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Unhappy with my girlfriend and in love with another girl
Q. Hello, I'm in quite a miserable situation and ask for any advice, as it's hard for me to discuss the situation with a friend. I would be very happy about any comment or advice. I'm together with my girlfriend now for 3 years, and we have been ve...
A. 12 March 2009: Do you not think that you maybe should move out temporarily and get a place of your own from where you can have and appreciate your own space and you may see things differently.
I honestly think that is the only way forward if you are saying y... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: I think maybe the walk and meal just in case she is not an outdoor girl then you are covering all areas. You will be able to have a couple of drinks then and that will help you both to feel a bit more relaxed and get to know each other better x
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I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: Well its only common courtesy really but put a few questions in your emails then she may feel more inclined to answer unless you do get around to asking her out. I hope so.... (read in full...)
First time for everything
Q. hi guys i posted a question that follows in a min , but it ended up that after a week, i apperntly waited too long for him - my head is spining in circles and i really dont know what to do ....iv got major feelings for this guy, as much as i knew i...
A. 25 February 2009: I am not 100% sure of his feelings from what you have told me. Does he keep in touch with you during the week and arrange to meet you at weekends.
It just seems to me that he could be keeping you sweet so that he has sex on tap so to speak.
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I'm feeling guilty for ending it all and not remaining friends
Q. i have broken all contacts with this girl and have gone away from her life forever. ours was a long distance relationship for one year and i had gone to her place in berlin a couple of times to stay with my grandparents during my holidays and really ...
A. 25 February 2009: She may have moved on as well she could also have a new boyfriend.
It may stir old feelings up in you if you do actually bump into her again so you will have to prepare yourself for that at least.
It was a shame it didn't work out for you but ... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: Well if you don't someone else might!
It won't hurt i know there is probably a fear of rejection on your part but don't take it to badly if that is the case, you may not be right for her but someone else will love every part of you.
Better ... (read in full...)
Pregnant from fingering......?
Q. Okay so me and my gf, who i love very much, were over my house one day. We were in the basement watching a movie cuddling and making out a little when she teased me down into her pants. well long story short i fingered her and thats it, she di...
A. 25 February 2009: Well it is impossible so please stop worrying over this.
If there has been no contact other than your finger which has been nowhere near any sperm then no worries- comprendre thats don't worry!
If you had some sperm on your finger i would t... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: Whoops i got carried away with the button there i posted my answer twice sorry x... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: My god you don't know how to text, where have you been hiding lol.
Well i had assumed that you were sending messages via your mobile phone but maybe that is the problem do you know if she is online very often. If she is and is not respondi... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 25 February 2009: My god you don't know how to text, where have you been hiding lol.
Well i had assumed that you were sending messages via your mobile phone but maybe that is the problem do you know if she is online very often. If she is and is not respondi... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him? Or leave it?
Q. ok this is one big long hard story and i need help!!! I spend a lot of time with my cousin sarah and i practically have been living with her. She has been on/off with this lad phil for 5 years. He has a younger borther jack who i really like and ...
A. 24 February 2009: I think you mean that Jack and Sam have now broken up it is a bit jumbled at the end but i think i have the gist.
I think if they have just broken up maybe give him a little bit time because you don't want to get into a relationship with him then... (read in full...)
I think I am impatient... How can I stop being like this?
Q. I am being driven ever so slightly made by the fact that the girl I like doesn't respond to me messages to her often for several days. Am I just being impatient? We don't know each other that well and have only met a handful of times. I know...
A. 24 February 2009: Are you sure that this girl feels the same way as you do about her because i honestly think that if she did she would make it her business to reply to you immediately i know i would if i really liked someone.
Why don't you ask her on a date whe... (read in full...)
Moving out for a healthy love life or staying at home for healthy finances?
Q. I'm 24 and living at home with my parents. This has obviously affected the relationship side of my life. I will be graduating from what was a very expensive professional degree this summer with some daunting debt. I'd like to move out but my ...
A. 24 February 2009: Maybe you can have the best of both worlds there with your family have you spoken to your parents about the possibility of your girlfriend staying over on occasions?
Many parents are alot more liberal these days my sons girlfrield often stops ov... (read in full...)
I really like him but he never shows his feelings toward me in front of others!
Q. Well there is this guy,and he has a girlfriend + he is my best friend's brother. Blah,he is just really confusing. Like,he tells me he loves me and whatnot,and We have had..um,"action" in the past. But when we are around people,he just hides it...
