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writes:I have been dating this guy on and off for a while now. We started off being friends. I do not know what I can do to show him I will be a good girlfriend. He definitely cares for me but is dragging his feet when it comes to commiting to me. He has a high profile career and plenty of fans so he has his choice of women! A lot of women are attracted to him for his money and fame. He does contact me on a daily basis either, through text or phone calls, or I contact him. He goes away for work but flys me out to see him every couple of weeks and when he is home he lives very close. I want to stand out. Sometimes I feel like I am showing him I care way too much. What can I do to stop feeling like my life revolves around him, I am waiting for his call/text or waiting for a response from him. He has a life outside of me and I admire that. I need my own life! I feel like I get clingy sometimes etc. What can I do? Let him chase me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone! He says he likes me a lot and recently he has been asking me relationship questions. He still has some trust issues when it comes to me. In the past he felt I was a flirt and I use to get very impatient and left the "relationship" over every little arguement etc. Since then, I told him I would stay and see what happens and that I won't leave him again. He knows too many people for me to risk being seen in public with another man! But I will definitely up my activites etc. Thanks for that piece of advice ANONYMOUS. I do really care for him as well so I hope this works! If not, hopefully I can move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much AngelDlite! Great response I truly appreciate it. I definitely need to get a life!! Thanks again :)
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Have you asked him why you aren't dating? Some men are more than willing to be in FWB relationship with women and never commit and some men don't know how to approach asking about becoming a couple. Basically, if you don't take action, it might never happen. He might actually be waiting for you to make the move, some men really like that. Good luck.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (13 January 2011):
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;) dying to know who it is! you already know exactly what to do, you said yourself you wanted to get a life; so get one! see your friends as much as you can, make more if you feel like you haven't got enough of them, find a hobby that you like that gets you out of the house, learn to enjoy your own company too so you don't have to rely on other people, find things that can occupy you while you are at home, reading, crafts, pets, video games, whatever you fancy! take a class either to educate yourself academically or just learn something for the fun of it. you are right in thinking that if you have more going on in your life, you can put the relationship with him into perspective and stop it being the ONLY thing you have got. as for him dragging his feet about commitment, of course he will not want to commit while he has got fans throwing themselves at him. that is fact. if you cannot live with that then you need to decide if you want to carry on with him. nobody in the world can give you a guarantee that he is gonna change his mind and commit to only you, so get a life, it'll make you feel better about yourself and will also make him feel different towards you. i mean; who in the world would wanna commit to be with someone who is just waiting around for him all the time coz they got nothing else to do and who is so clingy? (your word, not mine!) especially when he has got so many other women to choose from. don't be tempted to play games (letting him chase you) just be yourself, but a self who has got other interesting stuff in her life too
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): Thats the key. You have to be so amazing, he has to want you more than you want him. Not sure what you're like - but work on yourself (education, gym, looks, voluntary involvment, career, friends, big travel). YOu have to interesting. Also, keep the door open for other guys - do you think that you're the only female in his life? Don't limit yourself to one guy, he hasn't asked for commitment. To learn a little more about how to have men treat you read, "he's just not that into you". Great book and might clear things up. Good luck!
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