My boyfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me!
Q. Please i need some answers mainly from men... Iv been with my boyfriend for 10months now and from the start we had sex quite a lot, not as much as id like to because he worked a lot running his own business. anyway we moved into a new house a few ...
A. 29 January 2011: Just becasue your madly in love doesn't mean he is. If he wasn't having much sex with you, but sleeping with his ex wife, he is not satisfied with what you bring to the bed. Most men cheat because they want something their woman won't do. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
If he really loved me would a 20 minute drive matter?
Q. I'm 15 years old, and I like this guy who just turned 17. He lives in my moms town, 20 minutes away. We both liked each other for almost 3 years, and just recently he told me he loved me, which considering he didn't even tell me that when we dated ...
A. 29 January 2011: First of all, you weren't completely honest with this situation when you posted. You were complaining about him not driving 20 minutes to see you, but you had a different guy in your life. Why would he put effort into something that may never be?
S... (read in full...)
But I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, I was dating my boyfriend for 11 months and we got into an argument and he said he needed space, but would date me again in two months. A month has passed and this space has been agonizing me. He said he still loves me and wants to be ...
A. 28 January 2011: He doesn't want to be with you. Sorry if it hurts to hear that, but it's true. He initially said he needed space and now he's telling you that you are not the one. He obviously feels that he would rather be with someone else and probably is right ... (read in full...)
My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 20 January 2011: Don't worry about it. Sure she liked the sex with her ex, but she's still with you right? You have to be doing something right in the sack for her to stay. I have had a couple of boyfriends that have been amazing in bed. After the first one, I n... (read in full...)
If he really loved me would a 20 minute drive matter?
Q. I'm 15 years old, and I like this guy who just turned 17. He lives in my moms town, 20 minutes away. We both liked each other for almost 3 years, and just recently he told me he loved me, which considering he didn't even tell me that when we dated ...
A. 20 January 2011: Move on from him, he doesn't like enough for a 20 minute drive and that spells heartbreak for you. If someone really loved another person, 20 minutes wouldn't be a long drive.
Honestly, he probably has other "priorities" on the weekends that keep... (read in full...)
He's dragging his feet about commitment.Am I too clingy? And should I allow this relationship to continue?
Q. I have been dating this guy on and off for a while now. We started off being friends. I do not know what I can do to show him I will be a good girlfriend. He definitely cares for me but is dragging his feet when it comes to commiting to me. He ...
A. 13 January 2011: Have you asked him why you aren't dating? Some men are more than willing to be in FWB relationship with women and never commit and some men don't know how to approach asking about becoming a couple. Basically, if you don't take action, it might ... (read in full...)
Why do these young, hot, cute girls flirt with my man in front of me?
Q. What tears me apart is when a younger hot or cute girl is openly flirting with my guy when we're both out together. Obviously they see me but that doesn't stop them from doing it. Granted, I see them doing this but he's oblivious to this. Why do ...
A. 12 January 2011: Ok, first of all you need to realize that most men do not want a girl shaped like a cinnamon stick. They want curves and they want their women to be soft. They don't want women who look like teenage boys with no hips and whatnot. And as women, we ... (read in full...)
Why sex is important in a Relationship
Q. You can only hold hands for so long and then its time to get down to business. A lot of women serve as the problem with sex in the marriage. The only thing they focus on is the wedding, the family , and not the husband. Its like big poppa comes last ...
A. 10 January 2011: Your article is wrong. Men should not be the ones who need to boost a woman's self esteem. That is something they need to work on if it is low. I'm not saying that if she feels fat and says it to her man as a reason for not wanting to have sex that ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to marry someone else?
Q. My story is long but am in a very miserable condition. Please aunts help me.I am around 30 and my boyfrnd is around 40. When i was in his city, he was around 34 and was crazy after me. But i only had oral sex with him during our relation. This is ...
A. 31 December 2010: Listen to dirtball, he is spot on with this one. I have been in a relationship where we broke up and he did almost the exact same thing. He wanted me back, but was too afraid of commitment. He loved me and blah, blah, blah. In the end, I was ... (read in full...)
