Can cross dressers really stop doing it and be happy?
Q. I have been with my current partner now for nearly 12 months. When i met him hed recently been through a divorced and seperated 8 months prior to his divorce. Hed told me that his marriage hadnt been right for the last 4 years and he knew that it ...
A. 21 April 2010: Boys are sexual from the day theyre born. It's wired into them. So at six, though it wasn't what WE adults think of as sexual, it was, in some infantile form a charge for him. It's not about having more female genes. It's about how your head wo... (read in full...)
Space and breakup!
Q. well my girlfriend recently told me that she wanted a break. we have been together for almost two years now. she called me after she said this and said that she thinks we most likely will be together at the end of the break. she wants a two week ...
A. 21 April 2010: For the moment, all you can do is wait. If you love her, you can live without her for two weeks but be prepared for the worst. The good thing about the worst is that if it goes like she said, and you two are happy clams again then it'll make the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me with my friend, can I trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have been extremely happy together. We hardly have even have gotten into fights. Recently I have noticed that he has been a little more distracted. Our friend did move in with us a month or so ...
A. 21 April 2010: Oops! I misread. He did kiss her. Damn... and I was sooo rooting for this dude.
Please ignore my previous post.
And yeah, dump them both. He didn't stop her? Right there, that's a deal breaker in my book.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me with my friend, can I trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have been extremely happy together. We hardly have even have gotten into fights. Recently I have noticed that he has been a little more distracted. Our friend did move in with us a month or so ...
A. 21 April 2010: dude, relax... btw, in CA we call everyone dude, I know youre a girl... still, RELAX. If ANYONE should leave, it's your friend. SHE betrayed you, not him. SHE crossed the line, not him. Why are you yelling at him for? He did NOTHING WRONG. ... (read in full...)
Damsel in distress is threatening my relationship!
Q. I recently published a question on here about a woman texting my boyfriend everyday that I was with him. We finally had a real talk about it last night and he opened up more and told me why he texted her. She told him she was suicidal, she also, ...
A. 21 April 2010: I have serious doubts you trust your boyfriend. If you did, ANYTHING she did would mean nothing to him. She could lie in front of him naked with her legs spread out and he'd be like, OK whatever, and move on, then probably never talk to her agai... (read in full...)
Wife rejects my advances then uses a vibrator instead?!
Q. I'm 50 and my wife is 48 and we have 2 children in their late teens. Our sex life has never been spectacular. My sex drive has always been much stronger than hers and looking back, I would assume that many married couples have had a much more active ...
A. 21 April 2010: you know, I just want to add something to fiercebadrabbit's post (great name btw!) and that is, the human hand, male or female can NEVER compare to a vibrator. It goes like a million miles an hour in five seconds. You can reach orgasm in half the ... (read in full...)
Increase in desire for sex whilst pregnant - is this normal?
Q. hi im 8 weeks pregnant me and my partner are very happy and excited although it wasn't planned. thing is before i fell pregnant we would have sex 3-4 times a week, sometimes not even that, but now that im pregnant he seems to want it more, we do it...
A. 21 April 2010: your hormones are raging so yeah, it's going to feel better. It's also 'safe' sex because well, you're already pregnant. No worries about birth control failing and all that stuff. It's "free" sex. So yeah, of course he wants it more.
I say... (read in full...)
Is it me or am I choosing the wrong guys?
Q. hi, I have a problem choosing the right guys. I have lots of guys I flirt with around me, and they flirt back. I got a guy texting me for over a year now, but he's too shy or whatever to really ask me out. This other guy I met at a club went out ...
A. 21 April 2010: You keep finding/picking unavailable men.
Tell you what. Next tiem you meet a guy make him your friend, not potential boyfriend, then pay attention. Is he even bf material? If he is, jot down why and soon enough you'll have a list of what you... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend want to take time out from me???
Q. Here's my situation: I am in a long distance relationship with a woman, and things are as good as they can be from a distance. We meet online every night, and talk on the phone every day, and we have visited each other several times, She's in The ...
A. 21 April 2010: dont know how old your chick is, but me, I have a lot of pride or whatever you want to call it... idiocy most likely.
My bf offered to pay my bill when my electricity got shut off and I said no, I'll find a way, don't worry. I didn't want him... (read in full...)
