Sexual frustration!! My girlfriend doesn't touch me : (
Q. I'm a newly outed (to myself and everyone else!) lesbian, and I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. We're very much in love and quite frisky and spend a lot of time in the bedroom, but things have begun to seem increasingly one-sided ...
A. 26 May 2010: I'll tell you this much.... sex is about two people. Not just one getting all the fun. If she refuses to touch you or please you, then you need to move on.
You could try the well I wont do you if you dont do me thing but I don't think that wor... (read in full...)
How do I get over this and just appreciate what I have? I am imagining that he is thinking of others now....
Q. I'm in a great relationship that's going strong after several months. We have good sex and communicate really well, and I'm happy. Yesterday, we were talking about sex and porn, and juicy stuff like that, and my boyfriend asked if I thought about ...
A. 26 May 2010: "The sex we have is really amazing."
I'm sorry, how did that statement turn into "I'm not a great lover." ?
Oh I remember, you're a girl. We think too much.
You know how you get over it? You take it for face value. He thinks the se... (read in full...)
Why do I "wet" the bed when fooling around with my boyfriend?
Q. why do i "wet the bed" everytime he fingers me and when it feels good? is it normal? is the liquid supposed to smell slightly sweet and sour? is it even normal? does weting the bed count as cum or the eletricfying sensation count?...
A. 26 May 2010: Now come on, BunnyTee, I know grown women who ask these questions! And by grown I mean in their 20's.
Yes, I agree you're too young to be doing this stuff, but I'll answer you anyway. It's normal.
Your body is designed to lubricate itself... (read in full...)
Why is sex painful?
Q. why does it hurt when he does deep inside of me ( my leg on his shoulders) but it does not hurt when it is not hitting the end ( my legs open at th side of his arms while he is on top of me ). is thr somethng wrong? ...
A. 26 May 2010: As a side note to what TimmD said, I will add this.
in that position, the legs on shoulders thing, he goes in much deeper than if you're having regular sex. He goes in deeper it hurts because he hits your cervix. (The end of your uterus) ... (read in full...)
Should I be over the molestation by now or not?
Q. should i be over the fact that i was molested? ok, ill keep this short. i was sexually molested from the age of 6-9 and then again by a different man from age 12-16 (This stopped about 3months ago). i would like to know if you think i should be over ...
A. 26 May 2010: No. You shouldn't be over it. No one ever gets over it. It will always haunt you. BUT you can cope with it. Go talk to a counselor. I hope you have the courage to go to the police and get those men arrested. They deserve to die for what they ... (read in full...)
I struggle to have an orgasm! What can I do?
Q. i have difficulty in orgasm..what should i do?...
A. 26 May 2010: First thing? Relax. The more you "TRY" to have one, the less chance you are of having one. The more you do things to get it to happen with the expectation of it, the harder it is for it to go...or come... for lack of a better word.
So, next tie... (read in full...)
My manager brings her baby to the office every week but doesn't allow anyone else to bring in their kids!
Q. Hi guys, My manager at work had a baby 4 months ago and since it's been born she has bought him (the baby) in to the office practically every week! 1 week she came in 3 times. She came in to show off the baby- not for anything work related. ...
A. 26 May 2010: Hmmm.... You could try talking to the supervisor and say, I am concerned because I can't hear my customer well and I got told it was unprofessional to hear a baby in the background. Is there a way she can maybe take her baby out when he's crying?
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How can I ask my parents to let me sleep over at my boyfriend's house?
Q. hi, i see my boyfriend nearly every day. he shares a house with his housemate and is 26. iam 20 and i have asian parents who are not too strict, they will let me go out till very late with him and let me spend a lot of time with him. i would very ...
A. 26 May 2010: I'm not sure how this works where you are but at 20 you're an adult capable of making your own decisions. Then again, where I am, in California, a 20 yr old isn't living with parents anymore so it's easier.
Maybe your culture is that this is ... (read in full...)
How long of drinking 3-6 days a week does it take to be an acholic?
Q. Ok... I'm a bit tipsy so gimmie a break on spelling. So.. I started drinking about three months ago, about three or four times a month. But in the last couple weeks, I've drank every day. I don't know what classifies alcohol though. I don't drink ...
A. 26 May 2010: I think your question is harder than you think.
Yes, you're an alcoholic. And yes, you should stop. But no, that's not the whole answer.
WHY are you drinking. What's the self destruction for? Where does it come from? What is it you're esc... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband I just want to be friends?
Q. I knew before I ever met my husband that I didn't ever want to be anybody's 'wife'. He is a good man and my best friend, but after 9 years of marriage I still don't like the role of wife. How do I get back to just being friends without the pressure ...