I have needs that my wife isn't meeting!
Q. I have been married for almost 5 years, a while back my wife and I stopped having sex as much (maybe once or twice a month) she has never had an orgasm (in her life) so I assume that is part of the reason and she just do no be in the mood. Once the ...
A. 11 December 2010: AuntyMaur, give the guy a break. He isn't even cheating on her and he hasn't got any for 5 months and you tell him to be a better lover. Do you know how many women HAVE NOT had an orgasm ever? The last I read, it's just above 30% of the US ... (read in full...)
Naked women...
Q. I've been in a happy marriage for over twenty years. I've always known my husband has looked at some naked women pictures when years ago someone handed him a book and now with the internet, he receives emails w/jokes w/naked women, some of the ...
A. 11 December 2010: It is very hard to deal with for some women, myself being one of them. I learned to deal with porn, and honestly I am still not 100% ok with it (7 months now since I found out about it). It does make women feel uncomfortable to know their men are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't use condoms because he says they're gross and smell bad!
Q. Hi Im 21 years old and i have been with my boyfreind for 4 years and recently he wont use condoms he says that they are gross they smell and that he cant feel anything when they are on and he gets turned off. it make me upset that he doesnt want to ...
A. 9 December 2010: He's a jerk. Sorry, but I had to say it. He should never tell you that if you want to use condoms and won't give it up without them, he has to get it somewhere else. To me, that says he is willing to go and get it somewhere else and you don't want ... (read in full...)
Why is it easy for women to stop looking after marriage, and so hard for men?
Q. {Moderator note: two questions from the same poster combined} Just a quick question. After a woman gets married it's easy for her to look at a man and not feel attracted to him or think of him sexually or get aroused by him. So why is it so hard for...
A. 9 December 2010: First of all, the female body is made to be appealing. The male body, not so much. Men are also wired to be visual when it comes to arousal; whereas us women are wired to be emotional. Just because he looks at other women, doesn't mean he wants to ... (read in full...)
How long to please him?
Q. How long do i need to give my boyfriend a blow job to please him?...
A. 7 December 2010: It's up to you and him. I am sure he enjoys it the whole time. If you don't like going down on him for a long period of time, try it as foreplay and then a bj every once in a while as a "special treat". Some guys actually prefer bjs as foreplay then ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to be horny during your period?
Q. I guess women when there on their monthly period say Sex is off limits because being on their rag messes up their mood..but i am different 'i still want to have Sex when i am on my period, so is this Normal..and i hate guys that thinks it is gross ...
A. 7 December 2010: Very normal. I am most horny towards the end and right after. If he's a little iffy on whether or not it will be messy, try the shower. That's where my man and I do it. You can rinse it all off and it's like it never happened (the messy part I ... (read in full...)
Tampons are hurting me, why is this?
Q. I just recently started using Tampons and there the good kind (tampax pearl)but they hurt, i know Tampons are suppose to be comfortable and your not even supposed to feel them in you but there hurting me when i walk and sit..Why could this be??...
A. 7 December 2010: The other posts pose a very good possibility. It may not be inserted enough. Or, you might just have a sensitive area down there. I am on the pill and at certain times during my week off the pill, I get sensitive to tampons. My doctor says it may be ... (read in full...)
He tries to cover up his erection!
Q. hi, every time me and my boyfriend hug he gets a erection but when he does he moves away from me.like we're on the sofa cuddling and he just moves away from me i don't want him to keep moving away from me evey time why'd he do tha? what should i say ...
A. 7 December 2010: Chlo and Odds have great answers. You got the best of both sexes for answers. Take them into consideration. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me!
Q. Please i need some answers mainly from men... Iv been with my boyfriend for 10months now and from the start we had sex quite a lot, not as much as id like to because he worked a lot running his own business. anyway we moved into a new house a few ...