Am I a sick person???
Q. When I was around 12 years old I remember humping my little sister's legs a few times. She is 6 years younger than me, I remember one time she asked me to do it (she thought it was a game), realizing what I was doing was wrong and feeling ashamed I ...
A. 21 April 2010: you did it twice and stopped, yes? You're feeling guilty, I understand. You could ask your sister if she even remembers, she may not. If she does talk about it and apologise. If she doesn't remember, then drop it. It wasn't that big a deal to ... (read in full...)
What's going on with my girlfriend?
Q. What is going on with my girlfriend? We've been dating for over a year and everything has been going really great. She has been very sweet and everything. However a few weeks ago she went away on a volunteer trip with a group of girls for her coll...
A. 21 April 2010: drugs? Something that erratic and emotional sounds like some kind of drug addiction/abuse situation.
Maybe she got hooked on ecstacy or something while on her trip, I don't know. Maybe she's super stressed out. Maybe she has hormonal imbalanc... (read in full...)
Is his 'busy at work' an excuse?
Q. For 4 months I chatted to a man over the internet, things had been going really great. Then all of a sudden he stops emailing, texting and calling…completely. 2 weeks went by and I had had not seen him online at all which I thought was rather str...
A. 21 April 2010: It's possible he found a new hobby. I suggest you move on. But before that happens, see if you can find out more information. Tell him, I don't want a love letter, I want to know you care. Is it possible for you to email me (text me) every few ... (read in full...)
Am I making too big an issue about this birthday event?
Q. a friend is having a birthday party..and one part includes her paying for a few of her friends to take a pole dancing class..i have taken the class with her but i am just not that good at it..i can't really do the spins or anything etc...i didn't ...
A. 21 April 2010: dance like no one's watching... I always loved that phrase. I realise you're self conscious and omg end of the world, but maybe if you had some fun with it, even if you fall on your butt, you will still have a good time. It's a chance to be a f... (read in full...)
Is eight guys too many?
Q. this is kind of stupid to ask but i just want to know people's opinion (go easy please :P) i am 18 and over the last 2 years i have had sex with 8 guys. is that too many? does that make me a slut? only 3 of the guys was i in any sort of relationship ...
A. 21 April 2010: 8 guys in two years does seem excessive... but that's not the real question. The question I think you're asking is, why did I do this? or Should I be regretting what I've done?
All I can say is, it matters not what you did. It matters what you... (read in full...)
Is my lack of desire to have sex and hold an erection all psychological?
Q. Hello there! I'm asking a man advice here... I'm in such a bad situation. So a few years ago, I lost my erection, now it looks like forever. It was in a middle of an intercourse with my wife. Suddenly it collapsed and since than I slowly lost all ...
A. 21 April 2010: As a female I can tell you I've been on your wife's side of the fence. As it turns out, it wasn't necessarily all in his head. However, my reaction to the 'issue' was a big factor in getting things on track.
The first time this happened with a b... (read in full...)
He's being a jerk to me! Brainstorming needed please!!!
Q. hi i have been with my bf since last august, but there's been trouble in paradise, so to speak. at first everything was i love you and you love me and all this planning and dreaming ... we'd met through an online service quite by accident...but w...
A. 21 April 2010: Um... I don't know if 42 really has all the answers... but I do know that your dude is imbalanced, seriously imbalanced. And that you're hanging on to insanity is baffling to me. He's cheating on you, to your face, and you what? LOVE him? ... (read in full...)
He never wants to go out, spend any money or do anything!
Q. Ever since the beginning of the year I have felt different towards my boyfriend of 6 years. I used to feel a connection, but now not so much. We still get on very well, but it's like we have separate lives, despite the fact that we live together. ...
A. 21 April 2010: well, if for years you didnt really "want" to eat at the table because you were working, it makes sense he adjusted to eating at the computer. Maybe you shouldn't "have to" but guys can go ditz and one tracked so you're going to have to say some... (read in full...)
She says she is pregnant!
Q. I started sleepin with this girl in the begining or march. She had he period like 2 weeks later. She called me yesterday and said that she is pregnant. Is it to soon for that to show up on a pregnancy test? Please help....
