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*osie jo
writes:hi everyone. ive been with my husband for 13year on and off. we've been married for almost 5 of those years now. he seams to have lost interest in me. ive had 2 kids and put on 2stone. my youngest is 4months. since my last child was born we wouldnt have sex that often but we had been doing more spontanous stuff like in the bathroom in the kitchen and stuff about twice a month. But now since last year we have had sex 3 times and 2 of those times he didnt climax. whats going on with him? i dont feel i can talk about it with him. he is no good at talking about things. what can i do? im working on the weight issue as we speak. Reply to this Question
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 glad to hear it, Poster! Keep on keepin' on!
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reader, josie jo +, writes (9 June 2010):
josie jo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have had a long talk. i think he understands me a bit better now... he says hes just not in da mood as much and its not me its just hes under presure with money and stuff since i'm on maternity leave.... thx for da advice
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reader, josie jo +, writes (31 May 2010):
josie jo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you i will try and talk to him.......!
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (26 May 2010):
I'm afraid you're going to make it a point to talk about this to him. There is no crystal ball to tell us what's going on with this.
It'd be far too easy to jump to conclusions or make assumptions, most likely incorrect, without knowing what he has to say on this matter.
So give it a try. Just tell him you see this pattern and are having a tough time interpreting what you see. So like, what's going on here? Short and simple. To the point. Keep us posted!
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reader, cnith +, writes (26 May 2010):
 I hate to tell you this but you're going to have to talk to him about it. I know he's no good at talking. Most men aren't, but that doesn't mean you can't get information.
He could have health issues that affect his performance. He could be too tired. Three kids, my god, do you guys ever sleep!?
Find some time when you're both well rested. (well, as best you can) Then say something like, Honey, I realise we're tired and the babies and everything but I'd like it if we could make love more often." See what he says. If he's stressed, ask how you can help him relax. If he's tired, see if you can find a way to get you guys some more rest. Baby sitters? I don't know...
Best case scenario is he tells you he think YOU were too tired/stressed. You never know. But you do need to ask. WE don't know your husband, so how could we read his mind? Even if we were that talented? We can't do it any better than you.
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