A. 3 December 2010: Tell him how you feel about it. Tell him what you said, he seems to being having more sex with himself then with you. If you are worried, he should be made aware of it. It's probably the extra stress. He may feel that when he does himself, it's all ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a husband to watch porn?
Q. Just a simple question before i freak out pleaasseee... Is it normal that the husband watch porn??? And trying to hide it from me! What is it all about? Should i react? Should i get mad? Should i confront him? What is it? Should i get jealous?? What ...
A. 3 December 2010: It is normal, very normal. But, you have every right to be upset. You weren't aware and he's hiding it. But, he might not be hiding it for a bad reason. What if someone in his past freaked out on him about it and he's afraid you will too? I would ... (read in full...)
What if he expects stuff from me? I'm still a virgin!
Q. me and my boyfriend are close and starting to develop a closer relationship. i am a virgin and i am pretty sure he has had sex before. this makes me nervous because what if he expects stuff from me and i have no idea what to do. i want to talk to ...
A. 3 December 2010: If you want to talk to him, just do it. There is no problem in being blunt. When you are in an intimate relationship, you should be able to discuss anything. And don't worry about sounding stupid, he will probably love you even more for wanting to ... (read in full...)
Would you consider his magic number high for his age?
Q. Is 22 sexual partners for a 27 year old male a lot?...
A. 3 December 2010: Does the past matter? Why should it matter who he's been with before? he has you now. My "magic number" is higher than my man's. We haven't said our numbers out loud, but based on our comments about it, I'm way higher and i think he knows. But, does ... (read in full...)
Is asking for him to text me if he's going to be home late too much?
Q. so this is kinda complicated. I am living with a guy i hate been seeing. we sleep in the same bed. have sex and we are not with other people but we don't label ourselves as bf gf because with labels comes expectations. this is an exclusive ...
A. 3 December 2010: Say those words then. "I worry when you don't come home. I would just like to know that you are ok." After my fiance knew that I was worried one night he didn't tell me he went to a friend's after work, he texts me every time he won't be home right ... (read in full...)
I caught him jerking off... to dance videos!!!!
Q. This isnt really that big of a deal, but for some reason its really bothering me. This morning i found my boyfriend of over year sitting on the floor watching Dance videos. NO big deal right? well i popped my head up a little further to disco...
A. 3 December 2010: I would be upset if I came home to my fiance naked from the waist down sleeping. To me it seems that he isn't trying to see your view on this at all. I understand how you feel and a lot of women probably do as well, he just doesn't. I'm not saying ... (read in full...)
Is asking for him to text me if he's going to be home late too much?
Q. so this is kinda complicated. I am living with a guy i hate been seeing. we sleep in the same bed. have sex and we are not with other people but we don't label ourselves as bf gf because with labels comes expectations. this is an exclusive ...
A. 2 December 2010: Maverick494 is right. I would either get out or ask for more. If you want to know what he was doing, or even that he will be doing something later into the evening, it sounds like you may want more.
Sex for women is way different for men. Wome... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my pubic hair?
Q. Hey I'm a 17 year old girl and I gave a embarrassing problem. I have shaved my pubes many times (with different methods) but I always end up with a shaving rash and ingrown hairs. I have senstive skin so I can't use hair removal creams. I'm so ...
A. 2 December 2010: You don't have to shave. Just trim. Get a trimmer that's designed for that region. They trim very close so it feels like you shaved a day or two ago. I do that for the majority of it and trim up the rest just a bit longer and my man has no ... (read in full...)
How to tell if my future partner has a high sex drive without asking her?
Q. I am someone with a high sex drive. i am in my early 50's and I have the same drive as when I was in my 20's. I broke up a few months ago and am trying to get back in the dating scene. I know that a relationship is more than sex. Ideally I'd ...
A. 2 December 2010: That's a tough one. There is no exact way to tell if a woman has a high sex drive. My man was very surprised to learn that mine was very comparable to his. I would say if she tried to initiate sex very quickly, that might be a good indicator. I ... (read in full...)
