She texts the guys I meet and it is getting me down, please help!
Q. Hey, i have my friend and she always go for boys i like. I don't see why she is doing this. she flirts with everybody she sees, i get its a bit of fun but once i tell her I'm texting a boy shes like 'when am i going to meet him' and once she does ...
A. 25 May 2010: I have no idea WHY you think she's your friend. You told her to stop and she won't. That is NOT a friend. Find a new person to hang out with...one that respects you and your wishes.
If you, for some retarded reason, want to keep friends ... (read in full...)
Is my relationship fading, or am I overthinking the situation? Please help!
Q. I'm so desperate, I really need help. I have been dating my bf off and on for about 2 years. Last year we decided to make it into a relationship. But this is my problem, I'm not sure if he still wants to be with me. When I ask him, he neve...
A. 25 May 2010: I can't tell if you're being paranoid or just a 'girl' or if something is really wrong.
I read a rant but not much information... I'm sorry.
But if something is 'wrong' it's because there's a need that isn't being met by him. Find out waht it... (read in full...)
Married for 8 months, but no longer feel close to my husband
Q. I am 33 and have been married for only 8 months (been together 5 years). I love my husband, but we have nothing in common and I no longer feel close to him. He has very bad credit and cannot save money. I pay for everything, including the we...
A. 2 May 2010: If I were you, I'd leave him. Tell him to grow up and be a man and you'll consider coming back to him. But no, what you married is some version of male... but you didn't marry a man. Sorry. :(... (read in full...)
Ex wants to know why I deleted him from facebook
Q. Hi there, I deleted my ex-boyfriend from facebook about a month after he broke up with me. Before that we were friends on msn and FB, but we weren't talking unless I initiated communication (only twice). 1 week after I deleted him from Faceboo...
A. 2 May 2010: I'd keep it simple and truthful.
"We're not in a relationship. We're not even friends anymore because you don't talk to me. So I was 'cleaning house' and deleted people I don't talk to anymore."
See what he says to that. As for wanting h... (read in full...)
Are these measurements good?
Q. Okay...I'm a 14 year old African American female, my measurements are 34-30-38, I'm 130 pounds, and im 5'3 ..my question is, is that good or bad for a girl like me?...
A. 2 May 2010: depends on your body build but sounds right to me. You're still in normal BMI and your measurements sound great to me! :)
Dont go by models or celebrities, those people are half anorexic and get air brushed in magazines.
Sounds to me ... (read in full...)
Why is his ex all that I see?
Q. I'm sorry this is so long... I'm losing grip... I don't know what to do anymore. I've been here hundreds of times, but it never gets any easier and it never lessens. I'm twenty-one, and I've been dating my boyfriend (twenty-two) for a year and f...
A. 2 May 2010: Hmmm... what is it that makes you so insecure?
Does it help to know that people go back to what they know? I was in an abusive situation for years. Why? I had an abusive childhood. I HATED my ex husband. Hated him like anything but I stayed... (read in full...)
Update for pregnant by my old flame results for my sins
Q. I am the one who posted pregnant by my old flame in late march some updates for you who may remember I chose to have an abortion I was 3 months pregnant I could not tell my live in boyfriend of 5 years that I have been messing around with my old ...
A. 2 May 2010: I'm so sorry you went this route and now are having such great pains. I can't imagine it, tbh.
Unfortunately, it does your old flame NO GOOD to know you've erased his child. It doesn't benefit anyone, actually. You'll just keep hurting yourself... (read in full...)
Is he trying to tell me he fancies me?
Q. Hi, any guys out there who can tell me if this guy is attracted to me? Iam used to men just telling me straight that they like me, and have never had this problem before. He follows me around ,blushes profusely when he sees me, watches me all ...
A. 2 May 2010: from what you said, sounds like a yes to me. If your friend can see it, why can't you? Just ask him straight out.
Keep it casual. Saying something like, do you want to go out for coffee/soda/tea (whatever) sometime?
or you could say, I rea... (read in full...)
Is it ok to make rules to my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, but have recently decided to take a break, because I have been unhappy with some of his behaviour. We both want to get back together, and make things work, but I am wondering what steps I ...