A. 21 April 2010: You can ask her to do a blood test to be sure, but it sounds about right.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of only one month is avoiding me!
Q. Hi i'll just get right to the point. My boyfriend of only 1 month is avoiding me. He stoped calling and hardly ever emails. The last time he emailed he cancelled a date so I called him to say it was all good and I would talk to him later. He acted ...
A. 21 April 2010: well... you could continue playing little girl games with him or you could be a woman and ask him straight out what's going on. It could be he's having a major issue going on and can't talk to you or he could be a p*ssy in disguise. Eit... (read in full...)
She only sees me as a co-worker and friend
Q. Well about three weeks ago, I started asking this girl at my work place for lunches and hanging out. I thought we were hitting off pretty well. We chatted during our lunches about each other. She even wanted to work out with her so that I will get ...
A. 21 April 2010: give her some time... she may still come around. Don't go gaga over her and guard your heart a bit but it's not uncommon for a girl to fall for a 'friend' unless she specifically told you that you aren't her type. buying her an ipod in my opini... (read in full...)
I love her, yet I know she could do so much better for herself!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend now for about 2 weeks, I have never had a problem with going the distance before until recently it has become a problem. Im 20 years old, I hav alot of debt from petty fines, Im quite poor as i am unable to get a job ...
A. 21 April 2010: what prevents you from doing side jobs? Ie. put up flyers announcing you'll do yard work (or whatever.) Don't know why court prevents you from getting a job unless it means your previous mess ups may make you go to jail. :( At least you're... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out with this girl, and said it wasn't a date, but it sure sounds like a date!
Q. So uhm, I had recently broken up with my bf because i was having this strange feeling that he was flirting with his crush, who, by the way, is less pretty, smart, talented and appealing than i am. So i would get really mad whenever id think about ...
A. 19 April 2010: Dude, you have absolutetly NO RIGHT to be pissed or ANYTHING at him or the girl. And btw, less pretty, smart, appealing, etc. is something YOU don't get to decide. It's HIS feelings, not yours. You do sound like a jealous 15 yr old baby. No ... (read in full...)
How early is too early?
Q. Okay I am currently in a 3 month relationship with my first boyfriend ... still a virgin hes not .. im not sure tho wether i want to "fool around" yet he tries to but he understands that i am inexperienced haa but i dnt want my nerves to ruin it or ...
A. 19 April 2010: You don't want to lose him over "something as stupid as this" ??
Honey, what?! No... That's just wrong.
Virginity isn't stupid. Giving up sex to your partner isn't stupid. It's sharing each other's bodies.
Virginity is special ... (read in full...)
Can cross dressers really stop doing it and be happy?
Q. I have been with my current partner now for nearly 12 months. When i met him hed recently been through a divorced and seperated 8 months prior to his divorce. Hed told me that his marriage hadnt been right for the last 4 years and he knew that it ...
A. 19 April 2010: I LOVE cross dressers. I think it's fascinating! I do.
But I'm a rare beast. Most women wig out at the thought.
Take it from this POV. It's no different than you wearing your bf's tee shirt and feeling sexy because he's "on" you.
Cros... (read in full...)
He's talks big about sexcapades, but he doesn't come through in the bedroom!
Q. Why does my new boyfriend talk big but not act on it? I've been seeing this guy a few months. He lately has been descriptive of what he wants to do to me in bed. He says things like "I wanna Butt F* u" or "are you ready to get on all fours and purr ...
A. 19 April 2010: Maybe he just likes the idea but not the actuality. Sometimes fantasy is waaaaay more erotic than reality.
Mind you, this has NOTHING to do with you. Don't take it that way. But me, for example, I can say I want X Y Z done so bf does just tha... (read in full...)
He's in no hurry to divorce his wife! what should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for two years who is separated. he is so good to me and we have such a great relationship. I could never imagine my life without him in it but my problem is everytime I mention him getting a divorce he gets offensive and ...
A. 19 April 2010: yeah right very little contact with his wife... uh huh... and I suppose he has a boat to sell you for the sahara too.
STOP FOOLING YOURSELF. He doesnt love you. He's treating you like a horse with no s...
Treat yourself better. Find a ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he love me? And why hasn't he asked for the ring back?