A. 26 May 2010: ouch... talk about bait and switch... That's so mean! I'd hate to be in your guys' shoes right now. Someone who suckered him into thinking she actually loved him and cared...but no, she married him to...? I have no idea WHY you married him... t... (read in full...)
Are we heading for a rocky end?
Q. me and my bf have been together for 3 years now. I love him to pieces no-one makes me laugh, feel safe and creates that sparkle in my eyes the way he does. I know he loves me very much 2. We have had the usual ups and downs that couples have but ...
A. 26 May 2010: I think you need to figure out what the real reasons for the arguing are. I don't buy that it was just ONE night of him leaving you hanging. My guess is he's done other stuff to annoy you and it came up that way.
I ALSO don't buy his that one... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my boyfriend about this without making him feel bad?
Q. Hi! I saw that you gave some great advice to a a girl a while back I believe about getting fingered and I didn't know if you could help me out. I am 19 as well as my boyfriend. The other day for the first time he fingered me. I was sitting up...
A. 26 May 2010: You could try to find out what makes you feel good and then tell him to do that. I don't know if you masturbate or not. If you do, that's what you tell him to do, to do what you do. If you can't tell him, show him.
If you don't know, start fi... (read in full...)
Marriage without intimacy
Q. Okay I've been married for 3 years but been with my husband for 7 years now. We get along just fine, he is caring and respectful treats me great. The only problem we have is that I have to initiate any form of physical intimacy, he seems withdrawn ...
A. 26 May 2010: I'll tell you what I told the other woman who asked this same question, more or less. Except she had three kids one of whom was like 4 months old. I don't know if you have kids or you have the jobs from hell or what's going on but my advice is... (read in full...)
Why is he always searching for pornography that is the complete opposite of me?
Q. Hi everyone. I am 38 and with a long time partner. We have a son together (and I have another one from my marriage)and get on reasonably well. We have quite busy lives up at 6 am and running around till children in bed at 9 pm. The normal rat r...
A. 26 May 2010: Honey, he's looking for fantasies. If he wanted the girls he's looking at he would have gone out with THEM, not you.
Leave the man to his visuals. They have nothing to do with you. It's no different than you drooling over Brad Pitt or whoever.... (read in full...)
What is the best way to get him interested in me again?
Q. This is complicated: A guy at my work flirted with me. Now he seems to be backing off. What is best way to reignite him. Here is what happened: he starts saying Hi looking at me with these big puppy dog eager eyes. I think Oh he has a crush on me. ...
A. 26 May 2010: Honey, when a guy says I'm overworked, he really does mean, he's overworked. How much clearer do you want him to be? He's already as clear as crystal water.
He thinks about you all the time and you drive him crazy.
Yeah, that's clear to ... (read in full...)
Is the height difference between my boyfriend and me normal?
Q. Hi friends! I need your advice.I'm 17, my height is 153cm. It has always bothered me. I do not know, tell me, please, is it too short? My boyfriend is 179cm. Is the height difference between us normal?...
A. 26 May 2010: To the American's reading this, the height difference is about 10 inches. It's a bit of ways but not horrible. :)
I dated a man a whole foot taller than me, that's a 30cm difference to everyone else in the world.
It worked out fine. Height di... (read in full...)
We don't have sex anymore!!
Q. hi everyone. ive been with my husband for 13year on and off. we've been married for almost 5 of those years now. he seams to have lost interest in me. ive had 2 kids and put on 2stone. my youngest is 4months. since my last child was born we wouldnt ...
A. 26 May 2010: I hate to tell you this but you're going to have to talk to him about it. I know he's no good at talking. Most men aren't, but that doesn't mean you can't get information.
He could have health issues that affect his performance. He could be... (read in full...)
How long does it take for chylamydia to turn into Pelvic Inflammatory Disease?
Q. Hey everyone. So I've had a bf since last year, we just started having sex a few months ago, in our past we both only have 1 previous partner. We used condoms, I'm on the pill, all is good right? Well shortly after we started doing that there we...
A. 26 May 2010: I don't know about the PID but I'll put your soul to rest on the other stuff.
I had a friend who was told she'd NEVER have babies because of your situation. Endometreosis and cystic ovaries back in like 1992, I forget exactly.
Fast forward ... (read in full...)
We had sex, noticed a strange white substance, any ideas what it was??
Q. today my girlfriend and i did it and when i came, i came on her stomach and when we looked there was other white stuff under her vag but it was close to it and it looked like semen but not light white as my semen and it looked thicker than my semen ...
A. 26 May 2010: all that rough riding makes good froth... sounds sick, I know, but it's true. Ever put egg whites in a blender on high? (aka, made merengue?) Same thing happens to girls lube when there's a lot of friction going on.
In doubt? As the other pe... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship if she doesn't want to settle into to our new place?