A. 2 May 2010: I say you wait til he's actually GROWN up before you consider getting back together with him.
If he continues the way he is, while you two are apart, what makes you think he's going to be different when you are together?... (read in full...)
What does "I'm physically attracted to you" mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy says he is physically attracted to you?...
A. 2 May 2010: are you serious? It means he lusts after you.
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Friend always has to have boy's attention!
Q. hey, my friend have splt with her boyfriend and now when ever we go somwere she has to have boys attention. i know that she wants a bit of fun but shes only thinking of herself. i say this because the other day we was over this boys flat and she and ...
A. 1 May 2010: Find a new friend... or better yet, a friend at all. This inconsiderate person you're hanging out with? That's not a friend. Find a new person to hang out with and make sure they have similar mindsets with you.... (read in full...)
Should I live life as the teenager that I am or stay with my 38 year old fiance?
Q. lets see if i can explain this in a way that might make since. ok im a 19 year old female i have been dating my fiance whoms 38 years old for almost 2 years now. i love him and his son very much, but lately it just seem that we dont have the spark ...
A. 1 May 2010: You're 19. You have your whole life ahead of you. WHY are you wasting it with a fudd? He doesn't go out and you're a housewife?! no.... At your age you should be partying (responsibly please!) and having the time of your life. You only ... (read in full...)
I'm just his Saturday night date
Q. I'm going crazy here. I think I'm just going to end things with the guy I've been seeing. He obviously doesn't want me to be part of his life other than a Saturday night date. I know I'm not a patient person, but tonight will be our 17th date ...
A. 1 May 2010: I think you're looking at it from the wrong perspective. You aren't a priority in his life, so why are you making him a priority in yours? I say tonight (it's saturday where I am) you tell him you have other plans. Then make them happen. St... (read in full...)
One night stand emotional attachment
Q. oook i fall in 'love' after a one night... this is what happens (all the time)... i look, he looks, we have fun, if he just fcks me then leaves, Good. but if... i look, he looks, we have fun: but if we eg hold hands-talk about our lives ...
A. 1 May 2010: you start finding relationships, not one nighters. Sounds to me you want more than sex. Get your self respect and find yourself a companion, a lover, a friend. Not someone to whom you're just a fuck. Good luck to you mate. I hope you find hi... (read in full...)
Husband says he has proof of my affair through text messages
Q. I have been in a mentally abusive marriage for 16 years. He has isolated me from all my family and friends. I had already decided I was wanting a divorce but, I ran into an old boy friend from high school who told me he tried to reconnect with me ...
A. 1 May 2010: You dont need proof to get a divorce. He wouldn't get 'brownie points' for having said text messages. The judges don't care why you're divorcing anymore. The thing to focus on is getting your life back. Reach out to family members and old ... (read in full...)
Movies without being porn that will turn a couple on?
Q. What are some movies for you and your boyfriend to watch that will turn you both on? Something that will give him ideas and make him want to do with you. But not any porn movies. Thanx...
A. 1 May 2010: Body of Evidence has some racy scenes...but only if you're into tying up stuff. And you don't mind dealing with bad acting or Madonna...who while I love, just couldn't really act...Not in that movie. Even William DeFoe (sp?) was bad. lol. :)... (read in full...)
Am I a bad girlfriend? My boyfriend says I am
Q. hi, i am not sure how to ask this. i have a boyfriend. lately it has not been smooth. we argue a lot and i get offended too much. in my relationship, it is getting so bad. he usually will be sweet if he ever offend or hurt me and convince m...
A. 1 May 2010: Didn't your momma tell you not to hit people? Totally counteractive... I understand you're frustrated but hitting is never a solution, even playfully. Soon that playful hitting turns into actual as frustration grows. Not cool. If I were your bf ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 4 months, he says he loves both me and his wife and now she's coming back!
Q. Hi there! i have a serious problem here. i met this guy in december 2009, he told me his wife has left him for 14 months, then we started dating, now were are so emotional involved he just told me a week ago that the wife is coming back from ...
A. 1 May 2010: I think you need post it notes. "He's NOT divorcing his wife." "HE LOVES HIS WIFE." yes he wants to f me... (whatever) but READ the post it notes... He can't make it any clearer to you. Find yourself an unattached man and write this of... (read in full...)