A. 24 February 2009: You must forget him he is just using you it is so obvious.
I know you have feelings for him but he is not showing you any respect the way he is carrying on!
Have a little bit respect for yourself and walk away. As you said yourself he will... (read in full...)
I love you. Why can't you feel the same?
Q. Ok. Some people are probably going to ignore this question. So, I`ll ask that you just stick around to hear my ENTIRE story. *sigh* I fell in love, and that sounds cliche. But, as we all know, everything does, and, it`s true. I love him so much...
A. 24 February 2009: I think you have really answered your own question.
As he already has a girlfriend he is not totally committed to either of you.
I know it is difficult but i would walk away from this one, nothing can possibily come of it when he is playi... (read in full...)
I'm having mixed feelings... What should I do?
Q. So my guy friend asked me out the other day and on friday we hung out I was really excited to see him since it has been a year since I've seen him. I feel like when he asked me out I was just going along with it but I was pretty sure I wanted to go ...
A. 23 February 2009: Have another couple of dates to find out for sure because you seem to be a bit unsure at the moment and if you see a little more of him things will definately become clearer as you get to know his character more.
If after seeing him a few more tim... (read in full...)
What if my husband doesn't get me an anniversary gift?
Q. My 5th wedding anniversary is coming up this Saturday. I got my husband something I know he will really like, but I'm thinking he is going to not get me anything great. He has a habit of not getting me gifts. I don't think I have ever gotten a ...
A. 23 February 2009: I think you know you are probably not going to get anything.
Your husband is just that type of guy some men and women for that matter are overly generous with their gifts and others are just not that bothered i was married to one for years bu... (read in full...)
What is my ex really feeling? Is it love or is he playing me?
Q. my ex and i were together for 2 years and broke up 2 years ago. a few months back he got back in contact with me saying he missed me and was sorry for how things ended between us and i was happy to see him ive missed him a lot. since then we talk ...
A. 23 February 2009: I think you need to have a serious chat with him.
Find out exactly what he wants from this relationship now. If it is purely just friendship as it seems i would honestly just move on.
This relationship will do you no good as it is and it wil... (read in full...)
Do I get on with my life or wait in the wings?
Q. I was with a guy for a year and a half and one day he told me we should take a break. After a few weeks this break became a break up. I sadly kept asking him why can't we just back together and he told me it's because he still has feelings for his ...
A. 23 February 2009: I know it is very difficult to let go but i think it will be the best thing to do as Justadvice said if he truly loves you he will come back.
I always think that if you are not number 1 in a relationship then quite frankly what is the point, d... (read in full...)
How can I tell my shy girlfriend that her pubic hair is turning me off sex?
Q. Hey I've been with a girl 18 months now, And everything is ok. Only thing is I REALLY have a thing against pubic hair, I'm not a shallow guy or anything it's just a REAL turn off for me. Everyone has things with make them excited and turns them off ...
A. 22 February 2009: I would just mention it to her that you would love to see what she would look like with possibly a brazilian and would she object, i say a brazilian because at first maybe all off would be a bit too much for her.
I would try to make the conversa... (read in full...)
I don't think he loves me... should I leave him?
Q. I live with a guy, he tells me he loves me but he never wants to kiss me or have sex with be but he wants me to give him oral sex when he watchs porn. He sometimes has sex with other girls! We have been living together 5 months. Should I leave ...
A. 22 February 2009: I would honestly put an end to this relationship love is a lot more than saying i love you once in a while.
You must will be feeling very low because of his attitude. There will definately be someone else out there who will show you the love you... (read in full...)
Am I covering their affair by remaining silent?
Q. Hello dear friends, I am facing a dilemma right now and I don't know what to do. At my workplace, there is an affair going on between a male driver and a female officer both married.Everytime I tried to talk to her, she justified her act, she says...
A. 22 February 2009: What you don't know can't hurt you please keep out of it. It is not your concern it is only curtain twitching and you are going to hurt her beyond belief and she certainly won't think of you as a friend!... (read in full...)
Am I covering their affair by remaining silent?
Q. Hello dear friends, I am facing a dilemma right now and I don't know what to do. At my workplace, there is an affair going on between a male driver and a female officer both married.Everytime I tried to talk to her, she justified her act, she says...
A. 21 February 2009: Keep out of it it has nothing to do with you!
It is possible that this sitation may just blow over if it is allowed to continue but by you being involved you could escalate it out of proportion.
Even though you know his wife it is their concern... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my girlfriend and in love with another girl
Q. Hello, I'm in quite a miserable situation and ask for any advice, as it's hard for me to discuss the situation with a friend. I would be very happy about any comment or advice. I'm together with my girlfriend now for 3 years, and we have been ve...