Q. Hi there, First off, I'm a mature woman - 43 years old, and yet here I am in a painful situation after ending a relationship w/a man I was engaged to. I probably never should have gotten into a serious relationship w/him in the first place - he's 1...
A. 19 April 2010: You went out with a distant, perhaps emotionally disconnected man and you're wondering why he didn't "love" you? Are you sure you're 43? OK that was harsh, I apologise... a little. I apologise for insinuating you're acting like a 15 yr old ... (read in full...)
We went too fast and now he doesn't want a girlfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of weeks and everything was fine until a few days ago, we couldnt get enough of each other. Then all of a sudden, he hits me with a load of crap saying that we went too fast and because we're both ...
A. 19 April 2010: It's possible you can take his word for what it is. Information. He just might be thinking things over and trying to figure out how to see you and still do school and work. That's got nothing to do with you but rather how full his plate is. Guys ... (read in full...)
Unloved with no affection in my marriage...
Q. I been married for ten years now but my relationship with my husband is "rocky". I honestly love him... but later.. I get bored and fell out of love. He cheated on me a couple of times and he even hurt me physically... I longed for his affection and ...
A. 19 April 2010: You have no kids, it's fine to just up and leave. In fact, it's easier. If you aren't happy here, why are you staying? Is your spark worth it? Or is it the grass is greener? If your husband is cold and distant, I don't know why you're... (read in full...)
Confused and conflicted because I want someone that's off limits!
Q. Hi there. I have this *little* conundrum. There's a guy I work with who I've known for about 2 years or so. I haven't liked him for the whole time I've known of him, but in the past three months or so I've found myself attracted to him more than...
A. 19 April 2010: You focus on the fact that he has a baby on the way and with somebody else.
It's no different than weaning yourself off fancying a married man or your boss or whatever.
It's not easy but it has to be done.
Think about what you'd want if... (read in full...)
Should I expect to be dumped?? How do I handle this?
Q. For the past 3 years, I have been involved with a man, a co-worker, who has been separated. Our involvement has been a "physical" one. We've enjoyed each other very much. I'm 29, and this is the first man I've ever been with period. What I'm ...
A. 19 April 2010: you avoid being hurt by realising it's JUST physical. It means nothing. He didn't commit to you, you didn't commit to him. It's purely sexual. No one had feelings for the other...well, at least on his side, he had no feelings for you ... (read in full...)
Is she a cheater or am I being paranoid?
Q. i dont know what to think?? is my girlfriend cheating? iv been hurt in the past from this and did have trust issues but then i met this perfect girl we remained very very good friends for a while before we both realized we had strong feelings for ...
A. 16 April 2010: you know... I think you just don't want to hear you've been taken, again. Once a cheater is always a cheater. That's not an expression just for guys. Some people just cant keep their knickers on.
You know the answer to this. It's not in your ... (read in full...)
I think she might be using me and trying to control me!
Q. I am 27 and my girlfriend is 38. She has a salon and has alot of male clients that she flirts with. Should I be concerned or let that be? She also has her act together and owns a house and 2 condos that she rents out. I on the other hand have been a ...
A. 16 April 2010: I hear a lot of complaining and whining on your part. Not so much 'controling' or 'using' you on her part except for the you're helping her with her house deal. Which you can stop, I'm sure, if you wanted to...no doubt she would find someone else ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl says you're cute?
Q. What does it honestly mean? Sometimes people tell me that a girl would say a guy is cute when she likes, or is interested in him. Most times though, people tell me that girls say that when she's not interested, doesn't like him at all but does...
A. 16 April 2010: well, when we're young we're stupid. I'll just be blunt and say it. We like the bad boy types for idiotic reasons. Guys like yourself are not 'good' enough even though you are.
When we turn into women we kick ourselves in the ass for wanting ... (read in full...)
The sex I've had in the past upsets her.
Q. My girlfriend makes me feel bad constantly about the number of sexual partners I have had. I have been with seven other women. I don't think that's a high number. I had sex with seven different women but I only had sex, get this seven times. ...
A. 16 April 2010: think of it this way, quality vs. quantity.
she had sex with ONE guy lots of times but it was quality sex. You had less sex but they were more about quantity because they were meaningless. Like people who do one night stands or eat cheesebu... (read in full...)