I've had my tubes tied, ...but he is not sure he could go the rest of his life without becoming a father again.
Q. Dear Cupid, Im at a loss of everything, I met a man about 6mths ago who completes me in everyway. A few weeks ago we started talking about moving in together and how exactly we were going to go about it with my kids Dads and us being 2 hours ap...
A. 1 May 2010: But honey... you CAN become a father again... it's called adoption... surrogate moms... in vitro... SOOO many choices!! You are seeing this as too short of a problem. It's not like you're in menopause....and even THEN it's not an issue of can'... (read in full...)
The guy I am seeing wants to engage in incest themed role play!
Q. Sorry, I'm sure you get questions like this all the time... Anyway, I'm 18 and I'm "seeing" a guy who is mid 40's, he is divorced and has no kids and I'm going off to uni soon so it'll be goodbyes in a bit, the other day we were laying in bed and he ...
A. 1 May 2010: 18 and 40.... wow... What possessed you to do that? Never mind... it's probably a father figure looking type thing you didn't even know you did. But I'm 38 and I hate to say it but most 40 yr old men are tired, boring, and not even close to ... (read in full...)
I just can't measure up to the vibrator.
Q. My MASSIVE problem, someone please....help me. Part 1 : In the beginning.... I have been with this woman for over a year and a half and during this time we have had sex many times. At first everything was great although I was never sure if I e...
A. 1 May 2010: MOST women cannot cum through penetration. You were lucky with your exes...or they faked it real well... Not sure.
There is such a thing as vibrator dependency...ie. you need the stimulation of the vibe to get you going.
It's not your fault o... (read in full...)
Videotapes of wife with ex....
Q. I found a video of my wife with an ex, she says she thought they had been erased. I knew they had sex and that my wife wasn't a virgin, so I am not so disappointed by that, but rather in the video he finished by giving her a facial. I always ...
A. 1 May 2010: It's probably BECAUSE she did it with that guy she doesn't do it with you. Women aren't porn stars. No one likes getting hit in the face with a loogie the size of a small cupcake hitting you at 100 mph (the average speed of ejaculation) in spurts. ... (read in full...)
Why does this guy always contact me just when I'm getting over him?
Q. Ok so back in November, I met a guy online. We talked for a while and really hit it off. We decided to meet up, and we ended up fooling around, no sex or anything though. But we ended up having sex the second time we met up. We continued to see each ...
A. 1 May 2010: sounds to me like a player trying to keep his cards open. The moment he's bored with the gf he'll see if he can do it again with you... whatever 'it' is...
I'd drop him. Don't answer him anymore. And find yourself a real guy. This one's a ... (read in full...)
I love him when he's out of my life, have no feelings when he is in my life..
Q. Why is it that I miss my ex sooo much that i keep on thinking about him but when he comes back I always realize that I don't like him anymore, i find him disgusting and that I don't care if he disappears forever? Do some people experience this?...
A. 1 May 2010: I think you're a masochist for some reason... You tell me why.
Why would you want a man who disgusts you beyond repair?
What is it you're REALLY missing? A guy on your bed, in your body, what? You're not missing HIM, that's for sure. He's ... (read in full...)
I don't mind if my husband watches porn but he lies to me about it!
Q. i have a problem,i think.my husband loves porn and so do i but i dont tell him that.my problem is when he watches it he lies to me about it,and i have told him several times that i dont care just dont lie to me about it ya know.and another thing is ...
A. 1 May 2010: Find some porn you DO like and show it to him. That gets him to thinking it's not a bad thing with you. You saying you don't care can mean (to a guy) that you're actually pissed but won't tell him.
If you do like porn, why not watch it together... (read in full...)
I told her she'd have to wait 8 years for us to be together!
Q. I am a 18years old guy in a relationship with a girl of 21years for over a year now. I really do love her,and she does love me,not for my money[which i dont have] or anything. Her parents are in support but i dont know if we can be together in ...
A. 1 May 2010: Dude, women are giving birth at near 50 yrs old. You have nothing to worry about. 29 is easy as pie. :)... (read in full...)
Should I listen to what he has to say after he has cheated on me?
Q. Hi uncles and aunts! Wel, i'm just gona get on it. Yesterday my bf confessed to have been cheating on me... I'm so confused, angry and sad, i feel betrayed and lied to.. I don't knw what to do, i thought i needed to speak to someone. He confes...
