How do I stop looking for a problem when it isn't there?
Q. I've taken a partner back after he had an affair - we are on a new road and taking back to our relationship. My problem is trust I keep looking in his phone and checking texts messages, this is my issue and I want to stop it. I recently sent a txt ...
A. 14 October 2011: Unfortunately recovering after an affair is hard. Is it impossible? No. I agree with you that should not be invading his privacy, but I can understand why you feel you needed to. You were betrayed emotionally and you are most likely going to need ... (read in full...)
Husband is pulling away from me!
Q. Hi I have been married for a few months and I feel like my husband is pulling away from me. He used to ask me if I wanted to go places with him and now he just gets up and goes without saying anything. I am going to admit our relationship went ...
A. 13 October 2011: Wow, two months is very fast. You can't learn everything you need to know about a person in two months to know if you can be life long partners. Maybe he is learning new things and/or habits about you that he doesn't necessarily like. I know when my ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not sure how to handle some aspects.
Q. I know that this might be a little bit off topic but planning my wedding and have a few questions for you all: - how should i involve my stepdad- i lived with him and my mum growing up and went to my dads at weekends and holidays so he has been as ...
A. 13 October 2011: First off, congratulations on your upcoming marriage. I just got married on the 8th and dealt with all these issues so hopefully my experience will help you. I don't have a step dad, but my mom has a long term boyfriend and I lived with them for... (read in full...)
Don't want mum to know I'm on the pill - how can I fake a period?
Q. This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it. I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality. Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- nei...
A. 12 October 2011: I would go with person12345's suggestion or get switched to a pill where you will get a period. But, wait until you get to the last week of pills to see if you are actually going to need to worry about it. Also, you are young, so while you are ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about inviting my old FWB to my wedding.
Q. I've been dating my wonderful boyfriend for over 2 years now. He just asked me to marry him next spring and I said yes. So now we're engaged. Problem is, I have this 'guy' friend that I've known and been friends with about 6 years or so. My fiance...
A. 6 October 2011: First of all, how would you feel if the situation was reversed? What if your fiance invited an old fwb and you found out about their fling sometime before the wedding? If you think you would be hurt, then either don't invite him or tell your fiance ... (read in full...)
A question about being engaged and fancying others
Q. this is a question for people that are engaged or have been engaged.......... Truthfully when you are engaged to somebody do you EVER fancy/fantasize about somebody else. Say for example, you see somebody regularly and then think 'oh actually they ...
A. 6 October 2011: Yes, sometimes I fantasize about other men. I'm sure my fiance fantasizes about other women too. It's a natural thing to do, just make sure it stays fantasies and nothing more. ... (read in full...)
Women: How important is sex to you?
Q. WOMEN ONLY QUESTION............how important to you is sex? 1. I could take it or leave it 2. I love it 3. I only have sex as my partner wants to or 4. I hate it...
A. 6 October 2011: I'm married as of this coming saturday and I love sex with my man. But, he is very giving in that area and will only make it about himself when I tell him I won't finish. I have never hated it, but in some of my past relationships I could have taken ... (read in full...)
Courtesy and Texting
Q. I usually wait to text my boyfriend until I hear from him first. We've been together a year. Initially texting like gangbusters on both sides, so it's not like it was an annoyance when we started. I knew he was going out last night (no problems ...
A. 5 October 2011: The problem with texting is that everyone expects an instant response. Maybe he read it and meant to get back to you when he had a free moment and forgot. Unless he does it frequently, I wouldn't worry about it. And when you are first dating, you ... (read in full...)
I don't think I took my b/c pill when I had unprotected sex!
Q. hi, i have been taking my pill as normal, about 5 days in i had unprotected sex then today, about 4 days later i found one of my pills on the floor... it can only be from this month as i just moved out. i will be taking a pregnancy test when i a...
A. 4 October 2011: How long you have been on the pill will affect your chances of getting pregnant. If you've started it recently, your chances are higher. But, if you've been on them for years and take them around the same time everyday and rarely forget a day, you ... (read in full...)
His sex drive is higher. I deny him probably 2 times a week, but how do I deal with him masturbating to porn?
Q. I know this question has been posted a million times, but I was hoping for an answer on my specific situation: My boyfriend (he's 26 and I'm 23) have been together for about a year and a half, and have been living together for 10 months. Some...
A. 3 October 2011: Read sgore11's, so_very_confused's, and flynn 24's responses. They are spot on. I was in your shoes before and until you are both willing to communicate openly and honestly about porn and your feelings towards it you still stay where you are. My ... (read in full...)
If he's not a breast man, why did he notice hers?
