.i need good tips.i recently met this guy on facebook,who turned out to be a friend of a very old ex ...
A. 25 January 2009: If you are feeling the chemistry between you then you don't need any help other than continue doing what you are doing as it seems to be working. Just be yourself as you have been. I am assuming that you have never actually met in person yet, i... (read in full...)
My parents will not let me have a social life!
Q. i need some advice.. my parents are ruinning my life!!! they wont let me have a social life..and since were from another country, it makes it even harder!!! they are soo old fashioned, they always think of the negative like ooh..you're gonna get ...
A. 25 January 2009: You don't say how long you have lived in America or where you have moved from but everything must be strange for your parents they are not familiar with your area and they may be having trouble with language barriers which will only make their ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with him, would a BJ be acceptable?
Q. This guy I work with I think just wants a one-off, he has asked me round to his place, I want to go because I fancy him but I don't want to have sex the first time we are alone, what can I do instead of going all the way, would a blow job be ...
A. 25 January 2009: If you really like him as you have said i would steer clear of going around to his place, he knows you like him and is playing on this but he has no real feelings for you if a one off is what he is suggesting! If that is all he wants from you t... (read in full...)
All my friends have perfect cleavages, I've nothing!?
Q. I'm really worried because i have about a 2 inch gap between my boobs. i've tried everything to get rid of it like different types of bras and i've even been on the pill because its ment to make your boobs grow but it doesn't work. All my friends...
A. 25 January 2009: Also i have just thought i know that page 3 of The Sun newspaper is sometimes seen as a bit controversial but if you look there you will see alsorts of shapes and sizes and you will then realize that what you have is perfectly normal. ... (read in full...)
Jealous and mistrust is playing a big part into our relationship
Q. Right well this isnt really a life or death situation but any feedback,as always,greatly appreciated... Im with my boyfriend a year the nd of april.However, weve been childhood sweethearts,so we know the ins and outs of each other. The only ...
A. 25 January 2009: I think the problem here is that first impressions count unfortunately! You have admitted that you were a bit wild when you first met and this is the opinion he has of you. I am sure over time he has realized that you are not quite the girl t... (read in full...)
All my friends have perfect cleavages, I've nothing!?
Q. I'm really worried because i have about a 2 inch gap between my boobs. i've tried everything to get rid of it like different types of bras and i've even been on the pill because its ment to make your boobs grow but it doesn't work. All my friends...
A. 25 January 2009: Am i right in thinking that you do actually have breasts but it is the coming together of them at the cleavage that is bothering you. Just some of the answers give the impression that you are flat chested which is not what you have actually said! ... (read in full...)
We'll probably never meet so what does he want?
Q. i've been talking to this guy i met on the internet for about two months now. he is really lovely, we seem to be very similat and have the same ambitions. he makes me feel so special calling me beautiful and darling. this sounds awful but what does ...
A. 25 January 2009: It is a bit of a fantasy land the internet you never really know who you are talking to so you should always be cautious! He could be a competely different character from the person he is portraying to you so never arrange to meet up with him and ... (read in full...)
Is being friends with your ex after a break-up completely impossible?
Q. I've never been friends after break-ups with my past ex-boyfriends, but this time, I want to stay as friends with my ex-boyfriend. And he seems like he feels awkward about the idea and does not hang out with me after the breakup. Is being friends ...
A. 25 January 2009: I think it is possible to stay friends but only if it has been a mutual break-up as otherwise there is alway one person who has been hurt and it is best to make a clean break.
You have been happy to let the other relationships go probably because ... (read in full...)
My married dad seems to be falling for my best friends single mom
Q. i think my dad is falling in love with my best friends mum. my mum and dad are married and they have me and my brother and sister. my dad seems to be getting really close to my best friends mum she is single and only has one child. they have so much ...
A. 25 January 2009: This is a horrible situation for you to be in you will obviously be worrying about it and i wonder how your friend feels.
I think you need to let your Dad know that you have noticed he is getting a little bit close to your friends Mum and your fri... (read in full...)
Where can I meet some nice guys?
Q. I've just moved to an all girls grammer school and am really missing having guys around. i've never had a proper boyfriend and really think i'm ready for one, i think i need someone to be there for me and someone to spend some time with. when could ...
A. 25 January 2009: I would say give yourself time to settle into your new school before long you will have built up a circle of friends there and they will begin to invite you to different events and parties.
I know it is difficult fitting into a new school and some... (read in full...)
Is it me? I 'm crazy? Smell bad?? WHAT???
Q. Is it me? Am I crazy? Do I smell? Am I gay, and the only one that can't see it? Why the hell is it that every girl I ask out is taken without me knowing, or not wanting to be in a relationship? Am I destined to be alone forever? I used ...
A. 25 January 2009: Well don't despair i know it is a difficult situation but you seem like a very nice guy and you definately have a good sense of humour which some girl will really appreciate.
I am sure the right girl will come along shortly but in the meantime... (read in full...)
We used to flirt with each other but I think his crush on me has started to fade now, what to do?