A. 30 April 2010: In my book, cheating is a deal breaker. I'd leave him.
So many men out there who aren't cheaters wish for gf's and you want to waste more time with this guy? Why? Makes no sense...... (read in full...)
Jealous of girlfriend dancing with other men - help!
Q. So I got married to a woman I was deeply in love with about a year and half ago, we had been dating for over 6 years before we got married and everything seemed (at least to me) good. Then I found out that less than sixth months into the marriage ...
A. 30 April 2010: Sounds to me like you're being illogical...which means it's your emotions talking, not your heard.
So you can't dance as well as they can? Take salsa lessons. Show her she can have fun with YOU. Coordination not necessary, motivation is... :)... (read in full...)
How can I build a relationship with my mother?
Q. Okay, here it goes.. I've offten wondered.. am I wrong?.. IS all of this my fault?.. Am I bringing all this on myself?..Am I just emotional?.. I keep doubting myself.. and now I wonder..am I broken?.. I've had just the worst relationship with my ...
A. 30 April 2010: You have to let it go, hun. It's a pain in the a** and even harder to do, but you have to... she wasn't your mother. She was your donor. I had two of them. A male and a female donor but I never had parents. YOU, on the other hand, are lucky.... (read in full...)
My husband is infatuated with his half sister!
Q. I have a dilemma, my h is from a broken home and spent part of his life in children's homes, so he has issues from his past. His father recently passed away and that brought the estanged family back together for the one day, he met up again with his ...
A. 30 April 2010: Hmmm... fantasies come in all kinds of directions... As long as it remains fantasy, I'd say don't fret over it.
It'd be like you obsessing about mr. brad pitt look alike down the block. Which btw, you might want to ask, how would you feel if ... (read in full...)
How can I find a guy who wont mess me around or just want a bit of fun?
Q. hey, i know im only young but im fed up of being messed about by boys and want to find someone that is tidy for a change. when i go out i do get boys numbers but they always just want a bit of fun and nothing else. someone have suggested dating ...
A. 30 April 2010: I don't agree, on the guys getting your number thing. I've hung out with men my whole life. More men than women because women annoy and frustrate and confuse the heck out of me. Men are simpler to deal with and not as confusing...most of the ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can leave her until there is actual proof she has cheated on me! What should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a confusing lady for 6 months now and I believe she is not only cheating on me but has the belief system in place to continually do so but I have no proof. She is part of a sect headed by a guy called isaac ...
A. 30 April 2010: sounds to me like you're using the wrong head, babe.
Sounds to me like this immoral girl is not your cup of tea in the long run. How long are you willing to torture yourself? Proof that another dude's leaving the house and she's changing... (read in full...)
I don't know what to think! Please help me out
Q. Now I have no idea whats going on! I think my boyfriend is going to break up with me. I think this because, 1: He still eats at our lunch table but then he goes outside, that wouldn't bother me at all, but he asked another girl to go outsi...
A. 30 April 2010: dude... not only is he going to break up with you... he already HAS but you missed it.
He's moved on to a new girl. I don't know how else to put it to you but damn, he's f ing RUDE for not telling you. Unless he did and you missed it.
M... (read in full...)
How can I stop my boyfriend from being so scared of sex toys?
Q. Hi, My bf is scared of sex toys... He says he feels intimidated by them, and that he has had a couple of women tell him hes dumped they bought a dildo and showed him the door, one of these girls (i used to know her and she wasnt terribly freindl...
A. 30 April 2010: I say first you need to move out of your mum's house. That was horribly disrespectful of her!! Second, you can bring it out and use them on him...ie. the vibration on his penis. Not going up 'back side' that's a no no. Well, for right now. He mi... (read in full...)
Why after 8 years do I feel jealous that my wife has dated a black man?
Q. my wife of 2 yrs (together for 8 years), had mentioned casually that she dated a black guy in colllege. Now i feel like Im not good enough to satisfy her beause he was so much bigger. She also has dated a lot mofe guys than me and it makes me ...
A. 30 April 2010: I'm going to throw a spin at this. I'm a 'gay man' at heart in a girl's body. By this I mean yeah, size matters and big penises rock! I had one that was huge and I was never unsatisfied. I was in fact, very satisfied and slept like a baby, a ... (read in full...)