Q. Hi, I just want to know if I am over reacting or if my husband has not been respectful. My husband never touches my breasts and every time I ask why he just says that is him and he is not attracted to women’s breasts. I have been suffering a...
A. 3 October 2011: First of all, a man can be a butt man and still look at nice boobs. And, a man can be a boob man and still look at nice butts, and so on. So, yes, you were overreacting a little. But, as a woman I can understand why. You were hurt that he would ... (read in full...)
Help needed in the bedroom zone
Q. I have been married for 6 years and have 2 kids. Everything seems to be going on fine except in the bedroom. I have spoken to him,guided him, given him books to read and don't know what more I can do. He's simply just not up for it. Sometimes I wish...
A. 3 October 2011: Have you mentioned bringing in toys? My husband and I used to have sex with a lot of foreplay when we first started dating and it died down shortly after we moved in together, which was a little over a year ago. I kept asking for more foreplay and ... (read in full...)
What would cause a man to lose all interest in sex?
Q. We are married 25 years ago. Our children are not living with us anymore, we have all the time, to have great sex. But instead of that, we have none. How a man can complete lose his sexual interest,like that? My husband says, he never thinks o...
A. 28 September 2011: I am not in your age braket, so my answer is not from experience. But, I recently had a conversation with my fiance about sexual arousal. Our conversation had to do with what happens to a mans sex drive later in life. He said he had talked to some ... (read in full...)
I'd like if she had a threesome!
Q. I'd enjoy if my wife has a MMF threesome but she doesnt know this fantasy i have. What do i do? Should i ask her? I think she would never does such thing like that but anyway i want this!...
A. 27 September 2011: If you really want to try it but you don't want her to freak out if it's not something she's into, test the waters first. Before or after sex one day, ask her what one of her dirtiest fantasies is. After she answers, hopefully she'll ask you yours. ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my looks, Does he lie to me to make me feel better, because I don't look like a porn star?
Q. I know, I know, another porn question. I need advice especially from females who "get it". I guess I have quite a degree of insecurity. The thing is, I know my boyfriend loves me. I know he lies to make me feel better, because he swears and insists ...
A. 22 September 2011: I know exactly how you feel. I used to feel that way too. But, here's the thing...looks aren't everything. And yes, he may think those women are hotter than you, but you were asking about looks not the whole package. Do those women make him laugh ... (read in full...)
I'm really in love with my husband but I want to leave!
Q. I am in my early 20s. I have been married for 2 years and a couple months now. My husband is in his 30s. He's a great man, but until now not a good husband. Our marriage before a couple of months ago was extremely hard on me. More than twice a week ...
A. 22 September 2011: If you truly love him, then don't leave. Have you tried couples counciling? Some health insurances will cover all or a portion of the cost. My coworker left her husband and they ended up going to counciling and she said it really helped them. Their ... (read in full...)
More serious than "boyfriend", not engaged, what do you call it?
Q. I have a question about how to describe my relationship. My boyfriend and I are not yet engaged but are very committed to each other, to the point that we are planning on sharing a house shortly. "Boyfriend" no longer seems like the right word. ...
A. 22 September 2011: I don't see how boyfriend is a bad thing to call him. I called my fiance my boyfriend after we moved in together. I think the stereotype that it is juvenile comes from the fact that the term is thrown around a lot when you're younger, but when ... (read in full...)
Is giving custody of my baby to my parents such a bad thing?
Q. Im 19 years old and 6 months pregnant. I dont feel at all ready to give my baby the best life he can have. I love him with all my heart, but im just not ready. I want to give custody to my parents. They want a baby and would love their grandbaby ...
A. 21 September 2011: Giving your parents custody is probably the right thing to do. If you truly feel you are not ready for a baby, then allowing him to have the best life he can proves that you are already a great mother. It takes courage to admit that you are not ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble resisting the temptation ...
Q. Here is the situation. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half, although the past year has been semi-long distance since she moved an hour away to attend school. I love her very much but we aren't as intimate as we used to be and I only ...
A. 21 September 2011: I think you have two options here. One, stop hanging out with this girl that tempts you; or two, break up with your girlfriend in case you succumb to temptation and hurt your relationship. I can honestly say that I have been in a similar position ... (read in full...)
New boyfriend uses pornography and I'm afraid its going to cause problems like with my last boyfriend!
Q. Hello. Well I apologise if this turns out to be a longwinded question. But I’m really struggling to come to terms with my boyfriends use of porn. I’ve been with him nearly a year and he has always been honest about the fact he watches it. He tells ...
A. 18 August 2011: Honestly, it is something you either need to come to terms with or leave him. If he has been honest with you about it from the start, you should trust him to be honest with you if he thinks he has a problem. I can understand why you would be ... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend not kissed me yet? How do I get him to kiss me?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a week now. He is 18 and I am 17. We have held hands in the movies and hugged several times. He just hadnt kissed me yet! This would be my first kiss and I don't know if it would be his first kiss though. ...