Q. I`m 32,my gf is 20.we have a 3 month old girl together.We have been living together for the past year mostly at her mothers until she kicked us out.So for the past month I have been trying to get my trailer situated.She has been staying with me all ...
A. 26 May 2010: I'm amazed that a 30 something year old man is writing like a 13 yr old boy... Honestly, the IM thing doesn't impress me at all. But I'll put that aside a moment. What does "I hate your family" mean? I thought you were living alone. Did you ... (read in full...)
Can you really love those you once hated?
Q. I have two questions. Are men attracted to women who have similiar personalities as they do? The other questions is I like this guy that I intially hated. Now I have a huge crush on him. Not sure how that happened but what I want to know is does ...
A. 26 May 2010: What was the reason you "hated" this guy? And what are the reasons you "love" him now? (like)
There is a thing that says opposites attract. I find that to be true but it didn't work out for me, so I ignore it now.
However, I do find a guy w... (read in full...)
Have girlfriend, having sex, not attracted to men, but penises excite me, advice please?
Q. currently in a relationship with a girl, sexual. no problem getting it up etc, always turned on by her. Yet get turned on when i see penis. but no attraction to men. help.?...
A. 26 May 2010: What does that mean... no attraction to men? Does it mean you find the idea of being attracted to a man repulsive?
That you're turned on by penises COULD mean you're bisexual. It could also mean you find them interesting.
I find women very ... (read in full...)
Should I be content to be the mistress?
Q. I am having an affair with a married man for 5 months now. He is older than me and has 3 children. I work with him for about an hour twice a day. We knew each other for over a year before anything happened. It started out as a bit of fun but ...
A. 26 May 2010: Let me just be honest with you. I HATE what you're doing. To yourself, to his family, to his wife. You're disgusting behaviour is appaling.
THAT being said, I think you need help. Why is it you're attaching yourself to an unavailable ... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged.
Q. I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. We've been married over 10 years and before me she had this boyfriend named Jim. Right after we got married we moved about 3 hours away to another part of the state for my job...
A. 26 May 2010: Gotta love small town gossip... people have nothing better to do than talk about sh from ten years ago and hurting other people. Yes... misery DOES love company, doesn't it?
A mistake, albeit a huge one, destroys 10 years just like that. Really?... (read in full...)
Is cryotherapy worth the cost?
Q. I went in for my regular female exam and ended up having to get a cervical biopsy. I got the results back from that, and all my doctor told me was "the abnormal cells we seen are caused by hpv." She didn't tell me if I had warts or if it was just ...
A. 25 May 2010: If in doubt, get a second or third opinion. Something doesn't sound right to me either.... (read in full...)
I am ginger with glasses, how do I make myself more attractive?
Q. I am ginger with glasses and people give me a har time over it. How do I make mysel more attractive without dyeing my hair (I love my hair as it is) or getting contacts....
A. 25 May 2010: Never read or saw the Harry Potter movies?
Do you KNOW how many girls lust after Ron Weasley!? Or Rupert Grint?
No, no, young man. Ginger hair is definitely IN. :) And so are glasses. :) Some girls find them adorable.
Don't be bother... (read in full...)
Could it be possible that he will hide things from me now??
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together almost 2 years. we see each other almost everyday and we always say goodbye at the end of the day with a big hug and kiss and an "i love you" We still even hold hands everywhere we go. But recently he has been ...
A. 25 May 2010: oohhhh I soooo hate it when girls kill guys for being honest then bitch that he's hiding things from them. It's like your mother killing you for eating out of the cookie jar then getting mad for you sneaking a cookie in the middle of the night.
... (read in full...)
Warn the Cheating Ex's New Girlfriend?
Q. My ex was cheating on me. For more details you can go here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-checking-a-partners-internet-activities-a-violation.html I have since the break-up been breaking my own rule and checking his Facebook. I alre...
A. 25 May 2010: You say you would have LIKED the warning... but would you have listened to it? Now don't answer so fast... think about it. Would you have listened? Really? I am not sure I would... After all, you're probably the crazy stalker ex gf who can't ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: Is it normal for 19 yr old girl to have sex? Depends on the girl. How often? Depends on the girl.
Is it normal for a 27 yr old guy to get upset over not having sex? Sure. About as normal as it is for 19 yr old girl who's not getting sex when... (read in full...)
Should I continue my friendship with her?
Q. I'm not sure whether to continue my friendship with this person or not. The thing is, she only seems to want to do what she wants lately. She usually just wants to go out drinking in my hometown ( she lives in another area ) but i sometimes get sick ...
A. 25 May 2010: I'm not sure why you're questioning your friendship. Seems to me she's made it clear she's not a friend to you. She's someone you hang out with when she's bored or has nothing else to do.
Have a chat and tell her how you feel. If she wants to... (read in full...)
