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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years, lived together for the last 4. I am 28 and she will be 26 in a few weeks. Our problem is that she has lost her sex drive and nothing I do gets her in the mood. We used have sex a few times a week and now it's been nearly 6 months since the last time. Any ideas or advice will be much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): its the same here, its been 4 months for me and i just dont understand why, we used to hve it often,now she never sees me or stays over. and i cant visit her as i dont know her family
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): I'm with Dirtball. You do not go from several times a week to 6 months without something being wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): romantic dinner.....lots of chocolate for dessert....and watch a movie...dont forget to kiss her on the collar bone....then the lips...just little turn ons...that might get her in the mood
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (19 November 2010):
 A couple question....is she on birth control? If yes, has she switched the type recently? The reason I ask is because I lost my sex drive almost completely when I switched my pill about 8 months ago. I had to switch back it got so bad.
If it's not the pill, there may something she's not getting emotionally in the relationship. Sex is more emotional for women, so if we don't feel the right emotions, it is hard to have sex. You could just ask her why she hasn't put out for a while. Obviously don't use the wording I just did, but be blunt and considerate of her feelings at the same time.
Good luck.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Usually this is the indication that something else is wrong. Have you two talked about it?
I recommend that you think back to when you first started dating. What did you do to show her you loved her? What sparked the mood back then? Often in relationships we get into a routine and the nice little gestures go by the wayside. Text her with the random "I'm thinking of you" during the day. Plan a date night when there isn't an occasion. Surprise her with a nice breakfast some morning. Bring the romance back.
A change that drastic doesn't happen for no reason. The key is finding the reason, and the real reason, not the surface one. Good luck!
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