A. 21 February 2009: You are still just young and have lived together for 3 years if you feel it is not working now and are beginning to get a roving eye at this stage then i think your relationship may be doomed.
The real problem seems to be your attachment to this ... (read in full...)
Can anyone understand why my b/f makes such loud strange noises?
Q. I have tried to understand and am at a loss. Please help me if you can add any insight. My boyfriend is a wonderful person and seems very loving and compassionate. But... Sometimes he scares me. He will vocalize very loud at strange times. Such as ...
A. 21 February 2009: Ahhhhh i don't think he has a problem at all he is just thinking aloud to break the silence probably which we all do at times and expecially when something hurts or we get a sharp pain at times oooowh maybe you should try it mmmmm lol.
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I don't want these feelings, I want to be straight!
Q. Well, here's the thing. I know I am really attracted to guys. When I see a really hot guy, I automatically have a picture of a perfect penis in my head and if I'm near a bed, I'll hop into it and start to masturbate immediately. But lately, whenever ...
A. 21 February 2009: I believe you are straight so don't worry too much.
You are just young and everything has not settled down with your body and hormones as yet you seem to have all the correct signs though you are finding the male body attractive so why the worr... (read in full...)
Should I leave my older husband? I'm unhappy!
Q. Should I leave my husband? I am 32. I have been married for 12 years and have 3 children aged between 7 and 12. My husband is 23 years older than me. We have been together for a very long time. He is the only man I have ever been with. I ...
A. 20 February 2009: Well separation and divorce is not all it is cracked up to be, believe me i am speaking from experience but on the other hand you only get one life and it should be happy one.
Your life and happiness is just as valuable as that of your children... (read in full...)
I'm undecided - should I give in to my brother's urges and have sex with him?
Q. My brother trying to seduce me. He's been trying for a long time, from time to time he was making a move on me, but now I think he's serious. When we were in early teens (13-15) we already had a kind of sexual relationship with him - we've been tou...
A. 18 February 2009: There's millions of people in the world why pick one from the same litter it is a relationship that can only be riddled with secrecy, guilt and heartache and will never be a loving relationship between a couple which can be admired and shown openly ... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 18 February 2009: Well i must say that you do give a very full account of what happened every detail i can really get the picture.
I am sure Aiden likes you but he is finding it difficult to get the words out. Sometimes when you are young your friends try to help ... (read in full...)
What do I do if he never mentions Valentine's Day?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month and a half and he hasn't mentioned Valentine's Day at all. He is a really nice thoughtful guy, he goes out of his way to do nice little things for me and I have seen him do the same for friends of his. I ...
A. 13 February 2009: I think he probably has something up his sleeve considering you have said he is a very considerate guy normally, i think he is probably going to surprise you with something just make sure you have a card ready for him.... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 11 February 2009: I replied to this yesterday i don't know why it hasn't been updated.
Anyway i think he is a bit mixed up with his signals you really need to make things clearer to him give him some signs that he can't get wrong.
Just have a word with him an... (read in full...)
My husband is a lazy sod!!!
Q. I am 38 years old and married to a man who refuses to work. We own our own construction company and we only had one more job to do on our list. My husband REFUSES to do this job although we have borrowed thousands off my parents and his. I am out of ...
A. 10 February 2009: I really feel for you i think if you don't do something you will suffer yourself.
I don't think you will be out on the street if you leave him you have played a part in your business together though what assets you have left i don't know. I... (read in full...)
My husband is a lazy sod!!!
Q. I am 38 years old and married to a man who refuses to work. We own our own construction company and we only had one more job to do on our list. My husband REFUSES to do this job although we have borrowed thousands off my parents and his. I am out of ...
A. 10 February 2009: When exactly did this lack of motivation to work start is it a recent thing?
I was just wondering if your husband is depressed about something possibly money troubles relating to the business or loosing your home he seems to have gone to ground a... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of carrying my husband
Q. Where do I start? My husband and I have been married only a few short months. He is twelve years older than I am. I am a very successful in my line of business and lately I feel like the work mule. I feel instead of a hug when I walk through ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think it is six of one and half a dozen of the other, you have to control your work load so it does not spill over into your free time and he has to make better use of his free time by helping out more around the home.
If you aren't spending... (read in full...)
I'm lonely and think I'm going to get crazy!
Q. Since i broke up from a 10 year relationship in 2005 it has been very hard for me to find a stable relationship. My relationships only last for about 3-4 months, if i don't dump the guy, he dumps me. Sometimes i think i'm too wild in bed, then ...