Should I start talking to the handsome stranger at the bus stop?
Q. Hey guys, a bit of a strange question. Every morning i get a bus to college, and i see the same guy there every morning at my busstop. He's unbeleivably handsome and very well dressed. Lately i see him looking at me and when i look back he smiles, ...
A. 25 May 2010: You could talk to him, sure, why not?! He seems to be into you or he wouldn't do that.
Question is, how soon is it for you to be 18? (unless in your country it's 16, not 18, when you become an adult in terms of legalities.)
I only mentio... (read in full...)
Will the guilt ever go away?
Q. My boyfriend and i of 5 years have been going through some rough times but were really trying to get through them. I have trust issues even though i know he would never do anything. Well i just became the worst hippocrite because i recently fooled ...
A. 25 May 2010: I only have a question to answer your question... and I know that sucks but I have to do it.
What would you have your boyfriend do, if the situation was reversed?
How would you feel? How would you respond?
OK so that was three questions... (read in full...)
Wrongfully confessed?
Q. I have this friend who i have known for 10 years,he wanted to date me when we were younger but I kindly declined because he was involved with someone and did not break it off before pursuing me.We remained friends.Now so many years later I feel as ...
A. 25 May 2010: Absolutely it was wrong! What made you do such a thing?! You know, not all truths need to be told. I mean, I'm sure your husband has woken up SOMETIME in your lives together and gone, wow... today she looks X. Do you really want to know wha... (read in full...)
How long should you wait if you want to keep a man?
Q. How long should you wait to have sex with a man you are seeing if you want to keep him?...
A. 25 May 2010: What an odd question to ask... I wonder if I can do the same to you... How long do you wait to get dressed in the morning in order to keep your job? What? Oh I know, not really related but that's how odd your question comes off to me.... (read in full...)
I did everything for her, now we don't get on. Has she used me?
Q. Hey, I have been with a girl for coming up two years now. She started to work in the office where I work- I am 34 and she is now 23. I tried to give this relationship my all. We moved in together after a short while of dating. I paid the depo...
A. 25 May 2010: It would help to know what you're arguing over. Did she use you? Probably. Did you use her? Probably. Don't scream... It's true. Watch this. You had sex with her, no doubt, right? Did you pay her? No. Did you marry her? No. So ther... (read in full...)
"I want to blow his mind"
Q. I have known this guy since September. We met online and only chatted up until about 2 weeks ago. Well, a few days after we met, I went to his apartment to watch a movie, and things got carried away. We didn't talk about what happened, until ...
A. 25 May 2010: Hmmm... I think we're missing something... You want to blow his mind because he said you were "like everybody else" in bed?
What kind of a weird challenge is this?... (read in full...)
Our values differ and I feel like a "test". Have I compromised and settled here?
Q. I've been with my BF for 6 months now. Our concept of sex differ quite greatly, I'm coming to realize. I've never had sex and have always thought that i'd give myself to someone whom i really love to. He, on the other hand, has been with 3 girls ...
A. 25 May 2010: If you feel like a test run, that will grow into resentment which means eventually it will break off. Listen to your inner voice. My guess is, it's trying to tell you something super important.
Don't give him sex until you know for sure it's you... (read in full...)
I am gay, he is straight, should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I'm a 15 year old guy and I'm gay. I've always known that so that isn't the issue. I've been having REALLY strong feelings for another guy, but he's straight. I don't know if it's love (I doubt it) but they're strong enough feelings to make me ...
A. 25 May 2010: Lots of gay men LOVE straight men... lots of girls LOVE gay men... it's a curse, I admit to being of the latter nature.
But as much as I love being a fag hag and flirting and being innuendo-city with my gay men friends, I know nothing else wil... (read in full...)
Premature Ejaculation and Weak Erection, Help!
Q. I am 22 and have been with my bf for 3 years .My problem is when we have sex he ejaculates too soon,he has a weak erection and most of the time i don't feel him at all.At first i thought it was because we were each other first sexual partners and ...
A. 25 May 2010: Assuming he's been checked out for health reasons, I have one trick up my sleeve. He's got too much performance pressure. It's possible he's seeing your face as it goes from yay to fuck..he's soft again... *sigh* get off me already.
Or he's got... (read in full...)
She texts the guys I meet and it is getting me down, please help!
Q. Hey, i have my friend and she always go for boys i like. I don't see why she is doing this. she flirts with everybody she sees, i get its a bit of fun but once i tell her I'm texting a boy shes like 'when am i going to meet him' and once she does ...
A. 25 May 2010: I have no idea WHY you think she's your friend. You told her to stop and she won't. That is NOT a friend. Find a new person to hang out with...one that respects you and your wishes.
If you, for some retarded reason, want to keep friends ... (read in full...)
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