Q. Okay, so I have a problem with a boy that is quite complicated. It all started like a year ago when we never even knew each other but went to the same school, and people kept telling me that this boy liked me. Then for some reason we got talking a...
A. 24 January 2009: How do you know that he doesn't like you for sure? If you are not confident enough to ask him outright you will have to try your flirting skills a bit more and see what you can pick up.
If he liked you before but wasn't sure how you felt maybe he... (read in full...)
I slept with someone at work but I don't truely love her..
Q. i am sleep with one girld that work in one organization with me trully i am not in love with her but she always said me i need you for my life so i need to be with you always and also plan to work by share with me by franchizing a new bussiness and ...
A. 24 January 2009: This relationship is no good for you, you must put an end to it you do not love this woman and the longer you let things go on the more hurt she is going to be.
You obviously work together so i can see it is going to be very difficult at least fo... (read in full...)
I haven't had a relationship in 5 years and my self confidence/esteem is so low
Q. ok my life is one big mess im hurting so bad inside it killing my emotions. i cant have a relationship cuz i blow it everytime. my self-esteem and self confedence is so low and i dont know what to say or do while talking with a gurl. i always get to ...
A. 24 January 2009: I think it is you that you need to concentrate on at present.
Do you have a group of friends that you can hang out with involve yourself with them, really throw yourself into your social life, this in itself will help your self worth you will... (read in full...)
Did she change her mind? Very confusing situation
Q. hey well i met this chick the other night and she was like telling me straight up that she thinks im cute and that she thinks i have gorgeous eyes n stuff n we were at this socail thing watchin a movie n we sat togther n talkd n yer hangd all ...
A. 24 January 2009: Well i can't understand this one either.
I think she seemed to really like you but you are both young and maybe she was a little embarrassed when she saw you as she was with her family.
You are reading into the fact that she has not replied ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel awkward around female co-worker?
Q. Hello. I've been quite contented in a relationship which has lasted so far for 2 years. However, I feel rather awkward when I'm talking to a particular woman at work. When other guys talk to her I feel a little knot in my stomach. So what does this ...
A. 24 January 2009: I think you have an attraction for this woman and are feeling a sexual chemistry when you are around her which is making you feel awkward.
I don't know whether you feel she has the same feelings for you but you are now feeling that she is out of b... (read in full...)
Do you think he still has feelings for me?
Q. my ex He says he dosent have feelings like he used to anymore and that we get on better as friends but y do we always talk on the phone still, and yesterday he was going 2 take me 2 work with him but i couldnt go, He tells me all about these gi...
A. 24 January 2009: I don't think this is a health relationship for you. You were in a relationship with him and obviously care a lot for him but he is rubbing your nose in the fact that he is sleeping with other women.
I would honestly put an end to your friendsh... (read in full...)
I gained a little weight could that make my period late?
Q. well...basically im 13 and i started my period about 3 months ago and i start it around the 18th...the problem is i havent had it this month. I HAVENT HAD SEX the only thing that has changed is i gained a little wait over xmas...is this normal?...
A. 24 January 2009: Yes i think it is perfectly normal and considering you have only just started your period.
Your hormones will be up and down at the moment and it will take a while for things to settle down im sure within a week or two you will have had one.
... (read in full...)
Husband left me-family knows where he is but won't tell me!
Q. My husband left me 5 months ago.I came home from work and my husband was gone,I haven't heard a word from him.His family knows where he is at but they won't let me contact him.What do I do....
A. 24 January 2009: Have you any idea why he would up and leave you and why would his family protect him have they admitted that they know where he is?
How long have you being together? Do you have any children with your husband and if so has he been in touch wi... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 24 January 2009: Well im sure she will come to the right decision in the end her feelings for her boyfriend are cooling and the fact that he is getting on her case about you isn't going to help him. Things are said in the heat of the moment but most are easily ... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hi thanks for your reply.
It seems to me that this is what is causing her upset he is more than likely giving her alot of grief about her relationship with you. She still values you as a friend and possibly a potential boyfriend and i think he... (read in full...)
What do I do now after massive fall out?
Q. I've just had a huge falling out with a close friend who's female, basically we argued because she wanted me to admit my true feelings for her and yeah I do like her, but she has a boyfriend. Now we ain't talking and she doesn't want any contact ...
A. 23 January 2009: Give it a few days unless she contacts you first this, will give her time to calm down and make sense of the situation. Its funny how the most terrible of arguments even when hurtful things have been said can be forgotten over time. I think s... (read in full...)
Am I feeling this way because I still love him or am I just being silly?
Q. I dated this guy on and off for about 3 years and we broke up 2 years ago. The problem is I can't seem to let him go. I ended things and we've remained freinds. I was the first to move on and get someone else but when he recently also moved on I was ...
A. 19 January 2009: If he was your first real love then he will always have a place in your heart. You will never forget the good times and the memories you have had with him we always remember the good times.
It was easy for you when you broke up because it was y... (read in full...)
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