A. 18 August 2011: Just let him know you are really looking forward to him being your first kiss. It will let him know you want to be kissed by him and then maybe he will finally do it. Just so you know, a week isn't that long. When I first started dating my fiance we ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she makes no effort with sex
Q. Hi, I've been in a long distance relationship for about 2,5 years now (we are both in our early 20s). We see each other about 2-3 times a month. Everything is great (aside from the long distance part and the fact that this won't be changing anytime ...
A. 17 August 2011: Youwish says it all. I think you two need to have a serious talk the next time you see each other face to face. If she sees no future with you, why put in the effort? Best of luck.... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 12 August 2011: I really think you should take maverick494 advice. Communication is key to any healthy relationship and seeing as how you haven't talked about this issue for a year, how is he going to know you feel the way you do? It may be a difficult ... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 6 August 2011: About a year ago, I would have agreed with you. I found out my fiance looked at porn and it hurt me so bad. We had fights about it for months and nothing ever changed. I was always trying to understand his point of view and he never tried to ... (read in full...)
Would a guy date a person like me?
Q. I think i have a really high sex drive. This in itself is not a problem but im just wondering if it is normal to have one as high i as i believe i have. I get myself off at least once a day and on some days it can be up to 5 or 6 times. I don't h...
A. 4 August 2011: Most guys would love to have a girlfriend who was horny on a regular basis. I myself have a very high sex drive compared to most women. My fiance has told me before that it is hard to find a woman who (a) really enjoys sex and gets into it and (b) ... (read in full...)
Is it a turn off to have sex on your period?
Q. Hey, know this is a weird question but if u have sex with a boy when your on your period is it a turn off ? ...
A. 4 August 2011: It all depends on you and your boyfriend. Most of my boyfriends that I have been intimate with didn't care if I was on my period when we had sex. Actually one guy got really turned on with the idea of it, I think it was since it is still sort of ... (read in full...)
Do women really enjoy having fingers in their mouths?
Q. A common thing in porn is for the man to put his fingers in the mouth of the woman during foreplay. I have never done this in my sex life. Is this something women enjoy? ...
A. 12 July 2011: My guess is that some women enjoy but I am pretty sure most don't. My fiance likes to do it every once in a while and it turns him on. So, in turn, it turns me on too. But, if it did nothing for him I would hate it.... (read in full...)
Husband confessed that he dreamt of coming home and finding me on top of another man having sex. I would love it, but not sure if I should do it
Q. I am a 33 year old married woman with 2 kids. Been married now for 13 years. Now, I won't make this long so I will just get to the point. I was a virgin when I got married and never been with another man, ever. My husband once told me that he would ...
A. 12 July 2011: First of all, before you decide if you should or shouldn't do this you need to find out if this was just a fantasy and nothing more or something he really wants. Some couples share fantasies with each other because it turns them on but in reality ... (read in full...)
Would it bother you if your gf called you by the same pet name she called her ex-bfs?
Q. ok maybe some of you will think this is a stupid question but it bothers me to no end somehow. this girl i have been dating for a while now has a pet name for me. the pet name is (dont laugh please) babykins. yes i am serious. anyway, when s...
A. 12 July 2011: I don't think it is stupid for you to be upset, but I also don't think she's doing it to be mean or anything. Some people just revert to pet names they feel comfortable with. I know I'm not my man's first "babycakes" but I know I'm his only ... (read in full...)
Why do my sexual feelings subside?
Q. I masturbate when I'm bored sometimes, I find it relaxing. When I get to an extreme point and I cum, I then have no feeling for sex or anything dealing with sex, you know how some people go for round 2. My sexual feeling goes away right after I've ...
A. 12 July 2011: I know for me, when I masturbate I experience the exact same thing. When it comes down to actually having sex, I can't seem to get enough of my fiance. I also know my fiance experiences this as well sometimes. So, I guess I would say it is normal. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am a bad partner because I lack a sex drive!
Q. my last question was about shemale porn and my husband, and I had wonderful replies so I am back. my new issue is my lack in the bedroom. I got that one of the reasons that he watched (or is still watching, I don't know anymore) the shemale porn was ...
A. 6 July 2011: How long ago did you discover he looks at porn? I ask only because my sex drive went down after I found out my fiance looks at porn. This was a little over a year ago and until I finally accepted him using it as a source of pleasure my sex drive ... (read in full...)
Sexy photos of me in a frame or on a t-shirt as a gift? Any low budget date ideas?