A. 10 February 2009: Don't change the way you are to suit anyone being yourself is always the best and it worked for 10 years so you can't be all that bad.
I am in the same position as you i have been on my own now for a few months and yes it is lonely though i do sti... (read in full...)
Son stealing my dirty panties to "relieve" himself...Help!
Q. My 13yr old son has been stealing my dirty panties and I believe he is using them to "assist" himself. I have found several pairs under his bed and well lets say there is evidence as to what he is doing. Do I confront him about? Do I just ignore ...
A. 10 February 2009: I have two sons one whom i can speak to freely about any issue the other is a little more embarrassed i don't know if you are able to discuss things of this nature openly with your son if you can all well and good, just make a light hearted comment ... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of carrying my husband
Q. Where do I start? My husband and I have been married only a few short months. He is twelve years older than I am. I am a very successful in my line of business and lately I feel like the work mule. I feel instead of a hug when I walk through ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think if you are committed to the relationship you need to sit down together and have a long chat telling him exactly how you feel pointing out how you think things could be improved and the consequences if they do not and maybe you can find a ... (read in full...)
I'm torn and cheating
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off for just under a year. All throughout the relationship he has dragged his feet. At first saying he didn’t want a girlfriend - until I told him then he should just not have one and that if he wants to be ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think the best thing to do is to give yourself a break from the two of them maybe for a couple of weeks and see just who you miss the most.
I personally think you are more suited to the one you are having the affair with he seems more on your ... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think young boys and girls sometimes do this they get their friends to ask on their behalf and i think this is what Aiden has asked Tyler to do.
He has probably being getting a few mixed messages recently what with Crystal and yourself and he i... (read in full...)
Would you ask the guy to get circumsized? Would you pay for it?
Q. Girls you really like this guy you have gone out with for a couple of mouths, he decided he wants to have sex with you and he is not circumcsied,would you ask him if he would go and get cut because you only like men cut and if he does would you pay ...
A. 9 February 2009: I would certainly not mention it and i can't see him agreeing to this anyway just to satisfy your needs, if you are feeling like this then this guy is not for you.
What man is going to put himself through that sort of pain and suffering just for... (read in full...)
My friends are taking alot of time away from my son & my guy
Q. Hello there, views appreciated. I have several girlfriends who are single, some recently divorced. They ask me to go out with them at weekends on my own, but those times are very precious with my son and partner. I invite them to join us for ...
A. 9 February 2009: Yes i can see where you are coming from it is not unreasonable what you are suggesting but you need to let your friends know maybe say you will go out with them altogether once or twice a month for now because you need to spend time with your family ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my boyfriend when I miss my old one so much?
Q. I had a boyfriend who was absolutely lovely in every way, he was the funniest most caring person I could've ever dreamed of, but after 2 and a half years i ended it because I was finishing uni and wanted to go travelling, see the world meet new ...
A. 9 February 2009: If you don't feel the same with your current boyfriend i would say that you should end the relationship i know he will be hurt but at the end of the day it is kinder now than ten years down the line.
Does your old boyfriend live near to you and ... (read in full...)
Should I be annoyed my wife is discussing our marital problems with her friends.
Q. Should I be annoyed my wife is discussing our marital problems with her friends. Because I am! I know we have problems but I haven't talked to my friends about it, I feel it's private information. What do you think?...
A. 9 February 2009: Its a fact women do talk to their friends about personal things we are unlike men and you can't hold that against us.
FinnmcCool you said opinions are like arseholes everyone got one but we do need them do we not lol you seem to contradi... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 30 January 2009: Well i was really convinced that Aidan liked you but judging by his present actions i would keep a wide berth from him at the moment. I just think that he is beginning to play some kind of game he is stringing you girls along.
Just play it cool ... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 28 January 2009: I think you should get him on his own and have a friendly chat just say you are worried about your friendship because you value him as a friend but he seems a bit distant at the moment so you were wondering if anything was bothering him. That may ... (read in full...)
What do you think... Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. I live in a small town where everybody knows each other and there’s not a lot of people your own age. There’s this boy (I’ll pretend his name is Aiden) and he lives on a farm outside a close town. We both go to the same church. There isn’t a good ...
A. 19 January 2009: Well in my opinion i think Aiden really likes you but maybe because you are a good friend of his he does not know whether to risk your friendship by asking you to be his girlfriend.
Why are you going to Heritage Fair with Brian when you clearly ... (read in full...)
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