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*aBellefox
writes:This is complicated: A guy at my work flirted with me. Now he seems to be backing off. What is best way to reignite him. Here is what happened: he starts saying Hi looking at me with these big puppy dog eager eyes. I think Oh he has a crush on me. then he starts talking to me about 'My style" how i wear my hair saying its "awesome" so i figure he is hot for me, right? so i go over to him really close and say "Hi" then he comes back later says he thinks im really cute asks if i have a bf, asks if i go out. we talk on the phone discuss going out for a picnic. I called him 2 times after that. I dont wanna chase him I def dont wanna call him again. when i see him at work he says he still wants to go out. I am flirty with him but he doesnt seem to come talk to me as much but says he thinks of me all the time and i drive him crazy. I have never had a guy be hot then cold to me. he says he is overworked at the moment. What should i do just remain the same and wait? Thanks!
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reader, cnith +, writes (26 May 2010):
 Honey, when a guy says I'm overworked, he really does mean, he's overworked. How much clearer do you want him to be? He's already as clear as crystal water.
He thinks about you all the time and you drive him crazy.
Yeah, that's clear to me that he likes you.
Give him a little time and when the work gets better you'll go out. :) Meanwhile, stay flirty and be patient.
It's also possible he's scared to screw up on that first date. Keep things casual. And hey, why not ask him for lunch? The man does still have to eat, right? :D Give him a break from his overloaded work. If he can't do lunch, then bring him over a candy bar or something to show him you care. :)
The point is, you want to let him know you're interested. Don't go into girl mode and get irrationally impatient. It's annoying.
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