If I have not had sex for a long time, will doing it again feel like the first time?
Q. I haven't had sex for a long time now.When I do it again,is it going to feel like the first time?...
A. 30 April 2010: I am like Timm D said. And yes, it was similar to being a virgin again. Not exactly the same but yes, similar. I was celibate and nothing had gone 'in there' not even tampons for 15 years. Even getting fingered was uncomfortable. I had to wait ... (read in full...)
What do guys consider a friend with benefits?
Q. What do guys consider a friend with benefits. I don't see a problem kissing someone, touching and possibly maybe giving a hand job or him fingering me as friend with benefits even if it happens a lot. I do think giving blow jobs, him going down...
A. 30 April 2010: call me silly but I would think the truth is much simpler than anything creative you're trying to figure out to say. I dont want to be friends with benefits because I want more in my life than a f**k buddy. I want love, romance, the whole enchil... (read in full...)
Can cross dressers really stop doing it and be happy?
Q. I have been with my current partner now for nearly 12 months. When i met him hed recently been through a divorced and seperated 8 months prior to his divorce. Hed told me that his marriage hadnt been right for the last 4 years and he knew that it ...
A. 21 April 2010: Boys are sexual from the day theyre born. It's wired into them. So at six, though it wasn't what WE adults think of as sexual, it was, in some infantile form a charge for him. It's not about having more female genes. It's about how your head wo... (read in full...)
Space and breakup!
Q. well my girlfriend recently told me that she wanted a break. we have been together for almost two years now. she called me after she said this and said that she thinks we most likely will be together at the end of the break. she wants a two week ...
A. 21 April 2010: For the moment, all you can do is wait. If you love her, you can live without her for two weeks but be prepared for the worst. The good thing about the worst is that if it goes like she said, and you two are happy clams again then it'll make the ... (read in full...)
Depressed and stuck in a rut, please help!
Q. im 19 and hate my life, i know there are worse people off then me but i fell really down all the time. all i do is come home from college and sit in my room. all my friends are busy with there boyfriends and i dont know what to do i have tried ...
A. 21 April 2010: Try writing a novel. Or just writing in general. Just get one of those 99 cent notebook things and start writing. Doesnt matter if you're coherent or babbling or anything. Just write whatever comes to your head. Don't worry about style or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me with my friend, can I trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have been extremely happy together. We hardly have even have gotten into fights. Recently I have noticed that he has been a little more distracted. Our friend did move in with us a month or so ...
A. 21 April 2010: Oops! I misread. He did kiss her. Damn... and I was sooo rooting for this dude.
Please ignore my previous post.
And yeah, dump them both. He didn't stop her? Right there, that's a deal breaker in my book.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me with my friend, can I trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have been extremely happy together. We hardly have even have gotten into fights. Recently I have noticed that he has been a little more distracted. Our friend did move in with us a month or so ...
A. 21 April 2010: dude, relax... btw, in CA we call everyone dude, I know youre a girl... still, RELAX. If ANYONE should leave, it's your friend. SHE betrayed you, not him. SHE crossed the line, not him. Why are you yelling at him for? He did NOTHING WRONG. ... (read in full...)
Can cross dressers really stop doing it and be happy?
Q. I have been with my current partner now for nearly 12 months. When i met him hed recently been through a divorced and seperated 8 months prior to his divorce. Hed told me that his marriage hadnt been right for the last 4 years and he knew that it ...
A. 19 April 2010: I LOVE cross dressers. I think it's fascinating! I do.
But I'm a rare beast. Most women wig out at the thought.
Take it from this POV. It's no different than you wearing your bf's tee shirt and feeling sexy because he's "on" you.
Cros... (read in full...)
Space and breakup!
Q. well my girlfriend recently told me that she wanted a break. we have been together for almost two years now. she called me after she said this and said that she thinks we most likely will be together at the end of the break. she wants a two week ...
A. 15 April 2010: Hmmm... usually when one needs space it's for two reasons.... too much sh is going on in their life and they have to sort things out. or they want to see if it works out with someone else.
Only you know your girl. Which one is it?
That sh... (read in full...)
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