Why are some teenagers so promiscuous???
Q. Just out of curiousity... Why are there so many young teens out having sex with what seems every person they are with? Isnt there parents doing anything? or caring what their kids are doing these day? y'know getting stoned, completely drunk...
A. 2 December 2010: Yes, I am saying that there are those that are just "talking" it and there's really nothing done. Many of them are like that. You want to be cool and fit in when you're in High School. Some succumb to the pressure of sex and others pretend they did. ... (read in full...)
I caught him jerking off... to dance videos!!!!
Q. This isnt really that big of a deal, but for some reason its really bothering me. This morning i found my boyfriend of over year sitting on the floor watching Dance videos. NO big deal right? well i popped my head up a little further to disco...
A. 2 December 2010: I do understand your point and why you would be bothered by waking up to it. It's a little shocking. Like the comedian Ron White has stated about boobs, "once you've seen one pair, you want to see them all". It's going to be the same reaction to ... (read in full...)
I caught him jerking off... to dance videos!!!!
Q. This isnt really that big of a deal, but for some reason its really bothering me. This morning i found my boyfriend of over year sitting on the floor watching Dance videos. NO big deal right? well i popped my head up a little further to disco...
A. 30 November 2010: Too give an answer to your last statement...because he feels there is nothing wrong. Men have a way higher sex drive then women. They need to clean the pipes, usually every day when they're your age, to not get stressed or to just feel comfortable. ... (read in full...)
Can you catch chlamydia or HIV if you have sex with another person who has never had sex before?
Q. I thought I'd combine two into one so here goes my first worrie is really a question. Can you catch chlamydia or HIV if you have sex with another person who has never had sex before? stupidly I did it unprotected when i was very young and this ...
A. 30 November 2010: Most STD's are transferred through genitals touching. Although it is unlikely to catch them from someone who has not had sex, it can be done. If that person has given oral, they may have caught something. If they have got close to sex (genitals ... (read in full...)
I just don’t know if I want to invest possibly years of my life and give more of my heart just to get it broken...
Q. I’ve been dating the same man now for over a year. We are both over 40, have our own homes and even though work is really tough right now we both have had successful careers and will again. We spend most of our free time with each other and have a ...
A. 30 November 2010: I think you should talk to him and tell him what you have stated here. Maybe he just doesn't realize how much you want a committed relationship and possibly more. However, if you have done this already, it may be time to walk away. If you and your ... (read in full...)
Why are some teenagers so promiscuous???
Q. Just out of curiousity... Why are there so many young teens out having sex with what seems every person they are with? Isnt there parents doing anything? or caring what their kids are doing these day? y'know getting stoned, completely drunk...
A. 30 November 2010: Many people your age are trying to do what everyone else supposedly has done. When I was your age, there were about half the girls I knew that were virgins and the other half weren't. And, then later, I found out the half that weren't, most of them ... (read in full...)
I flew across the country to meet him and now I'm not attracted to him
Q. I got into a relationship with someone online. We've been dating for 3months and I fell in love with his personality. I flew across the country to meet him and now that I have I'm not really physically attracted to him. My question is, should I stay ...
A. 24 November 2010: You're not being shallow by what you have written. It is very normal for us to want a certain level of physical attractiveness in our partners. Like I said before, it's our genes to want that. If you're not comfortable with all of him, not just ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to fall in love with me again?
Q. Dear Cupid, My husband and I have been married for 3 years. I had a complete hysterectomy 2 1/2 years ago and since then I lost some of my sex drive. In the past year I feel as he has fallen out of love with me. I know he has cheated at least tw...
A. 19 November 2010: You need to leave him. There should never be second chances for cheaters. By taking him back the first time, you had already told him that his infidelity isn't a big issue. By doing it the second time, you've pretty much told him you will always ... (read in full...)
Fiancé wishes my penis was bigger, do you think I'm big enough?
Q. I need help. Me and my fiancé been together for over a year and I have to admit...we are both sexually active. She says she loves my penis size but constantly reminds me that she wish I was bigger. My penis is 6" long with 3.5" girth but she says ...
