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writes:I have known this guy since September. We met online and only chatted up until about 2 weeks ago. Well, a few days after we met, I went to his apartment to watch a movie, and things got carried away. We didn't talk about what happened, until last night. He said it was good, but he wasn't blown away by it, because it was like all the other girls he's been with. He usually ends up doing all the work. I do admit he did a lot of the work, but it was 4am, and extremely hot in his bedroom. I have never been told this before, and am really used to the guy just wanting to please me, and doing whatever it takes to do so. My question is, what should I do to make our next time amazing for him. He is very hard to get off, and can literally go for hours. What is a good way so he doesn't have to do hardly any work at all. I want to blow his mind!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): Hey, if you really want to blow his mind, take a whip and beat him senseless next time--just joking!
I agree with those who said this guy is a jerk! Heck, he may even be a sociopath. Dump him! You don't want to be with anyone who has such a disregard for your feelings that he'd say something so rude and callous. Believe me, this relationship will only go downhill quickly no matter what you do.
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reader, cnith +, writes (25 May 2010):
 Hmmm... I think we're missing something... You want to blow his mind because he said you were "like everybody else" in bed?
What kind of a weird challenge is this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): hell no?! from the off sweetheart, DITCH THE DICK. what kind of guy says that to a woman? an ignorant, arrogant a**hole, thats the kind. blow his mind? honey, he isnt worth the time of day! next time, wait until you find someone who will genuinely appreciate the fact that you are making love and then write in asking how to blow HIS mind. sorry if you dont think this is the answer you were looking for, but its helping you more than answering the question directly would. trust me!
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reader, Blondiebrooke69 +, writes (24 May 2010):
Heres a few tips to blow his mind... 1st take control wear something he'll wanna rip off but instead of letting him start taking his off then go down on him make sure to include his balls...he'll go crazy then get on top off him and go fast then let him suck ur titz then get up and bend over the bed or couch and let take control...talk dirty to him and let him know how much ur lovin it... 2nd make sure u know his fantasy and while most guys may say 3sum others might like costumes in bed or sex in public and try to fullfil his fantasy ... 3rd and lastly make sure he know what u like because if ur turned on he'll be turned on! WELL HOPE THIS HELPS GOOD LUCK
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reader, TimmD +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Blowing a guy's mind isn't about simply "getting off". To give a guy a great sexual experience, a girl needs to show how much she's into him. So many girls think it's just a matter of making him cum, but a guy REALLY gets turned on when they see how turned on the girl is by him.
It does go both ways those. For sex to be great, he's gotta be into you just as much as you are into him. If one of you are doing it just for the sake of having sex and just going through the motions then it's doomed from the start.
But as BunnyTee said, it takes experience. Every guy and every girl are different. It takes getting to know the other person and what they like to please them. And guys are just as guilty at this. There are some guys that just expect the girl to be great when it takes BOTH.
Advice for the next time? Just be willing to try new things. Show him how excited you are and how turned on your are. Also, don't be afraid to take the initiative. I don't mean just being the one to initiate sex, I mean with the actual acts of sex and the positions. Tell him what you want him to do. Don't just lay there and wait for him to tell you to move or not. That's bad. lol
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (24 May 2010):
 The answer to your question lies within learning him. You have to "learn" what he likes, what really trips his trigger and what doesn't. This is usually accomplished via time and experience and paying attention. Since there's a distinct shortage of crystal balls dispensing this information, you either take the time to learn these very person-specific details or you put him in the column with the rest of the guys who say it was "ehh,it was ok" just so he can refrain from admitting that you already blew his mind without trying and now he's besotted with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): i got a good idea.Think up of some new ideaslike me...to spice things up I went as my police sistercandy and I had to arrests him for being bad boy.after that we had great sex on the wall..
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 May 2010):
 He actually SAID that you??!? That you were like all the other girls he's been with and that he wasn't blown away by it??? Sorry, but if a guy ever said that to me after the first time we made love, that would be the LAST time we ever made love. What an ungrateful jerk.My answer to you is, make the next time amazing, but for someone else who is more concerned about blowing YOUR mind.Oh man, I just winced when I read your question. Please don't give him the time of day. That was unbelievably harsh and callous, and you're worth SO MUCH MORE than that.
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