Is the anniversary of your first date important?
Q. So I was talking to my sister earlier and the conversation went pretty much like this... Me: I've been with *girlfriend* for 5 years soon. Sister: When's soon? Me: May... ish. Sister: *rant that can be summed up with 'how can you not know when ...
A. 15 April 2010: FIIK know when the first 'date' was. I know when we went exclusive with each other because it's on my facebook page but lord help me if I tried to remember on my own. I'm the wrong girl to ask though. I couldn't tell you my wedding annivers... (read in full...)
Space and breakup!
Q. well my girlfriend recently told me that she wanted a break. we have been together for almost two years now. she called me after she said this and said that she thinks we most likely will be together at the end of the break. she wants a two week ...
A. 15 April 2010: Hmmm... usually when one needs space it's for two reasons.... too much sh is going on in their life and they have to sort things out. or they want to see if it works out with someone else.
Only you know your girl. Which one is it?
That sh... (read in full...)
Help! I think I'm bi. How do I only think about girls?
Q. help! i think im bi. i think about guys and girls but i only wanna thik about girls. help! ...
A. 14 April 2010: What is giving you such stress? It's common to think about both sexes in terms of beauty. I do it all the time, though I'm straight I find some women "hot." (ie. Angelina Jolie)
Do you have religious issue that make this 'hard' for you?
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His going to stripper bars makes me feel inadequate
Q. Ok so I knew my boyfriend went to strip clubs but until a few days ago I had no idea how much. I was ok with it when I thought it was like 1 or 2 times a month but its more like 3 times a,week!! I was devastated. It makes me feel like im not enough ...
A. 14 April 2010: hmmm... is he going home with the strippers or getting lap dances? If so, then you need to move on.
I can understand needing the visual thing. He likes strippers better than porn or magazines, fine.
It has nothing to do with you. Guys are v... (read in full...)
I love her but she slept with so many men
Q. I was dating someone a couple years ago that I cared very deeply for. We were having a great time together. During the time we were together she was sexually assaulted by someone she knew. She didn't go to the police or tell anyone for months. ...
A. 14 April 2010: I dont understand your girl either. You can't have sex with a man who loves you but you can have sex with random people? Why is it OK to get aroused with them but not you? On the other hand, the other readers/posters might be right. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become close to another girl!
Q. I need help! My boyfriend has become close to another girl after helping her with some advice. He's been open with me about it and says the feelings he had for her were NOTHING compared to what he had for me. Nothing really happened between ...
A. 14 April 2010: How about you take him at his word and believe that what he said was true? That he chose YOU and that his feelings for the other chick were just minor? I know you can drive yourself crazy with this thinking. What if's are hell. So stop it. N... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for considering abortion over bringing a child in to an unstable environment?
Q. Well, I been dating a guy for about seven months. I notice that he had several woman friends. I have issue with trusting him. I went by his house and notice a car park in his driveway, next to his. I knocked on the door several times he didnt answer ...
A. 14 April 2010: I think it's wrong that you made a baby with a guy who's an obvious idiot. You knew he was cheating. Be serious, you KNEW he was. You KNEW he was a scumbag but you slept with him anyway god knows why. Now you're going to kill a baby because it'... (read in full...)
Issues with being bi sexual.
Q. So I'll try and keep this one as short as possible. So I've had a few relationships in my 24 years. A 9 month relationship with a guy, a 3 year relationship with a woman, a 3 month courtship with a woman and then well I was single for 18 mo...
A. 10 April 2010: Well, I still say you have to figure out what happens...meaning why the 'switch' goes off. Try to pay attention. What is it you're missing right before the switch goes off.
It could be that you need more regular threesomes. I doubt he'd mind tha... (read in full...)
Issues with being bi sexual.
Q. So I'll try and keep this one as short as possible. So I've had a few relationships in my 24 years. A 9 month relationship with a guy, a 3 year relationship with a woman, a 3 month courtship with a woman and then well I was single for 18 mo...
A. 9 April 2010: Find out what it is about being with the guy that is different than being with a woman. It's not the sex, I can almost guarantee it. ALMOST.
Women are mental. I don't understand lesbians at all. However men are "distant" and when they want sex... (read in full...)
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