A. 19 November 2010: Your penis size is perfect, your girlfriend is not. Next time she says that to you, ask her how big her vagina is to find a penis your size not big enough. Then walk away...from it all. If I were a guy with your endowments, I wouldn't stay with ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in over 6 months! Any advice would be appreciated
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years, lived together for the last 4. I am 28 and she will be 26 in a few weeks. Our problem is that she has lost her sex drive and nothing I do gets her in the mood. We used have sex a few times a week ...
A. 19 November 2010: A couple question....is she on birth control? If yes, has she switched the type recently? The reason I ask is because I lost my sex drive almost completely when I switched my pill about 8 months ago. I had to switch back it got so bad.
If it's not ... (read in full...)
We need a better way of communicating our problems!
Q. I need to find a better way to argue. My boyfriend and I are doing great but we have a problem when it comes to arguments. I am a very emotional person, he is not in the slightest. Which makes things difficult at times. I feel a lot and sometime...
A. 18 November 2010: First of all, dirtball has some very good points. And, I agree with him that trystrikers04 is giving you bad advice. No ultimatums please, that can ruin a relationship.
Second, I have been in your position. I felt that my man didn't say he love... (read in full...)
This problem is making me too scared and embarrassed to have sex. Is it normal?
Q. HELP! I am so embarrassed... Sometimes when my boyfriend and I make love, (its usually whilst in doggy-style position) He kinda packs me full of air. I can feel it when it happens, and tell him to stop. Then after, It has to come out somehow,...
A. 18 November 2010: It happens to me too now and again, and usually in doggy-style as well. It's completely normal. Like you said, the air has to go somewhere and the only place is out.
Try not to lose your sexual confidence. And, try to tell him not make such a big ... (read in full...)
I use him for a mental image during masturbation
Q. How can I stop masterbating to the images/thoughts of my ex? We broke up for a reason. But somehow I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I need to totally get over him. Please help!...
A. 10 November 2010: Unless it is extremely bothering you, you should be happy that you have something that will help you get off. I used to feel weird about envisioning other men during masturbation, but now I find it kind of fun. You get to relive hot sexual moments ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants his friend to watch us have sex
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with his friend infront of him ! I don't know what to do! help me please xx...
A. 7 November 2010: I just read about this in Jenny McCarthy's book, it's actually a fetish. As long as you're comfortable with it, go ahead. If you feel put off by it, don't do it. Tell him how you feel though and see how he reacts. If he seems extremely upset, dump ... (read in full...)
I flew across the country to meet him and now I'm not attracted to him
Q. I got into a relationship with someone online. We've been dating for 3months and I fell in love with his personality. I flew across the country to meet him and now that I have I'm not really physically attracted to him. My question is, should I stay ...
A. 7 November 2010: Physical attraction is important in a relationship. It is true that you may become physically attracted to him in time, but with an LDR, that amount of time may be very long. Don't commit to anything if you are not physically attracted to him. ... (read in full...)
Expoding pain everytime I try to put anything in,down there
Q. I Dont know what to do. This is my problem..I cant use a tampon or have sex. Im 19 years old me and my boyfriend for 15 moths in counting are both very ready. But it hurts way to bad, and not the ordinary "pinch" then goes away pain,it the "oh my ...
A. 5 November 2010: Starfairy has a possible explanation. Another, that is very similar, is vaginitus. Have you ever been on birth control? I have vaginitus and it acts up when I am not on the pill or on the wrong pill. I don't want to have sex when it is acting up, it ... (read in full...)
Hispanic couple looking for sexy ideas in the bedroom
Q. Hi we are a hispanic couple looking for sexy ideas in the bedroom...
A. 5 November 2010: This site will help: http://www.sexinfo101.com/sp_index.shtml
They have 3D animated positions so you will know how you are supposed to move. Don't be afraid to put your own twist on the ones you like. It's always fun to create your own sign... (read in full...)
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