Q. would it be okay as a gift for my boyfriend of 9months to get some sexy photos done of me and either give him one really nice one in a frame or maybe get it printed on a tshirt or something? Does this sound like a good idea? If not what else might ...
A. 14 June 2011: I got pin up type photos done for my man a couple of years ago. He loved them. He said I looked hot in one of them and like a 30's movie star in the other. Check to see if there are any photographers on your area that specialize in the types of ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my feelings toward pregnancy are normal?
Q. I am 25 years old right now going to be 26 years old this year, All 4 of my Best friends have Kids, and so i am a bit Confused about how i feel on wanting to have Kids, I feel scared when i think of me being Pregnant, I mean like i am confused on if ...
A. 9 June 2011: I feel the same way towards pregnancy. I am 26 and so is my fiance and we both got scared when there was a small problem a little while ago. When I found out I wasn't pregnant we were so relieved. So I guess my view on it would be to think about a ... (read in full...)
Afraid of gotten my girlfriend pregnant by rubbing my finger that had touched my penis with pre-cum on it on her vagina. Please Help !
Q. My girlfriend and I were fooling around. I became excited and some pre-cum came out of my penis. I remember touching it and then rubbed my girlfriend's vagina afterwards multiple times. Her period won't start till the end of this month. What's the ...
A. 9 June 2011: You most likely didn't get her pregnant but you should try to be more careful in the future. And as for symptoms of pregnancy, they are different for each woman. And you usually don't get too many symptoms within the first month. Just try to relax, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife about a crush, that I am trying to get over??
Q. I have developed a crush on a new, younger coworker of mine. She is really hot and a sexy dresser and on top of it she is sweet, smart, friendly, and gives good professional advice. I see how the other guys in the office act around her and it is li...
A. 6 June 2011: It's normal to develop crushes in commited relationships. I had a crush on a coworker before and now I don't. As long as you di nt act on it, it should go away eventually. And two months isn't that long of a time. Mine lasted about eight months or ... (read in full...)
I've caught him cheating 4 times but just don't have the courage to dump him for good!
Q. My boyfriend and i been together, on and off, for 2 years and 3 months now. so recently, i had this feeling that something wasn't right. so i went on his facebook and seen that he blocked our relationship from 21 females. not 1 or 2 but 21. i was so ...
A. 1 June 2011: He won't change. Either you stay and continue to feel the way you do or you leave him. Sorry, but that's the truth. I've heard of people cheating once and feeling horrible and the relationship staying intact. But four times? He doesn't plan to stop. ... (read in full...)
Do dotted and ribbed condoms make a difference?
Q. do ribbed and dotted condoms (such as durex pleasure max) actually make a difference to your sex life? can both partners feel the difference and is it a pleasureable difference? please let me know your experiences, stories, tips or advice with the...
A. 31 May 2011: It depends. Every person is different and when it comes to sexual pleasure it seems that whether or not to get the fancy condoms can be a big question. Personally, I hate condoms. I can't feel a thing when a guy wears them. To me, the ribbing and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still wants more after I finish. What do I do?
Q. my girlfriend has an extremely high sex drive, and once i 'finish' she still wants more. what do i do?...
A. 31 May 2011: I am a lot like your girlfriend. A lot of times I still want more after my man has finished. If you are still hard and willing to let her do her thing, tell her to be on top. Or you can try the lazy man position. If you haven't heard of that one, ... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my wife
Q. Im not attracted to my wife. i know it sounds shallow and i feel guilty as hell about it, but no matter how hard i try to look at her with the same affection i used to have for her, i just dont have it anymore. i dont like kissing her and i dont ...
A. 30 May 2011: Unfortunately in some marriages, people let themselves go and stop trying to be attractive for their partners. Although this is a selfish thing to do, many do not even realize they do it. I would mention this to her but in a nice way. Maybe start ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my boyfriend about the abortion?
Q. How do I talk to my boyfriend about my abortion? It was a mutual decision that now was not the time, however we've been rowing a lot since. When we sat down to talk earlier today we realized we were both so raw after whats happened. We are usually...
A. 23 May 2011: I honestly think you two should go to counseling together. Abortions can hurt a relationship to the point of breaking up even when the decision is made together. It is something that can be hard to cope with and sometimes you may regret the decision ... (read in full...)
Questions about size and hair.
Q. Hey, I was wondering if a larger penis was more visually appealing. Does it turn girls on more than a normal sized penis? How about pubic hair, do most girls prefer completely shaved or trimmed? Thanks....
A. 14 May 2011: Well size isn't all that matters but it is important. An average to slightly above average is my ideal size. So about 5-7 inches when hard for me. But I'm not more turned on by size, it can just be a deal breaker if it's too small or too big. As for... (read in full...)
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